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Linda- luv u 2 :) hopefully someday we will get to meet and raise some ruckus, oh yeah! until then lets raise some ruckus amongus! (((hug))) Kim-u amaze me with how you remember who said what and respond to everyone in your posts.. usually i think of responses to each post as I read em and then by the time I get to my post I forgot who said what and what i was gonna say about it. o.O MsM- I'm sure glad you posed that "Marie" tidbit about the tap water because that's what I've been using forever! Thanks for sharing. I hope today is a good day for you.
I think it's jokie time...
An old man, Mr. Smith, resided in a nursing home. One day, he went into the nursing office and informed the nurse that his penis had died. The nurse realized that Mr. Smith was an old, forgetful gentleman, so she decided to play along with him. "It did? I'm sorry to hear that," she replied. Two days later, Mr. Smith was walking down the halls of the nursing home. To the nurse's surprise, his penis was hanging outside his pants. "Mr. Smith, I thought you told me your penis had died?" "It did," he replied. "Today is the viewing."
MsM glad Hospice came through that will help tremendously....Christina is busy with a work thing, I asked, but she will return...
Ashamed. Am I ashamed? I pray he dies every time I hear him cough. I avoid all contact with the damn pervert, Mom will call me up saying my dog is getting up...and he isn't, so I wait. Listening... When fart pants is back in his hole (my old room) I will come out, feed Monty and have breakfast. I put tissue in my ears so I don't hear his GOD AWFUL MUZAK, asinine TV commentary and sicko cackling laughter, or the sound of him dumping his piss out. When he exits the bathroom I spray it with Lysol, I keep track of EVERY THING HE TOUCHES throughout the day and go over them with Clorox Wipes ( Our Proud Sponsor), when he says "Good Mornin Jenny..." to me, in that leading way, that smarmy " I am showing YOU good manners way ", I recall his leering looks and porn collection and reply "morning granpa...when you're dead..." that later, not audible, but I almost wouldn't care if it was.... My Mom was sitting at the table today, hand over mouth sure sign she is upset...Yeah ma, I am avoiding your sainted fucking old man! I looked after him with out pay for four years ( still) and you are worn out after 8 months! Am I ashamed.....?not particularly. And yet, I see your point: The BS view that these people once "took care of us"... Guess what, they didn't always. The honor they mother and thy father. I don't do religion. The some day that may be us...very likely, unless we are lucky enough to snuff out like a light bulb, but so what. It doesn't make any of this easier. And pretty much EVERYONE here who writes IS honoring they parent and doing right by them, if they sometimes have enough of the stench of feces and urine, or are mentally raw from being fought tooth and nail over the simplest of things or have been made ill themselves from the lack of hygiene by their charge and are under strain from being the sole caretakers, in no matter how extended a family...decide to come to a computer blog to vent a little...I really don't see that as shame full or disrespectful. Shameful is people crabbin' you are not doing something the way they think you should, when they themselves don't have a fucking clue about what you do day in day out year after year after year! And this is for anyone who posts to shame here. IF it is disrespectful to laugh at poop issues for one under our care so be it, may it happen to me some day? who cares, life goes on till it stops, but don't be so quick to judge another until you have walked in their shoes and stepped in what they step in.... day after day after day.... That too, is shameful...
