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Bobbi: You have said everything I did in the beginning. That was my main priority when she came here. Get CLEAN. I bought all kinds of shower stuff and did everything I could think of, and she still tries to call the shots, but when the stinch mixes with my cooking that's it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is doing alot better, but she has more excuses than cartera has pills. That's why I blew it and just walked out yesterday and drovw to nowhere for 30 min. She was a different woman when I came home. She has mental problems, I know, but there are things I will not tolerate. I'm still very fragile due to my son's passing last May 7th. The 1st anniversary is coming up and I intend to have a happy Mother's Day with my hubby, grandchildren and great granddaughter. I only had one child and he is in heaven, so I won't let ANYONE take this time away from me! I get stronger every day and God bless you for helping me. Hugs Shari
I give a foot and leg massage everytime I bedside bathe my Mom. It doubles as a get that dry skin moisterized opportunity. Mom loves it. I bathe her once a week, but I spot sponge her during the week on the ahem... hot spots. LOL!
Bobbie, I don't know about you, but after doing the bathing, I'm wiped out.
The bathing issue is a great example of why this is a progressive disease. They are going to get farther and farther away from being able to do anything and the bathing issue is usually the first BIG omg, this is really happening to my mom, in your face ordeal. they are not going to get any better and are going to continue down the path of dementia and it is up to you, the caregiver, to get them in line and make it possible for them to live in your home, in their home, in any home. If a professional caregiver took over, there would be no arguing and no anything, they would be washed. It's the disease, the disease, the disease and it's a bear. Caregiving stress is unreal and I speak from experience. My mom did what your moms are doing which is refuse to bathe, only because she couldn't anymore. I simply decided that I wasn't going to put up with it because I can't take stink. Period. Can't do it and if my mom wanted to stay out of a nursing home that was one of MY rules that she was just going to have to meet. That's what I told her and that's how it was. About a week went by and I had her in the tub and don't think it was easy because it wasn't. Our moms have so much power over us and here's the main reason that family caregiving blows: If we had wanted to become nurses we would have but we didn't. We are daughters. Caregiving makes us into nurses and our mothers into patients. We are not wired for this crap so we have to come up with all kinds of tricks to deal with the fact that the person who raised us and told us the rules is no longer capable of wiping their own ass. And if you think your mother can wipe her own ass, give it a minute. I am not trying to be mean, but you guys have to get real tough and take control of this situation. How awful it would be for social services to 'drop by' because some jackass neighbor or someone smelled your mom and the state ends up investigating and they show up and she stinks to high heaven. It's happened.... and no it didn't happen to me but there are cases where the daughter was caring for the mom, mom wouldn't wash and there you go. A load of unnecessary drama. Who needs that stress.
OK, here's how to fix it. Go out and get a shower chair and adjust it so you mom can sit in the tub and you can wash her. they get scared of standing in the tub or shower because their legs get wobbly and they are afraid of falling...shower chair takes that away. Put a handheld shower thingie in the bathtub so you can have her sitting in the chair and get her nice and hosed down all over. She is going to cry and whine and act like you are killing her. Put up with it. It will take about a week of getting her scrubbed clean and shiny on the hiney for her to start to acclimate to the situation. Tell her: this is not open for discussion, get on that chair and I'm washing you or I'm calling in someone else to do it. next case. That's what I had to do for my mom. sucked, but I couldn't figure out another way and judging by the stories I hear here, that's pretty much how it goes. Major intervention. When you get to the point that you realize the difference in telling her to wash and washing her yourself because she can't wash herself you will have graduated to the next level of caregiving. I wish I had better news for you both but I don't. This is real.
I ended up getting mom to get on that chair by giving her the head to toe spa treatment. she got the nice wash and I called all the parts: the drumsticks, the wings, the chicken titties (which had to be picked up and scrubbed under), the AREA (front to back front to back) and at the end she was (say it with me) clean and shiny on the hiney. I kept the bathroom all warm and made sure the water was at the perfect temp. I would get her out of the tub and wrapped up in clean towels that smelled like fabric softener and then I would do her hair and buff her up and apply cream to her skin. I always looked like I had just been pulled through a hedge... but mom? mom looked great, smelled great and felt great. she would be so happy to be looking good and your mom will too. and please keep in mind that in no way was I a saint or some award winning caregiver. no where close.... I was just another one of 15 million unpaid family caregivers trying to survive the most dreaded disease on the planet.
