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It's finally been dry here too. Hubby was able to mow the yard yesterday and the sun was out all day today. It's amazing how that can help your mood. I think it's supposed to rain again tomorrow night though.
Thanks for the tips about the wood floor. I will tell hubby. We are now thinking about new wood flooring or just having all of the carpet replaced. We shall see.
I better get to bed. Lots of work to do tomorrow. I can't believe all the shit we have accumulated.
Miz, I find that in some ways it is therapeutic for me to watch things like that. For one it makes my empathy stronger because I have been in their shoes. It shows hope and resilience of human beings. I know I and many others that went thru the Hurricanes, understand how all these people feel. The loss, and yet the gratitude, it changes your life and the way you see the world and the people in it forever.
Hmm gaps, could he find filler pieces or would it be best to start over, maybe see what wood is still good, someone with a smaller room may want the old wood, to refurbish or like Habitat for Humanity they take house building supplies...
Meticulous is annoying but will look better in the end. How is the weather for painting? Finally dry in Spokane...
Nope. Hubby's gonna paint the bedroom and he's almost ready to paint. He took down all of the trim except around the windows. He's very meticulous. I know that is good but it takes longer. We then want to power wash the basement and paint it before we move stuff over there and into it. We're trying to decide what kind of flooring to have in the bedroom. There are hardwood floors under the carpet from probably when the house was built and they are nice but hubby says there is a gap between some of it and the walls. I been looking at laminate on-line tonight. We'll worry about the rest of the house after we get moved since the date has been moved up.
Jen, don't listen to your mom. I don't know why she wants to continually tear you down like that. Pisses me off it does.
Was going over invites in chair fart pants came up behind and was watching the "kiss on the balcony" from the Royal Wedding making excited noises, I got up and left the room real fast...
10 things to know had interesting link...disagree about the liquids, right up till about the day she died my grandmother would ask for sips of water or milk and I would give her some in an eye dropper...
I didn't watch the royal wedding. It's weird cause when I was a little kid I LOVED to watch weddings on TV. Now I am of the mind that all that wealth could be used for much better purposes. I loved Princess Diana and think I watched some of her wedding. She was a good woman though with all of her hands on charity work. I just don't think any family needs or should have that much money. Too many other people and causes need it much more. Just my take. :)
seemeride- i used to be like that lack of sleep . pa would kept me up for 8 months , threaten to steal my keys and take off go back home to fla . usualy he just screams and hollars i gotta peeee waaaa , it was pure helll , i didnt know if i was coming or going , i still dont :-) ah i think i best be going , hubby fel sleep like i thought he would . now i need to go make sure the fire s gone down some and go lock up the barn door . j- yes i agree it was a nice wedding dress , looks like a silk sheet that i wanted for my bed , pure shiney white ! bet she aint no virgin . who knows . ok better go out before i stumble across something in the dark eek .
Linda, I hope pa gets some sleep for ya, so you can too. I have developed a sleeping disorder. I can't sleep for more than 6 hrs in a row. That is not usually like me. Mom woke me up about 5 times by 1:30 am. Wants to know why I am stumbling. Like she ain't YELLING while hubby is trying to sleep, like she hasn't hollered my name 5 times before I can cross the hall so I can't even put my glasses on. I told her I would kill for some sleep and she got all huffy and said the rest of the night was all mine! NOT!! So, yah, I saw the wedding, too, and slept a little in between hollers.
Checking in......again I have lost my butt somewhere....I'm sure it's in my backyard and it will find it's way back. I managed to sneak outside earlier, which in itself irritates me, got the second garden box cleaned out, the tomatoes were weaseled, and was starting on the third box when (insert Jaws theme here) I look up and there is the col wanting to plant the tulips I bought her...okay let's see if we can find a place. But first.....let's get out of the sweatshirt and flannel jammie bottoms.....it's only 80 degrees out! She actually let me cut off an old pair of jeans to make her some capris....that was amazing! She didn't want to plant her tulip where the rest of them are in the yard, so I found her a place at the front of her house and guess who watched while I dug the hole and planted....:) Then she wants to help me pull weeds....I want her to just go sit down and enjoy the sunshine and let me get it done. I wear latex gloves when I work in dirt, so I got her one, we usually wear it on the hand that will be actively pulling weeds; I'm watching her wear the glove on her left hand and pull with her right. Finally got her to just go sit down, I think she realized it was too much for her. I made the mistake of telling her I was going to go take a shower after I was through....I'm sure I don't need to tell anyone what I have been listening to since. I went down to change her drawers and she was just a happy little thing and thanked me profusely for doing such a nice thing for her.....I told her you're welcome but I do this every day for you, remember? Nope. That one kind of threw me.
