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ME ME, and how about getting Johnny Depp in to serve us? I won't elaborate. O.o Just an additional thought... Why not build a big slumber party room and put all the elders in there there. Let them socialize, now that brings lots of creative thoughts.. MsM I like your idea.. I saw your post earlier and it inspired me with the above idea :)
Hi everyone-I see I am still 6 days behind and just know you are all in my heart and prayers-I see we have another Amber Jane with us where do they come from.
Well, first I have to take her throught the Canal and then down the coast of South America to the jump off point after topping off the diesel and topping off the fuel bladders that we will have to tap into to make the range, wait for a weather window and hit the open sea.
Meeeeee! I'll go anywhere, especially after today. Hey all I'm feeling pretty good right now. Dad's going to bed, Dogs are out for the last time tonight and I'm actually having my second drink. First time in months. Hey my nickname is Cricket so I found one for my new picture, you like? Aww, Amber Jane, is that the righteous judgemental one? I hope it's not me, but then wha do i know, I'm pretty wasted right now.. one more dog run outside then I guess I will go to bed since Linda isn't around to get into mischief with, hehe
Government Bail Out (Maxine) BAIL'EM OUT!!! ???? Hell, back in 1990, the Government seized the Mustang Ranch brothel in Nevada for tax evasion and, as required by law, tried to run it.. They failed and it closed.. Now, we are trusting the economy of our country, our banking system, our auto industry and our health plans to the same nit-wits who couldn't make money running a whore house and selling whiskey?!"
crikets ure killin me !!! lol lol . oh hell yes we feed em fish alright !! johny depp oh my gosh my face would be in his face !!!! i prob smother him to death ! oh alalalala . meowwwwwwwwwwwww , yep we shore would get in tons of trouble and ya know what theres no jail near by they d have to let us go :-) oh ijust cant wait ! and and hey don hoe woo whooo hooie , purrrr . hawaii here we come wheres that don hoe - johnny depp oh yes yummie , u can have don hoe i ll take johnieeee . he be pirate at bobbie s boat , i be his botch . hope the other pirate wouldnt mind , she needs to take a break anyhow . magaritta for everybody ! had beer had bonfire had a 4 whelin ride and now i say it stime to go in , need to ck on daddy . he s still sleepin , covered him up and i see a smile there . ah going to bed now u folks , cuz - whore house and a wiskey yep they make money alright , in fact they re fiflty rich , i think i ll wait to see if i won the loettery . jsomebody have ya won yet ? trip for everybody !!! love ya all . xoxoxo
What! Hawaii and Johny Depp...Count me in!!!!! Still dealing with family crap. My brother just will not believe one word that comes from my mouth. He seems to think I have all this time in the world to dream up all this shit. Mom went to bed pretty easy tonight. SHe was tired after we ran a few errands together. She has another UTI with two different bacteria so she is on 2 antibiotics...My crystal ball is showing me diarrhea in the very near future. If it would just show me the darn lotto numbers! Cricket, I love the new picture...He might need a little $hit around him/her to make it authentic! Working for a few hours tomorrow. Trying to redesign our website and then I'm seeing off a bus full of Univ of SC football fans. This might sound crazy, but I've enjoyed getting to work everyday this week. I like my work and enjoy the customers/teachers I work with to plan school tours. I'm waiting up to hear from my b/f. He usually gets off at 10pm, but with this being a holiday weekend they are probably working late to get everything done. Well gang, I hope you all have a restful night and wake up feeling refreshed and feeling better for those of you battling sickness.
Diane, good to hear from you. You too Austin. And Ssk a few pages back. Cuz...what would we do without you? And you Bobbie....the poem inspired by Cricket's dogs was too funny. Cricket....you have my admiration. I'm afraid those dogs would have spent the rest of the day in the rain like Linda said, let the rain wash it away. Hello to Jen. Thinking of you hope your day wo fp was good today.
I went to sleep on the sofa watching Dateline and woke up to Jay Leno so i went to the kitchen and got a couple of fig newtons and thought of you Rossella. These were whole grain not as good as the originals but not too bad. Give me your address and I send you a couple of bags. Linda..you're a hoot. Msm..you too and Cricket. I've been enjoying reading your posts today. I think I feel a little better tonight. Still tired and unsteady on my feet. Once a sinus infection left me with vertigo for two weeks. Please...not that!
Hello to all...I won't even try to name all my friends.As I've said before, it's great having so many you can't remember everybody when you're writing. Please no one take offense. I love you all dearly, but my poor brain is very limited.
Hope you all have a full nights sleep. Rip, that respite home sounded wonderful. Wish it wasn't so far away from me. Gotta find something like that in Georgia.
