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Hmn listening to Soft Rock here...I have not listened to music in years any more...It is so strange. Ah America, Seals and Crofts, Bread, I love Dan Fogelberg...Didn't know he died...The Seventies seems like a million years ago now...
Austin, my mother has been angry as long as I can remember. Don't have a clue as to why. My father treated her like a Queen, and so does my step father. I hate to call my mother an ungrateful @##$$, but she is.
Hey Jen! You and I have similar taste in music! Love, love, love Dan Fogelberg! Bobbie is right, you are more important than this situation and I too hope that you realize that and that your survival instinct kicks in and saves you. Bobbie-we all need to hear this! Thank you! Hello to Austin & Meanwhile, Cuz-chip monks...too funny...Sharyn-a picnic! What a great idea. My drug of choice is Christmas Movies these days. Always a happy ending. I also painted my hallway. It was a lot of work and I am worn out but I am happy it is done. I feel like I am coming down with a cold and there is no time for that! Mom sees the hand Dr today...not sure what he can do for her contracted fingers. They effect EVERYTHING she does. Gone to sponge bathing only cause she cannot stand herself up off the tub chair in our shower....she can't get her hands around the hand rails to pull herself up and I have to be in the tub to help lift her and one of us is going to get hurt... my shoulders and back are aching from all the lifting. And bro comes to visit and witnesses one of her vagal responses (seizures as I call them) and says, "at what point is it too much to keep her here at home?" Like it is such an easy decision even with all the problems! And yes, I think about it! I keep thinking that today's appt with the Dr about her hands may answer some questions I myself have about how long I can continue. I don't know what I will do if she goes into NH...prob be there all the time and still be miserable-seeing her there and feeling guilty. Gonna wait till after todays dr visit and then the holidays to make any decisions. HA! I mean decisions about her going elsewhere-as every day is a decision to keep caring for her here! Never a quiet moment in my head. I am rambling...please forgive me. Wondering how all the people in the Midwest are holding up. Scary storms. We just had wind here last night but no bigy in comparison...just scary after hearing what happened out west. The pictures of the devastation are unbelievable. Praying for all of them in the path! Well, I hope everyone has a decent week. Take care all! Mame
Mame It is probably the time to think about placement and if you think it is time go to visit a lot of them so you get a good idea what they are all about and to be able to see which is best for her-it is best to choose one close to where you live.
Leaves....ah leaves..... I enjoyed a moment last week...I was stressing out with mom, she was fingerpainting with lunch rather than eating it....I felt myself getting frustrated so I just went out back and grabbed a chair, placed it in the middle of the yard facing the bright sun we had that day and just sat out there for a good twenty minutes. with the tiny leaves of my shady tree falling all over me with each gust of the light breeze! it was strangely refreshing, like a dry snow. And yesterday I grabbed the dogs and walked them up n down our street. just to get out and away for a minute....
Well mom got her cast off last week and Has gained a few pounds, which makes me happy as she is so thin!
Haven't been on much just cause have nothing to say or offer, I am cashed out right now!! I am struggling right now as I have mentioned before....... cant wait to get on the healthcare program at the first of the year! Hopefully can get some therapy and meds (at an affordable price). having no family, immediate or extended. the loneliness is a bitch, I get so stir crazy all by myself all the time. I guess I do miss that part of my old friends, at least I had someone closeby to drop in on for a quick visit (they never drop in here) but I could get out for an hour or two.....
