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I hear you both KellyBean and Miz10.

Early morning before mom gets up and late night after she's tucked in is the only time I have.
I feel terrible with guilt also and have been trying to recall the great mom things that happened when I was little when she is grossing me out to the point of puking. Sometimes it works but most of the time I'm just worn out and obsessing over getting all of this work finished before she kills me.

Thanks you guys for some of the's hoping for more because they mean a lot to me and the other 'grossees' too.


KelleyBean, Yes, me too. I always stay up and unwind after my mom goes to bed. Most days that's my favorite part of the day. I feel terrible saying that but it is.

I must be tired because im sitting here laughing.. wanted to share a random thought I had about this with you all since it seems the right "crowd"

If you notice, on the homepage, midway, right side is a "Top 5 Caregiver Concerns"............. maybe they should add "New uses for toothbrushes, spoons and clothing art"..

Yes i'm off to bed now, but i always stay up and unwind after i've gotten mom to bed finally!

And by the way, yes we do have to laugh. And knowing others are going through the same thing does help.

My husband and I never eat out of the same bowl that my mom does. Like with popcorn for example. Never know what's on those fingers of hers... Or that eye stuff that she gets. Makes me want to yak just thinking about it. I have other examples too. I won't get into them here. Pamela, it's not wrong to be grossed out. It's natural. Don't be so hard on yourself, dear. :)

Kelly bean I am laughing out loud at that butter........It's just making me crack up.

Gosh it's good we all have one another!!!

Butter............lawd hav mercy!

I turn the tv up loud so I don't have to hear mom chew. And try to avoid looking at her... makes me feel guilty.. but after constantly asking her to chew with her mouth closed and getting no where..i've given up! and her clothes are so stained from "playing" with her food, that i don't even try to stop her anymore. some things, i don't even argue with anymore. the fight isn't worth it.

Speaking of eating.. I just caught mom feeding her cat butter.. *sigh*

I remember the 'toothbrush miner'. oh yes.

My mom is relatively easy to care for compared to a lot of people on this site, but the bathroom holds special facination.
Especially the poopy part.

I get you about the eating thing too. If mom doesn't finish everything on her plate, she'll try to give it to you after she stabs it all over with her fingers.
You're thinkin ok, I'm just going to go with, 'no thanks mom, I'm stuffed.'
No spagetti here, mom will chase it around the plate so we always use macaroni that stays in the spoon!

I try hard to not feel guilt when I'm grossed out, but it's hard to be blase when your mom shows you a brace of brownies stuffed into the brand new pjs you just bought. And proud!


I'm fine. really.


I dont think I can be surprised anymore! The things we've all seen. my only comfort in everything I go through, at least i'm not alone!

umm naheaton... i caught my mom with a spoon... needless to say.. i got a whole new tableware set...

At least she didn't use your toothbrush like one of the other people I read about earlier. It was like 'mining for nuggets', if you know what I mean. Now that's GROSS! :)

Bobbie I get grossed out watching my mom eat. I know I shouldn't say this but I really do. I just came from there brought her some home made spaghetti, (I make great spaghetti) and she always gets more on her wrap than she does in her mouth. It grosses me out because then she picks up the food from her bib and eats it.

I know I know it's wrong but it bothers me terribly.

But the toothbrush thing wow!!!!!!

I'm sure there will be more gross stories to follow!

omg I am so disgusted. At least I caught it before I put it in my mouth. I think that this was the first time because it was set in a different place by the sink and had gray hairs pokin out all over.

So sick of being disgusted. I love her but oh man.


awwwwwwwwwwwww lord!

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