bobbie is completely correct with the bathing issue......I tried the begging routine, telling the col she stank, she was using fiblets and saying she was bathing but the stench was getting worse and there weren't a pile of used Depends in the trash. About a year ago, after 3 weeks of no bath, she made the the mistake of stepping on my last nerve. I snatched her scrawny a** off the couch, stripped her nekked, put her in the tub and scrubbed her till she had a "shiney hiney"...........Been doing it twice a week since.
Linda.....hope pa is doing better today. How's your back feeling?
Miz......hope you are getting things moved....it's so exciting to have a new place.
Hope everyone else is having a great day......I don't want to miss anyone by trying to remember names....too darn many of us and I'm old....:)
Gee, Shari, I cannot even imagine how you feel. I thought it was bad getting mom before I got a chance to grieve for dad, but it is totally unnatural to bury a child. I don't care what the circumstance is, ya know? It just isn't supposed to be that way.
You got hit by a truck!? Gah never mind, more pain is not gonna help. Thank you Linda and JAM and RIP and Miz and Ladee and Allshe ...doing Ok, watched and recorded the Royal Wedding for mom, was very nice, pretty dress. Hope they will be very happy...Still alive here. A stronger, person would have left by now, but who knows. Maybe I will get out somehow. It is up to me. At least the head cold is almost gone. One less thing...
I live in moms house, never been on my own, serious maturity block here...
seemeride- u wore me out ! man i sure hope u sleep like a baby tnite . ure a good daughter givin her a bath and all . is that ur mom or ur aunt , hell im lost already ! my next door neighbor says his dad is living with them today and he is not going back home ever . okkk wish ya luck , bless thier heart . yep seems like more of us now , had a bonfire down the hollow , im down there worried about pa up in livin room alone made few trips back n forth ah he s ok , got a headache from wondering , now im inside for good i think . hubby s hungry so we came in i know he s going to fall sleep , he wakes up at 3 am to go to work , so i know i will have to go down there to make sure bonfire is dyin down and lock the barn up and come back inside , hubby is off work tmr so thats good , i hope pa sleeps good night , he better ! he s been up for few days ! bobbie - how was the yard sale today ? hope it turn out good ,
Ya Seemer, that's the deal... mom would whimper and moan and did that for a month in the beginning and then it went on and off and I would work my butt off to get a laugh out of her. Ya I was always as wet as the floor and in the beginning I would just get in with her, then I would take my clothes off because wtf?? I'm going to be soaked anyway. Anyhoo, I hear you!! You have my respect kiddo, suxxxuggggggghhhhhh. GSA? how are you? how did it go?
I am wiped out, too, after her bath. It is always a GD bath! She didn't fight me much, but her mouth kept going. As she saw me getting everything ready this morning, she fell asleep at the kitchen table in her chair , and suddenly hollered Get me dry! I am freezing! By then I figured the little ceramic heater had done its thing and it was time to get it over. Ya know, it only takes me about 5 min to wash everything, but getting her dry and clothed is what kills me. She no longer helps with that. Doesn't even put her one boob in the bra. I have mashed the breath out of it a couple of times. Guess at 83 and 6 kids it has no feeling anymore! LOL She goes in the shower which is only a 4 inch step and right on her chair. The hand-held head rests in a hook on a bar that is secured to the wall through the shower stall, so it will support her weight. I bought those suction handles, but she doesn't trust them. We opted for a shower curtain instead of a door for easier access. She only gets angry if I want her to wash her face. She never did that ever. Face was always done separately. But when we are done, I have water everywhere!! Usually I am almost as wet as the floor. She always wants to rinse the "hot spots" and put the head back herself - backwards. (Also, raise the chair high enough that they don't have to sit too low.) My mom is part cat and it is probably easier to give a cat a bath than her. Hope this may give you an idea, Shari.