Anyway hanging by a thread.....construction rebuild mite actually get started this week but today I am a mess....got a nasty cold! Just got back from store stocking up on a Dayquil/Nyquil dual pack....I wanted my Theraflu but could not find it here in town...someone sed they don't sell it anymore. anyway I am pretty miserable but no fever or flu sofar. praying mom doesn't get it as I still have to feed n change her and we are confined into one room together all day n night! what I wouldn't give for someone to take over for me for a day or two right now! DREAMING!!!! Juju
Sick here with the soar throat/cold thing going around. Hope mom doesn't get it! The visit with the orthopedic hand specialist for mom's contracted fingers didn't do much for us. Sigh. Still the same questions-do we have the surgery done or not? Can it be done without putting her under and will it be worth it in the end? The OT comes today and I will talk with her about what the Dr said. He did say he thinks the contractions are neurological and that they are caused by mini strokes! Shots of cortisone or whatever won't do any good he said. Mom asked him twice if he was going to cut her fingers off!!! On a good note-her bro came and visited her yesterday. He is getting a little forgetful too! It was a nice visit and she was happy to see him. Gonna take mom out tomorrow and get her hair cut and permed for the holidays. Should be fun. I will get my hair trimmed at the same time. Juju-glad you had a free moment with the leaves! Austin-I am getting closer and closer every day...especially now that I don't feel good! Love ya all! Mame
Good Morning gang! Cold is doing much better today. now I need to get these floors put in so we can get some heat here.....I think that is what made me sick, going in n out of the bedroom I've heated with a space heater to the cold living and bathroom. Temps are dropping now below freezing at night. I am thankful we did have an indian summer....only patches of the rain/cold so far but I can tell winter is now here to stay!
Jen...I pray for you, I really truly understand how you feel and wish I could make it better. Keep hangin in there, and check in, we need you here!
Well my caregiver hurt her back and has been out for a couple weeks, she is coming back today but cannot do much but sit with her.
Mame... oh my there you go on the merrygoround....that does make sense tho if they are caused by ministrokes...cortisone or surgery probably aren't solution but where do you go from here? a neurologist maybe?? idk?
Well I have been thinking about taking mom back to the respite program for a few days but I am truly scared! at I know i need the break but if something happens to her while she is there i will not be able to cope with it. (reminder; first day i picked her up with soaking wet shitty diaper and filled her up on coffee which i specifically told them not to do! I don't know what to do... also i still have to get her up, changed, dressed...75minutes round trip to drop off and again to pick up and then worry the whole day while she is away! it just seems like more stress than respite to me. I just don't know what to do...i do want a break so bad. but really i do want several days in a row, a break from midnite alarm for diaper change, a morning to wake up and have the day to me, etc..... so i ramble...... anyway off to take on the day, lol!!!
I was sitting there at the bar staring at my drink when a large, trouble-making biker steps up next to me, grabs my drink and gulps it down in one swig.
"Well, whatcha' gonna do about it?" he says menacingly, as I burst into tears.
"This is the worst day of my life," I say.
"I'm a complete failure. I was late to a meeting, and my boss fired me.
When I went to the parking lot, I found my car had been stolen, and I don't have any insurance.
I left my wallet in the cab I took home.
I found my wife with another man... and then my dog bit me.
So I came to this bar to work up the courage to put an end to it all... I buy a drink, I drop a cyanide capsule in, and I sit here watching the poison dissolve.and then you show up and . . . . . . drink the whole damn thing!
... But hell, enough about me, how are you doing?"
1.. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on and point a Hair Dryer At Passing Cars..... See If They Slow Down. 2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice. 3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, ask If They Want Fries with that. 4. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks . Once Everyone has Gotten Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso. 5. In the Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write ' For Marijuana'. 6. Skip down the hall Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get. 7. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face. 8. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is 'To Go'. 9. Sing Along At The Opera. 10. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party Because You have a headache. 11. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream 'I Won! I Won!' 12. When Leaving the Zoo, Start Running towards the Parking lot, Yelling 'Run For Your Lives! They're Loose!' 13 . Tell Your Children Over Dinner, 'Due To The Economy, We Are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.'
And The Final Way To Keep A Healthy Level Of Insanity 14. PICK UP A BOX OF CONDOMS AT THE PHARMACY, GO TO THE COUNTER AND ASK WHERE THE FITTING ROOM IS LOCATED.
