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miz just read your post from earlier and so sorry for your mil.....she will be added to my prayers.....as well as you and Mr. Miz.....big hugz to you!!!!
Sorry for miz's ongoing stress and hassle, try and get rest when you can. The bed is supplied by hospice at least ours was. it is inflated so it created fewer bed sore issues, they will take it back when it is no longer needed. Grandma didn't want it at first but it was a two and has body sensors on it for pressure on sensitive skin. I hope she is Ok and not too scared on in pain.Both of which can be managed by Hospice. Get what ever she needs. I hope you are doing OK ...
hey rip is famous...do you know which episode oh maybe I can find it on Youtube!
Doin OK here, waiting waiting...
Hope everyone's week end is going OK...what ever "week end" means now...Just the days we put the garbage out here...
Is there a 12 step program for sick, twisted, pooh-doo obsessed, pro-b*tching, amateur writers? Show me....I will go in for treatment...
I'm "crack"ing up thinking how this could possibly be made into a cartoon. It may make the rounds on youtube, but I can't see anyone picking this up for broadcast.
You are already into production...who is the sick one now? My little partner in crime...you need treatment with me. Who will step up and Direct the Pooh-pooh-doo-doo chronicals?
If I made you "see" the smirking pooh while reading the post my job is done....how we writers suffer for our art. I've been LMAO all day long. I had such fun today.
Miz: Still thinking about you and cubby..I mean hubby. I hope you are getting some rest. Please tell hubby we are praying for mom.
Animated Cartoon eh? I wanna be a character called "Dustin Beaver"...I will be a beaver of course with a bad bowl hair cut...
Signed up for PT at Wal-mart...waiting waiting...
Here's one: Cousin (twat) (pot-smoking twat) E-mailed me the other day and after working for yes three days at a Nursing Home..(Three Whole Days) she said she will take care of grandpa...she will do it for free...she would be happy to move in and take care of him full time...we could just take off and she would handle it all no big deal...She has never been the most sensitive person and everything in life is about HER...so I take it with a grain of salt...spoonful of sugar, shot of Jack, two aspirins and call no one in the morning... She is so deluded. She has a five year old, likes to party and go out, got fired for snorting cocaine, on the job, at work, At Her Desk!...and she feels she is fully qualified to take on 24/7 elder care...or the way I read it, it is no big deal what we have been doing for four years now!...Because she has a Part Time job for work study and "put lotion on a lady's breasts and didn't have a problem with it" she is now fully comprehending of the work involved in looking after an 89 year old man...Stupid bitch! She hasn't got a fucking clue! She has fried her brain with the daily usage of pot, past or not so past pills hard drugs and booze usage. I mean what the hell is she thinking?!!! It is more than putting on lotion you stupid skank! I have never told her,or anyone else for that matter about his inappropriate behaviors...she doesn't want to know. No one does. But considering her ego, she might find his pervy behavior flattering...maybe not so much if directed at her five year old daughter ( I would hope). Hmm pill dispensing from her...um-really wouldn't be a good idea, she'd probably steal some and sell or trade em for her drugs of choice. She couldn't leave him alone ever! she wouldn't like that. Making meals, she could do that. when she was home. setting up dr visits, she could do that, if she could keep track of his health issues. she has expressed a real abhorrence to cleaning up of bodily fluids...maybe she would have us in for that bit? She says she liked looking at the older patients pictures and hearing their stories...but she is not the most patient person so how many times she would listen raptly to his telling of..."When I was in the service in Miama Beach..." Lets see, mom handles all his business and money...my cousin REALLY could not be trusted with access to his money. My mom keeps track of it to the cent..... Lets see laundry...well there is poop again..maybe she could send it out?...but he does have lotion for his feet...so she could handle that I guess..
HB, I wonder if we can talk you into making this an animated cartoon. I swear I will sell it to Hollywood...When I was reading this I actually visualized that pooh in my mind. You are so sick, but I gotta love ya,LOL!!! PI, so sorry you're going through hell right now, hope it gets a little better for you tomorrow. :)
By special request....an addition to the Pooh-pooh-doo-doo chronicals:
Manipulative pooh: A naughty, impacted little pooh. This pooh taunts, and teases the caregiver by playing peek-a-boo-doo-doo. Often confused with prairie-doggin-poo which is also a head-poking species of doo, manipulative pooh will pout and grief you until coaxed from the rectum...usually by manual means. Manipulative doo will try and make you feel bad about yourself so wear gloves when tickling this pooh from from it's hiding place.
