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God bless all of you caregivers and he does he has many mansions for us in heaven and won't it be grand to be spirits floating around and our only JOB will be to glorify God until we get our new and healthy bodies to be free of all our cares and obligations I wish every one of you peace and quiet and no one calling their needs to you tonight and a peaceful sleep-you guys are so special to me and I will never forget your support and friendship during my dark days -I love you all-you kept me sane those years when I was a caregiver and now dealing with my Mom, Maxine
Jsomebody, when I have to do something very disagreable I half-close my eyes, so I see, but I do not see too well. I do the same thing when I see violent images on TV. It can help.
Dear Dtflex and Rip, if I ever get the Alzheimer disease, after my mother, my uncle and aunt, my grand-grandmother, my grand-uncle (Few chances not to take it, isn'it?) I see myself, around 70-80 years of age, in a nursing home saying from morning to evening: "Where are my cats? I have to feed the cats! Nurse! Where are my cats? Where are you hiding them? I want my cats! They are hungry!" They will give me a fake cat to keep me quiet, I will throw the fake cat at their face and I will say: "This is not my cat! Do you think I am stupid? Give me my real cats!" The following day maybe will be different, because I will look for my dogs... The following day I will see cats and dogs in the room and of course they will not be there...
No poop soup here either..here is a yucky one though (GRAPHIC) He used the toilet which is good, but leaves I don't now an outline of his genitals in pubic hairs and sweat on the toilet seat. If it wasn't so disgusting it would be funny...
Sorry to laugh again after Rossella's frustrations with her mom ... But you all deserve to be impatient!!!
How in the world can you cope? Does it seem like you are simply around to tend to fantasies? Geeeez ... how do you survive, DTFlex? Do you have any help? Does sanity exist?
I want to SCREAM!!!!! I know it isn;t poop soup, but she is driving me bonkers!!!! Mom is having hallucinations and she knows she is having them but she argues nonstop when she says something is there and I can't see it!!!! Then she swears she has "found" something in the house but the truth is, it's been in the house all along. Then I go to do something and she asks me about something in another part of the house as if it was where I was and why didn't I see it. I love my mom dearly, but I so need to talk to normal people. Lord forgive me for being so impatient.
Me too Rossella ... feeling weird tonight ... is it a full moon? I feel so tired of the daily battle, responsibilty with little help, trying to reach the medical world who have stupid phone systems ... Not knowing if I am doing my best for Dad?
our animals faithfully standing by for fun & affection when it is hard to find time for them ...
It's almost 5 PM here so I will cook him a good pasta dinner. Something he can chew & hope he doen't have a UTI.
Pirate ~ I just now read this post! You need to write a screen play. Screw the young, upcoming screen writers. This is comedy in it's rawest form. Sad thing is ... how many people will encounter this crap as their parent's age?
About Moleskin: this forum has convinced me that communication and support is possible among human beings, so I will add ONE positive character to the book. The other characters will be stupid asses like the majority of people! Forgive me, I feel weird tonight.
oh Rossella ~ I am sorry for laughing ~ but your writing is perfect! In the midst of anguish you find ideal words which put reality in honest perspective..
Isn't it deep night time there? Sunset is hours away here. Moleskin?
I read more new posts today of children (baby boomers) dealing with elder care. I logged onto Oprah.com ... took a while to find a contact link, but think I did. I suggested the producers log on to this site to learn what a large majority of Baby Boomers are or will be facing with elder care. Maybe she can shed light on our troubling situations?
It is a relief knowing I have friends here! Thank you ALL! AOL is really messing with me. Hope this posts.
Mary, AKA SIgnLadyMary also known as Rip the Stitch thanks to Bobbie.
The recent people are facing some very tough situations. Assistance seems far away when you are trapped at home with a parent. Lord knows if they live near a health care agency or stucvk in the middle of no where.
I wish I lived on a farm far from the city smog, until Dad has a medical problem. Having the ER 20 minutes away is a blessing. The EMT's are nearby & wonderful!
Pirate, I tried to call her when the cat was sick, but I could not reach my friend in Germany and after that, things have gone very fast. There is nothing to do, now, no decisions to make. So I think I will leave her another week of happiness!