Good Luck and you can do this!!! We're rooting for you!!! lovbob
Three hail marys to bobbi! There's no easy way, just set boundaries. Mom always thanks me and says your right Shari. By the way, I own stock in the Febreeze Company!!!!! Patience, Patience. They think different now than when we were young. Shari
GSA, omg how awful. our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Lori!! Febreeze! don't laugh.... that's what I had to do and mom finally came around and let me give her a shower. Then we did the shower every other day and the cat's bath in the sink on the off days. It takes a lot of patience but you have to set the boundary that you are not living like this. It can be a real war but when you win it, it all will be so much easier. Have you just told her that this is going to happen and told her that she stinks? I hate to be so brutal, but being a caregiver is hard enough... Tell her that if she doesn't let you wash her from stem to stern, the state could get involved and she could wind up out of your care! Try that one yet? Good Luck Lori, and boy do I remember those days. ugh. I know you love her.
Cuz!! lung cookie.... you goofball. glad things are looking up and please tell Aunt Hank I said hi and love to J and her family.
Lori71: I am pretty new here, but have made fast friends. The hair and bathing thing has been really hard for me also. I have been struggling for 9 mos. with my 77 yrs.old mother. Sometimes the odor is so bad I want to puke. My mother was never like that until about 2 yrs. ago. She has been living with me since last year. She's getting alittle better. But I still have to get all the tricks outta' the bag. She thinks a spit bath is all good, but she hangs up the nasty wash wrags and it still stinks. I have washed everything, opened widows, burned candles, and spent a fortune on sprays. My house will not stink; therefore I have told her the night before, tomorros is the day and you cannot have your way any longer. Yesterday she cried and said she was sorry. It all worked out. Just hang in there, dear. This issue was the first big problem I had and it won't continue. I will get more help or else...... HUGS xx Shari
I think I need to get the Firebird out...take the t-tops out and run mom through the car wash. 28 days and counting on washing her hair. UGHH. If only I didn't love my car so much! Desperately need some patience today!!
So Sorry to hear this gsa, let us know how things are going.. prayers and angels sent your way.
Just got back from town, 18 wheeler flat beds loaded down with round bales of hay... coming into town from all directions.. we went thru this 2 yrs ago, had a small reprieve last summer with spring rains, but here we are again. They are also talking about bringing in tanker trucks with water to put in the stock ponds. It is not even May yet ya'll, and summers here are a bitch, I a friend of mine down the road was getting 200 round bales delivered to his ranch.... I feel so bad for the folks in the tornadoes , I am a survivor of Hurricane Rita, so I know that kind of devastation. I know that feeling of not being able to process the destruction. So much going on in the world, please tell people you love them. Seems that is getting to where that is what we have, love , thank God for God...
Sorry about silence. I am with family in San Antonio waiting for next surgery. Emergency surgery we'd bowel resection, dialysis yesterday after kidney shutdown, Please hug your loved ones. This came out of nOWHERE. Helen
I watched the royal wedding. I was moved by how much William looks like his mother. I ate a lot of popcorn, so my last 4 weeks of diet have been useless. Shari I love your way of relaxing! Hop on the car, loud music, air on the face! Beautiful!
Computer is acting wanky this morning..................if this is a sign of how my day is going to go.....I'm heading back to bed. Supposed to take rv and the GoldWing motorcycle in for inspection today.....nothing like waiting till the end of the month honey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rv battery dead, motorcycle battery bad.....so penalties it will be. Uncovered the rv and WHOA the mice had fun over the winter....had some of those round mouse catchers and they did the job, but the little schitts had fun before it got em.............so now I need to clean. Convinced hubby we need to get a couple of barn cats to catch the mice.....I know the snakes will eat them soon, but that doesn't help during the winter. Need to clean out the other 2 garden boxes and get them ready for planting....late garden this year. My son and dil usually help, but they are moving and busy with their own stuff.
