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I'm going out tonight with a couple of my friends. Dinner at Red Lobster and maybe a movie. I want to see The Help. I've heard it's really good. David will be with mama. Whoo Hooo!!
Mom's arm are very painful still. I got the Aide to bring me some Tegaderm. It resembles packing tape and will hold the skin together and stay on her till it washes off. Since it's clear I can keep a watch on it too. It looks pretty gooey and kinda puss...Ha! I started to say pussy but I don't think that's right. Lol!! What is the plural or adverbal word for puss? Anyway the bandages would not stay put she's so little. They slip right down her arm. So now with the left arm broken and the right arm torn up....bless her heart she's in pain. Good ole percocet.
As I was changing her bandages I told her I love her. She said "well you're supposed to love your sister." I said "Am I your sister?" She's anry at me for using the sofa seat belt on her. She won't use the Redneck Life Alert. She has managed to get out of the bed belt twice now. I don't know how she does it. A regular Houdini. Almost every time she gets loose she falls. One day it will be a hip.
Oh yeah, did I mention that my compressor on my airconditioner/furnace burned up the other day. We smelled smoke and went nuts looked for a fire. Turned off the air and the smell went away. Don't know what we'll do about that. No money right now.
Gotta go get ready to go out. I'll check back tomorrow. Y'all have a good evening.
kim , hope ur foot heals up . i broke i think 3 last toes last summer , wham it on the chair , i mean hard ! once in a while it would ache . ow ! annt- have a blast with ur friends ! woo woo . and be safe ... flex - i cked it out and ummm nothing like A C . This is my home , i ll stay here . tator soup was so good yummie , heard its gonna rain on saturday waaaaaaaaaaaaa. run my partay , where smy raincoat ? i ll find em , i have a yellow raincoat and it has a big smilin face on the back . mariesmom - how is it going ? havent heard from u today . cricket ??? jsomebody ?? missing u all folks . deefer ! austin and many more .... xoxox
I figured out at least one big reason why the last few days have been so hard. My dad passed away 6 years ago yesterday. I didn't even realize it until I was at work today. It's so weird when you know something but don't know it and it still affects you. Does that make sense??
HI gang, I'm so aggravated I ranted for 30 minutes in a post and then got the error after hitting submit HAH! you guys lucked out cause i had a shitload of stuff to hiss about... I'll share only one.... Dad goes outta his way to keep me from seeing his penis but then i go into his room to ck on him and he's sitting with it sticking out of the slit in his jammies.. Wha? Where's the Depends when you need one! That's my story and I'm sticking to it. At least that's all I'm gonna say about this awful day, lol Kim, sorry about your foot...stop kicking those 2x4's LOL, Ann.. you poor thing....your poor Ma! Yay! Red Lobster... enjoy it and don't worry when your out just be the WOMAN you know is still in there somewhere! LOL Linda...., if it rains on Saturday grab your hubby and drag him out to some mud puddles and stomp away for some good old fun!! OMG.. Linday I hope you remembered to clean under your fingernails before having that poo oops potato soup! o.O Flex, I checked it out also and found some great articles there so I bookmarked it to go back to read more later. oh and Flex... yes it makes perfect sense. Hugs all around... off to cook dinner but I'LL BE BACK TO GIVE YOU GUYS HELL :)
hey Linda yeah still here, sorry to hear Karen lost her mom, explains alot... Miz tell bobbie we are with her in spirit if not electronically for the mo...hey deef, anniversary days it is like the body and emotions remember before you logically track the days... Hope you are doing Ok there...
