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The Lone Ranger was ambushed and captured by an enemy Indian War Party. The Indian Chief proclaims,
"So, YOU are the great Lone Ranger"... "In honor of the Harvest Festival, YOU will be executed in three days." "Before I kill you, I grant you three requests" "What is your FIRST request?'
The Lone Ranger responds, "I'd like to speak to my horse." The Chief nods and Silver is brought before the Lone Ranger who whispers in Silver's ear, and the horse gallops away.
Later that evening, Silver returns with a beautiful blonde woman on his back. As the Indian Chief watches, the blonde enters the Lone Ranger's tent and spends the night. The next morning the Indian Chief admits he's impressed. "You have a very fine and loyal horse", "But I will still kill you in two days." "What is your SECOND request?" The Lone Ranger again asks to speak to his horse. Silver is brought to him, and he again whispers in the horse's ear. As before, Silver takes off and disappears over the horizon. Later that evening, to the Chief's surprise, Silver again returns, this time with a voluptuous brunette, even more attractive than the blonde. She enters the Lone Rangers tent and spends the night. The following morning the Indian Chief is again impressed. "You are indeed a man of many talents," "But I will still kill you tomorrow." "What is your LAST request?" The Lone Ranger responds, "I'd like to speak to my horse ... alone." The Chief is curious, but he agrees, and Silver is brought to the Lone Ranger's tent. Once they're alone, the Lone Ranger grabs Silver by both ears, looks him square in the eye and says,
Listen Very Carefully!!! FOR ...THE ...LAST...TIME ...
Tired of constantly being broke & stuck in an unhappy marriage, a young husband decided to solve both problems by taking out a large insurance policy on his wife with himself as the beneficiary, and then arranging to have her killed. A 'friend of a friend' put him in touch with a nefarious dark-side underworld figure who went by the name of 'Artie.' Artie explained to the husband that his going price for snuffing out a spouse was $5,000. The husband said he was willing to pay that amount, but that he wouldn't have any cash on hand until he could collect his wife's insurance money. Artie insisted on being paid at least something up front, so the man opened his wallet, displaying the single dollar bill that rested inside. Artie sighed, rolled his eyes, & reluctantly agreed to accept the dollar as down payment for the dirty deed. A few days later, Artie followed the man's wife to the local Super Wal-Mart Store. There, he surprised her in the produce department & proceeded to strangle her with his gloved hands. As the poor unsuspecting woman drew her last breath & slumped to the floor, the manager of the produce department stumbled unexpectedly onto the murder scene. Unwilling to leave any living witnesses behind, ol' Artie had no choice but to strangle the produce manager as well. However, unknown to Artie, the entire proceedings were captured by the hidden security cameras & observed by the store's security guard, who immediately called the police. Artie was caught and arrested before he could even leave the store. Under intense questioning at the police station, Artie revealed the whole sordid plan, including his unusual financial arrangements with the hapless husband who was also quickly arrested. The next day in the Newspaper, the headline declared...
'ARTIE CHOKES 2 for $1.00 @ WAL-MART!'
Please, quit groaning! I don't write this stuff, I receive it from my warped friends and then send it on to you.
It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?' He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.' I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.' True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an important message.. This one I thought I could share with you.
The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.
I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did..
'Life isn't about how to survive the storm, But how to dance in the rain.' We are all getting Older Tomorrow may be our turn.
deefer - ure right . i ll know if he needs to go to hospital . blood pressure s good and he is eating well , like miz said if he doesnt have any appitzer thats when i shall worry cuz that man loves to eat . miz- i sure hope that something better is coming at ur way . dad always said it might be bad now but something better is coming at your way and boy is he right . good ole pa . need to go clean the kitchen , do dishes , gosh ! i have been on the go all damn day . i am so worn out ! , decided not to sleep on the couch anymore . lately he has been sleeping all night long so im going to sleep on my bed . sure do miss it . been forever and my couch is all broken into . uhh ohh my back waaaaaaaaaa. screw that ... goodnight u all xoxox
Hi Ya Deef. The job hunt is going slow. Not much out there at all and the jobs I have applied for I have gotten no response from. Don't know if I'm over qualified or too old or what. Hopefully something will come along soon.
Everyone, I got an email from one of my nieces that she was disappointed that we're not going to the family reunion. I told her part of it and she emailed back that I should not just give up on family, etc., etc., etc. She doesn't know the whole story but it made me feel bad and guilty. Stuff I sure don't need right now. I'm having enough trouble as it is.
Linda, Sounds like Pa knows what he wants, and so so you. That comes from being so close to him and taking such good care of him. Maybe just the full moon dragging him down and making him tired. Too bad it's making everyone else crazy!!! Mom was soooo tired tonight, that she couldn't wait to go to bed. That was an hour ago, and she is still twisting the sheets all over the place. I just hope she doesn't pick her diaper apart again!. Ssk, So happy you have found some boarders! Hope it helps relieve your $$ problems a LOT!!!! Yes, the air has finally changed and the temp is down and the air is drier! YES!!!! Annt, WOW, your mom takes the cake! Definitely do the respite thing. Even when they have dementia, they never lose that urge to play us! Mom's daycare bill is 90% paid by an elder service in our county. Call your local senior center and ask if there is something like that in your area. Senior centers have people that know all the ins and outs in your area. Mom goes for 6 hours a day, 3 days a week and only pays $130 for a month. The amount of aid goes by how much income she has. Check it out. Miz, how's the job hunting going? Bobbie, Still buried in books? Austin, Glad you got away! Did your sister make any $$ at the fair?What does she sell? As for Dorchester, that is near Boston and I am in central Mass. Rossella, Glad to here you have work. Anniegirl, How's things on the Emerald Isle? Jen, You out there tonight? Who'd I miss? My brain is mush this week. Hope you all get a good night's sleep!