Check is delayed again, so next week for construction to start....dang it, is cold here, but guess could be worse...twenties at nite and 40's day time with no proper flooring does give a chill to the place! and cant blow the heater cuz the vents are under the temp floors which don't cover the entire home so there is wide open spaces. Amazingly tho since I got so tense and stressed in June with mom n whole hospital incident....I have anxiety and in n out of the "dark dumps" but not the stress that was physically hurting my neck, back, n arm.....Im hoping this is a sign I will get thru this OK!!!! I have so much to do to pull my life back together ironically getting up and starting to take care of it is what knocked me back down... things have not been same since we called the insurance company in...set off a chain of events again....that put us behind. Ya we will have a refreshed home in the end but to do it right is going to take us putting in quite a bit of money....and I have to do it now or never... It wiped us off the county rehab program as well for the other repairs needed...so I do all this and spend most of our VA funds (safety net) and still have a bad roof foundation, and the fence fell apart real bad last few months as well now, guess I could just get rid of it as it is mostly decorative, serves no real purpose....dear jump over it, only 3' high and critters go between the vertical slats as they are 4-5" spacing, it doesn't contain anything. I got to spend the evening and had dinner at my BFF house after moms doc last week that was nice but too short! They finally figured out she tore ligaments in her ankle that actually pulled pieces of bone off with it, but say cant do much but let it heal and PT, but since starting it, has worsened rather than getting better. Hope it is just temp due to the start of exercising. So far mom seems to have avoided catching my cold, I always get so scared of anything respitory at her age and condition. and thank goodness mine didn't get real bad (in the chest) mostly head but I am coughing quite a bit. I definitely have had worse. anyway my point is this one wasn't that bad so if she does get it hope wont be that hard on her. Have a good day to all! Peace Juju
Juju, hope you get the house finished soon.. That is so hard living in a construction zone. Wish I lived close enough to come help. I'm learning some about construction. Helped Indio put a new metal roof on a house last week, and I replaced a ceiling fan all by myself (It even works LOL). Jen, how are you holding up? Things will get better.
The reason why baby diapers have brand names such as Luvs and Huggies, while undergarments for old people are called Depends: When babies poop in their pants, people are still gonna Luv'em and Hug'em.
When old people poop in their pants, it Depends on who's in the will!
ok had to add this one....to cuz's list: When riding a roller coaster bring a some nuts n bolts with you and on the way up tap the guy in front of you and tell him they just fell out of his seat!
rename your wifi "FBI surveillience van" (specially in my hood)
My cranky old barn cat got his foot stuck. Poor guy, he let me get him loose, without even trying to scratch (unusual for him). Doesn't seem hurt, but he was shivering, could have been stuck for hours. He let me tuck him inside my coat, and carry him to the house. He has never been the friendliest cat, but he took in 2 tiny orphaned kittens, and raised them. So I have a soft spot for the old guy.
Glad the kitty is ok, Meanwhile! Feeling much better today...took some babysteps in getting back on track where we were before all this blew up. faced an issue that held great anxiety and fear for me, just bringing back into the game did feel like an accomplishment... not to continue to bury away something that needs to be done, for fear, then stressing about when will you ever get it done! anyway guess having a little mini meltdown this week was needed to knock me off my pity pot! I also have to credit you all here..by getting back on here and taking time to read back finally at least few weeks what all everyone has been doing..although the comments were not directed at me, I read some that so appropriately suited me and the feelings I was experiencing! I also gave my BFF a call and we had a nice long talk and I was able to verbally release some of this crap building up again!! and talk over some of my ideas and solutions with another living being able to reason!!! I went to town Friday to do some shopping was in the baby dept to get some Desitin for Mom and could not resist the cutest little set of 3 onsies with pants a blanket and teether to match by Carter's. They are all Monkey themed (I love monkeys) the blanket has a monkey applicae his smile is crooked off to the side and just makes him so adorable!! So baby shower gift taken care of....even its not till Jan!!! Well battery gonna go so I gotta too! Hope everyone has a great weekend, we will try here in our icebox! Peace, Juju
So glad your feeling better, Juju. The cranky cat is still hiding in the bathroom, letting me bring him canned cat food and bowls of milk. He may never go back to the barn LOL. Freezing rain, snow, wind chill 15 F. Had to carry hot water out to the barn to thaw water for the animals. Then middle of the morning the power went out. All that ice and wind broke a power pole off. Poor workers had to fix it in this weather. Bless their hearts they had the pole replaced and power back on in 4 hours.