trying to give u guys star but its tellin me im usin one of the symbol and can not send , i thought uhhh start plz , but didnt go thru . what the hell ! :-) heres the smilin face for u ! jen - what u said is the fact truth , amen to that ... i would not honor thy my parents if i was not raise in a loving home . i do not blame you for feeling the way ure feeling . and i admired that you stayed by and stayed to watch over your mom and help her out in any way you can without any love in returning . im thinking i dont think i can do that beacuse my heart would not be so big . your heart is huge that is why youre stayin home and be with your mom . girl u know youre gonna take care of your mom when her time comes . but it has already came cuz ure cleaning up after their messes . yes theres quite few here were brought up with loving parents and we honor them by returning thier love back to them . i love my dad and he is one of the respected man on earth , never laid his hands on me , i get an f report card . he says i know u tried hard hon , try harder the next time . so that is why i can not keep pa in nursinghome . he has been to several of em in fla and it wasnt working out . he needs one on one and that is me and him . now as for caring for my mother in law , i will do it if i have to but it wont be the same bond i have toward dad . as for joking around , laughing , giggling and cry and vent get real piss off that is normal then some newbies comes by and sayds SHAME ON YOU SHAME ON YOU !!! well phhhhhhht excuse me in hell ! they have no idea what this is all about . escialy the ones that have elders in nursing home and they jump on here and says that , whoa wait a min here ! u re not on the same boat were in . they shall hop on over somewhere eles . why couldnt people just shake their head in shame and go on keep a going but no they pop in and growled . im shakin my head oh plz , some do come back and says theyre sorry and poof theyre gone cuz they are not in the same boat we re in . jen thanks for letting me know that christina will be back soon . i am glad u have friends calling you and that is wonderful ! you do need us and we are here for you . i think of you all the time and along with others . we re realy are best caregiver buds here . CREWS ! jen i do hope one day you will take the road trip . hopefuly u and others can meet up atthe airport and fly to bobbie s for thanksgiving :-) , i realy wants to have a margaritta with ya all . ok i best get off here and see if pa s ok . he s been kinda fussy this evening . keeps saying i dont feel good waaaaaaaaa . poor guy , goodnight you all . xoxoxo
I have a heart and no spine...I think you are right I am in a way taking care if my mom..so be it, that is my choice too. I love my mom the way I hate my grandfather so...one way or another.
In these situations of hit and run posters, it isn't even that they mean well, they are literally MAD at us for resenting some of the things we CHOOSE to do to care for family members....sorry we can;'t all be as blessed and perky as "Amber" was...just don't work out that way... Thanks to D and Linda.... I know it isn't the same for all, but is anything the same for all, we are all different and have different situations and are just getting along how ever we can...As long as we keep them safe and well we are doing right by them, maybe more right than some did by us, some equally so, but going on just the same...these are not the happy care free years eh? but where ARE those any how!?
If my body were a car, this is the time I'd be thinking about trading it in for a newer model. I've got bumps and dents and scratches in my finnish and my paint job is getting a little dull. My headlights are out of focus and it's especially hard to see things up close. My traction isn't as graceful as it once was. I slip and slide and skid and bump into things even in the best of weather. My whitewalls are stained with varicose veins. The worst of it is my fuel rate burns inefficiently. It takes me hours to reach the maximum speed. And don't expect me to start up before noon.
Jen you are spot on about what you said in your post. This group of people are here to support one another through good and bad! I personally picked this thread because everyone seems to be down to earth and can let things out without the judgement. I can swear that the person that came back here to dole out the shame posted the exact same message the first time she posted. Why they do it? Who knows? There are so many other places to post. They don't have a clue as to what we have to go through day in day out. Reminds me of the movie, Ground Hog Day! Go to bed and repeat the same thing next day. Over and over and over! Glad I found you guys, cause the venting helps equalize the pressure build up! All of us come from different places and backgrounds, but we have all come together to help one another cause we get one another. These flies in the wall just want to stir things up and sit back and see what comes of it! Shame on them, because they try to add insult upon injury..Hope your hip is feeling better. I have arthritis and when it flares it hurts bad! No spider seen as of yet. Maybe when the dog was chasing it she killed it and it crawled off somewhere and died! I Can only hope. I would rather see it than not too! Still paranoid.
Cricket, I don't think dad could fish for the spider, but I have a nerf gun! LOL I could shoot it with that! Might be a fun distraction! Loved your idea about the ledge of carved apples. Reminds me of that song. I've got a lovely bunch of coconuts. Big ones small ones some as big as your head! Oh just got an urge to start carving. Loved the penis joke! Priceless!
Linda the bank is still there. Got robbed a couple of years back. Still the talk of the town! LOL I swear that town is so small you blink and you missed it. Ordinary is just a little way down the street from the bank. Dad not feeling very good today. He has been sneezing. Hope he doesn't have the bug! He will probably end up painting the spider, dogs, cats, and us too! Tomorrow will be cooler. Hope we get some sun. Today was all gray! Time change will come soon. Not looking forward to that. Damn when they change the time it starts getting dark at 4:00. Ordinary has good tenderloin sandwiches too! Hope your Pa gets to feeling better!