Jen.......I wish there was some way to get your mother to hand you money to live on. Damn girl! Do you live in your house, hers, his? I probably read somewhere but don't remember.
Linda......please consider getting some help....if you don't you won't have a back left to use for yourself, let alone pa.
Got to get up.....hubby already fussing at the col.....fixed her breakfast and she copped the pissy attitude when he told her she can't feed it to the dog.
thanks bobbie ... i ll ck into that real soon . wonder if walmart has em ? lmao , pa wanted to arm wrestle me , i put my arm around his under arm to help him get in the wheelchair he ended up doing the arm wrestle ! gigglin smilin so big ! i said ohhh u wanna wrestle . i tickled him and tickle him , finaly he said i wana paint the room , i said oh what color he said black ! oh nana pa i dont think so . he said now damn it where is that black chair i need to stand on it and paint ! i thought oh bobbie s coffee , did she slip him a good coffee and didnt give me any ? sis said oh u wanna watch hee haw ? his eyes got big and shiney and smiled real big said oh yes yes , got him to forget about paintin ! hauled him to living room and now he s sittin smilin watchin hee haw , kinda creepin me out , this man has not slept ! i think it must be the expsinve antibodi is kickin his ass . hell i want one !!! jam- the pillow is over here ! come and get it , :-)
Good Morning, I just wrote OPtiguard Ant bait on my list because I get ants here too. But they aren't a bad as yours Linda. Sorry things are getting harder with pa. Bobbie, good luck with the Yard Sale! As you said, it'll be hard to part with the stuff you like, but gotta do it. I'm excited about the Weener dog coming for a visit, oh, and he's bringing my sons with him. haven't read any posts yet so I'll do that now. and more coffee.
Good Morning Everyone!!!!!!......Not much going on here yet this morning, but I can assure you all that I will know everything there is to know about the Royal Wedding by noon. By 3 my eyes will glaze over....by 6 I will be frantically looking for a pillow. Did a last doggie potty run last night and it's such a sigh of relief to see that the col's lights and tv are off....I'm standing in the yard for a minute and I hear the unmistakeable swish of her door opening......yoohoo....outside with the puppers? HERE'S YOUR SIGN................What I'm trying to figure out is, just how long was she wandering around her house in the dark? She just woke up and hubby checks her on the camera and he's laughing his a** off, she's a back sleeper and I guess her hair is a wild mess....gee looks normal to me. Since I broke down a week and a half ago and gave her the damn hot rollers, yes I rolled her hair then helped her take them out and style it, she has not touched them. With the old ones she would put 1-3 in every single day...now nothing. Not sure what to make of that and I never mention them when she is in the bathroom and they are sitting on the back of her toilet so it's not like out of sight, out of mind. She constantly looks like she has this giant cloud attached to her head.....
Linda! so sorry it's to tough right now. Ow your back and ow for Pa. You need help. time to call the county and get hospice help. Hospice doesn't mean the end, it just means I need help before I wind up with permanent back issues. With Hospice you don't have to beg anyone and growl and bark. They come and you are no longer the only one picking Pa up and moving him and doing everything on your own. Today is Friday and a good day to get that going so you can get help as soon as possible. Can't do it anymore Linda. I love you, we ALL love you and I am telling you: You can't do this alone anymore. Call hospice please my beautiful girl.
The Ant Bait: OPTIGUARD Ant Gel Bait. Google that and it is a pro product. you put it on an ant trail. You MUST put it on an established ant trail. They will come on their usual route, gang up on the bait and take it back to the nest. It will take about one or two days and then no more ants. Ants are seasonal so you will have to treat the area again when you see more ants! when I used it here there were no more ants for a year. They came back this year and I just used a little and no more ants.
ok, yard sale for us tomorrow and sunday. Ads in the paper and online and the weather is supposed to be beautiful, so this is it! bye bye stuff. waaaaa. I like most of the stuff we will be selling and it is tough but I just have to pull up my Captain's pants and get over myself and get this done.
shari- there has been times where i hop in the car and crank that music up and dont want to look back ! but oh noooo i have to go back home , waaaaaaa . im getting off this desk , ants are crawlin on me now . im havin nightmares about it now ! my head is starting to itch ! theyre prob in there laying eggs ! what the sam hill ! going to get bug spray and floaded this room full of it and slam my door shut , hope i dont find them in my bed too . termainator where are you !!!!
ladeeda- i have no help . nobody helps me . i do it all . what the f ever . they ll help when i growl . i hate growling so might just swell do it my self . smile and do it then cry later . if my daughter is here oh yes she jumps up and helps me . follows me around with pa . shes a sweetie , she tells me every day I LOVE YOU MOM . i think with her postive attidue turns me into a sweet heart :-) xoxo gonna bomb this room now . later folks ....
