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Miz, we're all holding you and family in our arms tonight!!! Tons of prayers your way, Hang in there. I really want you guys to hire a professional to assess that mold before you make an offer, please! And, if you do make an offer have the owner liable for the complete removal of all and any mold, fungi, etc. before closing. Also, a clause that stipulates a time frame, usually two years for its' return. Once it's in there it could become a far greater nightmare for the whole family, ok? Promise me... Also, sorry for the cut in pay, that sucks!
Hey Everyone. I got my shirts!! I love love love em!! The embroidery work is awesome!! I want another!! A tank top!! :))
Deef, what is going on??!!
I'm sorry, I can't remember what I read that everyone wrote. Hubby talked to his sister tonight and his mom is not doing well at all. She's in ICU. Still has the blood clots. Had to take her off of the blood thinners for some I reason I can't remember, her liver enzymes are going up. She may have tumor on her ovary. The fluid in her stomach is starting to surround her lungs so she might have to go on a ventilator. She could go into a coma with everything that is happening and they really don't know what is wrong with her. It's like all these bad things happening at once. Hubby says he doesn't think she's gonna make it. I can't stand it!!!! Hubby's brother is so upset cause he is in Texas and can't be there. We want to try to head up to see her tomorrow while she is still coherent but it's supposed to snow big time tonight. This can't be happening. I feel like telling her I will have a baby if she will only get better. That's what she wants, a grandchild from hubby.
We think we found a house and we don't want to lose it. It's got mold and I guess that's a big problem and the price is right so hoping we can get rid of it?? We don't want someone to buy it out from under us. We can get a great deal and fix it up and it will be worth a lot more. It's in a very good area. But, we can't buy til we get the money from Mom's estate. I don't know how long it takes to buy a house. Neither of us has ever bought one.
I had my 6 month review at work today and it was glowing. But, and it's a big but, they cut my hours. From 19 to 16 1/2 a week. They are making lots of cuts. Sucks. I don't make that much. How much difference can it make?? I hate when people f$%k with people's livelihoods. How can they do that??
How much more can we take?? I'm sorry. I'm being selfish tonight. I know everyone has bad problems. Please God help us all. Thanks, everyone, for listening. Love yous!! What would I do without yous!!??
You guys are my WUBBY BEARS!!! Can't go to sleep anymore without a big hug from ya'll... and make sure everyone's ok for the night! Thanks Bobbie for starting this wonderful group!
ppj, Keep coming to the site. It really helps........oh honey, you are sooooooo not alone. Don't beat yourself up too badly. We ALL get overwhelmed. B R E A T H.............. There are lots of good folks here that will help keep you sane. :)
ppj - am glad u found us and am sooo glad u were able to smile and grin and giggle some . this gross out is a wondergul place to be , welcome !!! keep comin back to vent out . cry out , u will get all the help u need and ideas we never thought of . bobbie is a livesafer for us all and brought us all together and now we re dying to have a reunion so we all can hug and have a margaritta ! dream about it and hope it comes true one day . rainin here , suppose to have some kind of winter storm here , im not sure now what we ll have i guess wait on mother nature to decide what kind of a fit she wants to throw . hope its a good one . take care you all . xoxoxo
Hey ppj, welcome aboard! Just a suggestion, I bought a storm door for the front and back door. Great for security against strangers but better yet for my mother (Alz's) and my dogs.. she knows she's only allowed to open the inside door and talk to whomever thru the stormdoor. Love the name Wally! I had two Maltese girls, one lived for 16 1/2 years and my little four pounder lived for 19!!! I had to put her to sleep in June because of her dementia: she forgot how to eat and I promised her quality of life and not quantity. Really miss her. Adopted two great dogs, can't live without them. I even use one of them when I have certain behavior problems with a client; I'm a canine behaviorist.
The dog, Wally, finally came to me. He is safe at home and Mom is in bed. Time to convince myself to get rid of the guilt and enjoy the rest of the evening ALONE!!! Thanks for asking about Wally ... if anything happened to him, I would be so sad. He's a little Maltese/Shih Tzu mix that keeps me smiling through it all.
Oh my, I have been caring for my mom since June. Somedays I feel like I am losing my mind and the guilt is overwhelming after I get aggravated at her and sometimes say things I wish I could take back. Today was awful ... I went in to wash my face ... someone came to the door ... she got to the door with her walker and let the dog out the front door ... and was chatting with a saleslady about cable. She went to bed and I was in tears ... trying to catch the dog before he got hit by a car. Then I found this website and I feel so much better. I no longer feel alone in this whole thing, and I did get a few great laughs reading the posts.
The bitch is just a pathetic bully. at first I felt like a fool to have been taken by her again but now i'm thinking I would rather be who I am then to be a person who understands her way of thinking and instinctively knows how to handle people like her.
I do need to learn how to keep myself safer from them though, or just accept that they are out there, and i'll probably run into them from time to time
Ted, I'm really glad you're ok now. You had us all going a little nuttier right along with you.. Found Ronnie, hopefully he knows we're all there for him and will listen to some ideas. Now, go relax in that garden of yours, I've got to go make dinner.
