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Sorry, Bobbie321. It must hurt to be missing her so much. What happens on the 9th? So, I take it you're still out East? You plan on staying there for good? When do you get the boat? Hugs!

Miz, thanks for the other note you left :) I responded there.
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Hello Everyone!! We got the new patio furniture and hubby put it together yesterday. It's nice!! :) Now we just gotta keep the cats from snagging it up.

bobbie, those tears are healthy. I'm glad you're allowing yourself to grieve. I'm also glad you're keeping busy. That helps. Do you have any pets? They can be so comforting.

Gotta get in and change Mom. Had poopie fingers this morning so am not looking forward to it. She's such a dear though. More later. Thanks, everyone, for being here.

love,
miz
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hi there folks .
doing good here , got pa out of bed , he s happy about that . kept him in bed yesterday and he wasnt too happy , he couldnt even try to get up . i cried lastnght watching him . cuz he s in lalaland . he told my daughter that he talked to his son who died in camper fire few yrs back . and ask her if she seen him , she said no i didnt see him he said well i did and we talked . she ask him what ya guys talked about ? he started mumble jumble , didnt understand him .
dr put him on antibodi , i think that made him loopy . or its the uti thats makin him loopy . anyway i cried when he wouldnt look at me . it was like he s mad at me . i ask him if he was mad at me he wouldnt answer me , i said oh noo u are mad what have i done to make u mad at me ? he said oh im not mad . but i know he is , told him in the morning we;ll work very hard to get u up , he said ok . so morning came and we did it and only to hurt my toes again by puttin pressures on it . oww owww , now that made me have a headache ,
i picked greenbeans out of garden while ago and now i feel like i need a nap cuz my poor old toes just a achin .
i dont want to go get it xrayed cuz it cost money . plus nothing they can do for it . other than t ellin me to stay off of it . cant do that.. got pa to take care of . ah i ll be ok . just gonna be a long road to recovery .
pa sleepin on the recliner , happy to be in living room . bless his heart .
have a good day you all . xoxo

bobbie , my heart goes out to u . ure griefing . missing your mom so much . i know my friend , i cried for about a year . missin my mom . i accept it now and know shes in better place , get away from this mad mad crazy ass world here . she had suffer enuff . cancer was eating her up inside. how i remmy hearing her cries and moan and cried , shoot more morphine till she passed away . i still miss my mom and always will . i love my mom , she s the best mom ever ! just like my dad .
it takes time to heal so its ok to cry .
bet ur moms on that boat waiting for u to go for a ride . :-) xoxo
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Miz, I hope you and hubby enjoy your new furniture! How about your mom? Is she up for it? Can you cover it to protect it from the cats?

lhardebeck, what a trooper! You know, maybe it's more than UTI causing your dad's symptoms. Just a thought. Hope you take care of you. He may not be mad at you. I've learned not to take things with my dad too serious. Some moments he's fine, and gives me a smile, and sometimes he doesn't. I can only do my best, and let his negative reactions go. You are doing a great job, and his reactions may not always reflect that, but you know, and God knows. Take care!
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miz , my nephew bought a new leather furnture and was worried about his dog gettin on it . someone told him to set bunch mouse traps on it and he did , it works ! that dog dont dare get near the leather furntiure ,
but as for a cat , ouch it be limpin like i am .
cats are harder to train to keep em off things . my cat louie loves to get on my husbands recliner and he knows its a no no , but for me he doesnt care and i dont care either , but when he see s my husband oops busted he crawl down like im in trouble !! and i get in trouble for letting him get on , he has long white hair and grrr hair everywhere ! he dont have front claws so im not worried about him tearin it up .
we had a cat before oh mygosh the back of my couch , chairs would all be nothing left but foam hangin out of it ! she got old and had to be put down , then fell in love with my white kitty and hubby just had a fit ! so took them claws out , i felt bad but hey if im keepin it in the house those claws gotta go . maybe those hairs gotta go too ! :-) hes going to get haircut friday . long hair all tangled up and its pullin his skin , poor guy !
he will feel better and be happy . me too .

austin how was ur bday ? good i hope .
ss i wonder if it was just more than a uti also . today he ssleeping , yesterday and day before he didnt sleep at all . so now hes sleepin like a baby . :-) thank you s.s . xoxo
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SS, our caregiver told me about some things you put over the cat's claws. They're plastic or something.