So last night I gave Mom her pills after supper. Crush them all except for her extend release sinamet, for PD. This helps control the tremors. I was on AC for a while, waiting for the meds to kick in, when I noticed she was a literal mess!!! So I got her on the toilet to wash her and get her ready for bed. I went to take her dentures out and found the pill was still in her mouth!!! No wonder she was such a mess! So I put the pill back in her mouth with apple sauce and gave her a drink. Wouldn't let me take her dentures out, so I put her in bed. Before I went to bed, I checked on her and took her dentures out, and wouldn't you know, that damn pill was still in her mouth!!! I don't know how she did it, but the f'ing pill was still sitting there in her mouth!!! You can bet I made double sure she swallowed it tonight!! Karen, Sorry for your loss! Linda, Tater soup!!! I love to make potato leek soup. It's one of my favorites! And yes, those dang fingernails can get really nasty!!! Cricket, penis,hmmmmmm! What a way to spend quality time with your dad!!! The things I have seen and done over the past 5 years absolutely amaze me sometimes!!!. Hey Kim! How's it going? AnnT, Hope you have a great time out with the girls! Diane, How are you tonight? Miz, hope you feel better by the weekend. Okay, off to do a sink full of dishes!
Hi Y'all, Just finished washing my sink full of dishes. Waiting to talk to the b/f briefly then I'm off to bed. Mom had a good check-up with the doctor today. She asked how I was holding up with the turmoil and I told her I just handle things now as if the family doesn't even exist. I wish I knew how to stop the hurt it causes, but life goes on, mom needs care and bills need to be paid. The sis decided to make her "weight" be known by cutting the financial contribution to mom every two weeks. This is the great $300 a month I'm supposed to kiss their a$$e$ for. At least the doctor had some sympathy unlike the family.
My cat Remus just knocked the tub of treats off the shelf as if to tell me "Yoo hoo, I need treats!!!!" My cats are 15 and 20 lbs. Do you think they need treats?
I had a surprise this morning and opened the door and felt nice cool air. It was 59 degrees. Wow it felt good!!!!! I can't wait for the fricken summer to be over. I hate the really hot weather.
The cat is trying again to get my attention. He is sitting behind my head sulking. The next move will be to sit on the laptop.
Deef, maybe you need to get a pill shooter like they use for pets :0. Linda, sorry for the poop soup everywhere today. Nasty mess. Miz, some anniversaries are instinctively remembered, no matter how long. Feel better and get out that black hole. Cricket Peek-a-boo-penis? Ann, enjoy dinner and the movie. The Help is a great movie. Kim, if you drop a 2x 4 on your own foot, what would you do to me :) Jen, hang in there girl. SS, tell those sibs KMA. Its been my favorite saying lately. I sent Bobbie a text earlier but no reply. I hope she is ok. I checked Essentcaregiver's website and forgive my cynicism, but I think it is a platform just to sell essential oils.
Have a restful night my fellow caregivers and may the angels keep watch over your charges.
If the Movie "the help" is anything like the book it will be fantastic! I got it on audio format and just loved it. It's one of those stories that made me feel that every woman shouldn't miss. Diane, those are some big cats! And I'm with you on the heat.. I would just love a blast of cool air but it's not going to happen here in S. Florida anytime soon. I checked EC website also and it may be a platform for selling those essential oils or perhaps they have been very useful for her and others and she just wants to get a discount for herself by doing that. I found a couple good articles that were posted by Margarete that I found helpful. I didn't check out the forum and don't plan to because I like it here. Seems like the dishes never get done. Taking dad to the dermatologist tomorrow early am because he has two areas that look infected... he is not cleaning himself after visiting the commode, ack... probably won't be long and I'll be wiping ass with the rest of you... our beloved ones asses that is, LOL I think I'm going to have to take dad to a geriatric doctor to help me get more specific diagnosis and prognosis. He has the symptoms of LB even though his primary doc just says AD. His visiting nurse came today to help him shower and she tells me he is still not cleaning himself properly so now we are on plan C for another week. I can see this getting worse in that dad gets very agitated when I question him about it or even try to discuss it with him. :( I know that that is part of the disease. He always says "i'm not as bad as you think i am" so today I had the nurse do the talking to him so it wouldn't come from me. I told my hubby "it looks like wiping dad's butt is coming real soon" he said... well have fun with that. PRICK! actually he is going to have some fun with it to he just doesn't know it yet. MUHAHAHA! I hope everyone is doing okay tonight.
