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my sis tried that e ciggy , says yep its good but then she slides right back to the real ciggy when the e ciggy is low on nictoine , says its expsenive too , i was going to try that but never gotten around to get one . ok off to the store i go . xoxo
For what it's worth.........have any of you smokers tried the e-cigarette? Hubby got started using them because hospital campus was smoke-free......and Lord he smokes like a chimney....he could work a 12 hr shift without smoking one single cigarette and be just fine. It's only water vapor that you inhale. but it satisfies the craving for nicotine. He uses it when we fly. Well, it's noon here and col took herself, the dog, and a cup of coffee and went back to bed about an hour ago. Oh, almost forgot the hot rollers are there also. Says she feels fine....guess she knew I wasn't going after the newspaper....started raining, then freezing rain, a little sleet, snowed for a short time....deck is still covered in sleet but is above freezing out there...sooooo ready for Spring. Hugz and a good day to all!
just like chillout says , oh help me lord !!!! is that what she said ? i done forgot , yep blueberries i shall eat basket full of em , my memory is shot to hell . today is gloomey , suppose to have a hellva storm comin while the north is havin a hellva snow storm . ahh glad im gettin rain . yep all the green lit things are poppin out of the ground , makes me smile and lookin fwrd to it . got pa out of bed this morn and he s sleepin in his recliner now . yesterday he stayed in bed all day all night , starting to curl up like an infant stage . i didnt like that at all . when they curl up like that , its just a matter of time to head for a better place with the lord . i ask him if he wants to get out of bed today he says yes , raise the bed up so he can get out . cried oh my back hurts . he strugles and i struggles to get him in wheelchair . ah did it . he ate his bfast all gone but didnt finish his coffee . every morning and all day i just be afraid to ck on him , i honesty dont know what i do if i find him not breathing . i do know for the fact my world will crumble apart . its tearin me up inside to know that its comin . i hope i be ok to drive down to see bobbie s boat and park my sorrow ass there in her boat . she would have to feed me alot of margarittas . :-) i ll have her add some blueberries too so i can remmy what we done durin my stay there . oh blue berry is also good for men who cant get his thing up . mm what about my thing ? ah i rather have my brain good than my thingin thang . lol . have a good day you all . xoxoxox
Oh Bonnie!! Those poor children!! I am so sorry. They are going to need extra extra love as I know you know. I'm very glad you checked in with us. You'll be in my prayers. Please keep posting.
still, I had not heard about that. I do know that they say (whoever "they" is) that blueberries are good for the brain. I eat quite a lot of them. As far as the housecleaning goes, I'm with you on the maid thing. I hate it!! Used to be OCD about it and got so tired of it. Besides, a darn week later it's dirty again. What is it they say about a woman's work...?
Hello all!! Havn't been here in quite awhile. I've had a very full plate here lately. Not only do I have both my parents living with me.....my daughter decided to pick up and move to Florida without any notice. She has 2 children ages 8 and 10 and never even said goodbye to them. They went to school with their Mommy at home and came home to find her gone. Thank God she didn't take them with her. My daughter is Bipolar and is not taking her meds. My grandchildren are heart broken and there is nothing I can do to take away their pain. I love my daughter very much and I know she's not thinking clearly, but I am still very angry with her!
Sorry for venting....just have so many emotions running through me right now. I'm like a Pitbull when anyone hurts my babies.
Thanks again everyone for being here! I feel very blessed to have found you! Time to check on Mom & Dad and face the rath if Mom when I tell her it's bath time. Take care and I am going to make a point of checking in here more often.
Hey, did you guys read about the second language thing about it helping the delay of Alz/dem? Guess I better pull out all my old french books from highschool and college and start studying again! Gotta start cleaning house now, oh where is that maid I need now? Let's see, can I say, "Maybe tomorrow!" Oh well, nice thought! Later guys...