Hubby also bought a used dining set for the back patio. It's pretty nice. Rattan or wicker or something. The table top is glass and scratched up but it's not bad. He got a real good deal. He also bought a new used dryer cause ours is screeching so bad. He got started to put install it but then decided to finish tiling the floor back there and now he's napping so the kitchen is a disaster. It might be a pizza delivery night. :)

lhardebeck, you oughta see my desk chair. It's leather like and scratched all to heck. Did your nephew's dog get caught by a mouse trap?

love,
miz
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Gonna see if Mom wants to go sit on the new furniture now. Boy do I ever need a nap. I got a call from one of the places I applied to for a part time job. Blah blah blah don't need anyone right now but they will keep my resume on file blah blah blah. That's how I feel...blah.
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Ihard thanks for asking I am having my greanson overnight tonight and my son got me cand a abeautilul plant and took me to a hypnosis specialist for sleep disorder that is grandson. To train a cat put water in spray bottle and spray in the face when they are bad -they hate and do remember the next time. It is too hot -haven't done much outside for a few days
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Thanks, Austin. I did that to keep them off the kitchen counter but I had not thought of it to keep them from clawing the furniture. Great idea!!
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oh haha i did thought about the plastic thing to put on louie s nail but i cant imagin even tryin to do that . he would have tore me up bythe time i get one in , nanaa paininthebutt .
i ask my nephew if his dog got trapped in , he said no , it went off and it scared him .
spray bottle mmm my gfriend did that but it didnt work on her . they turn around do it again when she sets the bottle down . lol .
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lhardebeck, because your dad's doc wanted him to see a neurologist, I thought it might be something wrong. You sure it wasn't a urologist? I was speaking to the smelly urine issue. Yuk subject, but that's what the gross out thread is all about. If he won't follow through, maybe he knows something is wrong, too. Or maybe he's better now???

My dad had a quarterly review this morning. He scored a zero (0) on his mini mental exam. I had to ask, 0? When they showed me the test, he didn't answer any question. He doesn't comprehend a word we're saying. Save, look at that... or come with me... That's it. Ugh :( sad!
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SS, I'm so sorry. It is sad to see such a decline. All you can do is be your sweet self with him...the loving daughter that you are. I'll pray for you and for him.

love,
miz
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Thank you, dear Miz. I appreciate your support. I almost forgot to mention that mom showed up during my visit. Today is their 53rd Wedding Anniversary. The encounter was uneventful, and she behaved. Though I don't trust her, or her "friend," who are both...well, some things are better left unsaid. I wish I didn't have to deal with her, but we share my dad (her husband). And she doesn't treat him very nice. She'll answer to God one day for the way she treated him, and me. So, I just keep being...loving daughter. And I keep my distance from mom. She's on her own planet.
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SS, I'm glad it was uneventful with your mother. I can somewhat relate to having to deal with someone that I don't particularly want to. Keeping your distance is best. Hugs.

miz
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Thank you, sweet sister!
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Talk about gross, and needing to vent, I changed pook 6 times today. I called my sister and asked her what in the world did they feed momz yesterday. She said red beans and rice. I went in the fridge, took the rest of those beans out and THREW THEM OUT! Yuck!!!!
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Oh ewww, pamela. Talk about a nice gift for you. :P Sorry you had to go through that s@#$.

miz
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pamela !! haha thats wonderful that ur mom can poop em all out , for a while pa wasnt poopin and had me worried , till i bought some fleet and he went poopin it all out and says now i dont need the depository uh , i said no u got lucky !!
pa still sleeping , so had me a lit break outside slurpin my coffee and smoke about 3 ciggy and thought to ck my mail and will be gettin bfast going here soon . poor old toes still dont wanna heal . i wish wish i didnt hurt my toes , its bringin me down !
i shall get me a steeltoe boots ! i had one but it fell apart after workin in it for years .
you all have a good day and enjoy them poop ! one day u ll miss it , NOT !! xoxo
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Hey lhard, had to share with you about the toes. Several years back I was running around barefoot (guess we both know that's a dumb thing to do) and jamed my foot onto a protruding corner so that the corner jamed my toes apart. Hurt like a big dog! Had to go to an interview (at a job I really, really wanted) wearing my business attire accesorized by my flip flops and a cane. When I walked in to a panel of 8 interviewers, I quickly called attention to my predicament. Told them what happened, apologized for the "inappropriate" business atire. They all commenced to laughing and I got the job...moral of the story is....work it sista, work it!
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Bobbi, they sound like a great group of people. :)
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wow bobbi , u lucky dog !! lol . yes they sound like good people , u had em laughin and fell in love with ya .
hey miz maybe you should stub ur toes too maybe ya get a job ? wink .