Shari, I am so sorry about your son. I can not imagine what you are feeling. Hugs and angels to you. Lori, welcome to the "safety zone", as you and Shari will learn, there are many loving understanding people here. We welcome you with open minds and open arms.. hugs across the miles..
Thanks Bobbi, I was not even over my son's death and still taking my dad to the dr's. He had Zinker's. He had lost sooo much weight and it is such a long story that I die inside thinking he passed away due to incompetant dr.s He was a contractor and a good man. Came here from Oklahoma during the depression. But he worked hard and gave me things he never had a chance to have. I miss him so much and I would do anything to have him here. I learned alot from him. Patience, knowledge, and how to earn a dollar. Sometime, I feel like I have nothing to be here for, mom is so needy and I am just worn out. But I will do for the woman who gave me life. She is human. Thanks, Shari
omg your son! you are stressed to the nines! Please accept my most sincere condolences on the passing of your son and yes you need a Happy Mother's Day! Outside Caregiver time! If I had it to do all over again, and I have said this again and again on this thread, if I had to do it again, I wouldn't. Too much and it almost killed me and I am still not right and mom passed on May 26 last year. I hear you! she has excuses because she has dementia. I hope you can get the help you need and get your life on the track you want. Thanks for being here and play those tunes!! lovbob
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Thanks for the tips about the wood floor. I will tell hubby. We are now thinking about new wood flooring or just having all of the carpet replaced. We shall see.
I better get to bed. Lots of work to do tomorrow. I can't believe all the shit we have accumulated.
love,
miz
Meticulous is annoying but will look better in the end. How is the weather for painting? Finally dry in Spokane...
Jen, don't listen to your mom. I don't know why she wants to continually tear you down like that. Pisses me off it does.
Jen, invitations for what??
i didnt know if i was coming or going , i still dont :-)
ah i think i best be going , hubby fel sleep like i thought he would . now i need to go make sure the fire s gone down some and go lock up the barn door .
j- yes i agree it was a nice wedding dress , looks like a silk sheet that i wanted for my bed , pure shiney white ! bet she aint no virgin . who knows .
ok better go out before i stumble across something in the dark eek .
bobbie is completely correct with the bathing issue......I tried the begging routine, telling the col she stank, she was using fiblets and saying she was bathing but the stench was getting worse and there weren't a pile of used Depends in the trash. About a year ago, after 3 weeks of no bath, she made the the mistake of stepping on my last nerve. I snatched her scrawny a** off the couch, stripped her nekked, put her in the tub and scrubbed her till she had a "shiney hiney"...........Been doing it twice a week since.
Linda.....hope pa is doing better today. How's your back feeling?
Miz......hope you are getting things moved....it's so exciting to have a new place.
Hope everyone else is having a great day......I don't want to miss anyone by trying to remember names....too darn many of us and I'm old....:)
Love and Hugz,
Jam
I live in moms house, never been on my own, serious maturity block here...
my next door neighbor says his dad is living with them today and he is not going back home ever . okkk wish ya luck , bless thier heart .
yep seems like more of us now ,
had a bonfire down the hollow , im down there worried about pa up in livin room alone made few trips back n forth ah he s ok , got a headache from wondering , now im inside for good i think . hubby s hungry so we came in i know he s going to fall sleep , he wakes up at 3 am to go to work , so i know i will have to go down there to make sure bonfire is dyin down and lock the barn up and come back inside , hubby is off work tmr so thats good ,
i hope pa sleeps good night , he better ! he s been up for few days !
bobbie - how was the yard sale today ? hope it turn out good ,
GSA? how are you? how did it go?
more later,
lovbob
love,
miz
Lori, welcome to the "safety zone", as you and Shari will learn, there are many loving understanding people here. We welcome you with open minds and open
arms.. hugs across the miles..
omg your son! you are stressed to the nines!
Please accept my most sincere condolences on the passing of your son and yes you need a Happy Mother's Day!
Outside Caregiver time!
If I had it to do all over again, and I have said this again and again on this thread, if I had to do it again, I wouldn't. Too much and it almost killed me and I am still not right and mom passed on May 26 last year.
I hear you!
she has excuses because she has dementia. I hope you can get the help you need and get your life on the track you want.
Thanks for being here and play those tunes!!
lovbob