Thanks Still, I did write a esponse suggesting he ck with the Area agency on Aging for respite help, It's the question about "Care of an 88 year old Mother by one son..."
Ted, you don't have to change her number; this might affect some of her longtime freinds, etc.from reaching her. However, why don't you just have those "unwanted callers" blocked on the phone? Just a suggestion.
Great news, Ted!!! I have power of attorney with my parents but each state is different. Do you remember who the young man was? I might have already sent him a note but don['t remember, oh da,m, another "senior moment", LOL
Apparently I have the authority to set the rules, supervision location amount of time, all of it. I just wish I had understood this before hand, I'm sure the thief is laughing at me for being an easy mark, a pushover, but I was caught between mom's rights, thief's rights and the amount of control I actually had. So be it, it's finished for good now, I'm going to change mom's phone number and make them call me to speak with her, but I probably don't have to worry about that till mom's b'day in July.
Ted, that is great news! Can their visits with Mom be supervised? Since you have that authority I would make them come to Mom....that way she will be more comfortable in her own surroundings and if things get out of hand you can always ask them to leave...I am sure you feel a great deal of relief.......let's hear a big WOOHOO for Ted!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, Back from the lawyer with good news. The POA that mom made out in 2006, which is still in effect (the lawyer checked with the county clerk and no new papers have been filed as yet.) is more broad than I realized, and I do have the right to control "Personal Relationships and Affairs" which means that I could have refused to send mom out that way whether thief demanded it, or accused me of holding mom hostage, or not. Tonight i will be writing both of them an email explaining that any further visitation or business between mom and them MUST be conducted through me, in advance. I have no intention of keeping mom away from her children, but I will not be harrassed and intimated by them either. I didn't realize that i had this authority or I would have insisted that I bring mom to wherever they wanted, after I had a chance to properly prepare her. I'm feeling very relieved. I'm sure a lot of people think i over-reacted but I know what she's done in the past, and I can't take anymore chances. I am still going to consult an Elderlaw atty, (Moms atty is going to find one for us) just to make sure I'm covering all bases. Hope all is well with everyone, sorry but I'm too burned out right now to try and catch up, but i do care about each of you, and thank you so much for caring about me.
Bobbie, speaking of Zen and the Art of Boat Repair, you should be able to view the last lift off of the space shuttle Discovery soon! Pretty cool in my book, Thanks, all. I'm gonna be ok, I was worried about an emotional setback after the progress during respite, but I'm good, just another bump in the road, a big bump, but certainly nothing to detour about. I can't catch up with everything i missed, and I just noticed a new thresd by a son caring for his mom and having sibling trouble, I want to reach out but I need to focus here, wifi giving me trouble, etc. Can someone give him some encouragement for me? Love you all.
Hi everyone, today was a better day for me. My mom seems like she is back to the way she was about a month ago, so now I'm thinking that the doctor was off in her prognosis. I'll listen to my own intuition from now on. Yesterday I was stressed and was chomping on carrots and cracked a tooth! So now have to deal with the dentist. (but will probably put it on the ever growing "to do " list. It kinda felt like spring here this morning, so that helps. Bonnie O, so sorry to hear of yor troubles with your daughter. Hang in there. love, ssk
Great idea Still, god knows we need all need a break, and the mob brawl that would ensue would make us all happy. They would put us all in the same jail and wonder why we were laughing and having a good time. Just from the stress relief alone, we will all be high as kites... Let us know and we'll be there. We got your back girl...
Just caught mom using the destruction of my life to amuse herself again!!!!!!!!! Once agin on the verge of handing in my resignation as daughter and primary servant to the queen.
Oops. Sorry. That was "prayers", not payers, although that would be good. and last statement, "Mother is pretty annoying as usual" was not a "P.S", and I meant to finish the thought, but other comments were more important. I don't have to tell you she is annoying one more time, right? Hugs, christina heehee
Good Afternoon Everyone, I have read enough to know lots of you wonderful, loving people are being put through the fire. So sorry, but only the strong survive and grow to victorious. I see each and every one of you that way, the strongest friends I have ever known. I know I could count on any of you in a pinch, and that these passing trials will one day soon help us to look back with pride, relief, and great feelings of being thankful WE ARE WHO WE ARE! Seriously, I have been an ill-equipped speed reader the last few days, but my heart and thoughts and payers have been with Ted, SSK, Bobbie, Chill, HB, Stillstanding, Linda, Miz, Peach--you're all in my third eye and heart all day long. Sue, I tried to send you a special hug this morning, but said "invalid entry"--something not functioning with site. I send you my love and support, as everyone has. Ted--Whoo Hoo!! BOAT! You da Man!!! Peach and Miz: Land Ahoy!! Heads up! HB--Renewing, filling up the pitcher. Big Hugs! Rosella: Three Coins in the Fountain... All my Best to all of you. I'll try to catch up after the fiasco. Love and Hugs, Christina Mother is pretty annoying as usual
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Deef, what is going on??!!