Rearding the Royal Wedding. Don't worry my friend, ladeeda. Saw it all, was nice. It will be on all day as you know. Mom's still asleep, so I fixed a cup of tea about 5am and it felt good to enjoy watching all the hoopla with my 2 doggies. Had a rouch day yesterday with sleeping beauty. Still going thru' all her stuff. Found 2 large bags with beautiful scarves in them she had purchased; thought she might like to look at them and use them. Well, that was a huge mistake. She threw the bag on the floor like a 2 yr. old and shuffled back to the bedroom. I lost it, ran to my car and drove for 20 minutes blasting the radio and sunroof open. Walked back in the house smiling. Feels good to get away sometimes. Well," Pip Pip" (Is that what the brits say?) Have a good day to all. Love, Shari xx
Jen, I wish you could come here and live with me in Tx. where there are plenty of open spaces to breathe fresh air, Oh, you might smell a cow or two, see the wild turkeys, (and no they are not relatives!!), hear the coyotes at night. Just very peaceful. And Nobs Busey, he is out there doing baby calf things, running behind mama wanting breakfast. If you ever decide to run away from home, come to Tx. Much to see and do, swamp to mountains, we got it all. Hope you find some peace within yourself. Nothing outside of us can fix it. Love ya and thinking about ya... LindaH. Why do you not have any help, you know I could come help. You with a bad back, me with one leg, between the two of us we could manage to keep him off the floor. Poor Pa, is the blood scaring him? I admire what you are doing, but it is past time for you to get some help.. said with love. hugs, more later, have to go get copies of some things for the insurance, GOD, I am so TIRED of hearing about how much this has cost them. NOT MY FAULT....
miz- i know ... damn ants crawlin on my desk and busted one trying to get in my coffee ! damn bastard ! somebody told me salt will keep em away , geeze i needs tons of em lol . bobbie - is that terrel ant killer drops , i know it starts with a t . i had a bottle of it and now its gone . may have to go buy some and keep doing it all summer long . gosh .
oh jsomebody i feel like ive been ran over by a truck ! big semi !!! im still getting up and movin around , moan groan backs a killin me , so getting hit by a bus would be worst thing , cripple ya for life and hearts still a pumping . nah not worth it . just stay away from mommy and fp . come n go as u please . take a wlak meet neighbors whatever . smel t he flowers if theyre a bloomin . when ur mom growls , say oh yes mom i love you too . she bitches , say yep i love you too . when u do things fo rher look at her and say thank u for helping me . i love u too . highly toxi postive talking may turn her attuide around . it will prob bug the shit out of her so she ll know not to say anything the next time . i honestly think that ll work . chase her thru the house and say u wanna a hug ! like that cartoon on tv many years ago , lapewy i think thats the name of it . a female black cat accidently got white paint on its back . skunk came along and boing he s in loveeee , chasin her every where ! try it jsomebody . when udo the dishes say out loud thank you for helpin me do dishes ! mom !! i love you !!! i know u were growing up without the hugs and love . i wish my mom is here today . MOM I LOVE YOU !!! how i miss my mom and truely wishes shes here and she isnt here . jsomebody !! we love you ! doesnt that touch ur heart . makes u smile , feel good inside , run thru the field full of daisys . :-) oh lalalaaaa . went to bed at one am , cke don pa , damn he s still awake ! ah im going to the couch , poor ole back just worn out from pullin tuckin draggin pa around yesterday . woke up at 7 , shit pa s awake !! drag my ass to pa s room , i can see in his eyes its dementia ! sundowners hasnt left yet , oh great . got him out of bed , made my job as harder than it was yesterday . big baby huey . poor lit momma duck has to lift her big baby huey duck around . tok him to bathroom , eek blood every where . anyway fedhim and got himin recliner , he acts like im suppose to pick him up and set him down in the recliner . whoa pa ! u gotta help me out here ya know . waaa yeah i know i no feel good waaa . i said u feel fine pa . ure just so tired cuz u have not been sleeping . gave him breathin treatment then he decided he need sto go bathroom . ahhh drag him to bathroom and oh boy he sat in wheelchair expectin me to pick him up ! tld him better get up to sit on toilet waa i know waaaaaa . ah he decides he wnats to go to bed , holy crap had a hellva time getting him off his wheelchair and put him in bed . ! wheni finaly put him in bed i ran outside and smoke me a ciggy and moan my back waaaaaaaaaaaaa. yes pa i love you too !!!! have a wonderful day crews . im going to my bed xxoxoxox
I remember 23 or 25 cents a gallon, I can't remember. There would be gas wars and one would lower their price so the others would lower theirs and so on and so forth.
