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HI FOLKS,
Thought I would drop in..
Well mom is still giving me grief...she has become more of the SHIT QUEEN like others have experienced...so fn gross...have to give her a bath at least every other day due to she never wipes herself...and when you do seems more ends up in the adult diapies....oh brother. A week or so ago we could still do underwear..but giving up on trying to clean a pack of poo out of them, or runs on the beds or on seat cushions..yuck. I hope I croak before I get like this..so fn gross. Her mouth doesn't seem to fail her..when she wants to make some kinda point. Eating has gone down..it's a lot of NO lately. She said she wanted pork chops and mashed potatoes and green beans for christmas..and then wanted none of it after i made it...harumpf...last last last time I ask her. She has made me waste plently of meals lately. Not asking anymore...gee I wonder if these geniuses that write these so called caregiver books cover subjects like this? Does anyone know?
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Austin, I didn't give them any money,got them on the phone,so maybe it will stop.They sound like they do business like Direct TV.They never posted any pictures because I didn't pay.There were a couple of cops from my area on there,but there were almost 200 men on there.You know when they ask you what you will not tolerate,I answered a man obsessed with porn-half of those dudes dropped out immediately-that was funny!All of the men claimed to be 6 ft. or more[HUH] I think that is suspicous-lot of tall men on the site-yah right.....
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Tenn just do not give them your credit card info they will tease you with pics and such but just delate if you can find a phone no. you can call but I just delate the postings without looking at them. I wrote a strong email to them after I finally found their phone no.and they would not allow me to take the their manager even when I said I would hold they took a years worth of payment after only about 2 months of joining then stoped sending me matches I told them N.Y. State does not like their people getting scamed our local DA is Judge Judy's son so I guess they do not want to deal with them -a day after my email I got a call from higher up in the company and will get a refund and cut my contract back 6 months. Some of my relatives have met wives and girlfriends on Match,com Bonnie -welcome aboard this is a great place I found it when I was in the black hole about 3 yrs. ago and it saved my sanity now that my husband has died I come back to it-I met so many great people hear at times we get those who do not get it but we deal with that also. Jam I am so sorry about your Mom and glad you were there -I was with my husband when he passed which I know he could hace cared less our last conversation the night before he became critical was the same old same old and when he was mostly out of it he would not reconize me but he did our kids and grand-daughter, I let the social worker clean out his room they wanted it done right away and I had not slept in days and told her I just could not do it them-most places five you time-I never got the tape recorder he asked my son to get so he could record family history but he told me he really wanted it so he could catch me saying something mean to him-and I am sure it had a lot of rantings on it which I am just as glad I did not listen to,
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Miz. never did find the unsubscribe option,but did find phone number-did it the old fashion way-YAAAAAY.We will see if they stop-lot of men out there looking for a date.Daughter said only Mr. Right I need was her dad:)
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Unsubscribe and copy the email to your address section see if it has a block this address option....

half a foot of snow here and counting...ah well, it is December. If I was 10, I would be thrilled...It is supreme Snow Fort Packing Snow! and plenty of it!

Hello Bonnie, Welcome to the boat house gab fest....Bobbie started this thread and we sort of all chat on it, giving support and filling each other in on the latest Reality Show worthy care giving incidents...

Nothing new here really, mom on third day with him 24 7 she took an awful long time using the snowthrower this morning. I had to feed and pill him again....what ever...gonna go read my teenage vampire romance novel...

Hope everyone is well.
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tennessee, there should be an "unsubscribe" option at the bottom of the emails.
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Jam,cute granddaughter-know your proud.If I knew Kids could be so wonderful I would have had one sooner.
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Jam, I'm so sorry about your Mom! I'm glad that you got to be there with her & that she passed with dignity! Please know that we're here for you! Also, please let us know the arrangements.

Love & Hugs,
peach
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I chose the tall trumpeting angel in sky blue lamp to send to Angie.Card signed with "Crew of the Barbara B, your family of angels!"
Hope you all like it. Kathy
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O.k. I DID SOMETHING DUMB.AUSTIN when talkin about E-harmony-I pulled it up on the computer,then I took a free personality test--for fun.I did not join or send money-now I am getting globs of E-MAIL-[meet mr. right] I don't want to meet mr. Right-I don't even want to meet Mr. Wrong-I figure if I don't respond or send money they will go away.now they are offering freebies.Do ya'll know how to stop these things-Austin Help!
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Oh BonnieO, I am sorry. I failed to welcome you!! Welcome!! You will not find a better group of ladies and man anywhere!! :))
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BonnieO - Welcome from another newbie! This is the thread where it's all at! I care for both my parents too, very hard, isn't it?! The peeps on this thread are the best. Stay close. We'll get through this. We will. :)