54 hope you are hanging in there. Saw your post on here earlier and it was a great one. Bless your heart!
Bobbie, rip, Miz, Austin, fortunate to have you all around to help guide us.
Ann keep fighting that sinus infection. Hannah had a really bad one once and had to do two rounds of z-PAC. She was much better after the second round.
Msm. Hope your Mom feels better. Dad has days when he doesn't want to eat much and won't respond to much of anything. I can hear him coughing as I write. My husband is a good one too! He helps get Dad upstairs to the shower and watches him for me when he is off work. He lost his Dad three years ago to Alzheimers. Hope your tomorrow is much better.
Glad to hear your Mom is feeling better Diane. Hope it is uphill from here.
Deef, Cuz, Aprildawn, Rossella.....everybody! Have sweet dreams and a great tomorrow! Love you all!! Kim
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An odd-duty police officer, familiar with radar guns, drove through a school zone within the legal spped limit when the flash of a camera went off, taking a picture of his license plate. The officer, thinking the radar was in error, drove by again and even more slowly. Another flash. He did it a third time, at an even slower spped. Same result. "These sttings must be screwed up," the off-duty officer thought. A few weeks later he recieved the violations in the mail, he discovered three traffic tickets: each for not wearing a seat belt.
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A blonde, a brunette and a redhead all work at the same office for a female boss who always goes home early. "Hey girls," says the brunette, "lets go home early tomorrow. She'll never know." So the next day they all drive away right after the boss does. The brunette gets some extra gardening done, the redhead goes to a bar, and the blonde goes home to find her husband playing patty cake with the female boss. The blonde quietly sneaks ou of the house and drives back home at the normal time. The next day the brunette says, "That was fun. We should do it again sometime." "No way," says the blonde. "I almost got caught caught."
A redhead, a brunette, and a blonde were all arrested down in Mexico and were to be executed by a firing squad. First the redhead is dragged out to be shot and when she is asked if she has any last words she screams "TORNADO" everyone freaks out and starts running around so she makes a run for it and escapes. Next they drag the brunette out to be shot and she is asked if she has any last words and she yells "EARTHQUAKE" and everyone freaks out and runs for cover so she runs and gets away also. Lastly they drag the blonde out in front of the firing squad and ask her "do you have any last words to say?" She screams "FIRE".
Jen I don't know what you went through with your parents but I can certainly understand how you feel. When I was growing up I had to endure severe neglect by my parents and as a result I was subjected to circumstances that led to criminal acts done to me that traumatized me for over 30 yrs of my life. Ironically I find myself as the only sibling even willing to care for my father and I know I am the one that will see him through to the end. Sometimes it is really hard for me to fight down the feelings of pain and resentment towards my father because he was the one that was supposed to make sure I was safe. But I realize that holding in or pushing down those resentful feelings only hurts me. I have to let it go and that hasn't been easy. Just when I think that I have let go and learned how to forgive a little part of it pops up it's head again and I'm on the next round of the fight. I'm sharing this with you because I can relate to your pain and know it myself and want you to know that you're not alone. I'm not a very "religious" person but I do believe in God and know and believe he sends us angels if we ask. I will ask him to send you an angel to help you bear the pain of what you're going through. Believe me when I say that everyday I pray for help to see my father and everything about what happened to me differently and when I need a shift in my thinking the most I find enlightenment and as a result I can continue on doing what I believe is the right thing to do in spite of it all.
Long day doing lots of Mom-related stuff. She is not doing well - all but refusing to eat despite repeated attempts.