Jen, please no get hitting by a bus. This is all temporary. Please try to hang in. You are very strong. Just keep venting. Love ya.
K, more packing this morning. Hubby is STILL trying to get his truck fixed right. I hate that thing.
yikes ... who mentioned gas prices? I recall driving a 54' Chief Pontiac straight eight at .34 cents per gallon ... where is the cent thing on the keyboard??? ah ... another piece of our history bites the dust ...?
Back then, the late 70's, we rebel high school kids would hop in the amazing car, that Pontiac, & hit the local dairy for a couple gallons of chocolate milk. Honest! A dairy farm with real cowsb that were milked daily. Thick glass bottles with round paper stoppers ~ they added chocolate to the fresh milk back then ... I think just for us wild teenagers ... Yum. Nothing ever better! Would melt the hardest of hearts ....
schitt, JSome ... You certainly don't deserve any of that crap. I wish we weren't 300 miles away. You are coping in a nightmare. You have amazing skill with writing. Please don't ignore it! You won't need a lottery ticket with your talent.
Jsombody, I'm sorry,hope you hit the lotto big,I dream about it too. Keep thinkin if I win aunty wouldn't have to worry bout runnin outta money. You don't want to get hit by a bus, that's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It will get better somday. That's what keeps some of us goin is the knowledge that its not permanant. I wish your mom could see that you guys need to live to keep dadddy going. Mabe somday she will. Is she a little demented to or has she always been that way? Hold on girlie you and cleo will be fine.
Wow cuz, you are busy!!!! Nice for you to put mom in a walk in shower,that's one of the hardest things on ol' arthur knees. Lol,now if you could only find the time to retire. Gas is 3.69 here and I was complainin! Hubby says in flordia gas is 4.25! That's nutts, I used to be able to find a some change laying around the house to put in the gas tank,it would get me around to work and back for a few days, not anymore.
Pahahahahaaa and then later...I go to make a sandwich, after not eating for 18 hours due to being sick and she well, I knew it was coming, she would either have a bitch fit over the smell, bacon, OR have a fit that I had back door open to air the smell out so she wouldn't be pissed......and so....wait for it...She complained about the smell of the bacon AND bitched when I sat down " Is the back door still open!? " "No.." It wasn't. I just get up and go eat in the back put the other half my sandwich away, clean up, saw some stuff in back yard to put a board away, walk Monty, empty garbage, getting in both the weekly shit AND the last of the garage debris...do the dishes..stay away from her...put Drano in the tub and sinks as it is backing up into the tub again....Here it comes..for the eight hundredth time..."How long have you set that Drano for?" "Three hours.." I say looking at her just waiting for the rest of her bullshit...When I came upstairs after sleeping all day and coughing blowing nose etc...She was annoyed with my cat. I picked CLEO up and she said to her At ME..."I Blame you for this CLEO." and in that way of talking to one another through the pets it has come pout...yes she blames me that she is getting a cold...AND I hope it is a miserable one you malicious old bat making my life hell, when do I grow up and get the hell out of here!?
