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Ladee, Great Idea! Start thinking and looking around for something to put on nephew's land while it isn't a rush to get it done. I know that just having there, in your back pocket will make your day-to-day life much easier to cope with. A sense of some kind of future security is a great thing.
Good morning everyone, Well it is going to be another beautiful day in the neighborhood , got up to 90 yesterday, gotta love this Texas heat... Gave BG a list of things I needed from the grocery store, all she brought was coffee. So guess I will hobble my happy ass to town and get what I need. You know, I was thinking last night, that my situation is not that much different than ya'll with your families.... I have both sibs living here on the same property, one never stops and has to drive right by the house. The other will not listen, needs to be in control, will not lift a finger in helping, and controls the money...I am taking care of Ruth because I want to, and now I am being badgered about "getting well". I know BG thinks she is all knowing and powerful, but I don't think she can heal a bone... thank God I am strong and self suffecient, as no one even asked yesterday how my knee was after the slip in the shower. Such is life. I am checking into buying a small trailer I can put on my nephew's property, so that when Ruth is no longer with us, I will have a place to go. Need to plan for my own future. Ted, hope you get some good ideas about the situation with your Mom. Hugs to you all this morning
Morning everyone. Been up since 3 with upset stomach. Hubby and me out to dinner, didn't taste that good, uh oh. I could swear I answered question here, Ted, then went on to the Ted Thread and answered. Our new caregiver puts pills in a spoon and follows with water. Stands in front of Mother like the gestapo and bends down looking into Mother 's mouth. "Are they gone" ? did you swallow them? are you sure"? I prefer to take the positive approach and make pro-statements, not be doubtful. My Mother gets indignant if you ask her an inane question when she is in a "with it" place. Otherwise, if I don't get her attention, she chews up her Nexium pill after breakfast, even when I say, "Mother you need to swallow this with the rest of your juice." Linda Heart--how you today? I'll email you later:) Captain, Boat is so much more homey with you here. Miss you so much when you are ashore:( Hope all the cats are well today, and dogs. Woof. Meow, Purr. Missed you, Rossella, nice you had a holiday. Is HB back yet? Next week, I think, right? Thinking of and praying for, with all my love and connections on high: Deefer, Diane, Angie, Selfish Siblngs, ASG, Seemeride, SSK, Peach, Jam, Maxine, HB, Miz, CuzHARV, Careshare, LINDAHEART, LADEEDA Chaquita (omg, please do not pray for any more "breaks", or "patience". Big mistake), PIRATE, Rossella, TED, and all the little Bulls in our lives, and the cows,{{{{ Captain and Nik}}}}; and all other kindred souls: you are here, you are loved. Hugs, christina
Bobbie, i agree about the control aspect, I also have it in the back of my mind that's she's getting ready to call it quits.
Linda, That's a good idea, I'll start dishing out my vitamins at the same time I give her her meds and we'll take them together. Maybe I can make a game out of it. Thanks!
ted , there has been times dad says no to meds . i dont argue about it . i just say ok u know ur body more than i do . it just be once in a great while he would refuse it , i put his meds in pissnapplesauce . he seems to take it alot better than just one pill at a time and drink with it , pile em on applesauce then he swallow em up . maybe u could act like u need to take meds , and she ll copycat you ? meowww
Ted, my mom went through the refusal to take meds. It took a LOT of talking and explaining and we would make progress and then backslide again.
for awhile mom thought that the meds were hurting her rather than helping so I had to explain that for 2 weeks.
Not everything works for all people so, the med issue with me was a lot of talking and patience. and that worked until mom was no longer able to swallow and then we did the applesauce thing.
