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I'm sick of snow. We had over 8" today and expect another 4 to 6" tonight thru Monday. Got three driveways to shovel cause blower broke. I finnally got my mom to figure out that she shouldn't drive anymore. That is a good thing seeing that she is blind in her right eye and deaf in her left ear. She called this morning and didn't have any heat in the house so a furnace man came out and got that up and running. She's starting to slow down. She turned 86 in Dec., but still lives by herself yet. Still cleans her house and shovels the drive way. I think that keeps her going. Hope you guys like the jokes. I try to keep them clean. Don't want to start any trouble. Love ya all Cuz
Happy miz miz...hope it was a good one. mil doing OK?
Took the flowers to cemetery. much easier now the snow melted, ya should a seen us last time two fat women humping it across forty yards or three foot deep snow, me in my bootie cast, slipping on wet buffed granite headstones...I mean it looked like something out of a 1930's funnies...only in colour! Not much changed there, deer poopies (yes more poop) wide open sky, the church a block away built like a mega plex, The Jewish Cemetery along the way, past the Community College where I remember standing in the parking lot and dancing, five years ago singing "Singing In The Rain" in a down pour waiting for a ride to come...Seems a long time ago now... Ah well least the ice was gone. and happy thoughts he will be in the ground next yes? Soon? Thank You....cousin can stay in Buffalo!
I want to share something happy. I will be leaving home and taking a month's worth of respite. In fact I'll be getting away from the whole country for a month!
I'm going on a trip with my daughter, Son-in-law, and 2 grandchildren to meet his mother and sister, they live in India, oh yeah...I said INDIA. We'll be leaving in 2 weeks (flying out March 10) and be gone for a month. My son-in-law is paying for everything so I have NO excuse not to take his hospitality and go and meet his family. I'll still be a caregiver, but entertaining babies is a welcome change, The diapers are much smaller and the butt cheeks are a whole lot cuter.
The decision to go was hard for me. When I mentioned the trip to my mother her initial reaction was...well...less than special. This was expected. She looked like she had swallowed an adult hedgehog and with her eyes bulging...blurted out "Well where should I stick my mother for a month? I doubt she'll fit up my ass!" She covered her mouth and ran from the room, feeling pretty bad about letting her "inside voice" turn into an "outside voice". I let that pass and it was good that I did, because everything is working out. My brother is going to fill in for me during the day. Way to go Rich!!!
Before my grandmother got sick my mother took many trips to places like Poland, Peru, Chili, Yugoslavia, France, Bahamas...just so many places. I haven't gotten the chance to go anywhere out of the country, and as many of you have said...Grandma is my mothers primary responsibility, I'm here to help but otherwise I should enjoy some life. The experience with my daughter will be incredible, and the time with the grandchildren will be a memory I'll carry forever. I don't get to see them as much as I want to. My only regret is that cubbie hubby can't go with me.
I'll be taking plenty of pictures. Our itinerary is pretty special and if everything goes according to plan I may get to see the Taj Mahal in Agra, and the Golden Temple in Amritsar. The best part of the trip will be meeting the woman who gave my daughter her wonderful husband. The world is a much smaller place than it used to be!
I wanted to share the info now because it is exciting, and because I've grown attached to you guys and don't want you to worry when I drop off the map for 4+weeks.
Hey guess what momma liked my pea soup. Maybe it reminded her of the tons she used to make. It came out good, but I need to buy some of those smoked ham steaks to use next time instead of smoked sausage, but I used what I had on hand today. Just so glad my mom liked it, seems about a couple of months ago she hated everything I made. The thing with soups and stews they are always the next day or sometimes even the day after that to get all the flavours blended. I was surprised she wanted a whole cup of soup instead of a half of a cup of soup...it must have tasted good to her. I actually put a little too much garlic salt in it the last time I shook it in, a boat load came out...well garlic is good for you but not so much the salt, but I gave her a lot of fruit juice to sip along with it and her meds for the day. The hot bowl of soup my just put her back to sleep..heck what am I saying she's always sleeping...lol. Lucky dog...I wish I could just lay around and watch tv....I love doing that lol!
Yep, rip. Guess you could say I'm in it for the long haul. This is a special place and I still need and want to give lots of support. I know I go off topic a lot but maybe not, cause it's still venting, whether or not one is still in the midst of the care giving or trying to find life after care giving. I think a good mix of people in any stage of the care giving process is a very good thing.
HB, hubby's birthday was the 15th and we didn't celebrate it cause I was sick. That house is definitely sold but the neighbor told us the basement floods so it's probably a blessing that we did not get it. I'm sure we will find something better like you say.
stillstanding, I understand about trying to keep everyone straight. :) It ain't easy, even for us old timers.