Think I'll get a shower and go play my last two dollars on the lotto ticket for the weekend...If I could get drunk I would...maybe i will get hit by the bus coming home...end of all my worries....
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Bobbie, I don't know about you, but after doing the bathing, I'm wiped out.
welcome again you guys,
The bathing issue is a great example of why this is a progressive disease. They are going to get farther and farther away from being able to do anything and the bathing issue is usually the first BIG omg, this is really happening to my mom, in your face ordeal.
they are not going to get any better and are going to continue down the path of dementia and it is up to you, the caregiver, to get them in line and make it possible for them to live in your home, in their home, in any home.
If a professional caregiver took over, there would be no arguing and no anything, they would be washed.
It's the disease, the disease, the disease and it's a bear.
Caregiving stress is unreal and I speak from experience. My mom did what your moms are doing which is refuse to bathe, only because she couldn't anymore. I simply decided that I wasn't going to put up with it because I can't take stink. Period. Can't do it and if my mom wanted to stay out of a nursing home that was one of MY rules that she was just going to have to meet. That's what I told her and that's how it was. About a week went by and I had her in the tub and don't think it was easy because it wasn't.
Our moms have so much power over us and here's the main reason that family caregiving blows:
If we had wanted to become nurses we would have but we didn't. We are daughters. Caregiving makes us into nurses and our mothers into patients. We are not wired for this crap so we have to come up with all kinds of tricks to deal with the fact that the person who raised us and told us the rules is no longer capable of wiping their own ass.
And if you think your mother can wipe her own ass, give it a minute.
I am not trying to be mean, but you guys have to get real tough and take control of this situation. How awful it would be for social services to 'drop by' because some jackass neighbor or someone smelled your mom and the state ends up investigating and they show up and she stinks to high heaven.
It's happened.... and no it didn't happen to me but there are cases where the daughter was caring for the mom, mom wouldn't wash and there you go. A load of unnecessary drama. Who needs that stress.
OK, here's how to fix it.
Go out and get a shower chair and adjust it so you mom can sit in the tub and you can wash her. they get scared of standing in the tub or shower because their legs get wobbly and they are afraid of falling...shower chair takes that away.
Put a handheld shower thingie in the bathtub so you can have her sitting in the chair and get her nice and hosed down all over.
She is going to cry and whine and act like you are killing her. Put up with it. It will take about a week of getting her scrubbed clean and shiny on the hiney for her to start to acclimate to the situation.
Tell her: this is not open for discussion, get on that chair and I'm washing you or I'm calling in someone else to do it. next case.
That's what I had to do for my mom. sucked, but I couldn't figure out another way and judging by the stories I hear here, that's pretty much how it goes. Major intervention.
When you get to the point that you realize the difference in telling her to wash and washing her yourself because she can't wash herself you will have graduated to the next level of caregiving.
I wish I had better news for you both but I don't. This is real.
I ended up getting mom to get on that chair by giving her the head to toe spa treatment. she got the nice wash and I called all the parts: the drumsticks, the wings, the chicken titties (which had to be picked up and scrubbed under), the AREA (front to back front to back) and at the end she was (say it with me) clean and shiny on the hiney.
I kept the bathroom all warm and made sure the water was at the perfect temp.
I would get her out of the tub and wrapped up in clean towels that smelled like fabric softener and then I would do her hair and buff her up and apply cream to her skin.
I always looked like I had just been pulled through a hedge... but mom? mom looked great, smelled great and felt great.
she would be so happy to be looking good and your mom will too.
and please keep in mind that in no way was I a saint or some award winning caregiver. no where close.... I was just another one of 15 million unpaid family caregivers trying to survive the most dreaded disease on the planet.
Good Luck and you can do this!!! We're rooting for you!!!
lovbob
GSA, omg how awful. our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Lori!! Febreeze! don't laugh.... that's what I had to do and mom finally came around and let me give her a shower. Then we did the shower every other day and the cat's bath in the sink on the off days. It takes a lot of patience but you have to set the boundary that you are not living like this. It can be a real war but when you win it, it all will be so much easier.
Have you just told her that this is going to happen and told her that she stinks? I hate to be so brutal, but being a caregiver is hard enough...