Another thing is that when we stay with them to make sure the pills go in, it turns into a control issue. There are so many things that they used to ge able to control and now they control nothing so not taking pills can be a power struggle and control issue. Your mom can control the time you spend in her presence by refusing to take the pills. Have you tried to talk to her about that specific issue? like I have said many times, everybody's Dementia is different and what worked for me may not work for you. Good Luck Ted! love ya buddy
Rossella!! it is so good to see from you and I am happy you got some time in Paris. Paris!! wow. to us that is a big deal!! Rosella, please don't move to your mother's village. When you get there she still won't be happy and you'll be almost dead from all of the moving work. You have your spot now and although I understand that it feels like it's going to go on for years it probably won't. You have your work and are settled there. If you move, that's a top 3 stressor along with death of a spouse or parent and losing a job. Screw it. I thought that mom was going to last for years and she progressed naturally through the stages of the disease and died. It's the old 'if I knew then what I know now...' routine. I absolutely would have made different choices. Forgive me, but I truly believe from what you have written here that your mom will be unhappy and blame you for everything. If you move she will be unhappy and blame you for everything. Hell, if you're going to get blamed you might as well stay where you are and at least not have the moving stress. Just saying.... lovbob
Good morning everyone, I'm about to post a discussion about about mom's refusing to take her meds. It started out slowly, she just wouldn't take them when I left them for her every now and then, but lately, since I stay with her and make sure she takes them she has been outright refusing more and more, It's not like her and I'm not sure how to change the pattern to get her back on taking them. Any ideas?
Miz, Sassy knows what is going on and she is scared and angry. When you move to the next house, try to keep her inside of the house without letting her out for some days, until you see that she is happy and relaxed and she has adjusted to the new situation.. The first time I moved with cats, I didn't know it and I lost my favorite cat... He escaped and I did not see him ever since. My mother... She is very attached to her home village, she has always been, even when she was much younger. She is/ she's always been happy there and unhappy anywhere else. I wonder why she married my father and left her village. My brother is coming tomorrow so I can talk to him about the meds...
Well...I'm just gonna give ALL OF YOU a great big ole' hug right here...right now!!! My warmest regards to all of you! Crazy here...losing bowels...can't make it to bathroom...cleaning carpet...doing lots of laundry...but, hey...God is great and Life is GOOD!!! Don't have to look far to see someone else worse off than me!! Please take care and I hope all of you get some rest tonight!! Meow...from the "Kat"...:-)
Hey all, and Ethel. In out, under it, behind it, in front of it, catching it supporting it, needing it giving it. it is all hard. and scary and stressful...Monty had another Diabetic check and I think mom is ready for my PUG to die because of the bills...I really don't care if grandpa ends up paying for them! He never paid us a wage for these last four years of care giving and yet I could not go out and work either, like I could, so f him! Let him pick up the vet bill out of his what personal access to half a million bucks I believe! Just Bite Me! And stop saying that cheery "good Morning..." to me that mom would like to have from you you perverted old bastard. Ethel I feel for you, and I understand we sound like a bunch of selfish greedy insensitive louts ragging on loved one who need are care...guess what, they are getting the care, they do not get our souls! He sat in the hall and talked to the TV from ten feet away again, annoying me and mom who is watching it..so I pulled up some Heavy Metal music on youttube..that did it...yes Go Away!!! Asked about work at local mom and pop grocery store...need to work fast and be able to lift seventy pounds, (meat dept) no way! onward.... I see your house miz...cleaner than IT HAS EVER BEEN I KNOW THE FEELING...The moving routine...(course it was 1984 for me) but g+g house has been in the family since 1946...Hope it is going forward.... Hello everyone...Rock On!
rossella, I am so glad you enjoyed your trip to Paris. And I am so sorry your mother is worse. I know how hard that is to watch. I hate to see you move and have it affect your work though. Has your mom tried different anti-depressants? Cause sometimes you gotta try a few to find one that works. Has she always been an unhappy person?