Miz, try some good ole hot tea with a little honey in it. Hope you have a better day today, I'm thinking about ya. Ladeeda, I really don't even want to lay eyes on her much less my fist, LOL... I haven't seen her since December of '08 when she did that to me! It does concern me why she's bringing up a "friend" with her, Guess we'll just have to wait and see. Hey, forget the pics, think I'll just send plane tickets for "the gang" and everyone can be standing at the front door when she pulls up, LOL
Miz, I am sorry your heart hurts this morning. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Spring has sprung!!! All sorts of new green baby leaves on alot of trees. The wind is blowing like crazy today, but am still going for a walk some time today. If Ruth takes a little nap I am going to walk down the hill. Ted, was good to hear from you and know things are moving in the right direction. Thank God for this sight and the power in collective knowledge. Keep us updated. Still, because you ARE stronger, the best revenge is not giving your power away to someone like that. But if you do clock her, send pics..lol
Yeah! Ted is alive and kicking... Like I told you, bro, when my sister left for her home she was smiling all the way... Did her job for the year! Little did she know that I was (am) so much stronger than she could ever dream of being! It's a little scary thinking about what she's going to try and pull when she comes up for a couple of hours in two weeks. Just hope I don't "deck" her for the hell of it. Let me see, no witnesses, no witnesses, gotta remember that, huh? LOL
BTW, throat still hurting. I hate to go back to the doc and spend the money. He'll just tell me to quit smoking and I'll just tell him I will when I am ready and when that he tells me that it does nothing more than make me want to light up or find a new doctor that won't nag me. Sad but true. I'm a case. :)
Just contacted the VFA in my dad's home town for military rites at his burial. Feel like crying. I think I'm gonna. Wow. This waiting for the burial really stretches out the hurt.
It is just that some days reading the posts and knowing from my own experience what we caregivers go through is just sooooo exasperating I didn't know what else to say except "God help us all"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Morning Everyone!! Nothing much new here to report. Hubby's getting ready to go look at some more houses. There is one in a small town nearby that looks promising. I kinda like the idea of living in a small town within short driving distance of a larger city (where we live now). It's a "short sale-as is" so don't really know what to expect but I know hubby could fix it up nice. He's good that way. It's priced higher than we want to/can pay but hopefully they will come down on the price. Good thoughts please and prayers if you will. Nothing new to report on MIL. I guess no news is good news?? Hubby said SIL said she will call him. I may call her later just to see. sskape, I hope you are okay. Please let us know. Ted, you sound good and strong. Bobbie!! I wanna be on the boat when you take that one hour cruise!! What time?? I'll look for flights. ;) I'll be watching for the package!! :) Let me know the shipping costs please. All of you, love yous!!
Ted, I have a suggestion. Get a letter from your mom's doctor stating that she is still competent enough to change her will etc. That way, if your sister decides to sue or something, you will have that. Just a suggestion. :)
What a day and wassup Chillout!? You ok? Or just responding to all of the drama that Ted and others are experiencing? We care so let us know!
There's a beautiful fog on the river this morning and I have always loved fog. The Barbara B's bowthruster install is complete!! Finally! Boy does boat repair have absolutely nothing to do with car repair or any other kind of repair I can think of, with the possible exception of Space Shuttle repair....today we should be able to take the boat up and down the river for about an hour or so to check out this and that. Bowthruster with a single screw will make it so much easier to dock! whew!
You guys are constantly on my mind and I hope that today is as painless as possible considering what you all are dealing with. ssk, how are you this morning? Angels to you. Jen! are you saying that you are being published in your paper? That is HUGE! You are a wonderful writer! Miz! box should be there by tomorrow and thanks to Peach again for putting it all together! TED!! what's the news bro? Rip! Everybody! ok, boat guys coming onboard, more later lovbob
HELLO, My Friends! I am OKAY! Things have quieted down after the thief left, I hope she left town but don't know, I guess she happened to be passing by our state and figured she would stop by and see mom during a rest stop break or something. that was probably the worst 2 hours I've had in long time. But it will NOT happen again. I have an appt. with mom to see the atty today to go ahead and refresh the will, POA and everything else exactly as it was when mom first wrote it, when she was still able to make these decisions. So if the thief did in fact make mom sign anything, todays action should counteract all that.
The next step is find and contact a specifically Elderlaw atty (Thanks, CUZ!) and proceed with full gaurdianship which will enable me legally to demand that any visitation MUST be arranged through me first. I have no desire to keep mom from her children, and will of course make every effort to accomodate them, But wht happened tuesday is not acceptable, I tear up when I think of how with a little advance warning, I could have set up a real nice visit with mom and her daughter, something that would have made mom very happy, rather then have frightened her. But honestly, I have a feeling that the thief considers her duty done, God knows mom will probably not be around when the thief makes her next twenty year visit. You people are an incredible source of strength, humor, friendship, family and love. I pity all of those out there who have not found us yet.