I have the same problems when we have to collect the pee for my mother; in general we collect the pee when we arrive at the lab. The nurses there are very patient and they know how to deal with elderly people, so my mother listens to them much more than she listens to me...
Yes, Pirate, I am exactly like you, I want to know everything right away. But my friend had a very stressful year and maybe she needs to have some more days of relax. She will go back to Rome in one week and she will leave her baby with the father in Germany till the end of August, so I will probably call her when she comes to Rome alone, and tell her what happened. Just one more week! She will decide what to do, whether to tell her daughter immediately, or wait; whether to take another kitten, or a little dog... I would like to go to her with a little kitten in my hands, but I think it's up to her to decide. If she decides to take another cat, there are dozens here in the country... No problems to find her another one. I have a picture of the little girl with the cat and I keep looking at it, just to hurt myself more!
Rossella, I would have called right away but that is up to you solely. You do what you think is best for your g/f.
Oh I forgot my mommo story....well the caregiver and I took my mom to the doctor the other day. You have to do that so they will extend med's. Such a hassle. Well I knew it would lead to lab's next...same old same old. Blood and Pee. Well they took the blood because she said she cannot pee. They gave the caregiver the potty tray to catch pee and the cup. Well my lamo mom cannot wait for the caregiver to arrive and pees in the bathroom trashcan...she is so freaking lame. The caregiver calls me at work and asks if that is okay. Well I said was the trash liner in there or was it just the trash can. Could never get an answer out of her. My mom is the background saying she can't pee like she can never pee again. I told her to not listen to her and use her own judgement if it is good enough to submit to the lab. Geezus...between my mom and the stupid caregiver I sometimes don't know which is worse. So tired of it all...really fn tired.
Jen, Secret sis, Lharde, Miz, Rip, thanks for your support. It's not been an easy afternoon; the cat suffered a lot so I had to help her with pain killers, and limited her pain a little bit. I agree with Jen on the fact that it is much better the little girl did not see what happened. I have decided to follow Secret's advice and say it to my friend only if she calls me to ask about her cat. It is useless to waste her vacation and relax. There are no decisions to make, there is nothing to do. Of course, if she calls me, I will tell her. I can hide the truth but I don't want to lie... And, as I am grieved and it's not easy to find an happy thought, let me say some nonsense! Today my mother was in one of these days that I call "The horror movie day". She perceives the reality as violent and gruesome! I think she processes (her own way) what she sees on TV. I don't let her watch the news, of course. She watches love story movies and family movies, the ones which are good for the kids. But, nonetheless, she always finds something to be anguished about! When we went for a ride this afternoon, she said do me: "We must not kill those boys". I asked: "which boys?" and she insisted: "We must not kill those poor boys". And I said: "Mom, we do not generally kill boys!" Then I went to throw the garbage in a bin and she asked me: "Have you done something bad?" I said, "No, mom, just threw away the garbage". And then I realized that maybe she thought I had chopped the bodies of the poor boys I had killed, and I had thrown them in the bin! Well I did not feel like laughing, but I laughed anyway. And then she kept me busy: she took the car insurance coupon (we have to exhibit it and we put it in a pocket which is stuck to the windscreen) (so she can reach it quite easily) because she wanted to cover her icecream; (with the intention to put the icecream, covered by my car insurance coupon, in the bag); she had brought two bags with her and she tried to put one inside of another... And the icecream inside of the inner bag, I think... Oh my! She has such a fantasy that it is impossibile to foresee her intentions. My hair is constantly raised... (as in: hair raising) I told you I would say some nonsense!
Rossella, I would contact the friend. I would want to know if something happened to my pet right away. It's too bad when animals pass away and this was so unexpected. Perhaps the child will accept a new kitty after awhile in it's place.
SecSis...maybe we will have to take a trip when all this is over to go see Rossella!