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Hubby and I are back from setting up for the garage sale. He is worn out and I am pretty tired too. He didn't even get close to all the stuff there that he wanted to and we gotta be there at 6:00 am. That means up at 4:00 am. That means bedtime pretty soon. Man oh man I hope we sell some of that stuff. He probably wants too much for it but I can't talk him into lowering the prices. And, I will probably be womaning the booth while he brings more stuff and goes to a storage locker auction. I really don't like selling stuff. Folks are gonna ask me to come down on prices and I'm gonna have to say "He won't take less." Thank God it ends at 2:00 pm. We will both be ready to not do a damn thing for awhile. He says he's gonna sleep for a week. Too much shit all at once. I will probably rest tomorrow afternoon/night and then do laundry and straighten up this house again. It was all neat and tidy this morning and now it looks like a tornado blew through it. We couldn't find Sassy when we got home and hubby said he hadn't seen her all afternoon. Finally found her under Mom's bed and we were worried that she was sick again. But she finally came out and seems fine. Maybe all this craziness is getting to her. Cats like routine. Doesn't seem to be bothering Sandy. I have a whole bunch of scarves I knitted over the years and I may try to sell some of them. I just wish we had another day. Signed the papers today to get our house money. We close two weeks from today!! OMG!! Somebody pinch me!!
As far as Ethyl is concerned, I think the sternness of her post put me off. I do feel bad for her and maybe that's the only way her mind knew to answer but she sure answered well. Bobbie's post to her was very good and very kind. Thank you, bobbie, for that.
Linda, stay away from that black hole. Think of the boat and the concert!! I sure wish I could go to that concert with you. I love Bob Sieger!! You will have a blast I am sure!! I remember going to some concerts when I was young that I don't remember cause I was too drunk or stoned. :D I hope everyone is having as good of an evening as they can have. Love Yous!!
oh thanks ladeeda . i didnt even see that , used to be in the middle between star and report this post . golly change em alla round again . im getting lost already ., thanks for letting me know where it is . bored to death here , put pa to bed , had to pee every 2 hrs , geeze , gave him sleepin pill while ago , hopefuly he wont wake up every 2 hrs all night like he did last night . geeze , wore me out ! didnt have a happy day at all , my oldest daughter came out and said oh mom come on lets have a beer ! so we sat outside and enjoyed the warm weather and nice cold beer . it was a good visit , cute grandaughter in her dance outfit , white panny hose :-) shes a doll . hubby went straight to bed when he got home from work , let him sleep 3 hrs and woke him up for dinner , he has to work tmr . poor guy he is soo worn out , guess im going to find me a good movie and prob fall alsleep , oh i hope pa lets me sleep tnite . goodnight you all xoxo
Hi everybody I tried to read the posts of the last 7 days but it's impossible! There are hundreds of them. I read here and there and saw that Miz has a new house! That's very good! I was so well in Paris for the total freedom - no mother no animals no work - that I understood it takes two minutes to get used to good life! I am back to "everything" now. If it is possible, I found my mother worsened after two days absence. It's really painful to see her that way. She can't take antidepressants because (we tried) she gets too anxious with them, so our only choice is to go on with Seroquel and keep her sedated. She is leading a good life, she is always out with the girls, she is always in good company, she does a lot of things, but she is always unhappy. I don't know what else I can do. Maybe I can pack everything and go live to her home town, which will be a problem for my work, but somehow I could do it. I could rent a house there and keep this one closed. I'm seriously thinking about it. This situation could last for years....
was going to give dflex a hug and i dont see hug this member , mmm where did it go ? cyber hugs deflex ! no feelin bad about barkin at ur mom . i barked at dad this morn , i do feel bad anyway but hell he needed a bark and a growl to straighten up , actin like he cant stand wound him down on the floor , im too weak and too damn sore to lift a big baby huey up ! xoxo
Oh... and telling your mom that her brain doesn't work right anymore is not cruel. It's the truth and sometimes it's the best way to get some cooperation. I told my mom... I remember writing about it here and it worked in the sense that when she did a Granny Gone Wild on me I would just say: That's that old Dementia working on you. Just ignore it. I would try to keep her in the present moment and geared up for a course change if necessary. Absolutely exhausting. that and the Safe and Sound routine. 'you're safe and sound'. oh flex love ya. lovbob
It's good to hear from you and I am sorry that this is what you're going through.