Miz...I hate the disease of depression!!! I hate it..I hate it!!! And don't you ever think you are being selfish when you don't feel up to posting or even reading. Some days it's all you can do to get out of your pajamas. Some days you can't even do that. Believe me I know. I went three months this year not able to talk on the phone for crying. I texted everyone. Just could not talk! Thank God for Welbutrin. I think it's a big help in keeping me from going head first into the black hole and pulling it in over me. The other thing keeping me out of it is all of you. You just do what you have to do and give us a shout when you can. We will always have you on our hearts.
Austin, welcome back and I am very proud of you going on that trip!! Rossella, thanks so much for showing my hubby's aunt your pictures. You're a sweetheart. :)
OMG annt, what you go through. What a thing to deal with. I am very glad you got all that out and vented on here. Never EVER feel bad about that. I think the respite care idea is a good one. Yes, you have to get out at least once in awhile.
Linda, I remember my SIL saying that it's so hard on the elderly when they are taken to the hospital via the ambulance, etc. That's one of the reasons it is such a tough call to make. Just know that whatever decision you make is the right one and when your dad passes is up to God. If he shows signs of bad distress and you want to keep him home that darn doctor of his better get you hospice help. The important thing is that he not suffer. They did that for Mom in Comfort Care at the hospital. You are the most wonderful daughter in the world. Please please please keep us posted and text me or call me anytime.
To everyone. I am sorry I have been so scarce and selfish. I am trying to keep my head above water with this depression thing and it seems to take a lot of my energy. I don't seem to have the patience to sit and read for very long. Please bear with me. And I am glad to help whenever I can. Love yous so much!!
You got a point there, Rossella. Maybe just the threat of it would make her stop. Like you I've never believed in so many coincidences. But it's also hard to wrap your mind around the fact that your mother would do something like that on purpose just to get you back. There's some serious psychosis or something going on there. She's really out of it today. I guess it's the percocet. I had to hand feed her because she couldn't hold the spoon. I had to remind her to chew and swallow. I think she's still in pain but I can't give her more meds than is allowed. Right now she is staring off into space with a pained look on her face. Ahhhhhh.....
I had made plans to go to dinner with my oldest son tonite, but my hubby hasn't made it home yet. We were to meet at 6pm at a Japanese Restaurant. Hubby went to get meds for mom and check on a small job. Maybe three days work. Tried calling him but no answer. 6:30 Cancelled on my son. Crappppppppppp!!!!!! I'm going to do my best to get out one day or nite a week. Not enough money for day care so have to get family to watch mom. No more pride, I don't care what the snotty dils say....I'm asking my sons.
Bobbie!!! BOAT!!! Christina...chin up. Love you girl. Annie.....how's mama today? How was work? How's your brother? Love you too.. Austin...you go girl! Even if the bus trip sucked...you did it...and were with your sister for a few days. Now back to the real world.UGH! Miz...thank you, you are a blessing. You too Deef...hang on...Ssk....my prayers are with you too. Man, don't we all need prayers? And more prayer! Strength...please give me strength. Jen....again I say...you are a blessing to your mom. No one else in the world would do what you do. You are one strong lady! Cuz....where you be?? Kuli...thinking about you too tonite. 1dayatatime.....you too are in my thoughts. There's so many of us now that are in all our thoughts and prayers....some I've forgotten to mention but you are there in my heart. Each one of you has helped me get through another day, and if I make it thru tomorrow, chances are it will be because of you wonderful friends. Thanks
Linda, I think it is impossible to say if it is better for you to take your dad to the doctor (another doctor) or if it is better for you to leave him alone. If I know you a little bit, you want him to be checked by a doctor. Is it possible to ask a doctor to come to your house, so you don't move your dad and your dad won't be too distressed? Annt, the story you told was very interesting. I don't believe in so many coincidences. If your mother is so manipulative (this means that her mind is still sharp) you could use the countermeasure that if she falls and hurts herself, she goes to respite for a while. Maybe, after being in respite a few times, she will stop to hurt herself. I don't know, it's just an idea. Christina, no news good news?
austin ! so glad ure back home safe n sound !! glad u got away and were able to enjoy it . sucks when bus screws things up . they dont care about anyone but themself . annt- am sorry plans has been change . guess things happens for a reason uh ? yes i ll be ur daughter :-) . big hugs to u ... daughter cked pa s bp . 120over 70 . sounds good to me . am keepin my eyes on him real close . picked greenbeans out of the garden , got em a cookin along with tons of onions and itlaian sausages . yummie i sure cant wait to eat em . xoox
Thanks Austin, I wasn't sure if any of you had experienced that before. I always doubt myself thinking it's just me. So proud of you for taking that trip by yourself. To some that wouldn't be a big deal at all, but I know how hard that must have been for you. Do you feel stronger now? You should. You conquered a fear and it turned out great! Congrats!
Thanks Linda, too late now all plans have been changed, but will go in Sept maybe. My heart breaks for what you are going thru with Pa. What a tough position for you to be in. My heart would want to save him at all costs, but my mind would think he's been thru enough. Bless your heart you are a wonderful daughter. I wish I had a daughter like you. And thank you I have been reminding myself to breathe all day. Miz, thank goodness for those like you who have gone before us to guide us through this awful maze. Prayers for you all.