Ok this is weird. I have a desk top and a lap top and when I use my desk top every time I make a comment I have to log in again. When I use my laptop I don't. Well last night when I got home from my night out I used my laptop and posted about my evening. This morning it wasn't there. I posted two more times this morning from my laptop and they didn't show up either and I got a message saying they couldn't process my comment to go back and review it and see if it contained any characters. Seems we can no longer use smiley faces and such. Which neither comment had. Now I'm on my desktop and it's letting me comment if I log in each time I post. How can I notify "them" to find out what the problem is?
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I hope I have the computer figured out.... uninstalled a video player that was the last change to the computer and might have made my display act squirrelly. I am still on the boat while I wait for news about some boat stuff that I want to have finished before I go. Of course I don't want to leave the boat but I have to and at least when it is over I can move her to a more fun environment where I am not so isolated and just flat lonely. sure is good for my writing but hey.... still would like to hang out with some folks now and again.
thanks again everyone for saying such nice things and being so kind to me and to each other. I am hoping that MsM will post soon and let us know how things are going in her day. Flex! thx for the text and I am about to hit you back... just had a rough day yesterday and a rough night too. Happens, even when you are finished caregiving but still dealing with the residual issues.
Love you guys way more than you'll ever know. lovbob
ok Miz, I just sent them an email. Hope it works. Thanks so much.
I had a great time last night. We talked for two and a half hours then went to see The Help. It was great. I got home after 1am. I feel so much more relaxed today.
Kim, so sorry about your foot. hope it better today.
I bragged to my friends last night about what a great bunch of gals and guys we have here. You all are the BEST!!
morning crews . happy anniversary to me . 32 yrs today :-) at 2 o clock . bobbie - am glad to see that u got ur puter a going again . i panic when mine acts out and am on cloud 9 when its purrin again . i was panicin for u bobbie . went out and walked the dogs since they didnt get to go yesterday cuz ofthe rain . wasnt about to walk em in the rain ,. today its just a misty not hurting me any , the dogs were happycampers and treated em with lit meaty bones to bribe em back in thier kennel , works like a charms . lucky now cuz it is starting to rain a bit heavy . think its from the tropical storm from south somwhere . saw theres 3 more comin from out south . hope it goes out back in the ocean for u all s sakes . saw the news this mornin virgina and nj is a mess . heart aches for em all . kim- hows ur foot ? hope its all better today . i know i broke at least 3 of my toes last summer . hurt like hell for a good 6 mos or so . runnin and drunk dont mix lol ... wham on the leg of chair ,. ow ow ow . was glad it didnt make me cry . am concerned about mariesmom . anybody know how to get hd of her ? hope all is well at her way . prayers ... annt- i am so proud of you and u shall give ur hubby a big hug from me to sit with dad for ya and let u have a good break ! my hubby is that way too . always tells me ure over 21 arent ya ? uhh yeah 2 times i think . some men would not dare let thier wifes go anywhere . phhhhht dont like men like that . im only human like they are . woke up 445 this am , went to pee and thought i guess i ll fix coffee and have me moments for a while . and it sure was nice . then heard dad whimperin so went to take care of him and fix him his bfast and now he has a full belly and is back to sleep again . ill have to go shoppin later evening to buy all kinds of meat and get em ready for sat . going to cook em all friday so i dont have to do any cooking sat am . deef , flex - happy to hear from you . think of u often . miz - is it rainin over there yet ? i feel for texas . hope they ll get some good rain . why am i egettin the rain for ? imno where near where the tropical storm is , i just dont understand . cricket - i remmy the first time i had to wipe dad s butt . oh gosh , but now i dont even think anything of it . its like wipin my own butt . he couldnt reach to the back so i had to do it . what started was when he used the walker i had to walk behind him to make sure he doesnt walk backwards and fall so ended up going bathroom with him and ended up wipin his but , thinking damn i wish i had some gloves ! got lit crap on my fingers i thought i was going to faint ! so i went and bought boxes of gloves . ya best start buyin em cuz u ll need em . ok i better get back to laundry and dusting grrrr . have a good day you all . xoxox
Hey Crew. It looks like we need to send angels to mariesmom. She posted on Caregiver Inspirations and it does not look like her mom is doing well at all.