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I fear my brother, the one who wrote the weird email I posted yesterday, may decide to fly in for the burial (if he does) and clean out the joint account we hold with Mom. I don't say this lightly. His anger over not being named POA or in charge of Moms Will was what caused our estrangement in the first place. Also, I have learned from reliable sources that he has been under psychiatric care for erractic behavior (I will spare the details) for somke time, and was court-ordered into a psych ward for 10 days not too far back. (This truloy breaks my heart bu I can't deal with that just now). Anyway, for $50 I had an online legal consult with an attorney in GA (where the assets are), who advised me to pronto move the money into an account in my name only. Keep copious records, he said, but do it. And so I will.
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Hi gang, you know today I feel pretty rested and feisty! Dad spent the whole day and night yesterday in his room watching sports. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! It gave me a much needed break from all the constant questions and anxiety he pours over me minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day... you get the picture :) I'll be hanging out here off and on today if anyone is feelin' chatty.
Linda wish I could -besides, I'm still not sure where everybody is. This troubles me more than it might a lot of people, because I'm a gegraphy nerd big time. Captain's heading from Fla to Jersey, someones in NY near West Point. theres Savannah, Carolina, Washington State, Italy, Idaho (or is it Illinois) or both, and someone is in bayou country (LA is MS). I'm in DC and possibly headed for Georgia - I know I forgot some but this is from memory. Who did I miss from the crew?
Thanks miz. I think I'll tape up US map in Moms room and pin everybody on - it will serve as a consdtant reminder that I'm not the only one who has been through this painful process.
South Florida here, I'm originally from Southern California, San Diego area. Because of my Hubby's job we have lived in SE TN, IL, LA, NJ, PA, and now FL. While in IL we lived in Gurnie in the Northern part and then later in Pontiac and Bloomington. In LA we lived in Bayou Des Almonds, it's about 25 miles south of Nawlins, While in Jersey we liven in Pennsville, Ten Mile while in TN, Parkesburg in PA, and in Florida we were down in Key Largo, up by Crystal River and now in Port St. Lucie. That ought to keep you busy MsM, :)
Hmm . . .lets see . . . Army brat, First husband was an idiot, and Michael in advertising. I've moved A LOT. But for 6 mos or longer? Columbus, Macon, Stone Mtn, and Atlanta in Georgia. Tawas, Michigan, Orlando and Milton, Florida, Lynchburg, (shudder) Virginia, Marlton, New Jersey, and Frederick, MD. Been in Frederick the longest and it is my favorite. But if I could live anywhere I wanted it would be summers in Gulf Shores, Alabama, and winters in NYC! (and no I don't have that backwards)
Annie! Sorry! I am going to lug the world map out after all! I always thought (hoped) I was Irish -but alas, my ancestry search led me to England - guess with a name like Whitehead it was no real surprise.
Cricket, my parents both came from Southern Indiana. Mom was from Scottsburg and Dad comes from Crothersville. Ask your hubby if he knows where they are. It really is a small world! :) We might even be related. That would be something wouldn't it?
Kim, that would be awesome. Hubby says there's no tellin'. His family is from Mt. Vernon in Posey county. He says it's by Evansville. His mothers family was the Johnson's and VanZant's and fathers were the Emery's.
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Kim-u amaze me with how you remember who said what and respond to everyone in your posts.. usually i think of responses to each post as I read em and then by the time I get to my post I forgot who said what and what i was gonna say about it. o.O
MsM- I'm sure glad you posed that "Marie" tidbit about the tap water because that's what I've been using forever! Thanks for sharing. I hope today is a good day for you.
I think it's jokie time...
An old man, Mr. Smith, resided in a nursing home. One day, he went into the nursing office and informed the nurse that his penis had died. The nurse realized that Mr. Smith was an old, forgetful gentleman, so she decided to play along with him. "It did? I'm sorry to hear that," she replied. Two days later, Mr. Smith was walking down the halls of the nursing home. To the nurse's surprise, his penis was hanging outside his pants. "Mr. Smith, I thought you told me your penis had died?" "It did," he replied. "Today is the viewing."