with my mom I just took all the cards, etc and put them in 'the filing cabinet' which was my little backpack. I took them when she wasn't looking and put them away so I wouldn't go apesh!t trying to find some squirreled away stuff possibly mangled with a spent tissue. Your mom is putting up a good fight and tell her I love you but you'd better give it a break. Flex I went through the same crapola. I think a bunch of us have and it doesn't make it any easier by a long shot when we hear someone else dealing with it. Ugh.... brings back the memories.
I know you love your mom just like I love mine but MAN!
Here's one for ya and tell me what you think. IBS is a pain in the ass. You have a pain in the ass. what is giving you the pain in the ass? The pain in the ass is giving you the pain in the ass.
My mom gave me a pain in the neck and after awhile it traveled South......
have you been able to find the cards? Look in the refrigerator......
Take this opportunity to take the important stuff and HIDE IT!! Easier to listen to her yell about it than search for it. omg I bet I have a full 12 months of looking for stuff my mom lost. It was the single most crazy making thing that she did.
I need to vent!!!!! Actually, I am feeling guilty that I just can't ignore my mothers cruel words and I end up answering something just as mean. I just received a bill from the hospital for over $3000. I noticed the bill had the wrong insurance info, so I immediately went to get mom's insurance cards out her purse. Of course they weren't there. I ask her where she has them and she answers all the same places I have just looked for them without sucess. When I start looking through the bedside table drawers and the dresser she gets indignent that I'm not to be digging through her stuff. I got impatient and told her I'm responsible for her and I will look where I need to. Then the real crap started. She starts yelling I should never have given you POA and she's able to care for herself. She kept pushing and pushing while I was looking for the cards. Finally I had enough and told her her brain doesn't work right and she doesn't have the abilities of a regular adult anymore. I'm not sure at this point if I'm more upset about her saying a bunch of nasty things to me or my telling her her brain doesn't work right. I've been sick for the last three weeks with severe IBS and I was not in the mood to deal with her crap today. After three years of giving up my life I am feeling more resentful of having to care for her. I need a break big time.
the way I see it is that at a certain point we earn the right to say to the 'shamers' NO! Bad Girl! Shut Up! Back away from the Caregiver!
I do feel for this poor Ethel because I think she has the disease so this is going to really suck for her. It's one thing to have the disease and not know what a pain you are and another to have it, be in the early stages and be made to understand what a pain you're going to be. bless her heart. lovbob
all rightie then... I'm sitting here with Nik and he sees the post and I say, that's the one who got smacked in the knee by the lady she takes care of. she has a broken knee. So Nik says: did she get her back?
nah ted - im havin fun to say shame on u ! shame on u ! and miz s havin fun to say OBMAJ . wooo hell it tells u now many been postin , in fact i think this thread has more numbers than any of others . let bobbie handle the ones that has no clue , we just say OBMAJ AND SHAME ON YOU ! SHAME ON YOU ! i love it .... jam the ram . sorry u lost ur monie . we have a casino down the road from here , theyre filin bankrupty now . not paid thier taxes lately , something like that . oh well takes my money real fast and then i leave . so whatever .
Naah Ted, God just let's theses people post to keep us on our toes . to be grateful we aren't them, and test our loyalty to the captain and crew... works everytime. Maybe we should post to them and say how much we appreciate that they make us stronger and more cohesive when they post....There is US and THEM, I am proud to say I am an US.
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Well it is going to be another beautiful day in the neighborhood , got up to 90 yesterday, gotta love this Texas heat...