Hi Mateys, Bobbie I'm glad your puter is purring again. You sound so much better than a few days ago. Kim, I'm waiting to hear how that foot of yours is doing? Ann woohoo! So glad you got some down time. Hi Linda, Happy Anniversary. Took Dad to the Dermatologist this morning and now we have antibiotics forever and 3 different issues, 3 different creams.. What we thought was Shingles turns out to be Herpes on his back and it looks like fungal infection on his "Johnson" or it could be 1 fungal and 1 something else.. BLA... have to wait for lab on the last one but treat it like fungal just in case. Linda I' getting the gloves for sure now. So now we have COPD, Arthritis, Gerd, Prostrate, LB AD, Herpes and more fungal infections.. I'm sure I probably forgot something. Sighs.. Miz, thanks for the Angel Alert on MsM, she did post on a different thread last night and was pretty funny.. on the Depends one. Have a great day everyone. BBL love you all!
Hello, thank you for welcoming me into your group. I have to admit that when I responded to the "Grossed out ..." post, I did not look for the date it was posted. But as it's said "everything happens for a reason", so I figure there is a reason that I'm here. Here a little about me: I was caregiver to my mother for 5 years and 20 years later to my husband - both dementia or Alzheimers. My husband passed away in 2005. We made the big mistake of moving to a whole new setting in 2000 and it seemed to hasten his decline.
An interesting observation I made, and maybe others have the same going on, maybe it is especially true for those traumatized by this awful disease - after my husband passed away, I did not go into grieving mode for about a year, and then, suddenly it hit and I went through all the phases. Took me about another year to come out of it.
Did any of you who have lost your loved one experience such a delay?
I'm sorry. I should have checked in and didn't mean anyone to worry. You guys are so sweet and caring. I appreciate it more than you know - and also I'm not used to it. I don't have a strong track record with women as friends as I am brutally honest and tend not to mince words and this causes issues e.g. "yes those pants do make you look fat."
THE FOLLOWING IS SAD STUFF - please skip if the last thing you need to read is something sad. I promise to be funny again very soon!
I tend to the pragmatic - and thus have been consumed with lining up all the ducks that will be marching (ala Peabody Hotel in Memphis)in Moms final parade, be it next week or next year. Some may be shocked by my cold efficiency - I have found and ordered and by tomorrow will be taking delivery of the perfect soft pink gown I long ago promised my Mom I would bury her in. Matching slippers too. I have a spreadsheet with all the numbers I'll need to call, from Army retirement to the sitter for the cats. Our plan to move mom home before she passes was determined as more sympathetic than realistic - what if we got down there and she lived another year? So all the arrangements to get her from MD to GA are pending, (transporters, funeral home, cemetery), I have the flowers I will want sitting in a teleflora online holding basket, and amidst all this and other concerns (my oldest daughter is quite ill with mastitis in her breast - she is breastfeeding as well, my youngest daughter is still in Canada and her husband's grandmother who they are living with is dying) I've been working on Mom's eulogy.