Ashamed. Am I ashamed? I pray he dies every time I hear him cough. I avoid all contact with the damn pervert, Mom will call me up saying my dog is getting up...and he isn't, so I wait. Listening... When fart pants is back in his hole (my old room) I will come out, feed Monty and have breakfast. I put tissue in my ears so I don't hear his GOD AWFUL MUZAK, asinine TV commentary and sicko cackling laughter, or the sound of him dumping his piss out. When he exits the bathroom I spray it with Lysol, I keep track of EVERY THING HE TOUCHES throughout the day and go over them with Clorox Wipes ( Our Proud Sponsor), when he says "Good Mornin Jenny..." to me, in that leading way, that smarmy " I am showing YOU good manners way ", I recall his leering looks and porn collection and reply "morning granpa...when you're dead..." that later, not audible, but I almost wouldn't care if it was....
My Mom was sitting at the table today, hand over mouth sure sign she is upset...Yeah ma, I am avoiding your sainted fucking old man! I looked after him with out pay for four years ( still) and you are worn out after 8 months!
Am I ashamed.....?not particularly. And yet, I see your point:
The BS view that these people once "took care of us"... Guess what, they didn't always.
The honor they mother and thy father. I don't do religion.
The some day that may be us...very likely, unless we are lucky enough to snuff out like a light bulb, but so what. It doesn't make any of this easier.
And pretty much EVERYONE here who writes IS honoring they parent and doing right by them, if they sometimes have enough of the stench of feces and urine, or are mentally raw from being fought tooth and nail over the simplest of things or have been made ill themselves from the lack of hygiene by their charge and are under strain from being the sole caretakers, in no matter how extended a family...decide to come to a computer blog to vent a little...I really don't see that as shame full or disrespectful.
Shameful is people crabbin' you are not doing something the way they think you should, when they themselves don't have a fucking clue about what you do day in day out year after year after year! And this is for anyone who posts to shame here.
IF it is disrespectful to laugh at poop issues for one under our care so be it, may it happen to me some day? who cares, life goes on till it stops, but don't be so quick to judge another until you have walked in their shoes and stepped in what they step in.... day after day after day.... That too, is shameful...
what the hell ! :-) heres the smilin face for u !
jen - what u said is the fact truth , amen to that ... i would not honor thy my parents if i was not raise in a loving home . i do not blame you for feeling the way ure feeling . and i admired that you stayed by and stayed to watch over your mom and help her out in any way you can without any love in returning . im thinking i dont think i can do that beacuse my heart would not be so big . your heart is huge that is why youre stayin home and be with your mom . girl u know youre gonna take care of your mom when her time comes . but it has already came cuz ure cleaning up after their messes .
yes theres quite few here were brought up with loving parents and we honor them by returning thier love back to them . i love my dad and he is one of the respected man on earth , never laid his hands on me , i get an f report card . he says i know u tried hard hon , try harder the next time . so that is why i can not keep pa in nursinghome . he has been to several of em in fla and it wasnt working out . he needs one on one and that is me and him . now as for caring for my mother in law , i will do it if i have to but it wont be the same bond i have toward dad .
as for joking around , laughing , giggling and cry and vent get real piss off that is normal then some newbies comes by and sayds SHAME ON YOU SHAME ON YOU !!! well phhhhhhht excuse me in hell ! they have no idea what this is all about . escialy the ones that have elders in nursing home and they jump on here and says that , whoa wait a min here ! u re not on the same boat were in . they shall hop on over somewhere eles . why couldnt people just shake their head in shame and go on keep a going but no they pop in and growled . im shakin my head oh plz , some do come back and says theyre sorry and poof theyre gone cuz they are not in the same boat we re in .
jen thanks for letting me know that christina will be back soon . i am glad u have friends calling you and that is wonderful ! you do need us and we are here for you . i think of you all the time and along with others . we re realy are best caregiver buds here . CREWS ! jen i do hope one day you will take the road trip . hopefuly u and others can meet up atthe airport and fly to bobbie s for thanksgiving :-) , i realy wants to have a margaritta with ya all .
ok i best get off here and see if pa s ok . he s been kinda fussy this evening . keeps saying i dont feel good waaaaaaaaa . poor guy ,
goodnight you all . xoxoxo
In these situations of hit and run posters, it isn't even that they mean well, they are literally MAD at us for resenting some of the things we CHOOSE to do to care for family members....sorry we can;'t all be as blessed and perky as "Amber" was...just don't work out that way...