Miz: A better house is waiting for you. I know it. Is it your hubbies birthday too? Big Birthday wishes to both of you then.
Christina: I love your singing and musical stories. Yesterday I could hear "Riverdance" coming through the floors. Grandma likes Celtic dancing and figureskating. She wasn't much of a dancer but loves the driving beat and fancy footwork. I think she wants to date The Lord of the Dance Michael Flatly. None of us can carry a tune in a bucket. When we sing we sound like seagulls suffering electrocution. It isn't pretty so we don't do it often.
Ladeeda: Chaquita. You continue to amaze and inspire. You may hate being the adult, but you are taking charge.
Pirate: It is wonderful to experience connection and see a smile, it is like seeing the sunshine after a storm. I'm so happy for you. I hope there are more rainbows for you as you settle in with Mom.
I'll be lurking or not, hubby is home. Time for cubbie cuddles watching TV.
HA, HA, HA, Hey guys, you're right though. But remember, I came into the group a short while ago and I'm still confused with "who's who!" LOL I have even tried to save forty or so messages to place everyone, damn, it's worse than going back to school. Ya'll stop giving me so much homework to do, I'm old, tired and wanta go home, ha, never mine, I am, I think!
Not ladeeda's mil, it is the lady I take care of...poor stillstanding is having a rough day...love and hugs to all And yes Ted, we all are a pretty awesome bunch..thanks for being here and peeling us hysterical femaies off the wall, then making us laugh.
Miz, remember they have to close. Just because it was sold doesn't mean it's gonna be theirs. I'll say another little prayer for you guys and who knows, it might end up back on the market just waiting for you. Keep up with what's happening with that agent! Hey, real estate changes like my mother does with her Depends; on again, off again, on again, off again, LOL
We were gonna try and get so much done this weekend. It was not to be. And, we checked out a house that we really thought we might like and found out it had been sold. :( Story of our lives.
Well today I did not do too much, maybe I will do some bleaching in a bit, it is already 5:00 here in CA. I made pea soup from scratch, could not find the celery, I bet that damned caregiver ate it. She seemed always hungry never brought her lunch and I saw that when I was off last week she helped herself to some items, not big things just small, but it pissed me off that I could not find the celery for the pea soup, so it got carrots, red and yellow potatoes and onions. A hospice nurse was going to come over today but I said she doing fine today. Earlier I was rubbing my mom's cheeks and tucking her in, and I said you like that laying in bed all cozy warm watching tv and looking out the window at the bright blue sky and white fluffy clouds, she had a big contended childlike smile on her face. I have not seen her or been able to make her smile in a long time. It was sweet.
Headbanger, Manipulative Pooh was right on target - excellent. (how about Crappy Pooh and Nibblet Pooh, I find nibble pooh all around the base of the toliet and in diapeys...lol)
Jsomebody - I would sexkitten cuzlet to do the babysitting cargiving and then sit back in laughter when she bails and then say I told you so....what entertainment it could provide for one eve..lol..wink! Hey more infor on the BED please! Someone said inflatable...wow..tell me more folks.
Ted - Mwwahhh big kiss that was sweet advice.
Miz - you too thanks for the advice on Dnr and Happy B-Day!! How's it going with MIL?
Jam - ACCCCCCKKKKKKK and thanks as well for the advice.
Rossella -hmm good advice on b/f you are probably right!
Christina - Thank you you sweet Angel! I think their minds go into survival mode at this time which takes up precious memory drive...lol! Only survival emotions I think can be had sometimes, your lucky if you strike gold with a sweet story like Stillstanding had.
Stillstanding - Great Story! A couple of mornings ago my mom asked me where my mother was and I pointed to her...and she did not get it, and I said " who is my mother " and she said "Erica" which is her sister, then I asked her again.."who is my mother" and then she did not say anything I think perhaps she finally recollected. Was sad story!
Thank You, stillstanding. I am very tired. Throat still scratchy. Hopefully we will find out more about hubby's mom tomorrow. It's a waiting thing now.
This is Cha Key Ta checking in. A long emotional day for Ruth. A long mental day for me. When she tried to get out the back door and landed on her butt, the caterwallin was heard for miles. Her son and daughter come running over. I said, "Tag, your'e it" threw up my hands and walked out to smoke. The daughter actually took her home with her to give me a break. When i went to get her, I tried diplomacy instead of the ignorant rage I was feeling. Do you think there is a possibility we could take her to the Dr.? Both of us go in and explain what is going on and seeing if there is possibly something pyhsical going on. She got all stiff and said no more meds. And I said, that isn't what I was asking about. To make a long story short when i went to get Ruth, S had had a few drinks, Now stupid me, why didn't I think of that before. Catch her when she is drinking, well, duh. Anyway hopefully we will take Ruth to the Dr. Fri and go from there. I just hate being professional sometimes. I just wanted to get stupid and blurt out all the things that are bothering me. But guess getting a Dr. appt. is opening a little more communication. I just hate being a grown up.....