Oh yeah, and 2 of the nanny goats are in heat. So instead of staying in the nice warm, dry barn, they were out in the freezing rain to hang around the buck pen. Had to drag them back to their barn and shut them in. Silly girls.
Snowed here today. Cold and windy here tonight...we will see what we wake up to in the morning! Could have sworn the Dr said he could do the surgery on mom's hands under a local anesthetic... snotty "surgical coordinator" who I spoke with to schedule the release-(after much thought and chats with mom's OT) was like, "he NEVER does this surgery with a local." "Well then, I must have misunderstood....Would you please verify this with him? Cause, there is no way her Dr will give the ok to put her under general anesthesia with her lung disease.... and I told the Dr that when we saw him"...Not sure why he would even offer to do it then and tell me to think about it and call him when we were ready. Anyway....now trying to figure out plan B. Ugh. I am sad for her cause it is really painful. Meanwhile-glad the kitty let you care for him! Juju-good God I hope they can get some of that work done soon! Glad you could chat with your BFF. Austin, yea, it may be time...waiting till after the Holidays to make any big decisions. Cuz-what a crack up you are! My favorite-Page yourself over the intercom-don't disguise your voice! Hadn't heard that one before! Jen-Love the advice your therapist gave you-wish it was as easy to do as that! I keep trying every day to not stress about things...so hard. Hello Ande and Countrymouse! My son's Bday is Tuesday and he will be home from college that day for the Thanksgiving break. His girlfriend will be coming too and she just had a bday. So, I got out and got some gifts. Went downstairs to get the wrapping paper from the basement....pull it out-it had been lying on its side-and all this dog food comes pouring out of the roll! Apparently the mice have been stealing the dogs food and hiding it in the tubes!!!!!!! That was good for a laugh! So much for their Thanksgiving feast-I tossed it in the garbage! Got mom out for a perm the other day. She looks adorable-but keeps forgetting and when she sees herself she is sooooo surprised! :) Well, I am off to bed. Hope everyone can take a nice deep breath for themselves this weekend!!!! Mame
Meanwhile-I was typing while you posted-WOW-that is pretty coooold for your neck of the woods! Stay warm! And those "silly girls" comment cracked me up!
Wow it sure is cold for you, MW. Those "silly girls", amazing nature, brave the cold for a little tail, lol!!! It never really pulled above 30 here or just above, for a couple hours before sundown....not sure what temp we got indoors, thermostat stops at 50, so below that. I did buy another large room quartz heater Wednes, running full power got the living area up to bout 53-4 in the am and almost 60 by days end....bearable but I wonder if it is worth the energy to run it??? with the holiday coming up and them delaying my check again also contractors mom was pending a quadruple bypass this past week I'm sure it will be another week before he gets started, after Thanksgiving, im sure! ugggghhhh..
Mame, the mice crack me up, they are little monsters. I had dog n cat food in the file cabinet and inside the control panel of the washing machine. even found some macaroni from the other end of house in my dresser sock drawer (had to dump the whole drawer in the laundry) anyway they are gone now I toted everything edible! BTW I did hear bout that peppermint oil solution only wouldn't work here cause there is wide open spaces to the dirt/under home. what I read sed to stuff cottonballs in the cracks/holes where they might be gaining access....anyway they are gone but they did eat at least $100 worth of food....all moms protein shakes (they chewed right thru the thin foil pulltabs) and big Costco expensive bags of nuts n dry berry's and oatmeal packets pasta n beans etc.. That is so frustrating with the surgery issue. I cant say much as I get to upset bout this stuff...I mean what are we suppose to do if we cant trust our medical professionals. ((((HUGS))) hang in there and just go with your intuition is what I can say! Be nice to have your son home, happy for you!