Enjoy Piratess! Have a nice rest princess! Love N Stuff HB
Headbanger.. I have a request for MANIPULATIVE POOP!- has more than one meaning you get me...lol!
Oh as I was sitting here reading a bunch of posts before I typed mine up above...I looked up at my mom's parakeet and he was sitting on his little ladder toy that he loves which is at like a 45 degree angle and he was sitting on one of the lower rungs and had his head resting on an upper rung...never saw him do that before...was so cute so sweet and he was looking at me. So cute! He is such a good little birdy. My mom has had previous ones that are reall messy, or mean or boisterous but he is a good little boy that will sing to himself on many occasions. I try to talk to him a lot to give him some company. Trying to teach him the 'wolf whistle'...he does it sometimes when I cover him up at night under his breath. Pets sometimes are caregivers for the caregiver I wish I had my Jackie doggie still! I so miss having a dog, as an only child the family dog became my brother or sister...sad ain't it.
Hi Miz, wow what terrible news, when it rains it definetly poors don't it..hang in there girl!
Well today the hospice nurse came to sign my mom up.,.they do this extended care service, you don't have to be exactly at death's door before they help you. Everything was fine until she mentioned the DNR form..creepy, but I get what she meant do you want to revive so they can go back to their sad existence...well no..,I guess they look at quality of life,..,anyway it is creepy I may not sign it - if it gets to a bad stage yes but not now. My mom was all antzy about the nurse visit she could not stand us talking in another room and so we sat in her bedroom and she tossed and turned like I never saw her toss and turn before,..and tried to get up and was pissing and moaning about how she can't see, well she is not all the way blind she can def see and can see us, she likes to use that as her ruse all the time. Mom is healthy physically wise but not too good at walking at all, her cane has become something she does not navigate and I either put her arms around me and move her or have her use her walker. I have to say the antibiotics have made a big difference if only I could tell between decline alz and UTI. Well anyway the nurses will start to come and check on the situation every few days it sounds..wow. She said they provide any meds dealing with the ailment and also diapey's. She mentioned a certain kind of bed..,wonder if they provide that free of charge as well? I have gotten absolutely no where with getting moved in. For one thing the damn caregiver I had would always be in my way talking to me about her problems or she was not checking on my mom or I had errands to do. Either taxes from mom and me, or doc appt for her, or dealing with learning the news on Monday I have a brand new caregiver again. Well this past week was a waste. Today was a waste, cause after I got done with mom, brought stuff from my yard at old house to put in yard at mom's house then nurse was supposed to come at 1:00 well that changed to 2:30..then it changed to 3:00 okay then she left at 5:00 then mom wanted to eat all of a sudden,..then it was 6:00 then I felt fried and lonely and sad. She said I have to be here at night, but I can't sleep on the couch or I will be useless the next day..seriously. I am the total PRINCESS AND THE PEA. If I am not warm and comfortable and can't stretch right..I cannot sleep well and will be warmed over shit the next day, and if that keeps up, will affect my health. I know..I cannot even sleep with snoring cause I am a light sleeper and if I am sleep deprived I go right down the tubes. Sigh, some people can sleep anywhere even sitting up...not I. So let's see if tommorrow is better. Stupid b/f still cannot get it into his head that I have to start moving..he thinks we can still party...what a fn selfish bstrd,.he say he gets it but then he says stuff like everything is normal still planning for get togethers at my house and evenings of fun...what a moron...he stresses me out! Glad he is busy with his kid tonight...he said she might have a sleep over at a friends and may come over but that changed and will not be coming over - good. I feel like taking a nap on the couch though,...I feel worn out...I leave my mom's house late every night so I can be sure she is asleep and go home to sleep and call her in the early morning to see if she is alright and then get myself over here.,..my house is like in stand still have not washed the dishes over there for 2 weeks they are just soaking forever...lol. Maybe tomorrow morning will do those really quick. I hope tomorrow I can go back to MOLD ABATEMENT in my old bedroom. Yeah thanks mom for cramming the room full of shit and keeping the door closed so no circulation or heat can go in there and grow mold. Well I got the bottom closed cleared out and clean from mold. Now I have to go around behind the bed and clean that wall and then there is a bookcase and there is mold of both the yucky brownish yellow but black streaks as well. I think I have t remove all the crap from the bookcase,.,.fn dolls and stuffed animals and sewing stuff and family framed photos...geezus more stuff! I am getting ruthless with the tossing and thrift shop candidates...can't keep everything.