Gave BG a list of things I needed from the grocery store, all she brought was coffee. So guess I will hobble my happy ass to town and get what I need.
You know, I was thinking last night, that my situation is not that much different than ya'll with your families.... I have both sibs living here on the same property, one never stops and has to drive right by the house. The other will not listen, needs to be in control, will not lift a finger in helping, and controls the money...I am taking care of Ruth because I want to, and now I am being badgered about "getting well". I know BG thinks she is all knowing and powerful, but I don't think she can heal a bone... thank God I am strong and self suffecient, as no one even asked yesterday how my knee was after the slip in the shower. Such is life.
I am checking into buying a small trailer I can put on my nephew's property, so that when Ruth is no longer with us, I will have a place to go. Need to plan for my own future.
Ted, hope you get some good ideas about the situation with your Mom.
Hugs to you all this morning
Linda Heart--how you today? I'll email you later:) Captain, Boat is so much more homey with you here. Miss you so much when you are ashore:(
Hope all the cats are well today, and dogs. Woof. Meow, Purr. Missed you, Rossella, nice you had a holiday. Is HB back yet? Next week, I think, right? Thinking of and praying for, with all my love and connections on high: Deefer, Diane, Angie, Selfish Siblngs, ASG, Seemeride, SSK, Peach, Jam, Maxine, HB,
Miz, CuzHARV, Careshare, LINDAHEART, LADEEDA Chaquita (omg, please do not pray for any more "breaks", or "patience". Big mistake), PIRATE, Rossella, TED, and all the little Bulls in our lives, and the cows,{{{{ Captain and Nik}}}}; and all other kindred souls: you are here, you are loved. Hugs, christina
Linda, That's a good idea, I'll start dishing out my vitamins at the same time I give her her meds and we'll take them together. Maybe I can make a game out of it. Thanks!
i put his meds in pissnapplesauce . he seems to take it alot better than just one pill at a time and drink with it , pile em on applesauce then he swallow em up .
maybe u could act like u need to take meds , and she ll copycat you ? meowww
Ted, my mom went through the refusal to take meds. It took a LOT of talking and explaining and we would make progress and then backslide again.
for awhile mom thought that the meds were hurting her rather than helping so I had to explain that for 2 weeks.
Not everything works for all people so, the med issue with me was a lot of talking and patience. and that worked until mom was no longer able to swallow and then we did the applesauce thing.
Another thing is that when we stay with them to make sure the pills go in, it turns into a control issue. There are so many things that they used to ge able to control and now they control nothing so not taking pills can be a power struggle and control issue. Your mom can control the time you spend in her presence by refusing to take the pills.
Have you tried to talk to her about that specific issue?
like I have said many times, everybody's Dementia is different and what worked for me may not work for you.
Good Luck Ted! love ya buddy
Rossella!! it is so good to see from you and I am happy you got some time in Paris. Paris!! wow. to us that is a big deal!!
Rosella, please don't move to your mother's village. When you get there she still won't be happy and you'll be almost dead from all of the moving work.
You have your spot now and although I understand that it feels like it's going to go on for years it probably won't.
You have your work and are settled there. If you move, that's a top 3 stressor along with death of a spouse or parent and losing a job. Screw it.
I thought that mom was going to last for years and she progressed naturally through the stages of the disease and died.
It's the old 'if I knew then what I know now...' routine. I absolutely would have made different choices.
Forgive me, but I truly believe from what you have written here that your mom will be unhappy and blame you for everything. If you move she will be unhappy and blame you for everything. Hell, if you're going to get blamed you might as well stay where you are and at least not have the moving stress.
Just saying....
lovbob
Any ideas?
The first time I moved with cats, I didn't know it and I lost my favorite cat... He escaped and I did not see him ever since.
My mother... She is very attached to her home village, she has always been, even when she was much younger. She is/ she's always been happy there and unhappy anywhere else. I wonder why she married my father and left her village.