Hi Everyone. We are back from hubby's parents. Still don't know a prognosis or anything yet. They had not given her an EKG yet and hubby's sister suggested it. Duh!! She's having pain under her left breast!! I tell ya. You really have to have an enlightened family advocate like my SIL. Her husband died of a heart attack at 34 and he had had a physical and was given a clean bill of health for the fire department. He had been gaining weight and they did not check his thyroid or his heart. Apparently the thyroid check wasn't included in what the fire department would pay but they still should have checked it. Same doctor. So sad.
Okay, I work all day tomorrow. And then am going out to eat with a dear friend. The one who watched our kitties. I'm looking forward to that.
All of you who are missing your "real moms". I can relate to that now and could relate to that when she was alive. I'm sorry you are feeling sad.
For a long time I kicked myself and blamed myself and felt guilt for not doing CPR on my dad when he was having his fatal heart attack. My best friend gave me a gift one day by telling me basically what Jam said but not from a professional point of view like Jam did and of course not in the detail. Basically it was what I said earlier. It can very well turn out really bad. I don't think I could have gotten him on the floor by myself anyway and don't think Mom could have helped. I did pound on his chest trying to get him to breath. The paramedics got a heart beat but he could not breath on his own. He had a living will so he was not kept on a breathing machine. He would not have wanted to live that way or in an incapacitated way of any kind. He never told me that but I knew him and he wanted to be active, be able to drive, etc. And I do believe that it's up to God. He wanted to live to be 90 and he made it to 87. I feel like he was cheated in a way. The paramedics could not believe he was as old as he was. But, I know he's happy in heaven and he waited over 5 years for Mom.
Okay, cake and ice cream for hubby's and my birthday tonight. :) Wish we could share with you all. Love yous!!
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Hope you guys like the jokes. I try to keep them clean. Don't want to start any trouble.
Love ya all Cuz
Happy miz miz...hope it was a good one. mil doing OK?
Took the flowers to cemetery. much easier now the snow melted, ya should a seen us last time two fat women humping it across forty yards or three foot deep snow, me in my bootie cast, slipping on wet buffed granite headstones...I mean it looked like something out of a 1930's funnies...only in colour!
Not much changed there, deer poopies (yes more poop) wide open sky, the church a block away built like a mega plex, The Jewish Cemetery along the way, past the Community College where I remember standing in the parking lot and dancing, five years ago singing "Singing In The Rain" in a down pour waiting for a ride to come...Seems a long time ago now... Ah well least the ice was gone. and happy thoughts he will be in the ground next yes? Soon? Thank You....cousin can stay in Buffalo!
I want to share something happy. I will be leaving home and taking a month's worth of respite. In fact I'll be getting away from the whole country for a month!
I'm going on a trip with my daughter, Son-in-law, and 2 grandchildren to meet his mother and sister, they live in India, oh yeah...I said INDIA. We'll be leaving in 2 weeks (flying out March 10) and be gone for a month. My son-in-law is paying for everything so I have NO excuse not to take his hospitality and go and meet his family. I'll still be a caregiver, but entertaining babies is a welcome change, The diapers are much smaller and the butt cheeks are a whole lot cuter.
The decision to go was hard for me. When I mentioned the trip to my mother her initial reaction was...well...less than special. This was expected. She looked like she had swallowed an adult hedgehog and with her eyes bulging...blurted out "Well where should I stick my mother for a month? I doubt she'll fit up my ass!" She covered her mouth and ran from the room, feeling pretty bad about letting her "inside voice" turn into an "outside voice". I let that pass and it was good that I did, because everything is working out. My brother is going to fill in for me during the day. Way to go Rich!!!
Before my grandmother got sick my mother took many trips to places like Poland, Peru, Chili, Yugoslavia, France, Bahamas...just so many places. I haven't gotten the chance to go anywhere out of the country, and as many of you have said...Grandma is my mothers primary responsibility, I'm here to help but otherwise I should enjoy some life. The experience with my daughter will be incredible, and the time with the grandchildren will be a memory I'll carry forever. I don't get to see them as much as I want to. My only regret is that cubbie hubby can't go with me.