My claim to national fame! Ty took the kids of a local makeover to a restaurant whose doors I had lettered. Showed them going in. A split second blink of my work.
Hi Miz I'm sorry for your hubby that we don't know but we like for all the good things we have heard about him. There is a positive side, that you have each other for support in all this family distress. I sure hope things go better, but whatever period he is going to face, he is going to have you close to him.... Be brave and a big hug!
Headbanger, I was absolutely fascinated by your work of art (I mean it, there was poetry in your essay) (poetry literally hidden amongst the sh*t) and I didn't know if I wanted to laugh or cry! Find a plot and write a real book.
Love ya, Miz. You've been so strong for us, for so many people, We're here for you, but you know that. So get some rest and we'll be thinking good thoughts for you and hubby, and for all of those you love.
I read the earlier post by Ted. Wrote on his wall how much I appreciated his thoughts and support. But I feel we all get a prize everyday by having this sight. I told Ted it is because of him and many others that have gone before me here, that I felt safe to share my feelings and situation. The support of being heard was priceless, and am making new friends. And of course we are having such fun with the "banana/knives" thing it was worth every minute of the craziness and the bump on the head. HB, So many people on the sight have suggested you write a book, start a column or something, If this many people call you a "duck" then maybe you need to "quack".....Not that it is wasted on us, because you are cheaper than therapy,(did that come out wrong? lol) Will tell ya'll about my "almost" day off. What a bunch of crap this family is... anyway, I am going to bed and read... see ya'll tomorrow
Headbanger, those different poohs are hilarious!! And so true!!
We were going to look at houses today but got the call this morning that hubby's mom is in the hospital with two blood clots in her lungs, stomach full of fluids, and found out possible liver cancer. They can't do a biopsy because they are afraid she will bleed to death I think. She is having pain on one side of her back and under her left breast. She's only 61. We made the two hour drive in less than two hours and then went to see her, then got something to eat and went back to the hospital and spent some more time with her and FIL and SIL. It's very upsetting. She's not been in good health for quite some time now. She's overweight and that does not help matters. Needless to say, after spending a week in the hospital with my mom, I don't like going there. I'm very worried about her. They were gonna go to Hawaii next month. That doesn't seem at all possible now. Hubby is sleeping and I am tired. We are at his parents house. We plan to spend the night tonight and go back home tomorrow after spending time with MIL as I work all day on Monday. Hubby set up my laptop for me on a TV tray and so here I sit. Packing for the night wasn't too difficult as I had not completely unpacked from our Florida trip.
Just found a great way to get mom to eat all her dinner... Bake some brownies and leave them out for her to smell!!! Deal is, no eating her dinner, no eating her dessert! Poor baby, now all she's doing is coming into the office and asking what time is dinner? Guess I better get the food on the table. :) Oh, I know HB, you're gonna have fun with this one, huh? LOL
Smooth sailing pooh: This is poop that cuts through the water like a schooner riding a good blow. This poop is full speed ahead and usually creates a splash or "wake". The smooth sailing pooh is almost like spotting the "Flying Dutchman" it is a fantasy, mythical or fabled poop because I sure haven't seen one yet.
Hey HB, I haven't had a laugh like this in , I really can't remember!!! You are the best! This has got to be published, somewhere...Anyone got any ideas for this great comic? And yes, you are my Comic Relief, forever and ever... :)
Thank you for sharing about your mom's CG attraction. It does happen so often.
This is a true story. Hand to god, no embellishment. I was a medical assistant working the back office in my 20's. My physician was an internist and his practice was strictly adults but comprised of many geriatric patients.
One of our gentlemen was Mr. Irving (last name concealed). Mr. Irving would hit on me so hard you would think he was starving man waiting for his turn at the buffet at the Golden Corral. I just laughed to myself and went on with my business...but soon his complaints were always respiratory and chest related.
The doctor comes to me and says "room 4 needs to undress from waist up and can't do it himself." I go in there and see a grinning Mr. Irving. I said "Ok Mr. Irving...lets get you ready for the doctor, he'll see you in your wheelchair but we need to take off your shirt and undershirt ok?" Mr. Irving just sat there eyes twinkling and making little sounds. I walked over unbuttoned his shirt and placed it on the chair next to us. I then went over to take off his undershirt. As I was pulling the shirt over his head, he cupped each of my "girls" in his hand and gave em a good squeeze. I was so embarrassed.
Ok so thinking I imagined the whole thing I tried to play it off...the whole time my mind was racing thinking that I must have done the maneuver wrong so that his hands couldn't go anywhere else...Gawd help me.