It was hard enough every year to find the right Mothers Day card for mom (going back to the brutally honest aspect - I usually just bought a blank one) and this eulogy business is that x 100. As Mom's cruelty and indifference provided me with enough material for a 220,000 word novel - there is simply not a lot of 'kind and sweet and wonderful mother' material available to work with. But there is some. I will make it happen and it will be good. ----- Mom is not doing well. She has her cath in as of yesterday and it was the right thing to do per Nurse Holly. Her urine is very dark and full of sediment. She is now refusing to eat or drink and is taking her meds sublingually. On the other hand it took 3 of us to hold her (bless my husband) when the Hospice aid bathed her today - Mom made a good attempt at kneeing Ashley in the head. Her weight loss is thus far confined to her temporal lobes, which now have a hallow appearance. --- I intend my next post to be cheerier - OK? I am reading and keeping up with all you lovelies (and that included Ted and Cuz)! If it doesn't stop raining soon I may see Bobbie boating by - and if I do I'm swimming out to meet her for a Margarita. ---- Kisses
Cricket, there shoud be some sort of initiation for when you get to the ass wiping stage. I'll have to give that some thought. Just as grossed out at witnessing the peek-a-boo-penis, I was very disturbed by having to insert vaginal medication for mom.
Jen, don't choke FP with the pill shooter! I could feel that glint in your eye....lol
Linda, Happy Anniversary. I can't imagine 32 years with one man, but it is nice to know its possible :)
Miz, did you kick that black hole to the curb yet? I laughed when you said on FB that at least I wasn't craving pickles because I bought a bottle of baby sweet gherkins the night before!
Rip, I need my fellow cynic! SS, what's up! Rossella, where are you? Did you say the hell with everything and stay at the beach?
Ann, I am so happy for you and envious that you had a great night out! I swear my b/f and I will actually have a "date" in the near future. I get to meet some of his family for the first time this week. His niece is visiting from Myrtle Beach this weekend and they are having a family get together.
Ok, that's all my poor brain can remember right now. Anyone got any ideas on how to cook two boneless skinless chicken breast? I have red & green peppers that I need to do something with too. Fajitas maybe? I don't have the tortillas though. I really don't feel like cooking, but as I am broke, I have to cook what I have.
Barb, It may be a bit depressing, but I'm impressed by your organization. I know mom has a plot next to my dad, but I need to find out about what needs to be done in SC to transport to FL. I also need to think about a casket and the cost for the vault and actual burial. I told my family if anything happened to me I was to be buried in a "green" cemetery. You aren't embalmed, they use a plain pine casket and you decay naturally. The way my family is acting these days they would probably cremate me because that is something I fear. I really shouldn't because I'll be dead anyway, but it still terrifies me.
Ok, I really have to get off my arse and go figure out what to do with this chicken.
Hi MsM, I think that even if your Mom lasts longer than expected than when she does go you will be so relieved that you handled as many of the arrangements as you could ahead of time. It's not a cold thing to do at all. It's an act of love on your part, for both your Mom and yourself. My prayers are with you and your family. Next time I take a drink I will cheer "here's to staying sane". I hope your daughter's problem gets taken care of soon. That's got to hurt! As far as intending to be more cheerier.. don't worry about that, just be whatever you need to be to help you get through this. You and I would be good friends because of your brutal honesty, in my opinion it's being real and you don't see much of that nowadays. And besides if someone asks a question they better be prepared to hear the truth. Keep us posted.
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Mom's arm are very painful still. I got the Aide to bring me some Tegaderm. It resembles packing tape and will hold the skin together and stay on her till it washes off. Since it's clear I can keep a watch on it too. It looks pretty gooey and kinda puss...Ha! I started to say pussy but I don't think that's right. Lol!! What is the plural or adverbal word for puss? Anyway the bandages would not stay put she's so little. They slip right down her arm. So now with the left arm broken and the right arm torn up....bless her heart she's in pain. Good ole percocet.
As I was changing her bandages I told her I love her. She said "well you're supposed to love your sister." I said "Am I your sister?" She's anry at me for using the sofa seat belt on her. She won't use the Redneck Life Alert. She has managed to get out of the bed belt twice now. I don't know how she does it. A regular Houdini. Almost every time she gets loose she falls. One day it will be a hip.