I'll be taking plenty of pictures. Our itinerary is pretty special and if everything goes according to plan I may get to see the Taj Mahal in Agra, and the Golden Temple in Amritsar. The best part of the trip will be meeting the woman who gave my daughter her wonderful husband. The world is a much smaller place than it used to be!
I wanted to share the info now because it is exciting, and because I've grown attached to you guys and don't want you to worry when I drop off the map for 4+weeks.
Love n Stuff
HB
stillstanding, I understand about trying to keep everyone straight. :) It ain't easy, even for us old timers.
Miz was on the first page. Awesome ~
Christina: I love your singing and musical stories. Yesterday I could hear "Riverdance" coming through the floors. Grandma likes Celtic dancing and figureskating. She wasn't much of a dancer but loves the driving beat and fancy footwork. I think she wants to date The Lord of the Dance Michael Flatly. None of us can carry a tune in a bucket. When we sing we sound like seagulls suffering electrocution. It isn't pretty so we don't do it often.
Ladeeda: Chaquita. You continue to amaze and inspire. You may hate being the adult, but you are taking charge.
Pirate: It is wonderful to experience connection and see a smile, it is like seeing the sunshine after a storm. I'm so happy for you. I hope there are more rainbows for you as you settle in with Mom.
I'll be lurking or not, hubby is home. Time for cubbie cuddles watching TV.
Love ya!
HB
And yes Ted, we all are a pretty awesome bunch..thanks for being here and peeling us hysterical femaies off the wall, then making us laugh.
Well today I did not do too much, maybe I will do some bleaching in a bit, it is already 5:00 here in CA. I made pea soup from scratch, could not find the celery, I bet that damned caregiver ate it. She seemed always hungry never brought her lunch and I saw that when I was off last week she helped herself to some items, not big things just small, but it pissed me off that I could not find the celery for the pea soup, so it got carrots, red and yellow potatoes and onions. A hospice nurse was going to come over today but I said she doing fine today. Earlier I was rubbing my mom's cheeks and tucking her in, and I said you like that laying in bed all cozy warm watching tv and looking out the window at the bright blue sky and white fluffy clouds, she had a big contended childlike smile on her face. I have not seen her or been able to make her smile in a long time. It was sweet.
Headbanger, Manipulative Pooh was right on target - excellent.
(how about Crappy Pooh and Nibblet Pooh, I find nibble pooh all around the base of the toliet and in diapeys...lol)
Jsomebody - I would sexkitten cuzlet to do the babysitting cargiving and then sit back in laughter when she bails and then say I told you so....what entertainment it could provide for one eve..lol..wink! Hey more infor on the BED please! Someone said inflatable...wow..tell me more folks.
Ted - Mwwahhh big kiss that was sweet advice.
Miz - you too thanks for the advice on Dnr and Happy B-Day!! How's it going with MIL?
Jam - ACCCCCCKKKKKKK and thanks as well for the advice.
Rossella -hmm good advice on b/f you are probably right!
Christina - Thank you you sweet Angel! I think their minds go into survival mode at this time which takes up precious memory drive...lol! Only survival emotions I think can be had sometimes, your lucky if you strike gold with a sweet story like Stillstanding had.
Stillstanding - Great Story! A couple of mornings ago my mom asked me where my mother was and I pointed to her...and she did not get it, and I said " who is my mother " and she said "Erica" which is her sister, then I asked her again.."who is my mother" and then she did not say anything I think perhaps she finally recollected. Was sad story!
Thanks for your kind email. We're cpmng to grips - Harper is helping
RIP Ratzo
Okay, I work all day tomorrow. And then am going out to eat with a dear friend. The one who watched our kitties. I'm looking forward to that.
All of you who are missing your "real moms". I can relate to that now and could relate to that when she was alive. I'm sorry you are feeling sad.
For a long time I kicked myself and blamed myself and felt guilt for not doing CPR on my dad when he was having his fatal heart attack. My best friend gave me a gift one day by telling me basically what Jam said but not from a professional point of view like Jam did and of course not in the detail. Basically it was what I said earlier. It can very well turn out really bad. I don't think I could have gotten him on the floor by myself anyway and don't think Mom could have helped. I did pound on his chest trying to get him to breath. The paramedics got a heart beat but he could not breath on his own. He had a living will so he was not kept on a breathing machine. He would not have wanted to live that way or in an incapacitated way of any kind. He never told me that but I knew him and he wanted to be active, be able to drive, etc. And I do believe that it's up to God. He wanted to live to be 90 and he made it to 87. I feel like he was cheated in a way. The paramedics could not believe he was as old as he was. But, I know he's happy in heaven and he waited over 5 years for Mom.
Okay, cake and ice cream for hubby's and my birthday tonight. :) Wish we could share with you all. Love yous!!
miz