So exam over...physician comes to me and says.."ok help Mr. Irving get dressed." I go over and said "ready to get dressed Mr. Irving?" He nods and makes a few more grunting noises. "Put your arms up" I said to him, making real sure I stayed away from his hands. Low and behold, his paws snaked down to my "girls" and he said "honk, honk".
"MR IRVING" I gasped. "You know exactly what you are doing, don't you?, he said clear as day...."Boobies".
I will never forget that. After the exam I told the doctor about the encounter and told him that he should choose another M.A. to assist him with Mr. Irving. "What for?" the doctor asked, "He's already broken you in!"
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The bed is supplied by hospice at least ours was. it is inflated so it created fewer bed sore issues, they will take it back when it is no longer needed. Grandma didn't want it at first but it was a two and has body sensors on it for pressure on sensitive skin. I hope she is Ok and not too scared on in pain.Both of which can be managed by Hospice. Get what ever she needs. I hope you are doing OK ...
hey rip is famous...do you know which episode oh maybe I can find it on Youtube!
Doin OK here, waiting waiting...
Hope everyone's week end is going OK...what ever "week end" means now...Just the days we put the garbage out here...
Put in "Out Of Africa"...
Is there a 12 step program for sick, twisted, pooh-doo obsessed, pro-b*tching, amateur writers? Show me....I will go in for treatment...
I'm "crack"ing up thinking how this could possibly be made into a cartoon. It may make the rounds on youtube, but I can't see anyone picking this up for broadcast.
You are already into production...who is the sick one now? My little partner in crime...you need treatment with me. Who will step up and Direct the Pooh-pooh-doo-doo chronicals?
If I made you "see" the smirking pooh while reading the post my job is done....how we writers suffer for our art. I've been LMAO all day long. I had such fun today.
Miz: Still thinking about you and cubby..I mean hubby. I hope you are getting some rest. Please tell hubby we are praying for mom.
Love n stuff
HB
Signed up for PT at Wal-mart...waiting waiting...
Here's one: Cousin (twat) (pot-smoking twat) E-mailed me the other day and after working for yes three days at a Nursing Home..(Three Whole Days) she said she will take care of grandpa...she will do it for free...she would be happy to move in and take care of him full time...we could just take off and she would handle it all no big deal...She has never been the most sensitive person and everything in life is about HER...so I take it with a grain of salt...spoonful of sugar, shot of Jack, two aspirins and call no one in the morning...
She is so deluded. She has a five year old, likes to party and go out, got fired for snorting cocaine, on the job, at work, At Her Desk!...and she feels she is fully qualified to take on 24/7 elder care...or the way I read it, it is no big deal what we have been doing for four years now!...Because she has a Part Time job for work study and "put lotion on a lady's breasts and didn't have a problem with it" she is now fully comprehending of the work involved in looking after an 89 year old man...Stupid bitch!
She hasn't got a fucking clue! She has fried her brain with the daily usage of pot, past or not so past pills hard drugs and booze usage. I mean what the hell is she thinking?!!! It is more than putting on lotion you stupid skank!
I have never told her,or anyone else for that matter about his inappropriate behaviors...she doesn't want to know. No one does. But considering her ego, she might find his pervy behavior flattering...maybe not so much if directed at her five year old daughter ( I would hope).
Hmm pill dispensing from her...um-really wouldn't be a good idea, she'd probably steal some and sell or trade em for her drugs of choice. She couldn't leave him alone ever! she wouldn't like that. Making meals, she could do that. when she was home. setting up dr visits, she could do that, if she could keep track of his health issues. she has expressed a real abhorrence to cleaning up of bodily fluids...maybe she would have us in for that bit? She says she liked looking at the older patients pictures and hearing their stories...but she is not the most patient person so how many times she would listen raptly to his telling of..."When I was in the service in Miama Beach..." Lets see, mom handles all his business and money...my cousin REALLY could not be trusted with access to his money. My mom keeps track of it to the cent..... Lets see laundry...well there is poop again..maybe she could send it out?...but he does have lotion for his feet...so she could handle that I guess..
These people, I swear..If you don't Know......
SHUT THE HELL UP!!!!!
PI, so sorry you're going through hell right now, hope it gets a little better for you tomorrow. :)
By special request....an addition to the Pooh-pooh-doo-doo chronicals:
Manipulative pooh: A naughty, impacted little pooh. This pooh taunts, and teases the caregiver by playing peek-a-boo-doo-doo. Often confused with prairie-doggin-poo which is also a head-poking species of doo, manipulative pooh will pout and grief you until coaxed from the rectum...usually by manual means. Manipulative doo will try and make you feel bad about yourself so wear gloves when tickling this pooh from from it's hiding place.