Oh yeah, did I mention that my compressor on my airconditioner/furnace burned up the other day. We smelled smoke and went nuts looked for a fire. Turned off the air and the smell went away. Don't know what we'll do about that. No money right now.
Gotta go get ready to go out. I'll check back tomorrow. Y'all have a good evening.
Love and BIG hugs to you all.
Ann
annt- have a blast with ur friends ! woo woo . and be safe ...
flex - i cked it out and ummm nothing like A C . This is my home , i ll stay here .
tator soup was so good yummie ,
heard its gonna rain on saturday waaaaaaaaaaaaa. run my partay , where smy raincoat ? i ll find em , i have a yellow raincoat and it has a big smilin face on the back .
mariesmom - how is it going ? havent heard from u today .
cricket ???
jsomebody ??
missing u all folks . deefer ! austin and many more .... xoxox
sorry to hear Karen lost her mom, explains alot... Miz tell bobbie we are with her in spirit if not electronically for the mo...hey deef, anniversary days it is like the body and emotions remember before you logically track the days... Hope you are doing Ok there...
You can bet I made double sure she swallowed it tonight!!
Karen, Sorry for your loss!
Linda, Tater soup!!! I love to make potato leek soup. It's one of my favorites! And yes, those dang fingernails can get really nasty!!!
Cricket, penis,hmmmmmm! What a way to spend quality time with your dad!!! The things I have seen and done over the past 5 years absolutely amaze me sometimes!!!.
Hey Kim! How's it going?
AnnT, Hope you have a great time out with the girls!
Diane, How are you tonight?
Miz, hope you feel better by the weekend.
Okay, off to do a sink full of dishes!
Just finished washing my sink full of dishes. Waiting to talk to the b/f briefly then I'm off to bed. Mom had a good check-up with the doctor today. She asked how I was holding up with the turmoil and I told her I just handle things now as if the family doesn't even exist. I wish I knew how to stop the hurt it causes, but life goes on, mom needs care and bills need to be paid. The sis decided to make her "weight" be known by cutting the financial contribution to mom every two weeks. This is the great $300 a month I'm supposed to kiss their a$$e$ for. At least the doctor had some sympathy unlike the family.
My cat Remus just knocked the tub of treats off the shelf as if to tell me "Yoo hoo, I need treats!!!!" My cats are 15 and 20 lbs. Do you think they need treats?
I had a surprise this morning and opened the door and felt nice cool air. It was 59 degrees. Wow it felt good!!!!! I can't wait for the fricken summer to be over. I hate the really hot weather.
The cat is trying again to get my attention. He is sitting behind my head sulking. The next move will be to sit on the laptop.
Deef, maybe you need to get a pill shooter like they use for pets :0. Linda, sorry for the poop soup everywhere today. Nasty mess. Miz, some anniversaries are instinctively remembered, no matter how long. Feel better and get out that black hole. Cricket Peek-a-boo-penis? Ann, enjoy dinner and the movie. The Help is a great movie. Kim, if you drop a 2x 4 on your own foot, what would you do to me :) Jen, hang in there girl. SS, tell those sibs KMA. Its been my favorite saying lately. I sent Bobbie a text earlier but no reply. I hope she is ok. I checked Essentcaregiver's website and forgive my cynicism, but I think it is a platform just to sell essential oils.
Have a restful night my fellow caregivers and may the angels keep watch over your charges.
Luv ya,
Diane/Flex
I hope everyone is doing okay tonight.
Reading the 9/11 Commission report here on line, fucking depressing....God those poor people!!!!
I hope I have the computer figured out.... uninstalled a video player that was the last change to the computer and might have made my display act squirrelly.
I am still on the boat while I wait for news about some boat stuff that I want to have finished before I go.
Of course I don't want to leave the boat but I have to and at least when it is over I can move her to a more fun environment where I am not so isolated and just flat lonely. sure is good for my writing but hey.... still would like to hang out with some folks now and again.
thanks again everyone for saying such nice things and being so kind to me and to each other.