Thanks to D and Linda....
I know it isn't the same for all, but is anything the same for all, we are all different and have different situations and are just getting along how ever we can...As long as we keep them safe and well we are doing right by them, maybe more right than some did by us, some equally so, but going on just the same...these are not the happy care free years eh? but where ARE those any how!?
If my body were a car, this is the time I'd be
thinking about trading it in for a newer model. I've
got bumps and dents and scratches in my finnish and
my paint job is getting a little dull. My headlights
are out of focus and it's especially hard to see things
up close.
My traction isn't as graceful as it once was. I slip
and slide and skid and bump into things even in the
best of weather. My whitewalls are stained with
varicose veins.
The worst of it is my fuel rate burns inefficiently.
It takes me hours to reach the maximum speed.
And don't expect me to start up before noon.
No spider seen as of yet. Maybe when the dog was chasing it she killed it and it crawled off somewhere and died! I Can only hope. I would rather see it than not too! Still paranoid.
Cricket, I don't think dad could fish for the spider, but I have a nerf gun! LOL I could shoot it with that! Might be a fun distraction! Loved your idea about the ledge of carved apples. Reminds me of that song. I've got a lovely bunch of coconuts. Big ones small ones some as big as your head! Oh just got an urge to start carving. Loved the penis joke! Priceless!
Linda the bank is still there. Got robbed a couple of years back. Still the talk of the town! LOL I swear that town is so small you blink and you missed it. Ordinary is just a little way down the street from the bank. Dad not feeling very good today. He has been sneezing. Hope he doesn't have the bug! He will probably end up painting the spider, dogs, cats, and us too! Tomorrow will be cooler. Hope we get some sun. Today was all gray! Time change will come soon. Not looking forward to that. Damn when they change the time it starts getting dark at 4:00. Ordinary has good tenderloin sandwiches too! Hope your Pa gets to feeling better!
54 hope you are hanging in there. Saw your post on here earlier and it was a great one. Bless your heart!
Bobbie, rip, Miz, Austin, fortunate to have you all around to help guide us.
Ann keep fighting that sinus infection. Hannah had a really bad one once and had to do two rounds of z-PAC. She was much better after the second round.
Msm. Hope your Mom feels better. Dad has days when he doesn't want to eat much and won't respond to much of anything. I can hear him coughing as I write. My husband is a good one too! He helps get Dad upstairs to the shower and watches him for me when he is off work. He lost his Dad three years ago to Alzheimers. Hope your tomorrow is much better.
Glad to hear your Mom is feeling better Diane. Hope it is uphill from here.
Deef, Cuz, Aprildawn, Rossella.....everybody! Have sweet dreams and a great tomorrow! Love you all!! Kim
A couple, traveling on the Kansas Turnpike,bucking
a 30 to 45 mph crosswind, came to the tollbooth.
"What do you people in Kansas do when the wind
quits?" asked the driver.
The tollbooth attendent didn't miss a beat: "We
take the rocks out of our pockets."
Driving, No. 2
An odd-duty police officer, familiar with radar guns,
drove through a school zone within the legal
spped limit when the flash of a camera went off,
taking a picture of his license plate. The officer, thinking
the radar was in error, drove by again and even more
slowly. Another flash. He did it a third time, at an
even slower spped. Same result.
"These sttings must be screwed up," the off-duty
officer thought.
A few weeks later he recieved the violations
in the mail, he discovered three traffic tickets:
each for not wearing a seat belt.
Driving, No. 3
A blonde, a brunette and a redhead all work at
the same office for a female boss who always goes
home early.
"Hey girls," says the brunette, "lets go home early
tomorrow. She'll never know."
So the next day they all drive away right after the
boss does. The brunette gets some extra gardening
done, the redhead goes to a bar, and the blonde goes
home to find her husband playing patty cake with the
female boss. The blonde quietly sneaks ou of the house
and drives back home at the normal time.
The next day the brunette says, "That was fun. We
should do it again sometime."
"No way," says the blonde. "I almost got caught caught."
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