Hi everyone-back from my trip that I took by myself to act like a grownup-decidec being a grownup is no fun why do buses not keep to a schudule do not they realize people have to make connections and why are drivers so happy to tell you you missed the next bus when they are the one that caused you to miss anyway I have to do it again in Oct so this time will expect things to be messed up-glad to be home-but it was so hot and we were at the fairgrowns 3 days for 11 hrs. each day. Bobbie thany you for your words of wisdom about the expert. Annt -my husband woiuld fall for attention and him weighting 290 for a time I refused to help him up. Anniegirl your bricklayer story was so funny,
annt- i would takeur mom to respite and u shall go alone and get a breather breaks .... you will feel so much better . if u took ur mom with you , you will suffer cuz of her crying i hurt im inpain . i wanna go back home . it all be a waaa wa waaaaa . she s dare to harm herself to punish you . nana girl . pls put her in respite and let her heal while she is there and you deserve a break away from everything . BREATH . u will feel better . xoxo
got pa to wake up . he laid there lookin like he wants to say something but couldnt .. i ask him if he s stillhavin chest pain . he looked at me said oh no no pain but seems like i can see that he is lyin to me . he ate his bfast all gone and went back to sleep . i refuse to call his doctor cuz he is a OBMAJ , i rather just call 911 and to hell with his doc . i know deep in my heart dad wants to be left alone . i dont blame him in a way . my oldest sis said if he s not in pain just leave him alone . i want to talk to my bro about it , i just dont want to get him sad and feeling bad . last time i ask him about getting hospice in and it broke his heart . so i try not to talk to him about anything . daughter is home earlyfrom work , i shall have her test his blood pressure . love u all xoox
Ok here's the story of my week. It's a long one so get ready to read or just skip it.
Wednesday I told my mom that I was going to a movie with my son. She got this stricken look on her face like I was abandoning her, but I went anyway. While out I mentioned to Jeff(my middle son) that I was a little afraid that Nanny would do something to pay me back for leaving her that nite. He understands cause he has seen her do it to me all his life. She is soooooo sweet to everyone, but sooooo passive aggressive with her kids. It's her way of controlling us. Sure enough, wed nite she fell and tore the skin on her arm badly and bumped her head so blood was pouring out of that tiny scalp wound. Of course she waited til I got home from the movies. Got out of bed to go to the bathroom she said and lost her balance. No walker or cane in sight. She had put her cane behind the bed. Well of course, that got my attention. All the next day I was taking care of her wounds and feeling guilty for going out and leaving her. Knowing all along that that is what she wants. This sounds harsh but when you've lived it all your life....you know when it's happening. Ten years ago she got angry with me and got drunk and fell on top of her floor furnace and spent 2 months in the burn unit. I don't think she intended to get hurt so badly, but she passed out on the furnace and roasted. I felt horribly guilty and was crucified by my brother with "what the hell have you done to mama?" My oldest son found her on the furnace because I asked him to go check on her since I had to work. I told him she was mad at me and would do something to get me back I just didn't know what so please go by and ck on her. After her two months in the hospital I brought her home with me and nursed her back to health. Many many dr appts and hydrotherapies, skin grafts etc. She was doing well and demanded to go home because I was still trying to have a life and go out with firends etc. Ok, I took her home and she began telling my brothers that I had been taking money out of her checking account. Again my brothers came to my house and told me off. All this time my bro in VA is out of the loop and not a part of all this but not a stanch supporter of me either. Years go by and my abuser brother moves in with mom and treats her like crap. Now it's convenient again for me to take over mom's care. I had hoped that the passive agressiveness was a thing of the past but obviously not. Last time I had my grandsons over for a visit, she fell twice while they were here. I don't want them seeing this so I havent keep them since. She really doesn't like having kids around. It take up too much of my attention.
So on Wed. nite she falls and on Sunday I talk about going to VA to visit my brother and her bp immediately goes up. She has not traveled to see him in 10 yrs. Always gets sick right before we plan to leave, messing up everyone plans, but hey she's sick can't help that, right? So this sunday we talk about going on this trip and also I tell her we are going to our 4:00 meeting for worship. We have not been able to physically go in 6 months, there is a phone hook-up at allows me to listen in on meeting for worship. She knew I wanted to go at 4 and at 2 she fell and broke her arm. All these could be coincidences, I don't know but it has happened all my life. I don't think she means to hurt herself so badly, she just doesn't realize how fragile she is now. She even tried to fake fainting once while a nurse in the hospital was taking her bp. The nurse just shook her head and smiled. Does any of this make sense to you guys? or do you think I'm just crazy and that this sweet woman would never do that? Now she has my undivided attention again because she had lost motor skills and cannot walk again and I have to use the wheelchair. I have to lift her on the potty and back off and wipe her etc. I'm afraid to leave the room because she is still trying to get up even with this handicap. I had a long talk with the hospice nurse last nite. I told her all of this and she said "well that answers a lot of questions for me. I have been feeling like I've missed something because you take excellent care of her and yet she has all these accidents..it just didn't jibe. We were afraid that we would have to take her out of your care." The nurse has ordered Prozac. We start that today. Mom is now taking 2 percocets every 6 hours and still manages to stay awake. I'm like MOM, PlEASE GO TO SLEEP! the meds put you to sleep so you will heal. She's fighting it. I set the alarm for 12a,3,and 6am to check on her and give her the pills when they're due. So I'm not getting much sleep. At least once during that time she has to go pee and I have to do the potty thing. My back is screaming at me!!! Nurse told me next time I plan a trip to invite her to go but tell her if she doesn't want to go then she can go to the respite home, but I'm going.
During all this I'm asking my husband to go live with his folks. Told him this morning that the work is better there and he can look after his parents and maybe come home on weekends. I pray he does that! We need the money! I told him today that he is the only one not pulling his weight around here and if he won't take some kind of regular job, like warehouse work or something, then he needs to go. Lord help me. I just realized today what you all mean when you say..BREATHE. I realized that I was holding my breath in my anxiety. There's a knot in my stomach and I'm holding my breath. Lord! Hope I didn't bring y'all down. Just had to get it off my chest! I know I can vent here. Hope you all are doing ok. That Mama, and mama, and mama and Pa are having a serene day today. Love you all! BREATHE!!!
Yes, it is terribly hard to know what to do when our elderly loved one is sick. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I guess that's why it's good for the doctor to make the decision. Even then you still want to listen to what your loved one wants if they are able to make the decision. I guess in that case, you can tell the doctor what your loved one wants. Linda, I am praying for you and Pa.