-SS
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Good Morning, I thought I put this link on here for my online family. IT is dad's obituary. I wanted to share this with family. Hope everyone is well. Today is the wake tomorrow the funeral. I will check back on here after all is done to catch up with everyone. Thank you all so much for all your notes and hugs, they have meant so much to me and to my mom. Love and Hugs ANGIE legacy.com/link.asp?i=ls000147465652= it is also the status on my face book page as well.
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Jam, take your time. Be gentle and kind with yourself. :)

love,
miz
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miz if we weren't I'm not sure we could continue to do this as long as we have and will do...........I keep putting off going to clean out Mom's room. Take care all of you and I'm wishing you peace today.
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Jam, my mom went through that her last night. Suffering to breath and yes, it's very painful to watch. As horrible as it was to lose her, I would not have wanted her to suffer another day like that.
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Hubby says we're all mentally ill except for him. ;)
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Thank you all so much......I just needed to share my thoughts this morning......hubby and I prayed together this morning to send Mom on her way....she is no longer suffering to breathe...it was painful to watch. I am happy for momma.....sad for me....sounds morbid doesn't it......tennessee that is a pic of me with one of my sweet little granddaughters taken last year on Grandparent's Day....but I look like my mom. Again....thank you all so much for your caring thoughts....every one of you know how it makes me feel because you have been there also.
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Jam,I WAS the main caregiver and because my brother gave himself POA he told the medical people not to talk to me-it was very confusing to the medical people,because they saw what was what.It was very crippling but I did the best I could do.My dad begged the doctors to talk to me,but they ignored him-Bro. had POA-when dad found out he took it back and brother. didn't come around anymore-said he wouldn't see him anymore unless he gave it back.If being highly educated makes one a uncompassionate a$$ ,Then I'm thankful for being a dummy.
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Jam, glad you have taken control of the sibling situation. They chose not to be involved so they can get what's coming to them, nothing.
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Maybe us caregivers can get our own Island and we can pretend to be marooned and we can ride Bobbies Boat to and fro.O.k. that is really dreaming. I Took my daughter on a Disney cruise before the lawsuit cranked up because I knew I would be broke afterwards and not able.Disneys Island castaway cay is very nice,somewhere around the Bahamas.
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Tenn,Gilligan's island, let me think, mary anne, the skipper, the millionaire and his wife, the movie star, dah dah dah, here on Gilligan's Isle. That does go along with bobbie's boat theme!
I hate trying to deal with those bills that are taken out of the account monthly, too. I'm trying to cancel a security program on the computer and switch to another one, but it won't let me delete it, and will charge my account again if I don't figure out how to get rid of the thing! Actually, I probably can figure it out, but I'd rather chat on here instead!
ssk
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Jam, Is that your mom and you in photo?
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SSKAPE, I got one better,we have 4 TVs in the house and not plugged into anything-thats why I never know what is going on in the world.Cable is not a option,can't get the local channels.Direct TV took out 700. dollars out of my account because they had my debit no. It was a [MISTAKE] ,made me overdraft.Bank says they had alot of problems with Direct.I got it back-took 3 months.They charged me 30 dollars a month more than our agreed price-never enforced my rebait.Call them up can't get anybody to speak English. Dish is left,but I am leary of handing out debit numbers to them.Easy for them to take your money-hard to get it back. Daughter LOVES Gilligan's Island-watches it on the computer,which goes along with the Boat theme.The computer guy says were lucky to get internet where we are.
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Jam, you were definitely NOT wrong.
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Jam, I'm so sorry about your mom,but I'm very glad you got to be there with her.I think passin' with the honor and dignity with your family there with you means everything.If we ever started a deadbeat sibling list it would be very long.
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I guess no one is up yet. must have stayed up late last night. I only get the basic cable on TV now, so I got stuck watching hallmark movies.
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Jam, so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. You've been through a lot lately. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
love,
ssk
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Good Morning everyone......wanted to check in, have been following the posts from all of you but too busy to post anything. My mother passed away this morning about 4:30. She was resting comfortably with the help of Roxinol and Ativan.....hospice is wonderful! Aspiration pneumonia is an ugly thing.....but she is at peace now. Guess I will go to the nursing home this morning and clean out her room. My younger sister and brother were not there.....both refused..needless to say I'm not happy with them. The excuse from sister "I just can't watch her die".......oh puleeezzz, spare me your selfish attitude. My middle daughter estranged herself from this family years ago because she is a self-centered "fake" little creature; wrote me a horrible email before she moved to Denver couple of years ago and the hospice nurse came in last night and said "your daughter called and wants information", well it took me a minute to realize what she was saying and I told her absolutely not......if she wants to know anything the little snip can call me!!!!!!!!! When this daughter married in 2001 I asked if she was sending an invitation to her grandmother in Michigan...her words were "No, SHE chose to not make herself a part of my life, so no she gets no invitation". There are a lot of other issues but was I wrong to tell them she gets no information? She has had nothing to do with Grandma for years and now that she is dying she wants something? Where is it written that a parent has to take that kind of abuse from children? I am at peace with Moms passing because I know she was struggling to breathe, even though she had the meds to ease her pain. She passed with dignity and for that I am thankful. I now have my mil to still keep me entertained. Her mind has been on finances and writing checks.....she keeps writing me checks and I keep telling her to make paper airplanes out of them. Going to have to take the checkbook away from her. Yesterday she kept yammering about her quarterly taxes while I am trying to get out of the house to go to my mom.....and hubby finally had to get rough and tell her to quit bothering me with insignificant crap because my mother was dying! I came home last night to make sure she got her meds and she had completely forgotten it all and had written me another check! Oh my....................my thoughts are with all of you and Happy Birthday to those I've missed.......and I hope you all have a peaceful day........
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3 a.m. I guess i will try to go back to sleep.Glad you won boat time Bobbie.
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