Stay warm everyone and hang in there!!! Peace, Juju
past worrying here...onto pissed and despairing...
Crap here, stress and regular despair compounded by yet another plant incident...I had a philodendron that was over six feet long, she said we need to put it up on stakes somehow so I brought two dowels in...Come up, next day can't find the thing, looking looking....pot is there with three small leaves on it....I couldn't believe it total replay of the last plant butchery she did two years ago...I got so pissed I went, took the pot out and smashed the damn thing on the patio, was one of my dads pots he had made so that made it all the better...Have spent two days not eating and ignoring everyone...I cleaned up the mess last night and buried the remains in the lilac shrub dirt in the corner of the yard...What is with her and cutting my plants to ribbons? Passive Aggressive?...Think I will steal/borrow my co pay for therapy tomorrow and take myself out to lunch...
Stay warm and well all, if it is all I can do I will too....Love Jen
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Bobbie is right, you are more important than this situation and I too hope that you realize that and that your survival instinct kicks in and saves you. Bobbie-we all need to hear this! Thank you!
Hello to Austin & Meanwhile, Cuz-chip monks...too funny...Sharyn-a picnic! What a great idea.
My drug of choice is Christmas Movies these days. Always a happy ending. I also painted my hallway. It was a lot of work and I am worn out but I am happy it is done. I feel like I am coming down with a cold and there is no time for that! Mom sees the hand Dr today...not sure what he can do for her contracted fingers. They effect EVERYTHING she does. Gone to sponge bathing only cause she cannot stand herself up off the tub chair in our shower....she can't get her hands around the hand rails to pull herself up and I have to be in the tub to help lift her and one of us is going to get hurt... my shoulders and back are aching from all the lifting. And bro comes to visit and witnesses one of her vagal responses (seizures as I call them) and says, "at what point is it too much to keep her here at home?" Like it is such an easy decision even with all the problems! And yes, I think about it! I keep thinking that today's appt with the Dr about her hands may answer some questions I myself have about how long I can continue. I don't know what I will do if she goes into NH...prob be there all the time and still be miserable-seeing her there and feeling guilty. Gonna wait till after todays dr visit and then the holidays to make any decisions. HA! I mean decisions about her going elsewhere-as every day is a decision to keep caring for her here! Never a quiet moment in my head. I am rambling...please forgive me.
Wondering how all the people in the Midwest are holding up. Scary storms. We just had wind here last night but no bigy in comparison...just scary after hearing what happened out west. The pictures of the devastation are unbelievable. Praying for all of them in the path!
Well, I hope everyone has a decent week. Take care all! Mame
I enjoyed a moment last week...I was stressing out with mom, she was fingerpainting with lunch rather than eating it....I felt myself getting frustrated so I just went out back and grabbed a chair, placed it in the middle of the yard facing the bright sun we had that day and just sat out there for a good twenty minutes. with the tiny leaves of my shady tree falling all over me with each gust of the light breeze! it was strangely refreshing, like a dry snow. And yesterday I grabbed the dogs and walked them up n down our street. just to get out and away for a minute....
Well mom got her cast off last week and Has gained a few pounds, which makes me happy as she is so thin!
Haven't been on much just cause have nothing to say or offer, I am cashed out right now!! I am struggling right now as I have mentioned before....... cant wait to get on the healthcare program at the first of the year! Hopefully can get some therapy and meds (at an affordable price). having no family, immediate or extended. the loneliness is a bitch, I get so stir crazy all by myself all the time. I guess I do miss that part of my old friends, at least I had someone closeby to drop in on for a quick visit (they never drop in here) but I could get out for an hour or two.....