I have to take my mother out, now. She has been home all day long, because I did not want to leave the cat alone. See you all tonight and thank you all for your support...
oh my lord ! poor kitty !! hate it when that happens to someone that s babysittin animals and things goes wrong . i remmy one year my neighbor cam eover and fed my dog and notice she was draggin her leg , so she took her to the vet and said its broken , didnt know there was a hole inside the dog house , her paw got stuck in it and wham broke her leg . she felt real bad , thinkin if she came earlier none of it would happen . fixed the floor in her dog house and now shes ok . had to wear a cast for a while . poor sheba !! gonna get on facebook and ask u to be my friend , wink xoox
Yes, you are right. I am not so sure about what it is better to do. I have to think it over. I have to think what is better for my friend, knowing my friend... She will decide what to say to her daughter...
Rossella, can you not wait to tell her upon her return? Or just prior, so as not to ruin her vacation? Miz is right, that it's awful for you. Poor kitty! And poor little girl. And poor you. Awwwwww
I'm afraid she is gone... I shall wait another half an hour to be sure. Tonight I will have to find my friend (who is in Germany so I can't contact her through the phone) and tell her this very bad new. Oh mysery
Secret sister: Look among the Rossella Messina, there are 40-50 of them. I am the one on the top of a mountain with a little dog near me and a red sweater
I have a minor/major problem: one of my friend entrusted (?) me a cat (I mean, I have to to keep the cat with me while she is on vacation). She is a young woman and she has a 5 years old daughter who loves that cat. The cat has been with me for one week and she was well the first few days, then suddenly she started fo feel sick, I took her to the vet yesterday and it seems she has a very serious kidney crisis and she is dying! In fact she is almost dead. I am desperate to have to say this to my friend and I am even more desperate because the child will suffer a lot. I have to go and watch the cat, now. See you later...
Godhelpus, If I have understood well your mother is 90 years old. I don't believe that she will get worse, I mean I do not think that Alzheimer builds up when you are 90 years old, so I think this is the worse that you have to expect from her... I may be wrong, but I would be optimistic...
Rossella, would love to connect with you on FB! I studied Architecture and Interior Design in Italy, Paris, London. So, I have an artistic background, as well. I adored Italy! It's so beautiful there. Wish I could visit again...someday.
Hi Secret Sis. I live not far from Rome, in the country, in the Tevere valley, about 50 kms (30 miles) north of Rome. I lived for 2 years in the Como area (Brianza) when I was 25, with my parents, and I loved that place. Lake, mountain, little villages, river (Adda)... I used to go eat tiny fried fish on the river. Delicious! I was not vegetarian, at that time. Last Easter I put on my facebook wall exactly the same lamb that you have as a picture of yourself, saying: "Eat chocolate, don't eat me!" but it was useless! Everybody ate lamb.
Thanks for your prayers, godhelpus. We all need that! Remember that this, too shall pass. I know that the moments make the hardships seem endless, but one day, we will not have our parent's to deal with, and we'll look back and see how much we've grown.
Miz, how's the job going? Bobbie321, did you get all the parts and repairs done for your boat? Pirate, hang in there! Rosella, I love Milano and Como. Where are you in Italy? Deefer, it's a task keeping up with all the posts. Tennessee, so glad you have a place to vent. Wish there were more we could do to help! To all: God bless you on the journey!
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The following day maybe will be different, because I will look for my dogs...
The following day I will see cats and dogs in the room and of course they will not be there...
But you all deserve to be impatient!!!
How in the world can you cope?
Does it seem like you are simply around to tend to fantasies?
Geeeez ... how do you survive, DTFlex? Do you have any help?
Does sanity exist?
Please keep writing?
You NEED a break!
I feel so tired of the daily battle, responsibilty with little help, trying to reach the medical world who have stupid phone systems ...
Not knowing if I am doing my best for Dad?
our animals faithfully standing by for fun & affection when it is hard to find time for them ...
It's almost 5 PM here so I will cook him a good pasta dinner. Something he can chew & hope he doen't have a UTI.
I just now read this post!
You need to write a screen play. Screw the young, upcoming screen writers.
This is comedy in it's rawest form.
Sad thing is ... how many people will encounter this crap as their parent's age?
Forgive me, I feel weird tonight.
I am sorry for laughing ~ but your writing is perfect!