Hi All, waiting for the nurse again. It was good to get out to the concert, but wish a few of you were there too. Linda, I'm praying for ya. Mom was having some swelling a while back and we have her on lasik to reduce fluid buildup. It's a hard call to make about whether to go to hospital or let it be. Pa's still able to understand and respond to you. I'd prob bring him to hosp to check it out anyway. Can you call 911 and they can transport him? Just a thought. I wish your doc would have let the hospice come in, then they are always there to answer questions. I'm rambling on too much! sorry. Ya the humidity has dropped a bit today. I got out for my jog. If I don't go I get antsy so I just do it. I'm trying to locate 1 more renter by end of next week. The ones I have now are really nice. I've been trying to do this for over a year and finally did. I was desperate and the renter was desperate for a place to live. here's the nurse, have a good one guys, love ya
Linda, hope Pa is awake and feeling better! It sure sucks to be the one left guessing as to what to do in that kind of situation. Hope that this is and end to his suffering? Or take him to the hospital and put him through more sh!t ho doesn't want? Or does he want the help? So many questions and no one to help us with the final decision. Just another of the many things we ahve to deal with. On a nice note, my FIL is 101 today!!!! My husband and his sister are taking him to lunch as we speak! He still lies at home alone and has all his brain cells in tact! He can tell some great stories from way back when. Okay, got to get ready to go to the hospital. Pelvis ultrasound this afternoon.YUCK!!!!!
Linda, yes my mom had chest pains before she went into congestive heart failure. After a couple of times (if I remember right) her doctor said if it happens again to call. Not too long after that she was in the hospital and lasted a week. I would take him to the doctor just to see what he says or at least call the doctor. It's a tough call, I know but I wish I had gotten Mom into the doctor sooner. Just see what the doc says on the phone maybe. I believe Mom's nitro patch was masking much of her pain. I did give her nitro pills when she had the pains. Call me if you want to. Love You, Girl.
good morning crew s . hope today finds u all a perfect day . pa is still sleeping . miz- was thinking about u yesterday , what u had said in the past about ur mom said shes havin chest pain and says shes ok . pa said yesterday my chest hurts . i said oh it is ? he said yes ithurts . i said well u think she should go hospital ? no he said . do u need nitro pills ? no he said . gave him asprian instead . then as the day went by he said oh my chest hurts . sis said u wanna go hospital ? no he says .. then i got to thinkin about miz she once said mom s havin chest pain then it went away . talked to hubby about that . he said thats what happen to his step dad . fluid got into his lungs and drowned him . i ve decided if he said it hurts again today he will be going to the hospital . but then again i know he hates to be poked at etc . wonder if sometimes its best to leave it all alone ? leave him at peace at home ? im begin pulled at 2 diffrent directions . hubby says even tho pa said no sometimes we have to do it anyway . he loves his sausage and gravy . seems the only thing he could eat and be happy . he had a good supper yesterday . pork lion , mash potatoes , pork beans , corn . wheat bread with butter on em . he ate every bit of it . put him in bed 12 hrs ago and he is still sleeping . blanket has not been moved for 12 hrs . looks like he s in coma .... i wanted so bad to wake him up but then afraid that he would get fussy and whine . why is that its always me . damn if i do damn if i dont ? weather today seems to have cooled down a bunch . whew thank u lord ! ssk- did u enjoy ur 4th july and the concert ? did u think of me while u were jammin away ? :-) how is ur mom doing ? annt- hope all is well at your way . give us a hollar . annie- how is the weather up at your way ? many hugs to u dear ... rest of the crews , thinking of u all . christina- hope one of the meds will make ur mom so sweetie and happy go lady . ure a sweetheart . big hugs xoxo
Rosella, you are as clear as the brass bell that rings on the BOAT. I understand you also polish the bell, which makes it reflective as well. You have such a way of painting the picture of our lives and details. So many of the things you mention are the same in our house as in yours with your Mother. I could say 'exactly', and it would be true. Well, we have to come to terms, I know that. We are trying the new meds tomorrow. It will take some time to see results maybe. Wow- 25 mg of Seroquel does nothing for my Mother. She is resisting even 50mg after 3 hours. As Tom Hanks said in "you've got mail", "Leave the gun, take the cannoli"-- but we shall get to that soon. No worries, no hurries, OK? Getting another perspective is very helpful, thank you. Night Night everyone:)
Ladies, I am sorry I didn't read your posts yesterday. I had a urgent work to do. I am sorry to hear that some of you are so stressed. These are very complicated questions. Christina, I wrote on your wall about cannoli. I'm going to look for some recipes for you in a couple of days as I have to finish another work before. And about the other question, how to live as happily as possible with a dementia/alzheimer relative, that's a million dollar question. I agree with Annie that when a person is in such an advanced stage of the disease, there is very little you can do to reassure them. Maybe you can reassure them for 2 minutes, and then it all starts again. Sometimes my mother is reassured by my presence, sometimes she looks for her daughter and she thinks her daughter has abandoned her, and if I tell her that I am her daughter she looks at me with empty eyes. Most of the times she doesn't want to stay with her daughter, real or imaginary, just with her parents and siblings. So, what can you do? I guess, sadly, that the only thing we can really do is find the right medicine or mix of medicines, I had to eliminate the antidepressants because my mother became restless and over.excited, so now I sedate her with 3 seroquel 25 a day; one at lunch time, one in the middle of the afternoon, one when she goes to bed. This doesn't make her sleep during the day but it calms her down. I think that if Christina has found a good caregiver, and she is sure that her mother is being well taken care of, she should leave her with the caregiver, open the front door, go out and have a normal day, do her things, go shopping without her mother... Her mother will get used to it sooner or later, and if she won't, my goodness, we have the right of having a few free hours for ourself every day, otherwise we got crazy. I mean, if she is trying to manipulate, she will stop sooner or later; if she is not manipulating and she is just confused and scared, 1) maybe the right pill has not