I am hoping that MsM will post soon and let us know how things are going in her day.
Flex! thx for the text and I am about to hit you back... just had a rough day yesterday and a rough night too. Happens, even when you are finished caregiving but still dealing with the residual issues.
Love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
lovbob
I had a great time last night. We talked for two and a half hours then went to see The Help. It was great. I got home after 1am. I feel so much more relaxed today.
Kim, so sorry about your foot. hope it better today.
I bragged to my friends last night about what a great bunch of gals and guys we have here. You all are the BEST!!
TTYL
Ann
happy anniversary to me . 32 yrs today :-) at 2 o clock .
bobbie - am glad to see that u got ur puter a going again . i panic when mine acts out and am on cloud 9 when its purrin again . i was panicin for u bobbie .
went out and walked the dogs since they didnt get to go yesterday cuz ofthe rain . wasnt about to walk em in the rain ,. today its just a misty not hurting me any , the dogs were happycampers and treated em with lit meaty bones to bribe em back in thier kennel , works like a charms . lucky now cuz it is starting to rain a bit heavy . think its from the tropical storm from south somwhere . saw theres 3 more comin from out south . hope it goes out back in the ocean for u all s sakes .
saw the news this mornin virgina and nj is a mess . heart aches for em all .
kim- hows ur foot ? hope its all better today . i know i broke at least 3 of my toes last summer . hurt like hell for a good 6 mos or so . runnin and drunk dont mix lol ... wham on the leg of chair ,. ow ow ow . was glad it didnt make me cry .
am concerned about mariesmom . anybody know how to get hd of her ? hope all is well at her way . prayers ...
annt- i am so proud of you and u shall give ur hubby a big hug from me to sit with dad for ya and let u have a good break ! my hubby is that way too . always tells me ure over 21 arent ya ? uhh yeah 2 times i think . some men would not dare let thier wifes go anywhere . phhhhht dont like men like that . im only human like they are .
woke up 445 this am , went to pee and thought i guess i ll fix coffee and have me moments for a while . and it sure was nice . then heard dad whimperin so went to take care of him and fix him his bfast and now he has a full belly and is back to sleep again .
ill have to go shoppin later evening to buy all kinds of meat and get em ready for sat . going to cook em all friday so i dont have to do any cooking sat am .
deef , flex - happy to hear from you . think of u often .
miz - is it rainin over there yet ? i feel for texas . hope they ll get some good rain . why am i egettin the rain for ? imno where near where the tropical storm is , i just dont understand .
cricket - i remmy the first time i had to wipe dad s butt . oh gosh , but now i dont even think anything of it . its like wipin my own butt . he couldnt reach to the back so i had to do it . what started was when he used the walker i had to walk behind him to make sure he doesnt walk backwards and fall so ended up going bathroom with him and ended up wipin his but , thinking damn i wish i had some gloves ! got lit crap on my fingers i thought i was going to faint ! so i went and bought boxes of gloves . ya best start buyin em cuz u ll need em .
ok i better get back to laundry and dusting grrrr . have a good day you all . xoxox
rossella ! are u back yet from vacation ? hope all is well with u and ur mom and ur fury babies . xoxoxo
love,
miz
But as it's said "everything happens for a reason", so I figure there is a reason that I'm here.
Here a little about me: I was caregiver to my mother for 5 years and 20 years later to my husband - both dementia or Alzheimers. My husband passed away in 2005.
We made the big mistake of moving to a whole new setting in 2000 and it seemed to hasten his decline.
An interesting observation I made, and maybe others have the same going on, maybe it is especially true for those traumatized by this awful disease - after my
husband passed away, I did not go into grieving mode for about a year, and then, suddenly it hit and I went through all the phases. Took me about another year to come out of it.
Did any of you who have lost your loved one experience such a delay?
Again Thanks for welcoming me.