Anyway hanging by a thread.....construction rebuild mite actually get started this week but today I am a mess....got a nasty cold! Just got back from store stocking up on a Dayquil/Nyquil dual pack....I wanted my Theraflu but could not find it here in town...someone sed they don't sell it anymore. anyway I am pretty miserable but no fever or flu sofar. praying mom doesn't get it as I still have to feed n change her and we are confined into one room together all day n night! what I wouldn't give for someone to take over for me for a day or two right now! DREAMING!!!!
Juju
The visit with the orthopedic hand specialist for mom's contracted fingers didn't do much for us. Sigh. Still the same questions-do we have the surgery done or not? Can it be done without putting her under and will it be worth it in the end? The OT comes today and I will talk with her about what the Dr said. He did say he thinks the contractions are neurological and that they are caused by mini strokes! Shots of cortisone or whatever won't do any good he said. Mom asked him twice if he was going to cut her fingers off!!!
On a good note-her bro came and visited her yesterday. He is getting a little forgetful too! It was a nice visit and she was happy to see him.
Gonna take mom out tomorrow and get her hair cut and permed for the holidays. Should be fun. I will get my hair trimmed at the same time.
Juju-glad you had a free moment with the leaves! Austin-I am getting closer and closer every day...especially now that I don't feel good!
Love ya all! Mame
Jen...I pray for you, I really truly understand how you feel and wish I could make it better. Keep hangin in there, and check in, we need you here!
Well my caregiver hurt her back and has been out for a couple weeks, she is coming back today but cannot do much but sit with her.
Mame... oh my there you go on the merrygoround....that does make sense tho if they are caused by ministrokes...cortisone or surgery probably aren't solution but where do you go from here? a neurologist maybe?? idk?
Well I have been thinking about taking mom back to the respite program for a few days but I am truly scared! at I know i need the break but if something happens to her while she is there i will not be able to cope with it. (reminder; first day i picked her up with soaking wet shitty diaper and filled her up on coffee which i specifically told them not to do! I don't know what to do...
also i still have to get her up, changed, dressed...75minutes round trip to drop off and again to pick up and then worry the whole day while she is away! it just seems like more stress than respite to me. I just don't know what to do...i do want a break so bad. but really i do want several days in a row, a break from midnite alarm for diaper change, a morning to wake up and have the day to me, etc..... so i ramble......
anyway off to take on the day, lol!!!
take care my friends....
Peace
Juju
One Hell of a Day!!
I was sitting there at the bar staring at my drink when a large, trouble-making biker steps up next to me, grabs my drink and gulps it down in one swig.
"Well, whatcha' gonna do about it?" he says menacingly, as I burst into tears.
"This is the worst day of my life," I say.
"I'm a complete failure. I was late to a meeting, and my boss fired me.
When I went to the parking lot, I found my car had been stolen, and I don't have any insurance.
I left my wallet in the cab I took home.
I found my wife with another man... and then my dog bit me.
So I came to this bar to work up the courage to put an end to it all... I buy a drink, I drop a cyanide capsule in, and I sit here watching the poison dissolve.and then you show up and . . . . . . drink the whole damn thing!
... But hell, enough about me, how are you doing?"
1.. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on
and point a Hair Dryer At Passing Cars..... See If They Slow Down.
2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice.
3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something,
ask If They Want Fries with that.
4. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks . Once Everyone has Gotten Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso.
5. In the Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write ' For Marijuana'.
6. Skip down the hall Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get.
7. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.
8. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is 'To Go'.
9. Sing Along At The Opera.
10. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend
Their Party Because You have a headache.
11. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream 'I Won! I Won!'
12. When Leaving the Zoo, Start Running towards the Parking lot,
Yelling 'Run For Your Lives! They're Loose!'
13 . Tell Your Children Over Dinner, 'Due To The Economy, We Are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.'
And The Final Way To Keep A Healthy Level Of Insanity
14. PICK UP A BOX OF CONDOMS AT THE PHARMACY,
GO TO THE COUNTER AND ASK WHERE THE FITTING ROOM IS LOCATED.