been found yet 2) I am very sorry for her, (Christina's mother) but I know by experience with my mother that nothing can make her really happy, presently, because she would like to live in the past, to be a child again, and she can't accept a world that she doesn't recognize anymore. I know I am not very clear because I don't have very clear ideas, either. The resume of all this is: let's take good care of our parents, let's find the right pill for them, but let's think of ourselves too. Alzheimer is a disease that we can't control in any way! The doctors themselves seem at loss, most of the time, and they can't make the right decisions. We are all experimenting! Linda, at least your father finds a lot of pleasure in food, still. This is good for him, at least there is something that he still enjoys. Annt I am sorry your mother fell. I am lucky, my mother 90% of the time can't get up by herself, so she usually doesn't wander in the house. When she manages to do it, of course we take a risk because she falls every time; we have been lucky enough that she has not broken any bone yet. But she gets up so rarely by herself that I don't feel I need to contain her! Bobbie, we all dream to come to your boat and I think we really would have a great time all together. I hope for you that Nik fattens a little bit, too, so you can tell him: "Hey, you have a belly!" If men are a little bit vain, when you mention the word "belly" they panic and they start to eat less! But nevertheless when we come on the boat I hope he cooks a good meal, and we can wash dishes later! I can wash dishes after polishing the brass. Hi Kat and Jen. Kisses to everyone
WHOO HOO!! I could feel things heating up. YEEHAW!! Deefer, maybe your hubby needs motivation. Did you hear about the guy down here in Garden Grove that cheated on his wife and she "cut if off" and put in in the garbage disposal? omg. They were talking about it today on talk-radio. My husband said, "he deserved it. If he doesn't want to be with his wife, then he should get a divorce and leave her alone." Oh, I love my hubby. He is on his toes. haha Is Nik Greek? I used to date a Greek guy when I was out of high school. gorgeous. Sigh. Well, I am really curious about the Exelon thing. I know a lot of you have mentioned it negatively before. It was prescribed by first doctor about 4 years ago who THOUGHT she had Lewy Body, but GeriPsych says NO, not LBD. Once I forgot to change it for 2 days and she was more fidgety and up every 2 hours at night, so I thought it was determined it was OK for her, but I will dble check. Thank you, girls. Deef is dreaming, fantasizing, whoo hoo! I do it all the time about Javier Bardem and Tom Berenger. heehee. Have a good night.) Love, Christina xoxo
omg Deef, that is so funny! Glad the Namenda is working! When I got it for mom the change happened in 20 minutes. Blew me away. speaking of husbands who don't do anything, Nik is the never stopping machine over here. I talked to him about the Macrobiotic stuff and just to show me who knew what, he made me a Miso Soup that was amazing and then went on to clear out another 5 large cartons of literature and children's books for the Quakers. I am trying to get him to take a break so he doesn't hurt his back or just go nutz. Jeeze, I must have done something right because my life has been a struggle for decades and this guy continues to amaze me. Of course I am throwing down the jinx by even talking about it... he'll probably have a melt down soon where he tells me that I have to obey him again. boy, now that was hilarious. then again... I might just do that to get more of that soup........ Deef! does anyone do hotfoots anymore? that'll get him up... more later and love you guys, lovbob
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The Lone Ranger was ambushed and captured by an enemy Indian War Party.
The Indian Chief proclaims,
"So, YOU are the great Lone Ranger"...
"In honor of the Harvest Festival, YOU will be executed in three days."
"Before I kill you, I grant you three requests"
"What is your FIRST request?'
The Lone Ranger responds, "I'd like to speak to my horse."
The Chief nods and Silver is brought before the Lone Ranger who whispers in Silver's ear, and the horse gallops away.
Later that evening, Silver returns with a beautiful blonde woman on his back.
As the Indian Chief watches, the blonde enters the Lone Ranger's tent and spends the night.
The next morning the Indian Chief admits he's impressed. "You have a very fine and loyal horse",
"But I will still kill you in two days."
"What is your SECOND request?"
The Lone Ranger again asks to speak to his horse.
Silver is brought to him, and he again whispers in the horse's ear.
As before, Silver takes off and disappears over the horizon.
Later that evening, to the Chief's surprise, Silver again returns, this time with a voluptuous brunette, even more attractive than the blonde.
She enters the Lone Rangers tent and spends the night.
The following morning the Indian Chief is again impressed.
"You are indeed a man of many talents,"
"But I will still kill you tomorrow."
"What is your LAST request?"
The Lone Ranger responds, "I'd like to speak to my horse ... alone."
The Chief is curious, but he agrees, and Silver is brought to the Lone Ranger's tent.
Once they're alone, the Lone Ranger grabs Silver by both ears, looks him square in the eye and says,
Listen Very Carefully!!! FOR ...THE ...LAST...TIME ...
"BRING POSSE!"
Tired of constantly being broke & stuck in an unhappy marriage, a young husband decided to solve both problems by taking out a large insurance policy on his wife with himself as the beneficiary, and then arranging to have her killed.
A 'friend of a friend' put him in touch with a nefarious dark-side underworld figure who went by the name of 'Artie.' Artie explained to the husband that his going price for snuffing out a spouse was $5,000. The husband said he was willing to pay that amount, but that he wouldn't have any cash on hand until he could collect his wife's insurance money. Artie insisted on being paid at least something up front, so the man opened his wallet, displaying the single dollar bill that rested inside. Artie sighed, rolled his eyes, & reluctantly agreed to accept the dollar as down payment for the dirty deed.
A few days later, Artie followed the man's wife to the local Super Wal-Mart Store. There, he surprised her in the produce department & proceeded to strangle her with his gloved hands. As the poor unsuspecting woman
drew her last breath & slumped to the floor, the manager of the produce department stumbled unexpectedly onto the murder scene. Unwilling to leave any living witnesses behind, ol' Artie had no choice but to strangle the produce manager as well.
However, unknown to Artie, the entire proceedings were captured by the hidden security cameras & observed by the store's security guard, who immediately called the police. Artie was caught and arrested before he could even leave the store.