Margarete
THE FOLLOWING IS SAD STUFF - please skip if the last thing you need to read is something sad. I promise to be funny again very soon!
I tend to the pragmatic - and thus have been consumed with lining up all the ducks that will be marching (ala Peabody Hotel in Memphis)in Moms final parade, be it next week or next year. Some may be shocked by my cold efficiency - I have found and ordered and by tomorrow will be taking delivery of the perfect soft pink gown I long ago promised my Mom I would bury her in. Matching slippers too. I have a spreadsheet with all the numbers I'll need to call, from Army retirement to the sitter for the cats. Our plan to move mom home before she passes was determined as more sympathetic than realistic - what if we got down there and she lived another year? So all the arrangements to get her from MD to GA are pending, (transporters, funeral home, cemetery), I have the flowers I will want sitting in a teleflora online holding basket, and amidst all this and other concerns (my oldest daughter is quite ill with mastitis in her breast - she is breastfeeding as well, my youngest daughter is still in Canada and her husband's grandmother who they are living with is dying) I've been working on Mom's eulogy.
It was hard enough every year to find the right Mothers Day card for mom (going back to the brutally honest aspect - I usually just bought a blank one) and this eulogy business is that x 100. As Mom's cruelty and indifference provided me with enough material for a 220,000 word novel - there is simply not a lot of 'kind and sweet and wonderful mother' material available to work with. But there is some. I will make it happen and it will be good.
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Mom is not doing well. She has her cath in as of yesterday and it was the right thing to do per Nurse Holly. Her urine is very dark and full of sediment. She is now refusing to eat or drink and is taking her meds sublingually. On the other hand it took 3 of us to hold her (bless my husband) when the Hospice aid bathed her today - Mom made a good attempt at kneeing Ashley in the head. Her weight loss is thus far confined to her temporal lobes, which now have a hallow appearance.
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I intend my next post to be cheerier - OK? I am reading and keeping up with all you lovelies (and that included Ted and Cuz)! If it doesn't stop raining soon I may see Bobbie boating by - and if I do I'm swimming out to meet her for a Margarita.
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Kisses
Cricket, there shoud be some sort of initiation for when you get to the ass wiping stage. I'll have to give that some thought. Just as grossed out at witnessing the peek-a-boo-penis, I was very disturbed by having to insert vaginal medication for mom.
Jen, don't choke FP with the pill shooter! I could feel that glint in your eye....lol
Linda, Happy Anniversary. I can't imagine 32 years with one man, but it is nice to know its possible :)
Miz, did you kick that black hole to the curb yet? I laughed when you said on FB that at least I wasn't craving pickles because I bought a bottle of baby sweet gherkins the night before!
Rip, I need my fellow cynic! SS, what's up! Rossella, where are you? Did you say the hell with everything and stay at the beach?
Ann, I am so happy for you and envious that you had a great night out! I swear my b/f and I will actually have a "date" in the near future. I get to meet some of his family for the first time this week. His niece is visiting from Myrtle Beach this weekend and they are having a family get together.
Ok, that's all my poor brain can remember right now. Anyone got any ideas on how to cook two boneless skinless chicken breast? I have red & green peppers that I need to do something with too. Fajitas maybe? I don't have the tortillas though. I really don't feel like cooking, but as I am broke, I have to cook what I have.
Talk at you later!
Diane
It may be a bit depressing, but I'm impressed by your organization. I know mom has a plot next to my dad, but I need to find out about what needs to be done in SC to transport to FL. I also need to think about a casket and the cost for the vault and actual burial. I told my family if anything happened to me I was to be buried in a "green" cemetery. You aren't embalmed, they use a plain pine casket and you decay naturally. The way my family is acting these days they would probably cremate me because that is something I fear. I really shouldn't because I'll be dead anyway, but it still terrifies me.
Ok, I really have to get off my arse and go figure out what to do with this chicken.
Luv ya,
Diane