Tell her that if she doesn't let you wash her from stem to stern, the state could get involved and she could wind up out of your care! Try that one yet?
Good Luck Lori, and boy do I remember those days. ugh. I know you love her.
Cuz!! lung cookie.... you goofball. glad things are looking up and please tell Aunt Hank I said hi and love to J and her family.
lovbob
Just got back from town, 18 wheeler flat beds loaded down with round bales of hay... coming into town from all directions.. we went thru this 2 yrs ago, had a small reprieve last summer with spring rains, but here we are again. They are also talking about bringing in tanker trucks with water to put in the stock ponds. It is not even May yet ya'll, and summers here are a bitch, I a friend of mine down the road was getting 200 round bales delivered to his ranch.... I feel so bad for the folks in the tornadoes , I am a survivor of Hurricane Rita, so I know that kind of devastation. I know that feeling of not being able to process the destruction. So much going on in the world, please tell people you love them. Seems that is getting to where that is what we have, love , thank God for God...
Shari I love your way of relaxing! Hop on the car, loud music, air on the face! Beautiful!
Jen.......I wish there was some way to get your mother to hand you money to live on. Damn girl! Do you live in your house, hers, his? I probably read somewhere but don't remember.
Linda......please consider getting some help....if you don't you won't have a back left to use for yourself, let alone pa.
Got to get up.....hubby already fussing at the col.....fixed her breakfast and she copped the pissy attitude when he told her she can't feed it to the dog.
Love and Hugz,
Jam
pa wanted to arm wrestle me , i put my arm around his under arm to help him get in the wheelchair he ended up doing the arm wrestle ! gigglin smilin so big ! i said ohhh u wanna wrestle . i tickled him and tickle him , finaly he said i wana paint the room , i said oh what color he said black ! oh nana pa i dont think so . he said now damn it where is that black chair i need to stand on it and paint ! i thought oh bobbie s coffee , did she slip him a good coffee and didnt give me any ?
sis said oh u wanna watch hee haw ? his eyes got big and shiney and smiled real big said oh yes yes , got him to forget about paintin ! hauled him to living room and now he s sittin smilin watchin hee haw , kinda creepin me out , this man has not slept ! i think it must be the expsinve antibodi is kickin his ass . hell i want one !!!
jam- the pillow is over here ! come and get it , :-)
Bobbie, good luck with the Yard Sale! As you said, it'll be hard to part with the stuff you like, but gotta do it.
I'm excited about the Weener dog coming for a visit, oh, and he's bringing my sons with him. haven't read any posts yet so I'll do that now. and more coffee.
Linda! so sorry it's to tough right now. Ow your back and ow for Pa.
You need help. time to call the county and get hospice help. Hospice doesn't mean the end, it just means I need help before I wind up with permanent back issues. With Hospice you don't have to beg anyone and growl and bark. They come and you are no longer the only one picking Pa up and moving him and doing everything on your own.
Today is Friday and a good day to get that going so you can get help as soon as possible. Can't do it anymore Linda. I love you, we ALL love you and I am telling you: You can't do this alone anymore. Call hospice please my beautiful girl.
The Ant Bait:
OPTIGUARD Ant Gel Bait. Google that and it is a pro product. you put it on an ant trail. You MUST put it on an established ant trail. They will come on their usual route, gang up on the bait and take it back to the nest. It will take about one or two days and then no more ants.
Ants are seasonal so you will have to treat the area again when you see more ants!
when I used it here there were no more ants for a year. They came back this year and I just used a little and no more ants.
ok, yard sale for us tomorrow and sunday. Ads in the paper and online and the weather is supposed to be beautiful, so this is it! bye bye stuff. waaaaa. I like most of the stuff we will be selling and it is tough but I just have to pull up my Captain's pants and get over myself and get this done.
BOAT!!!
lovbob
going to get bug spray and floaded this room full of it and slam my door shut , hope i dont find them in my bed too . termainator where are you !!!!
ladeeda- i have no help . nobody helps me . i do it all . what the f ever . they ll help when i growl . i hate growling so might just swell do it my self . smile and do it then cry later . if my daughter is here oh yes she jumps up and helps me . follows me around with pa . shes a sweetie , she tells me every day I LOVE YOU MOM . i think with her postive attidue turns me into a sweet heart :-)
xoxo gonna bomb this room now . later folks ....