HB Did we step into the same nightmare?? Ruth started talking as soon as she got up. It was like she had taken a hit of meth. My brain felt like two pieces of sandpaper being rubbed together, by the time I got her in bed.I tried to watch some tv and and unwind, just went to bed and cried from mental exhaustion. We are going to the dr. tomorrow and hopefully see if there is a UTI brewing, or getting something to add to the Ativan. The sil came by yesterday to check on us. He laughed and said you know she is going to act right in the dr. office. I looked at him and said, yes, but the look on MY face is going to tell it's own story!!!! Either the dr. gives her meds or ME.. one way or the other we are walking out of there with something besides a bill...... So to my sister in suffering for the sake of the old ones, hope you got a good nights sleep. I woke up at 4am and decided to stay up and enjoy the quite before the avalanche of words begin. hope your day is a good one. Has anyone heard from Ted? Hope all the rest of you have a good day and appreciate each and every one of you...hugs
So many beautiful posts tonight. They have all been really insightful and so caring. I'm so glad I found this place.
I'm too tired to respond tonight. I don't have a witty cell left in my body, all of them died off from stress or were sucked up by the black-hole of dementia today. Grandma was pain in the a$$ today, pure and simple.
I have to stop taking dementia personally. I have to stop feeling defensive and angry. I must breathe deeper AND remember to exhale (yes Bobbie, I hold my breath constantly and feel the stress throughout my entire body). All of this is easier said than done. All of it seems just out of reach!
I'm going to bed, hopefully I'll get up on a better side of the bed tomorrow.
You're still learning? Hey, when I came on board a short while ago I was trying to learn in a couple of days who everyone was and their personal stories. I finally gave up and just followed the present conversations and began building from there! glad it wasn't an exam, I would have failed and I don't do failing very well! Have a good night, all...
I think she's ok guys cause if you go to her activity she mentions falling, then next post under falling she mentions bathing. I think she's asking the question how to keep from falling when in the bath tub? What do you think?
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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ok off to the store i go . xoxo
Well, it's noon here and col took herself, the dog, and a cup of coffee and went back to bed about an hour ago. Oh, almost forgot the hot rollers are there also. Says she feels fine....guess she knew I wasn't going after the newspaper....started raining, then freezing rain, a little sleet, snowed for a short time....deck is still covered in sleet but is above freezing out there...sooooo ready for Spring.
Hugz and a good day to all!
today is gloomey , suppose to have a hellva storm comin while the north is havin a hellva snow storm . ahh glad im gettin rain . yep all the green lit things are poppin out of the ground , makes me smile and lookin fwrd to it .
got pa out of bed this morn and he s sleepin in his recliner now . yesterday he stayed in bed all day all night , starting to curl up like an infant stage . i didnt like that at all . when they curl up like that , its just a matter of time to head for a better place with the lord . i ask him if he wants to get out of bed today he says yes , raise the bed up so he can get out . cried oh my back hurts . he strugles and i struggles to get him in wheelchair . ah did it . he ate his bfast all gone but didnt finish his coffee . every morning and all day i just be afraid to ck on him , i honesty dont know what i do if i find him not breathing . i do know for the fact my world will crumble apart . its tearin me up inside to know that its comin .
i hope i be ok to drive down to see bobbie s boat and park my sorrow ass there in her boat . she would have to feed me alot of margarittas . :-) i ll have her add some blueberries too so i can remmy what we done durin my stay there .
oh blue berry is also good for men who cant get his thing up . mm what about my thing ? ah i rather have my brain good than my thingin thang . lol .
have a good day you all . xoxoxox
love,
miz
Sorry for venting....just have so many emotions running through me right now. I'm like a Pitbull when anyone hurts my babies.
Thanks again everyone for being here! I feel very blessed to have found you! Time to check on Mom & Dad and face the rath if Mom when I tell her it's bath time. Take care and I am going to make a point of checking in here more often.