pa s lookin good today , walked in there his eyes were open , i said well hello there and good morning , he smiled said im hungry ! i said yes i bet you are ! let sgo bathroom and get ya all cleaned up for good ole bfast . ohh my he was happy camper ! hes lookin better , thank u jesus ! he ate so much and got a full belly there , sausage gravy and scramble eggs . his favorite meal of the day .
he stood up straight and tall and walked few step to get in his recliner . that made me happy . usualy he had to be lifted up and carry him , grr i hate it when that happens . didnt hurt my toe today so thats a plus !
have a good day u all .
bobbie123 , hope ure getting the job done at home . bet ure missing ur hubby and ur home , it'll all be over soon . wish i could come and help u speedy up so u can go back home to ur honeybun . get ur whip out and make those guys work a lit faster , wink ..
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LOL lhardebeck, maybe so. I'm glad your pa is doing better. :)
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Where is everyone?? Don't make me come after you. ;)
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lol
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Hello Maties,

I fell asleep. been working too hard and had to finally just go with it.
I got my helper to stay home for a few days so I can organize the stuff that he brought up from the BASEMENT.....oooohhhhh.

Lots of glasses and mugs and little appliances and decent clothes that are going to be picked up tomorrow by the Viet Nam vets. saved one of my dad's suits and haven't gone through mom's upstairs clothes yet.

Linda's toes, Bobbi gets a job with whammo toe.
My left low back is killing me with all of the lifting and bending.

Thanks for the hugs Miz. you're the stuff. It was very profound for me and has literally changed my life. I'm understanding that she isn't suffering anymore and that she's free and with my daddy. Miss them both like crazy.

Thanks for the love Linda and glad your pa is feeling better and chowing down.

SS hope you're doing well today.

ok..... gonna put some icy hot on my sore back.

did I ever tell you guys about a girlfriend of mine who had the icy hot in a drawer next to the KY? Well, it was dark, they were excited and she did the dance of 10 Indians for about 3 hours.

lovbob

BOAT!
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yeah, I'm glad you're thinking boat. I'm dreaming of it.
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bobbie 123 ue killin me ! i busted out laughin about the icyhot next to ky . did the indian dance woohoo! damn .
well got bad news and need ur prayers !
my 2 and half yrs old granddaughter is in the hospital for children , a dirtbike fell on her and the brake handle went right thru her foot ! hubby said it looks like a bullet went thru her foot and the bottom of her foot is blown out , xray shows no brokenbones , just all the muscles and tissues etc in her foot is a big hole . lost alot of blood ,
so i am watching my other 2 grandkids here , theyre stayin the night while my son an dhis wife stays up at the hospital with thier middle child ,
got8 mos old boy and 4 years old girl here , my daughter is helpin me out . thank god for her !
prayers plzz . goodnight all xooxox
bobbie thanks i needed that laugh . xoxo
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Wow, lhardebeck, that sounds awful. Will keep her in prayer.

Bobbie, I imagine you are tired, after all you've been doing. Hope the rest is refreshing, and that you'll find more of it very soon. Hugs.
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Thanks SS. don't want to find TOO much rest.....

Feeling better because now I'm going to the diner in the am and getting a good bfast.

linda! omg. poor baby. ow. Angels go sit with her and take the hurt away.

Another day of processing stuff. moving forward slowly.

You all hang in there and love you

Bob
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Finally able to relax a little now that Merry is spending 5 days a week with Mom. Wish I could lend her out to all of you too! It feels good to just sit and read a book, or have a friend visit and go out to lunch together. It's been over 2 years since I've been able to do that. I know it has been a lot longer for some of you, and my heart goes out to you!
Linda, sounds like your dad had a whopper of a UTI! Glad he's better. What a difference those antibiotics can make. So sorry about your toes. been there myself. Had shoulder surgery last May and 22 staples for 4 weeks. Was not supposed to use the arm at all, and wear the sling constantly. Unfortunately, my sibs only helped out for a week, and the sling was off ! I still had to deal with Mom every day and help her dress, etc. Good thing I'm a fast healer! Your poor little grand daughter! I hope she is alright. Good thing kids bounce back fast!
Miz, New furniture sounds great! Poopie fingers, not so much. Keep up the good work with Mom.
SS, So sorry for you and your dad, but glad Mom is leaving you alone. You have been through enough.Take care.
Austin, Happy belated Birthday! Did you say you live in New England? I am in central Mass. in a small town near the Quabbin Reservoir.
Pamela, Yuck! Need I say more? Mom does that once a week. I think they get plugged up and let go when their tank is full!!!
Bobbie321, So glad you are getting things done. I have already been in my pool more times this year, than the last two put together. Rest is good. Going out to eat is better! Love the Icey Hot story!!!!!
Everyone take care and try to take time for yourself.
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