LindaH. Why do you not have any help, you know I could come help. You with a bad back, me with one leg, between the two of us we could manage to keep him off the floor. Poor Pa, is the blood scaring him? I admire what you are doing, but it is past time for you to get some help.. said with love.
hugs, more later, have to go get copies of some things for the insurance, GOD, I am so TIRED of hearing about how much this has cost them. NOT MY FAULT....
bobbie - is that terrel ant killer drops , i know it starts with a t . i had a bottle of it and now its gone . may have to go buy some and keep doing it all summer long .
gosh .
when ur mom growls , say oh yes mom i love you too . she bitches , say yep i love you too . when u do things fo rher look at her and say thank u for helping me . i love u too . highly toxi postive talking may turn her attuide around .
it will prob bug the shit out of her so she ll know not to say anything the next time . i honestly think that ll work . chase her thru the house and say u wanna a hug ! like that cartoon on tv many years ago , lapewy i think thats the name of it . a female black cat accidently got white paint on its back . skunk came along and boing he s in loveeee , chasin her every where ! try it jsomebody . when udo the dishes say out loud thank you for helpin me do dishes ! mom !! i love you !!!
i know u were growing up without the hugs and love .
i wish my mom is here today . MOM I LOVE YOU !!! how i miss my mom and truely wishes shes here and she isnt here .
jsomebody !! we love you ! doesnt that touch ur heart . makes u smile , feel good inside , run thru the field full of daisys . :-) oh lalalaaaa .
went to bed at one am , cke don pa , damn he s still awake ! ah im going to the couch , poor ole back just worn out from pullin tuckin draggin pa around yesterday . woke up at 7 , shit pa s awake !! drag my ass to pa s room , i can see in his eyes its dementia ! sundowners hasnt left yet , oh great . got him out of bed , made my job as harder than it was yesterday . big baby huey . poor lit momma duck has to lift her big baby huey duck around . tok him to bathroom , eek blood every where . anyway fedhim and got himin recliner , he acts like im suppose to pick him up and set him down in the recliner . whoa pa ! u gotta help me out here ya know . waaa yeah i know i no feel good waaa . i said u feel fine pa . ure just so tired cuz u have not been sleeping . gave him breathin treatment then he decided he need sto go bathroom . ahhh drag him to bathroom and oh boy he sat in wheelchair expectin me to pick him up ! tld him better get up to sit on toilet waa i know waaaaaa . ah he decides he wnats to go to bed , holy crap had a hellva time getting him off his wheelchair and put him in bed . ! wheni finaly put him in bed i ran outside and smoke me a ciggy and moan my back waaaaaaaaaaaaa. yes pa i love you too !!!!
have a wonderful day crews . im going to my bed xxoxoxox
Jen, please no get hitting by a bus. This is all temporary. Please try to hang in. You are very strong. Just keep venting. Love ya.
K, more packing this morning. Hubby is STILL trying to get his truck fixed right. I hate that thing.
My love to all.
miz
love,
miz
who mentioned gas prices?
I recall driving a 54' Chief Pontiac straight eight at .34 cents per gallon ...
where is the cent thing on the keyboard???
ah ... another piece of our history bites the dust ...?
Back then, the late 70's, we rebel high school kids would hop in the amazing car, that Pontiac, & hit the local dairy for a couple gallons of chocolate milk.
Honest! A dairy farm with real cowsb that were milked daily. Thick glass bottles with round paper stoppers ~ they added chocolate to the fresh milk back then ... I think just for us wild teenagers ... Yum. Nothing ever better!
Would melt the hardest of hearts ....
You certainly don't deserve any of that crap.
I wish we weren't 300 miles away. You are coping in a nightmare.
You have amazing skill with writing. Please don't ignore it! You won't need a lottery ticket with your talent.
Think I'll get a shower and go play my last two dollars on the lotto ticket for the weekend...If I could get drunk I would...maybe i will get hit by the bus coming home...end of all my worries....