I'm sorry, I can't remember what I read that everyone wrote. Hubby talked to his sister tonight and his mom is not doing well at all. She's in ICU. Still has the blood clots. Had to take her off of the blood thinners for some I reason I can't remember, her liver enzymes are going up. She may have tumor on her ovary. The fluid in her stomach is starting to surround her lungs so she might have to go on a ventilator. She could go into a coma with everything that is happening and they really don't know what is wrong with her. It's like all these bad things happening at once. Hubby says he doesn't think she's gonna make it. I can't stand it!!!! Hubby's brother is so upset cause he is in Texas and can't be there. We want to try to head up to see her tomorrow while she is still coherent but it's supposed to snow big time tonight. This can't be happening. I feel like telling her I will have a baby if she will only get better. That's what she wants, a grandchild from hubby.
We think we found a house and we don't want to lose it. It's got mold and I guess that's a big problem and the price is right so hoping we can get rid of it?? We don't want someone to buy it out from under us. We can get a great deal and fix it up and it will be worth a lot more. It's in a very good area. But, we can't buy til we get the money from Mom's estate. I don't know how long it takes to buy a house. Neither of us has ever bought one.
I had my 6 month review at work today and it was glowing. But, and it's a big but, they cut my hours. From 19 to 16 1/2 a week. They are making lots of cuts. Sucks. I don't make that much. How much difference can it make?? I hate when people f$%k with people's livelihoods. How can they do that??
How much more can we take?? I'm sorry. I'm being selfish tonight. I know everyone has bad problems. Please God help us all. Thanks, everyone, for listening. Love yous!! What would I do without yous!!??
love,
miz
Thanks Bobbie for starting this wonderful group!
Keep coming to the site. It really helps........oh honey, you are sooooooo not alone. Don't beat yourself up too badly. We ALL get overwhelmed. B R E A T H.............. There are lots of good folks here that will help keep you sane. :)
keep comin back to vent out . cry out , u will get all the help u need and ideas we never thought of .
bobbie is a livesafer for us all and brought us all together and now we re dying to have a reunion so we all can hug and have a margaritta ! dream about it and hope it comes true one day .
rainin here , suppose to have some kind of winter storm here , im not sure now what we ll have i guess wait on mother nature to decide what kind of a fit she wants to throw . hope its a good one .
take care you all . xoxoxo
Hoping this site / thread will be a huge relief for you like it has for so many of us! Over a year & 10K on Grossed.
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I do need to learn how to keep myself safer from them though, or just accept that they are out there, and i'll probably run into them from time to time
Garden Time!
I'm exhausted
"Care of an 88 year old Mother by one son..."
So be it, it's finished for good now, I'm going to change mom's phone number and make them call me to speak with her, but I probably don't have to worry about that till mom's b'day in July.
I'm feeling very relieved. I'm sure a lot of people think i over-reacted but I know what she's done in the past, and I can't take anymore chances.
I am still going to consult an Elderlaw atty, (Moms atty is going to find one for us) just to make sure I'm covering all bases.
Hope all is well with everyone, sorry but I'm too burned out right now to try and catch up, but i do care about each of you, and thank you so much for caring about me.
Thanks, all. I'm gonna be ok, I was worried about an emotional setback after the progress during respite, but I'm good, just another bump in the road, a big bump, but certainly nothing to detour about.
I can't catch up with everything i missed, and I just noticed a new thresd by a son caring for his mom and having sibling trouble, I want to reach out but I need to focus here, wifi giving me trouble, etc. Can someone give him some encouragement for me?
Love you all.
It kinda felt like spring here this morning, so that helps.
Bonnie O, so sorry to hear of yor troubles with your daughter. Hang in there.
love, ssk
Just caught mom using the destruction of my life to amuse herself again!!!!!!!!!
Once agin on the verge of handing in my resignation as daughter and primary servant to the queen.
GOD help us every one.
I have read enough to know lots of you wonderful, loving people are being put through the fire. So sorry, but only the strong survive and grow to victorious. I see each and every one of you that way, the strongest friends I have ever known. I know I could count on any of you in a pinch, and that these passing trials will one day soon help us to look back with pride, relief, and great feelings of being thankful WE ARE WHO WE ARE!
Seriously, I have been an ill-equipped speed reader the last few days, but my heart and thoughts and payers have been with Ted, SSK, Bobbie, Chill, HB, Stillstanding, Linda, Miz, Peach--you're all in my third eye and heart all day long.
Sue, I tried to send you a special hug this morning, but said "invalid entry"--something not functioning with site. I send you my love and support, as everyone has.
Ted--Whoo Hoo!! BOAT! You da Man!!!
Peach and Miz: Land Ahoy!! Heads up!
HB--Renewing, filling up the pitcher. Big Hugs!
Rosella: Three Coins in the Fountain...
All my Best to all of you. I'll try to catch up after the fiasco.
Love and Hugs,
Christina
Mother is pretty annoying as usual