Enjoy Piratess! Have a nice rest princess!
Love N Stuff
HB
Oh as I was sitting here reading a bunch of posts before I typed mine up above...I looked up at my mom's parakeet and he was sitting on his little ladder toy that he loves which is at like a 45 degree angle and he was sitting on one of the lower rungs and had his head resting on an upper rung...never saw him do that before...was so cute so sweet and he was looking at me. So cute! He is such a good little birdy. My mom has had previous ones that are reall messy, or mean or boisterous but he is a good little boy that will sing to himself on many occasions. I try to talk to him a lot to give him some company. Trying to teach him the 'wolf whistle'...he does it sometimes when I cover him up at night under his breath. Pets sometimes are caregivers for the caregiver I wish I had my Jackie doggie still! I so miss having a dog, as an only child the family dog became my brother or sister...sad ain't it.
Well today the hospice nurse came to sign my mom up.,.they do this extended care service, you don't have to be exactly at death's door before they help you. Everything was fine until she mentioned the DNR form..creepy, but I get what she meant do you want to revive so they can go back to their sad existence...well no..,I guess they look at quality of life,..,anyway it is creepy I may not sign it - if it gets to a bad stage yes but not now. My mom was all antzy about the nurse visit she could not stand us talking in another room and so we sat in her bedroom and she tossed and turned like I never saw her toss and turn before,..and tried to get up and was pissing and moaning about how she can't see, well she is not all the way blind she can def see and can see us, she likes to use that as her ruse all the time. Mom is healthy physically wise but not too good at walking at all, her cane has become something she does not navigate and I either put her arms around me and move her or have her use her walker. I have to say the antibiotics have made a big difference if only I could tell between decline alz and UTI. Well anyway the nurses will start to come and check on the situation every few days it sounds..wow. She said they provide any meds dealing with the ailment and also diapey's. She mentioned a certain kind of bed..,wonder if they provide that free of charge as well? I have gotten absolutely no where with getting moved in. For one thing the damn caregiver I had would always be in my way talking to me about her problems or she was not checking on my mom or I had errands to do. Either taxes from mom and me, or doc appt for her, or dealing with learning the news on Monday I have a brand new caregiver again. Well this past week was a waste. Today was a waste, cause after I got done with mom, brought stuff from my yard at old house to put in yard at mom's house then nurse was supposed to come at 1:00 well that changed to 2:30..then it changed to 3:00 okay then she left at 5:00 then mom wanted to eat all of a sudden,..then it was 6:00 then I felt fried and lonely and sad. She said I have to be here at night, but I can't sleep on the couch or I will be useless the next day..seriously. I am the total PRINCESS AND THE PEA. If I am not warm and comfortable and can't stretch right..I cannot sleep well and will be warmed over shit the next day, and if that keeps up, will affect my health. I know..I cannot even sleep with snoring cause I am a light sleeper and if I am sleep deprived I go right down the tubes. Sigh, some people can sleep anywhere even sitting up...not I. So let's see if tommorrow is better. Stupid b/f still cannot get it into his head that I have to start moving..he thinks we can still party...what a fn selfish bstrd,.he say he gets it but then he says stuff like everything is normal still planning for get togethers at my house and evenings of fun...what a moron...he stresses me out! Glad he is busy with his kid tonight...he said she might have a sleep over at a friends and may come over but that changed and will not be coming over - good. I feel like taking a nap on the couch though,...I feel worn out...I leave my mom's house late every night so I can be sure she is asleep and go home to sleep and call her in the early morning to see if she is alright and then get myself over here.,..my house is like in stand still have not washed the dishes over there for 2 weeks they are just soaking forever...lol. Maybe tomorrow morning will do those really quick. I hope tomorrow I can go back to MOLD ABATEMENT in my old bedroom. Yeah thanks mom for cramming the room full of shit and keeping the door closed so no circulation or heat can go in there and grow mold. Well I got the bottom closed cleared out and clean from mold. Now I have to go around behind the bed and clean that wall and then there is a bookcase and there is mold of both the yucky brownish yellow but black streaks as well. I think I have t remove all the crap from the bookcase,.,.fn dolls and stuffed animals and sewing stuff and family framed photos...geezus more stuff! I am getting ruthless with the tossing and thrift shop candidates...can't keep everything.