Under intense questioning at the police station, Artie revealed the whole sordid plan, including his unusual financial arrangements with the hapless husband who was also quickly arrested. The next day in the Newspaper, the headline declared...
'ARTIE CHOKES 2 for $1.00 @ WAL-MART!'
Please, quit groaning! I don't write this stuff, I receive it from my warped friends and then send it on to you.
THANK GOD LIFE IS GOOD
This is so sweet!!!
Beautifully Awesome….
The Rain
It was a busy
morning, about 8:30, when an elderly
gentleman in his 80's arrived to have
stitches removed from his thumb.
He said he was in a hurry as he had an
appointment at 9:00 am.
I took his vital
signs and had him take a seat,
knowing it would be over an hour
before someone
would to able to see him.
I saw him looking at his watch and
decided, since I
was not busy with another patient,
I would evaluate his wound.
On exam, it was
well healed, so I talked to one of the
doctors, got the needed supplies to
remove his sutures and redress his wound.
While taking care of
his wound, I asked him if he
had another doctor's appointment
this morning, as
he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman told me no, that he
needed to go to
the nursing home to eat breakfast
with his wife. I inquired as to her
health.
He told me that she had been there
for a while and that she
was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.
As we
talked, I asked if she would be
upset if he was a bit late.
He
replied that she no longer knew
who he was, that she had not
recognized him in
five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him,
'And you still go every
morning, even though she
doesn't know who you are?'
He smiled as he
patted my hand and said,
'She doesn't
know me, but I still know who she is.'
I had to hold back
tears as he left, I had goose bumps
on my arm, and thought,
'That is
the kind of love I want in my life.'
True love is
neither physical, nor romantic.
True love is an
acceptance of all that is,
has been, will be, and will not
be.
With all the jokes
and fun that are in e-mails,
sometimes there is one that comes
along that has an
important message..
This one I thought I could share with you.
The
happiest people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make
the best of everything they have.
I hope you share this with someone you
care about. I just did..
'Life isn't about
how to survive the storm,
But how to dance
in the rain.'
We are all getting Older
Tomorrow may be our turn.
Luv Cuz
miz- i sure hope that something better is coming at ur way . dad always said it might be bad now but something better is coming at your way and boy is he right . good ole pa .
need to go clean the kitchen , do dishes , gosh ! i have been on the go all damn day . i am so worn out ! ,
decided not to sleep on the couch anymore . lately he has been sleeping all night long so im going to sleep on my bed . sure do miss it . been forever and my couch is all broken into . uhh ohh my back waaaaaaaaaa. screw that ...
goodnight u all xoxox
Everyone, I got an email from one of my nieces that she was disappointed that we're not going to the family reunion. I told her part of it and she emailed back that I should not just give up on family, etc., etc., etc. She doesn't know the whole story but it made me feel bad and guilty. Stuff I sure don't need right now. I'm having enough trouble as it is.
love,
miz
Mom was soooo tired tonight, that she couldn't wait to go to bed. That was an hour ago, and she is still twisting the sheets all over the place. I just hope she doesn't pick her diaper apart again!.
Ssk, So happy you have found some boarders! Hope it helps relieve your $$ problems a LOT!!!! Yes, the air has finally changed and the temp is down and the air is drier! YES!!!!
Annt, WOW, your mom takes the cake! Definitely do the respite thing. Even when they have dementia, they never lose that urge to play us! Mom's daycare bill is 90% paid by an elder service in our county. Call your local senior center and ask if there is something like that in your area. Senior centers have people that know all the ins and outs in your area. Mom goes for 6 hours a day, 3 days a week and only pays $130 for a month. The amount of aid goes by how much income she has. Check it out.
Miz, how's the job hunting going?
Bobbie, Still buried in books?
Austin, Glad you got away! Did your sister make any $$ at the fair?What does she sell? As for Dorchester, that is near Boston and I am in central Mass.
Rossella, Glad to here you have work.
Anniegirl, How's things on the Emerald Isle?
Jen, You out there tonight?
Who'd I miss? My brain is mush this week. Hope you all get a good night's sleep!
Linda, I remember my SIL saying that it's so hard on the elderly when they are taken to the hospital via the ambulance, etc. That's one of the reasons it is such a tough call to make. Just know that whatever decision you make is the right one and when your dad passes is up to God. If he shows signs of bad distress and you want to keep him home that darn doctor of his better get you hospice help. The important thing is that he not suffer. They did that for Mom in Comfort Care at the hospital. You are the most wonderful daughter in the world. Please please please keep us posted and text me or call me anytime.
To everyone. I am sorry I have been so scarce and selfish. I am trying to keep my head above water with this depression thing and it seems to take a lot of my energy. I don't seem to have the patience to sit and read for very long. Please bear with me. And I am glad to help whenever I can. Love yous so much!!
miz
I had made plans to go to dinner with my oldest son tonite, but my hubby hasn't made it home yet. We were to meet at 6pm at a Japanese Restaurant. Hubby went to get meds for mom and check on a small job. Maybe three days work. Tried calling him but no answer. 6:30 Cancelled on my son. Crappppppppppp!!!!!!
I'm going to do my best to get out one day or nite a week. Not enough money for day care so have to get family to watch mom. No more pride, I don't care what the snotty dils say....I'm asking my sons.
Bobbie!!! BOAT!!! Christina...chin up. Love you girl. Annie.....how's mama today? How was work? How's your brother? Love you too..
Austin...you go girl! Even if the bus trip sucked...you did it...and were with your sister for a few days. Now back to the real world.UGH!
Miz...thank you, you are a blessing. You too Deef...hang on...Ssk....my prayers are with you too. Man, don't we all need prayers? And more prayer! Strength...please give me strength.
Jen....again I say...you are a blessing to your mom. No one else in the world would do what you do. You are one strong lady!
