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awwwwwwwwwwwww lord!
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omg I am so disgusted. At least I caught it before I put it in my mouth. I think that this was the first time because it was set in a different place by the sink and had gray hairs pokin out all over.

So sick of being disgusted. I love her but oh man.

Bobbie
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Bobbie I get grossed out watching my mom eat. I know I shouldn't say this but I really do. I just came from there brought her some home made spaghetti, (I make great spaghetti) and she always gets more on her wrap than she does in her mouth. It grosses me out because then she picks up the food from her bib and eats it.

I know I know it's wrong but it bothers me terribly.

But the toothbrush thing wow!!!!!!

I'm sure there will be more gross stories to follow!
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At least she didn't use your toothbrush like one of the other people I read about earlier. It was like 'mining for nuggets', if you know what I mean. Now that's GROSS! :)
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I dont think I can be surprised anymore! The things we've all seen. my only comfort in everything I go through, at least i'm not alone!

umm naheaton... i caught my mom with a spoon... needless to say.. i got a whole new tableware set...
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I remember the 'toothbrush miner'. oh yes.

My mom is relatively easy to care for compared to a lot of people on this site, but the bathroom holds special facination.
Especially the poopy part.

I get you about the eating thing too. If mom doesn't finish everything on her plate, she'll try to give it to you after she stabs it all over with her fingers.
You're thinkin ok, I'm just going to go with, 'no thanks mom, I'm stuffed.'
No spagetti here, mom will chase it around the plate so we always use macaroni that stays in the spoon!

I try hard to not feel guilt when I'm grossed out, but it's hard to be blase when your mom shows you a brace of brownies stuffed into the brand new pjs you just bought. And proud!

eeeeeek.

I'm fine. really.

lovbob
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I turn the tv up loud so I don't have to hear mom chew. And try to avoid looking at her... makes me feel guilty.. but after constantly asking her to chew with her mouth closed and getting no where..i've given up! and her clothes are so stained from "playing" with her food, that i don't even try to stop her anymore. some things, i don't even argue with anymore. the fight isn't worth it.

Speaking of eating.. I just caught mom feeding her cat butter.. *sigh*
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Kelly bean I am laughing out loud at that butter........It's just making me crack up.

Gosh it's good we all have one another!!!

Butter............lawd hav mercy!
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My husband and I never eat out of the same bowl that my mom does. Like with popcorn for example. Never know what's on those fingers of hers... Or that eye stuff that she gets. Makes me want to yak just thinking about it. I have other examples too. I won't get into them here. Pamela, it's not wrong to be grossed out. It's natural. Don't be so hard on yourself, dear. :)
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And by the way, yes we do have to laugh. And knowing others are going through the same thing does help.
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I must be tired because im sitting here laughing.. wanted to share a random thought I had about this with you all since it seems the right "crowd"

If you notice, on the homepage, midway, right side is a "Top 5 Caregiver Concerns"............. maybe they should add "New uses for toothbrushes, spoons and clothing art"..

Yes i'm off to bed now, but i always stay up and unwind after i've gotten mom to bed finally!
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KelleyBean, Yes, me too. I always stay up and unwind after my mom goes to bed. Most days that's my favorite part of the day. I feel terrible saying that but it is.
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I hear you both KellyBean and Miz10.

Early morning before mom gets up and late night after she's tucked in is the only time I have.
I feel terrible with guilt also and have been trying to recall the great mom things that happened when I was little when she is grossing me out to the point of puking. Sometimes it works but most of the time I'm just worn out and obsessing over getting all of this work finished before she kills me.