My brother is coming tomorrow so I can talk to him about the meds...
Ethel I feel for you, and I understand we sound like a bunch of selfish greedy insensitive louts ragging on loved one who need are care...guess what, they are getting the care, they do not get our souls! He sat in the hall and talked to the TV from ten feet away again, annoying me and mom who is watching it..so I pulled up some Heavy Metal music on youttube..that did it...yes Go Away!!!
Asked about work at local mom and pop grocery store...need to work fast and be able to lift seventy pounds, (meat dept) no way! onward....
I see your house miz...cleaner than IT HAS EVER BEEN I KNOW THE FEELING...The moving routine...(course it was 1984 for me) but g+g house has been in the family since 1946...Hope it is going forward....
Hello everyone...Rock On!
love,
miz
Hubby and I are back from setting up for the garage sale. He is worn out and I am pretty tired too. He didn't even get close to all the stuff there that he wanted to and we gotta be there at 6:00 am. That means up at 4:00 am. That means bedtime pretty soon. Man oh man I hope we sell some of that stuff. He probably wants too much for it but I can't talk him into lowering the prices. And, I will probably be womaning the booth while he brings more stuff and goes to a storage locker auction. I really don't like selling stuff. Folks are gonna ask me to come down on prices and I'm gonna have to say "He won't take less." Thank God it ends at 2:00 pm. We will both be ready to not do a damn thing for awhile. He says he's gonna sleep for a week. Too much shit all at once. I will probably rest tomorrow afternoon/night and then do laundry and straighten up this house again. It was all neat and tidy this morning and now it looks like a tornado blew through it. We couldn't find Sassy when we got home and hubby said he hadn't seen her all afternoon. Finally found her under Mom's bed and we were worried that she was sick again. But she finally came out and seems fine. Maybe all this craziness is getting to her. Cats like routine. Doesn't seem to be bothering Sandy. I have a whole bunch of scarves I knitted over the years and I may try to sell some of them. I just wish we had another day. Signed the papers today to get our house money. We close two weeks from today!! OMG!! Somebody pinch me!!
As far as Ethyl is concerned, I think the sternness of her post put me off. I do feel bad for her and maybe that's the only way her mind knew to answer but she sure answered well. Bobbie's post to her was very good and very kind. Thank you, bobbie, for that.
Linda, stay away from that black hole. Think of the boat and the concert!! I sure wish I could go to that concert with you. I love Bob Sieger!! You will have a blast I am sure!! I remember going to some concerts when I was young that I don't remember cause I was too drunk or stoned. :D I hope everyone is having as good of an evening as they can have. Love Yous!!
miz
bored to death here , put pa to bed , had to pee every 2 hrs , geeze , gave him sleepin pill while ago , hopefuly he wont wake up every 2 hrs all night like he did last night . geeze , wore me out ! didnt have a happy day at all ,
my oldest daughter came out and said oh mom come on lets have a beer ! so we sat outside and enjoyed the warm weather and nice cold beer . it was a good visit , cute grandaughter in her dance outfit , white panny hose :-) shes a doll .
hubby went straight to bed when he got home from work , let him sleep 3 hrs and woke him up for dinner , he has to work tmr . poor guy he is soo worn out ,
guess im going to find me a good movie and prob fall alsleep , oh i hope pa lets me sleep tnite . goodnight you all xoxo
I was so well in Paris for the total freedom - no mother no animals no work - that I understood it takes two minutes to get used to good life! I am back to "everything" now. If it is possible, I found my mother worsened after two days absence. It's really painful to see her that way. She can't take antidepressants because (we tried) she gets too anxious with them, so our only choice is to go on with Seroquel and keep her sedated. She is leading a good life, she is always out with the girls, she is always in good company, she does a lot of things, but she is always unhappy. I don't know what else I can do. Maybe I can pack everything and go live to her home town, which will be a problem for my work, but somehow I could do it. I could rent a house there and keep this one closed. I'm seriously thinking about it. This situation could last for years....