In the midst of anguish you find ideal words which put reality in honest perspective..
Isn't it deep night time there? Sunset is hours away here. Moleskin?
I read more new posts today of children (baby boomers) dealing with elder care.
I logged onto Oprah.com ... took a while to find a contact link, but think I did.
I suggested the producers log on to this site to learn what a large majority of Baby Boomers are or will be facing with elder care.
Maybe she can shed light on our troubling situations?
It is a relief knowing I have friends here! Thank you ALL!
AOL is really messing with me. Hope this posts.
Mary,
AKA SIgnLadyMary
also known as Rip the Stitch thanks to Bobbie.
The recent people are facing some very tough situations. Assistance seems far away when you are trapped at home with a parent. Lord knows if they live near a health care agency or stucvk in the middle of no where.
I wish I lived on a farm far from the city smog, until Dad has a medical problem. Having the ER 20 minutes away is a blessing. The EMT's are nearby & wonderful!
I have the same problems when we have to collect the pee for my mother; in general we collect the pee when we arrive at the lab. The nurses there are very patient and they know how to deal with elderly people, so my mother listens to them much more than she listens to me...
Oh I forgot my mommo story....well the caregiver and I took my mom to the doctor the other day. You have to do that so they will extend med's. Such a hassle. Well I knew it would lead to lab's next...same old same old. Blood and Pee. Well they took the blood because she said she cannot pee. They gave the caregiver the potty tray to catch pee and the cup. Well my lamo mom cannot wait for the caregiver to arrive and pees in the bathroom trashcan...she is so freaking lame. The caregiver calls me at work and asks if that is okay. Well I said was the trash liner in there or was it just the trash can. Could never get an answer out of her. My mom is the background saying she can't pee like she can never pee again. I told her to not listen to her and use her own judgement if it is good enough to submit to the lab. Geezus...between my mom and the stupid caregiver I sometimes don't know which is worse. So tired of it all...really fn tired.
And, as I am grieved and it's not easy to find an happy thought, let me say some nonsense!
Today my mother was in one of these days that I call "The horror movie day". She perceives the reality as violent and gruesome! I think she processes (her own way) what she sees on TV. I don't let her watch the news, of course. She watches love story movies and family movies, the ones which are good for the kids. But, nonetheless, she always finds something to be anguished about! When we went for a ride this afternoon, she said do me: "We must not kill those boys". I asked: "which boys?" and she insisted: "We must not kill those poor boys". And I said: "Mom, we do not generally kill boys!" Then I went to throw the garbage in a bin and she asked me: "Have you done something bad?" I said, "No, mom, just threw away the garbage". And then I realized that maybe she thought I had chopped the bodies of the poor boys I had killed, and I had thrown them in the bin! Well I did not feel like laughing, but I laughed anyway. And then she kept me busy: she took the car insurance coupon (we have to exhibit it and we put it in a pocket which is stuck to the windscreen) (so she can reach it quite easily) because she wanted to cover her icecream; (with the intention to put the icecream, covered by my car insurance coupon, in the bag); she had brought two bags with her and she tried to put one inside of another... And the icecream inside of the inner bag, I think... Oh my! She has such a fantasy that it is impossibile to foresee her intentions. My hair is constantly raised... (as in: hair raising)
I told you I would say some nonsense!
SecSis...maybe we will have to take a trip when all this is over to go see Rossella!
See you all tonight and thank you all for your support...
i remmy one year my neighbor cam eover and fed my dog and notice she was draggin her leg , so she took her to the vet and said its broken , didnt know there was a hole inside the dog house , her paw got stuck in it and wham broke her leg . she felt real bad , thinkin if she came earlier none of it would happen .
fixed the floor in her dog house and now shes ok . had to wear a cast for a while . poor sheba !!
gonna get on facebook and ask u to be my friend , wink xoox
Miz, how's the job going? Bobbie321, did you get all the parts and repairs done for your boat? Pirate, hang in there! Rosella, I love Milano and Como. Where are you in Italy? Deefer, it's a task keeping up with all the posts. Tennessee, so glad you have a place to vent. Wish there were more we could do to help! To all: God bless you on the journey!