Gotta start cleaning house now, oh where is that maid I need now? Let's see, can I say, "Maybe tomorrow!" Oh well, nice thought! Later guys...
Ladeeda, I really don't even want to lay eyes on her much less my fist, LOL... I haven't seen her since December of '08 when she did that to me! It does concern me why she's bringing up a "friend" with her, Guess we'll just have to wait and see. Hey, forget the pics, think I'll just send plane tickets for "the gang" and everyone can be standing at the front door when she pulls up, LOL
Spring has sprung!!! All sorts of new green baby leaves on alot of trees. The wind is blowing like crazy today, but am still going for a walk some time today. If Ruth takes a little nap I am going to walk down the hill.
Ted, was good to hear from you and know things are moving in the right direction. Thank God for this sight and the power in collective knowledge. Keep us updated.
Still, because you ARE stronger, the best revenge is not giving your power away to someone like that. But if you do clock her, send pics..lol
love,
miz
love,
miz
What a day and wassup Chillout!? You ok? Or just responding to all of the drama that Ted and others are experiencing? We care so let us know!
There's a beautiful fog on the river this morning and I have always loved fog.
The Barbara B's bowthruster install is complete!! Finally! Boy does boat repair have absolutely nothing to do with car repair or any other kind of repair I can think of, with the possible exception of Space Shuttle repair....today we should be able to take the boat up and down the river for about an hour or so to check out this and that.
Bowthruster with a single screw will make it so much easier to dock! whew!
You guys are constantly on my mind and I hope that today is as painless as possible considering what you all are dealing with.
ssk, how are you this morning? Angels to you.
Jen! are you saying that you are being published in your paper? That is HUGE! You are a wonderful writer!
Miz! box should be there by tomorrow and thanks to Peach again for putting it all together!
TED!! what's the news bro?
Rip! Everybody!
ok, boat guys coming onboard,
more later
lovbob
I am OKAY! Things have quieted down after the thief left, I hope she left town but don't know, I guess she happened to be passing by our state and figured she would stop by and see mom during a rest stop break or something. that was probably the worst 2 hours I've had in long time. But it will NOT happen again. I have an appt. with mom to see the atty today to go ahead and refresh the will, POA and everything else exactly as it was when mom first wrote it, when she was still able to make these decisions. So if the thief did in fact make mom sign anything, todays action should counteract all that.
The next step is find and contact a specifically Elderlaw atty (Thanks, CUZ!) and proceed with full gaurdianship which will enable me legally to demand that any visitation MUST be arranged through me first. I have no desire to keep mom from her children, and will of course make every effort to accomodate them, But wht happened tuesday is not acceptable, I tear up when I think of how with a little advance warning, I could have set up a real nice visit with mom and her daughter, something that would have made mom very happy, rather then have frightened her.
But honestly, I have a feeling that the thief considers her duty done, God knows mom will probably not be around when the thief makes her next twenty year visit.
You people are an incredible source of strength, humor, friendship, family and love. I pity all of those out there who have not found us yet.
We are going to the dr. tomorrow and hopefully see if there is a UTI brewing, or getting something to add to the Ativan. The sil came by yesterday to check on us. He laughed and said you know she is going to act right in the dr. office. I looked at him and said, yes, but the look on MY face is going to tell it's own story!!!! Either the dr. gives her meds or ME.. one way or the other we are walking out of there with something besides a bill......
So to my sister in suffering for the sake of the old ones, hope you got a good nights sleep. I woke up at 4am and decided to stay up and enjoy the quite before the avalanche of words begin.
hope your day is a good one.
Has anyone heard from Ted?
Hope all the rest of you have a good day and appreciate each and every one of you...hugs
So many beautiful posts tonight. They have all been really insightful and so caring. I'm so glad I found this place.
I'm too tired to respond tonight. I don't have a witty cell left in my body, all of them died off from stress or were sucked up by the black-hole of dementia today. Grandma was pain in the a$$ today, pure and simple.
I have to stop taking dementia personally. I have to stop feeling defensive and angry. I must breathe deeper AND remember to exhale (yes Bobbie, I hold my breath constantly and feel the stress throughout my entire body). All of this is easier said than done. All of it seems just out of reach!
I'm going to bed, hopefully I'll get up on a better side of the bed tomorrow.
Love to you all
HB