Cuz....where you be?? Kuli...thinking about you too tonite. 1dayatatime.....you too are in my thoughts. There's so many of us now that are in all our thoughts and prayers....some I've forgotten to mention but you are there in my heart. Each one of you has helped me get through another day, and if I make it thru tomorrow, chances are it will be because of you wonderful friends. Thanks
Annt, the story you told was very interesting. I don't believe in so many coincidences. If your mother is so manipulative (this means that her mind is still sharp) you could use the countermeasure that if she falls and hurts herself, she goes to respite for a while. Maybe, after being in respite a few times, she will stop to hurt herself. I don't know, it's just an idea.
Christina, no news good news?
annt- am sorry plans has been change . guess things happens for a reason uh ? yes i ll be ur daughter :-) . big hugs to u ...
daughter cked pa s bp . 120over 70 . sounds good to me . am keepin my eyes on him real close .
picked greenbeans out of the garden , got em a cookin along with tons of onions and itlaian sausages . yummie i sure cant wait to eat em .
xoox
So proud of you for taking that trip by yourself. To some that wouldn't be a big deal at all, but I know how hard that must have been for you. Do you feel stronger now? You should. You conquered a fear and it turned out great! Congrats!
too late now all plans have been changed, but will go in Sept maybe. My heart breaks for what you are going thru with Pa. What a tough position for you to be in. My heart would want to save him at all costs, but my mind would think he's been thru enough. Bless your heart you are a wonderful daughter. I wish I had a daughter like you. And thank you I have been reminding myself to breathe all day.
Miz, thank goodness for those like you who have gone before us to guide us through this awful maze.
Prayers for you all.
i refuse to call his doctor cuz he is a OBMAJ , i rather just call 911 and to hell with his doc .
i know deep in my heart dad wants to be left alone . i dont blame him in a way . my oldest sis said if he s not in pain just leave him alone . i want to talk to my bro about it , i just dont want to get him sad and feeling bad . last time i ask him about getting hospice in and it broke his heart . so i try not to talk to him about anything .
daughter is home earlyfrom work , i shall have her test his blood pressure .
love u all xoox
Wednesday I told my mom that I was going to a movie with my son. She got this stricken look on her face like I was abandoning her, but I went anyway. While out I mentioned to Jeff(my middle son) that I was a little afraid that Nanny would do something to pay me back for leaving her that nite. He understands cause he has seen her do it to me all his life. She is soooooo sweet to everyone, but sooooo passive aggressive with her kids. It's her way of controlling us. Sure enough, wed nite she fell and tore the skin on her arm badly and bumped her head so blood was pouring out of that tiny scalp wound. Of course she waited til I got home from the movies. Got out of bed to go to the bathroom she said and lost her balance. No walker or cane in sight. She had put her cane behind the bed. Well of course, that got my attention. All the next day I was taking care of her wounds and feeling guilty for going out and leaving her. Knowing all along that that is what she wants. This sounds harsh but when you've lived it all your life....you know when it's happening. Ten years ago she got angry with me and got drunk and fell on top of her floor furnace and spent 2 months in the burn unit. I don't think she intended to get hurt so badly, but she passed out on the furnace and roasted. I felt horribly guilty and was crucified by my brother with "what the hell have you done to mama?" My oldest son found her on the furnace because I asked him to go check on her since I had to work. I told him she was mad at me and would do something to get me back I just didn't know what so please go by and ck on her. After her two months in the hospital I brought her home with me and nursed her back to health. Many many dr appts and hydrotherapies, skin grafts etc. She was doing well and demanded to go home because I was still trying to have a life and go out with firends etc. Ok, I took her home and she began telling my brothers that I had been taking money out of her checking account. Again my brothers came to my house and told me off. All this time my bro in VA is out of the loop and not a part of all this but not a stanch supporter of me either. Years go by and my abuser brother moves in with mom and treats her like crap. Now it's convenient again for me to take over mom's care. I had hoped that the passive agressiveness was a thing of the past but obviously not.
Last time I had my grandsons over for a visit, she fell twice while they were here. I don't want them seeing this so I havent keep them since. She really doesn't like having kids around. It take up too much of my attention.
So on Wed. nite she falls and on Sunday I talk about going to VA to visit my brother and her bp immediately goes up. She has not traveled to see him in 10 yrs. Always gets sick right before we plan to leave, messing up everyone plans, but hey she's sick can't help that, right? So this sunday we talk about going on this trip and also I tell her we are going to our 4:00 meeting for worship. We have not been able to physically go in 6 months, there is a phone hook-up at allows me to listen in on meeting for worship. She knew I wanted to go at 4 and at 2 she fell and broke her arm. All these could be coincidences, I don't know but it has happened all my life. I don't think she means to hurt herself so badly, she just doesn't realize how fragile she is now. She even tried to fake fainting once while a nurse in the hospital was taking her bp. The nurse just shook her head and smiled. Does any of this make sense to you guys? or do you think I'm just crazy and that this sweet woman would never do that? Now she has my undivided attention again because she had lost motor skills and cannot walk again and I have to use the wheelchair. I have to lift her on the potty and back off and wipe her etc. I'm afraid to leave the room because she is still trying to get up even with this handicap.
I had a long talk with the hospice nurse last nite. I told her all of this and she said "well that answers a lot of questions for me. I have been feeling like I've missed something because you take excellent care of her and yet she has all these accidents..it just didn't jibe. We were afraid that we would have to take her out of your care." The nurse has ordered Prozac. We start that today. Mom is now taking 2 percocets every 6 hours and still manages to stay awake. I'm like MOM, PlEASE GO TO SLEEP! the meds put you to sleep so you will heal. She's fighting it. I set the alarm for 12a,3,and 6am to check on her and give her the pills when they're due. So I'm not getting much sleep. At least once during that time she has to go pee and I have to do the potty thing. My back is screaming at me!!! Nurse told me next time I plan a trip to invite her to go but tell her if she doesn't want to go then she can go to the respite home, but I'm going.