Check is delayed again, so next week for construction to start....dang it, is cold here, but guess could be worse...twenties at nite and 40's day time with no proper flooring does give a chill to the place! and cant blow the heater cuz the vents are under the temp floors which don't cover the entire home so there is wide open spaces. Amazingly tho since I got so tense and stressed in June with mom n whole hospital incident....I have anxiety and in n out of the "dark dumps" but not the stress that was physically hurting my neck, back, n arm.....Im hoping this is a sign I will get thru this OK!!!! I have so much to do to pull my life back together ironically getting up and starting to take care of it is what knocked me back down... things have not been same since we called the insurance company in...set off a chain of events again....that put us behind.
Ya we will have a refreshed home in the end but to do it right is going to take us putting in quite a bit of money....and I have to do it now or never... It wiped us off the county rehab program as well for the other repairs needed...so I do all this and spend most of our VA funds (safety net) and still have a bad roof foundation, and the fence fell apart real bad last few months as well now, guess I could just get rid of it as it is mostly decorative, serves no real purpose....dear jump over it, only 3' high and critters go between the vertical slats as they are 4-5" spacing, it doesn't contain anything.
I got to spend the evening and had dinner at my BFF house after moms doc last week that was nice but too short! They finally figured out she tore ligaments in her ankle that actually pulled pieces of bone off with it, but say cant do much but let it heal and PT, but since starting it, has worsened rather than getting better. Hope it is just temp due to the start of exercising.
So far mom seems to have avoided catching my cold, I always get so scared of anything respitory at her age and condition. and thank goodness mine didn't get real bad (in the chest) mostly head but I am coughing quite a bit. I definitely have had worse. anyway my point is this one wasn't that bad so if she does get it hope wont be that hard on her.
Have a good day to all!
Peace
Juju
Jen, how are you holding up? Things will get better.
The reason why baby diapers have brand names such as Luvs and
Huggies, while
undergarments for old people are called
Depends:
When babies poop in
their pants, people are still gonna Luv'em and
Hug'em.
When old people poop
in their pants, it Depends on who's in the
will!
thanks bobbie, mame juju, meanwhole and austin...Still alive here...unfortunately so is he...what ever. I sleep a lot and read a lot...
My therapist says; if you can't; do anything about a situation, stop making yourself crazy over worrying about it...It doesn't fix it...agree... jen
When riding a roller coaster bring a some nuts n bolts with you and on the way up tap the guy in front of you and tell him they just fell out of his seat!
rename your wifi "FBI surveillience van" (specially in my hood)
faced an issue that held great anxiety and fear for me, just bringing back into the game did feel like an accomplishment... not to continue to bury away something that needs to be done, for fear, then stressing about when will you ever get it done! anyway guess having a little mini meltdown this week was needed to knock me off my pity pot! I also have to credit you all here..by getting back on here and taking time to read back finally at least few weeks what all everyone has been doing..although the comments were not directed at me, I read some that so appropriately suited me and the feelings I was experiencing! I also gave my BFF a call and we had a nice long talk and I was able to verbally release some of this crap building up again!! and talk over some of my ideas and solutions with another living being able to reason!!!
I went to town Friday to do some shopping was in the baby dept to get some Desitin for Mom and could not resist the cutest little set of 3 onsies with pants a blanket and teether to match by Carter's. They are all Monkey themed (I love monkeys) the blanket has a monkey applicae his smile is crooked off to the side and just makes him so adorable!! So baby shower gift taken care of....even its not till Jan!!!
Well battery gonna go so I gotta too!
Hope everyone has a great weekend, we will try here in our icebox!
Peace,
Juju
Freezing rain, snow, wind chill 15 F. Had to carry hot water out to the barn to thaw water for the animals. Then middle of the morning the power went out. All that ice and wind broke a power pole off. Poor workers had to fix it in this weather. Bless their hearts they had the pole replaced and power back on in 4 hours.