Thanks you guys for some of the stories....here's hoping for more because they mean a lot to me and the other 'grossees' too.

lovbob
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How's this....it's not a gross out thing but today when I took my mom her Valentines Day token, she pulled her top lip up and BAMB!!!! there was a tooth missing!. WHAT THE ............I asked her when did that happen, she said yesterday eating crackers. Thing is it is on the stroke affected side, and I wonder if she even knew when she lost it.
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Oh yes another thing ladies, late at night is the best wind down time and the liquor always taste the best at that time!
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I wish that some of us were in the same place so we could hang out for real. A bunch of caretakers, Jim Beam, Jack Daniels and Johnnie Walker!
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One of the many hidden costs of caregiving to an older person who may be confused. It's the little things we always have to pay attention to. I am attentive to as much as I can. When in doubt, I simply throw something out and get another one, including toothbrushes. I think it is one of those things that may be overlooked by some care workers with dire health consequences to older adults who are chronically ill. It is so easy for sick elders to pick up infections if someone is not actively watching over them. Of course, God help us to watch over ourselves as well, as this post proves. We're all vulnerable if we're not alert and prompt with caregiving intervention. Hope that is the worst that will ever happen, bobbie. Sorry you are having to deal with that. Blessings.
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pamela..i DO feel bad about that with my mom.. her teeth crack so easily.. and she has no dental.. I really try to avoid looking at that.. but since shes so self conscious about it, i try to make it so she feels most comfortable HERE to smile and laugh without having to hide her teeth like she does on the outside.
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Well I hope I don't offend anyone but as soon as I got in my car I cracked up about the tooth missing. I hope I don't offend anyone, it was just so funny to me and I need so desperately to laugh.
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Bobbie if we were in the same place when the folks saw us coming they would close down!!!!!!!!!!! hahahaha cause we would bring the house down.

I said in another thread that we should all plan a Hawaii trip and we could all tell stories and laugh while our cell phones rang off the hooks!!!!!!!!!
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You're so cute, Pamela!
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Pamela, I want a boat. That's where we could have our imaginary party! When I get really crazy I go online and look at boats. here's one I think is beautiful. pop this into your browser and tell me what you think. (please no disparaging words about boats, I've heard them all and this is all I have to dream on)

Now keep in mind I don't have any money to buy a boat. Maybe a canoe, but I look at the boats and dream about being a 'sea captain' and taking people on boat trips.
These days all I do is take mom to the bathroom and put her on the pot, clean her up and take her back to her chair. This happens about 2x an hour in addition to all of the other insanity that goes with this particular territory.
So when I can't clean one more thing, except moms a**, I sit here and talk to you guys or dream about boats.
Keeps me off the streets.
thank you caregiverslight for your kind words. naheaton, miz10, pamela, kellybean, you guys are the best and thanks for sharing your gross out stories.
What do you guys dream about?

lovbob
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pamela, one morning my mom was trying to put a "battery" in her hearing aid. Much to my dismay and my amazement, the "battery" was a tooth!!
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Bobbie I dream that I will wake up and this will all have been a dream.....for real.
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Bobbie,
I dream about the Greek Islands... cool breeze..calm clear water... a great big drink in my hand... not a care in the world! I can't even hear my cell phone ringing in desperation.. Because I've buried it..

Pamela, I think you mean nightmare don't you? I know I wish I could have woken up from some of the nightmares I've had here!

Miz, your story reminds me of Lucille Ball, when she was telling how her fillings were giving off radio signals in her head!
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Nice kellyBean. I'll come by in my boat and we'll go for a boat ride. We'll go below where the staterooms are and wake up Pamela and she will be smiling a big smile.
I'll be wearing a big hat so I don't burn my dome.

lovbob
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Kellybean I like your dream.

Bobbie I love your yacht. That's what we'll rent when we go to Hawaii. We'll be served exotic drinks by the chippendale men, dine on whatever Wolfgang Puck decides to whip up for us, and protected by the FBI so that no one can get to us about our parents.

We'll check all worries, frustrations, and guilt at the door, and we'll have spa treatments for "HAIR GROWTH". We'll swim in the beautiful blue ocean, and most of all we will LAUGH!!!!
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Here's another dreamboat. she has 2500 gal of fuel so this one can actually GO to Hawaii!!

my husband teases me about me looking at 'boat porn'.
Can't help it. Some boats make me go 'woof'!

lovbob
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Anything that gets me out of here makes me go 'woof'!
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KelleyBean, the Greek Islands sound sooooooo wonderful!! Bobbie, I love the boat idea too!! Just get me to the tropics!! That's funny, KelleyBean, about Lucille Ball because when Mom was young and herself, she used to remind me of her. :)
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