During all this I'm asking my husband to go live with his folks. Told him this morning that the work is better there and he can look after his parents and maybe come home on weekends. I pray he does that! We need the money! I told him today that he is the only one not pulling his weight around here and if he won't take some kind of regular job, like warehouse work or something, then he needs to go.
Lord help me. I just realized today what you all mean when you say..BREATHE. I realized that I was holding my breath in my anxiety. There's a knot in my stomach and I'm holding my breath. Lord!
Hope I didn't bring y'all down. Just had to get it off my chest! I know I can vent here.
Hope you all are doing ok. That Mama, and mama, and mama and Pa are having a serene day today.
Love you all! BREATHE!!!
love,
miz
Ya the humidity has dropped a bit today. I got out for my jog. If I don't go I get antsy so I just do it. I'm trying to locate 1 more renter by end of next week. The ones I have now are really nice. I've been trying to do this for over a year and finally did. I was desperate and the renter was desperate for a place to live.
here's the nurse, have a good one guys, love ya
On a nice note, my FIL is 101 today!!!! My husband and his sister are taking him to lunch as we speak! He still lies at home alone and has all his brain cells in tact! He can tell some great stories from way back when.
Okay, got to get ready to go to the hospital. Pelvis ultrasound this afternoon.YUCK!!!!!
miz
hope today finds u all a perfect day .
pa is still sleeping .
miz- was thinking about u yesterday , what u had said in the past about ur mom said shes havin chest pain and says shes ok .
pa said yesterday my chest hurts . i said oh it is ? he said yes ithurts . i said well u think she should go hospital ? no he said . do u need nitro pills ? no he said . gave him asprian instead . then as the day went by he said oh my chest hurts . sis said u wanna go hospital ? no he says .. then i got to thinkin about miz she once said mom s havin chest pain then it went away .
talked to hubby about that . he said thats what happen to his step dad . fluid got into his lungs and drowned him . i ve decided if he said it hurts again today he will be going to the hospital . but then again i know he hates to be poked at etc . wonder if sometimes its best to leave it all alone ? leave him at peace at home ?
im begin pulled at 2 diffrent directions . hubby says even tho pa said no sometimes we have to do it anyway .
he loves his sausage and gravy . seems the only thing he could eat and be happy . he had a good supper yesterday . pork lion , mash potatoes , pork beans , corn . wheat bread with butter on em . he ate every bit of it . put him in bed 12 hrs ago and he is still sleeping . blanket has not been moved for 12 hrs . looks like he s in coma ....
i wanted so bad to wake him up but then afraid that he would get fussy and whine . why is that its always me . damn if i do damn if i dont ?
weather today seems to have cooled down a bunch . whew thank u lord !
ssk- did u enjoy ur 4th july and the concert ? did u think of me while u were jammin away ? :-) how is ur mom doing ?
annt- hope all is well at your way . give us a hollar .
annie- how is the weather up at your way ? many hugs to u dear ...
rest of the crews , thinking of u all .
christina- hope one of the meds will make ur mom so sweetie and happy go lady . ure a sweetheart . big hugs xoxo
I understand you also polish the bell, which makes it reflective as well.
You have such a way of painting the picture of our lives and details.
So many of the things you mention are the same in our house as in yours with your Mother. I could say 'exactly', and it would be true. Well, we have to come to terms, I know that. We are trying the new meds tomorrow. It will take some time to see results maybe. Wow- 25 mg of Seroquel does nothing for my Mother. She is resisting even 50mg after 3 hours.
As Tom Hanks said in "you've got mail", "Leave the gun, take the cannoli"-- but we shall get to that soon. No worries, no hurries, OK? Getting another
perspective is very helpful, thank you. Night Night everyone:)
Linda, at least your father finds a lot of pleasure in food, still. This is good for him, at least there is something that he still enjoys.
Annt I am sorry your mother fell. I am lucky, my mother 90% of the time can't get up by herself, so she usually doesn't wander in the house. When she manages to do it, of course we take a risk because she falls every time; we have been lucky enough that she has not broken any bone yet. But she gets up so rarely by herself that I don't feel I need to contain her!
Bobbie, we all dream to come to your boat and I think we really would have a great time all together. I hope for you that Nik fattens a little bit, too, so you can tell him: "Hey, you have a belly!" If men are a little bit vain, when you mention the word "belly" they panic and they start to eat less! But nevertheless when we come on the boat I hope he cooks a good meal, and we can wash dishes later! I can wash dishes after polishing the brass.
Hi Kat and Jen.
Kisses to everyone
Is Nik Greek? I used to date a Greek guy when I was out of high school. gorgeous. Sigh.
Well, I am really curious about the Exelon thing. I know a lot of you have mentioned it negatively before. It was prescribed by first doctor about 4 years ago who THOUGHT she had Lewy Body, but GeriPsych says NO, not LBD. Once I forgot to change it for 2 days and she was more fidgety and up every 2 hours at night, so I thought it was determined it was OK for her, but I will dble check. Thank you, girls. Deef is dreaming, fantasizing, whoo hoo! I do it all the time about Javier Bardem and Tom Berenger. heehee. Have a good night.)
Love,
Christina xoxo
Glad the Namenda is working! When I got it for mom the change happened in 20 minutes. Blew me away.
speaking of husbands who don't do anything, Nik is the never stopping machine over here. I talked to him about the Macrobiotic stuff and just to show me who knew what, he made me a Miso Soup that was amazing and then went on to clear out another 5 large cartons of literature and children's books for the Quakers.
I am trying to get him to take a break so he doesn't hurt his back or just go nutz.
Jeeze, I must have done something right because my life has been a struggle for decades and this guy continues to amaze me. Of course I am throwing down the jinx by even talking about it... he'll probably have a melt down soon where he tells me that I have to obey him again. boy, now that was hilarious.
then again... I might just do that to get more of that soup........
Deef! does anyone do hotfoots anymore? that'll get him up...
more later and love you guys,
lovbob