Could have sworn the Dr said he could do the surgery on mom's hands under a local anesthetic... snotty "surgical coordinator" who I spoke with to schedule the release-(after much thought and chats with mom's OT) was like, "he NEVER does this surgery with a local." "Well then, I must have misunderstood....Would you please verify this with him? Cause, there is no way her Dr will give the ok to put her under general anesthesia with her lung disease.... and I told the Dr that when we saw him"...Not sure why he would even offer to do it then and tell me to think about it and call him when we were ready. Anyway....now trying to figure out plan B. Ugh. I am sad for her cause it is really painful.
Meanwhile-glad the kitty let you care for him!
Juju-good God I hope they can get some of that work done soon! Glad you could chat with your BFF.
Austin, yea, it may be time...waiting till after the Holidays to make any big decisions.
Cuz-what a crack up you are! My favorite-Page yourself over the intercom-don't disguise your voice! Hadn't heard that one before!
Jen-Love the advice your therapist gave you-wish it was as easy to do as that! I keep trying every day to not stress about things...so hard.
Hello Ande and Countrymouse!
My son's Bday is Tuesday and he will be home from college that day for the Thanksgiving break. His girlfriend will be coming too and she just had a bday. So, I got out and got some gifts. Went downstairs to get the wrapping paper from the basement....pull it out-it had been lying on its side-and all this dog food comes pouring out of the roll! Apparently the mice have been stealing the dogs food and hiding it in the tubes!!!!!!! That was good for a laugh! So much for their Thanksgiving feast-I tossed it in the garbage!
Got mom out for a perm the other day. She looks adorable-but keeps forgetting and when she sees herself she is sooooo surprised! :)
Well, I am off to bed. Hope everyone can take a nice deep breath for themselves this weekend!!!! Mame
It never really pulled above 30 here or just above, for a couple hours before sundown....not sure what temp we got indoors, thermostat stops at 50, so below that. I did buy another large room quartz heater Wednes, running full power got the living area up to bout 53-4 in the am and almost 60 by days end....bearable but I wonder if it is worth the energy to run it???
with the holiday coming up and them delaying my check again also contractors mom was pending a quadruple bypass this past week I'm sure it will be another week before he gets started, after Thanksgiving, im sure! ugggghhhh..
Mame, the mice crack me up, they are little monsters. I had dog n cat food in the file cabinet and inside the control panel of the washing machine. even found some macaroni from the other end of house in my dresser sock drawer (had to dump the whole drawer in the laundry) anyway they are gone now I toted everything edible! BTW I did hear bout that peppermint oil solution only wouldn't work here cause there is wide open spaces to the dirt/under home. what I read sed to stuff cottonballs in the cracks/holes where they might be gaining access....anyway they are gone but they did eat at least $100 worth of food....all moms protein shakes (they chewed right thru the thin foil pulltabs) and big Costco expensive bags of nuts n dry berry's and oatmeal packets pasta n beans etc..
That is so frustrating with the surgery issue. I cant say much as I get to upset bout this stuff...I mean what are we suppose to do if we cant trust our medical professionals. ((((HUGS))) hang in there and just go with your intuition is what I can say!
Be nice to have your son home, happy for you!
Stay warm everyone and hang in there!!!
Peace,
Juju
Crap here, stress and regular despair compounded by yet another plant incident...I had a philodendron that was over six feet long, she said we need to put it up on stakes somehow so I brought two dowels in...Come up, next day can't find the thing, looking looking....pot is there with three small leaves on it....I couldn't believe it total replay of the last plant butchery she did two years ago...I got so pissed I went, took the pot out and smashed the damn thing on the patio, was one of my dads pots he had made so that made it all the better...Have spent two days not eating and ignoring everyone...I cleaned up the mess last night and buried the remains in the lilac shrub dirt in the corner of the yard...What is with her and cutting my plants to ribbons? Passive Aggressive?...Think I will steal/borrow my co pay for therapy tomorrow and take myself out to lunch...
Stay warm and well all, if it is all I can do I will too....Love Jen