Ty took the kids of a local makeover to a restaurant whose doors I had lettered. Showed them going in. A split second blink of my work.
There is a positive side, that you have each other for support in all this family distress. I sure hope things go better, but whatever period he is going to face, he is going to have you close to him.... Be brave and a big hug!
Headbanger, I was absolutely fascinated by your work of art (I mean it, there was poetry in your essay) (poetry literally hidden amongst the sh*t) and I didn't know if I wanted to laugh or cry!
Find a plot and write a real book.
love,
miz
HB, So many people on the sight have suggested you write a book, start a column or something, If this many people call you a "duck" then maybe you need to "quack".....Not that it is wasted on us, because you are cheaper than therapy,(did that come out wrong? lol)
Will tell ya'll about my "almost" day off. What a bunch of crap this family is... anyway, I am going to bed and read... see ya'll tomorrow
Never a break for you and hubby. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Love,
Diane
What HB said ...
So sorry ...
Oh honey...I'm so sorry to hear that news. I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.
/hugs and much love....HB
Headbanger, those different poohs are hilarious!! And so true!!
We were going to look at houses today but got the call this morning that hubby's mom is in the hospital with two blood clots in her lungs, stomach full of fluids, and found out possible liver cancer. They can't do a biopsy because they are afraid she will bleed to death I think. She is having pain on one side of her back and under her left breast. She's only 61. We made the two hour drive in less than two hours and then went to see her, then got something to eat and went back to the hospital and spent some more time with her and FIL and SIL. It's very upsetting. She's not been in good health for quite some time now. She's overweight and that does not help matters. Needless to say, after spending a week in the hospital with my mom, I don't like going there. I'm very worried about her. They were gonna go to Hawaii next month. That doesn't seem at all possible now. Hubby is sleeping and I am tired. We are at his parents house. We plan to spend the night tonight and go back home tomorrow after spending time with MIL as I work all day on Monday. Hubby set up my laptop for me on a TV tray and so here I sit. Packing for the night wasn't too difficult as I had not completely unpacked from our Florida trip.
love,
miz
Whatever gets mom to eat is a good strategy. Is better to have her covered in the brownies YOU made, than the brownies SHE made.
Dinner now...potty humor later... Better go feed her before she holds you up at banana-and-butterknife point.
love HB
Smooth sailing pooh: This is poop that cuts through the water like a schooner riding a good blow. This poop is full speed ahead and usually creates a splash or "wake". The smooth sailing pooh is almost like spotting the "Flying Dutchman" it is a fantasy, mythical or fabled poop because I sure haven't seen one yet.
Love HB
Thank you for sharing about your mom's CG attraction. It does happen so often.
This is a true story. Hand to god, no embellishment. I was a medical assistant working the back office in my 20's. My physician was an internist and his practice was strictly adults but comprised of many geriatric patients.
One of our gentlemen was Mr. Irving (last name concealed). Mr. Irving would hit on me so hard you would think he was starving man waiting for his turn at the buffet at the Golden Corral. I just laughed to myself and went on with my business...but soon his complaints were always respiratory and chest related.
The doctor comes to me and says "room 4 needs to undress from waist up and can't do it himself." I go in there and see a grinning Mr. Irving. I said "Ok Mr. Irving...lets get you ready for the doctor, he'll see you in your wheelchair but we need to take off your shirt and undershirt ok?" Mr. Irving just sat there eyes twinkling and making little sounds. I walked over unbuttoned his shirt and placed it on the chair next to us. I then went over to take off his undershirt. As I was pulling the shirt over his head, he cupped each of my "girls" in his hand and gave em a good squeeze. I was so embarrassed.
Ok so thinking I imagined the whole thing I tried to play it off...the whole time my mind was racing thinking that I must have done the maneuver wrong so that his hands couldn't go anywhere else...Gawd help me.
So exam over...physician comes to me and says.."ok help Mr. Irving get dressed." I go over and said "ready to get dressed Mr. Irving?" He nods and makes a few more grunting noises. "Put your arms up" I said to him, making real sure I stayed away from his hands. Low and behold, his paws snaked down to my "girls" and he said "honk, honk".
"MR IRVING" I gasped. "You know exactly what you are doing, don't you?, he said clear as day...."Boobies".
I will never forget that. After the exam I told the doctor about the encounter and told him that he should choose another M.A. to assist him with Mr. Irving. "What for?" the doctor asked, "He's already broken you in!"
Love ya Christina!....HB