cyber hugs deflex ! no feelin bad about barkin at ur mom . i barked at dad this morn , i do feel bad anyway but hell he needed a bark and a growl to straighten up , actin like he cant stand wound him down on the floor , im too weak and too damn sore to lift a big baby huey up ! xoxo
I told my mom... I remember writing about it here and it worked in the sense that when she did a Granny Gone Wild on me I would just say:
That's that old Dementia working on you. Just ignore it. I would try to keep her in the present moment and geared up for a course change if necessary.
Absolutely exhausting.
that and the Safe and Sound routine. 'you're safe and sound'.
oh flex love ya.
lovbob
It's good to hear from you and I am sorry that this is what you're going through.
with my mom I just took all the cards, etc and put them in 'the filing cabinet' which was my little backpack. I took them when she wasn't looking and put them away so I wouldn't go apesh!t trying to find some squirreled away stuff possibly mangled with a spent tissue.
Your mom is putting up a good fight and tell her I love you but you'd better give it a break. Flex I went through the same crapola. I think a bunch of us have and it doesn't make it any easier by a long shot when we hear someone else dealing with it. Ugh.... brings back the memories.
I know you love your mom just like I love mine but MAN!
Here's one for ya and tell me what you think. IBS is a pain in the ass.
You have a pain in the ass. what is giving you the pain in the ass?
The pain in the ass is giving you the pain in the ass.
My mom gave me a pain in the neck and after awhile it traveled South......
have you been able to find the cards? Look in the refrigerator......
Take this opportunity to take the important stuff and HIDE IT!! Easier to listen to her yell about it than search for it. omg I bet I have a full 12 months of looking for stuff my mom lost. It was the single most crazy making thing that she did.
Boat!
lovbob
I need to vent!!!!! Actually, I am feeling guilty that I just can't ignore my mothers cruel words and I end up answering something just as mean. I just received a bill from the hospital for over $3000. I noticed the bill had the wrong insurance info, so I immediately went to get mom's insurance cards out her purse. Of course they weren't there. I ask her where she has them and she answers all the same places I have just looked for them without sucess. When I start looking through the bedside table drawers and the dresser she gets indignent that I'm not to be digging through her stuff. I got impatient and told her I'm responsible for her and I will look where I need to. Then the real crap started. She starts yelling I should never have given you POA and she's able to care for herself. She kept pushing and pushing while I was looking for the cards. Finally I had enough and told her her brain doesn't work right and she doesn't have the abilities of a regular adult anymore. I'm not sure at this point if I'm more upset about her saying a bunch of nasty things to me or my telling her her brain doesn't work right. I've been sick for the last three weeks with severe IBS and I was not in the mood to deal with her crap today. After three years of giving up my life I am feeling more resentful of having to care for her. I need a break big time.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Diane
the way I see it is that at a certain point we earn the right to say to the 'shamers'
NO! Bad Girl! Shut Up! Back away from the Caregiver!
I do feel for this poor Ethel because I think she has the disease so this is going to really suck for her. It's one thing to have the disease and not know what a pain you are and another to have it, be in the early stages and be made to understand what a pain you're going to be. bless her heart.
lovbob
I'm sitting here with Nik and he sees the post and I say, that's the one who got smacked in the knee by the lady she takes care of. she has a broken knee.
So Nik says: did she get her back?
pop ur ass right on this barge.
lovbob
Thanks for saying everything you did. Better coming from you than me. I bet she never gets back on to read our responses.
let bobbie handle the ones that has no clue , we just say OBMAJ AND SHAME ON YOU ! SHAME ON YOU ! i love it ....
jam the ram . sorry u lost ur monie . we have a casino down the road from here , theyre filin bankrupty now . not paid thier taxes lately , something like that . oh well takes my money real fast and then i leave . so whatever .