G'Nite to all. Love you thisssssssssssssssss much. Ann
good morning crews , ding ding ding ringing the bell . time to get up ! BREAKFAST ANYONE ? woke up once at 430 , pa s crying . went to take care of him , gave him his breathing machine and he fell right back to sleep . thinking maybe today he will want to get out ofthe bed and go sit in the living room . i hope so ... all he does is sleep . christina - ssk is your mom still sleeping too much ? i know pa sleeps way too much and it bothers me . :-( going to be another hot day and my son is comin over to cut a dead tree down . so we ll have firewood to burn next weekend . next weekend we will have some friends over to celebrate 32 yrs anniversary and hubby s 55 th bday . so i ll be busy all weekend . some is going to bring thier tent and camp out , that way nobodys drivin home drunk , im thnking bfast for everybody on a sunday oh good grief , more work for me . and im suppose to be enjoying myself . i can see me slavin away . anybody wanna come over and help me slave away ? oh speakin of breakfast ibest get bfast going now for the guys . grrrrr while ago i saw 2 red cardnel cant even spell that one right , just dont look right , anyways they were on the patio walkin around ohh thier 4 babies were walkin around too . think mom n dad are teachin em something . lol have a happy saturday ! xoxoxo
Linda! you are an amazing woman. You do the work of 5 people and I know that your husband is one lucky so and so!
Love all you guys and am so proud of you all.
I am going up to the place where I will be moving the boat when I get back from dealing with mom's house. Going to spend part of the day there and get to see the little town and hopefully be able to talk to the dockmaster about exactly where the boat will be docked. It can be a mean current and if the wind gets you along with the current it can be way tricky to dock. I can see by the picture that there are commercial fishing trawlers there so I look forward to more interesting aspects in my continuing education of all things boat.
I have noticed that the crew of this thread is reaching out to others on this site and that is a beautiful thing. Caregivers are so isolated as we all know and just understanding that there are others in the same, um, boat is key to understanding that there is a life out there and a future. Don't take your eye off the prize.
ok, you guys have a good Saturday and I hope you all have some peace and happiness in the midst of the difficulties of caregiving.
Hi annt, any day with out fart pants is a good day, even if it involved a shooting a meteor and a trip to the ER with food poisoning...well maybe not food poisoning...Good weekend all!
Ahoy mateys I did manage to get Mom changed this morning all by myself - of course her depends are on her head - but "anything done with love isn't a mistake" - right? Someone said that the other day. I to put that saying right up there with "Everything happens for a reason" and "It was meant to be". "This too shall pass" now - thats good one - and invariably true
Has anyone expereince with using a catherer? The Hospice nurse suggested it last week and I said no, but am rethinking. If it will save me rolling Mom back and forth back and forth several times a day AND keep her skin as pretty as it is now it may be worth at least trying. She already has a boo-boo where she never had before and i don't want that to become the norm. Any thoughts?
I had my husband hang my wonderful poster of Einstein on the wall above Moms bed. This helps keep a smile on my face as I look back and forth between her hairsyle and his hairstyle as I feed Mom. She continues to eat little - I have to prompt her to most every bite. The only time Mom EVER visited my house back years ago when we lived less than a mile away, was when we would cook bacon-wrapped filet mignon on the grill, and have one of my (then famous) home made cheesecakes for desert. She loved that.
I have ribs in the oven now and potatoes boiling for salad on the stove - our nod to the holiday. We talked about getting some BBQ takeout, but a rack of ribs at Famous Daves is $25 + tax! For that Michael got two racks of babybacks with enough left over for potatoes and beans.
And we were only able to have such an extravagance because the awesome husband was able to 'rescue' enough work this week from competitors who were flooded out in Jersey that we are now solvent for another month. Hurrah!
bobbie - how do we newbies get the back story on your boat-life? I am most curious. My Labor Day Weekend Wish for Bobbie's Crew May yours poops be small, Your tears be few, Your foreheads cool, And your toilets flushing the way they are supposed to. (It may not rhyme, but it's still an excellent wish, right?)
Hey everybody. Still here. Painting in the garage. It is hot here in Indy. The heat pump and air are installed so did not suffer a heat stroke! Saw dog chasing something yesterday and it was a huge wolf spider! We can't find it so I am now paranoid that it is going to end up crawling on my foot or end up somewhere it shouldn't. Linde got bit on the nose. She is ok. Terriers do not back down from anything! Daughter and I got out a little bit yesterday evening. Went to borders. They were having a going out of business sale. Sad:( nice to brt out a little bit
Linda, Do you know where The Ordinary is in Wanamaker? We could have a beer there! Wendy's would be great too. There is also a McDonald's there.
Ann, hope you are feeling better today! Take care!
Cricket, love your new profile pic. Keep giving us all the positive funny stuff you can muster. Wish I could be as upbeat as you.
Jen glad you are getting a break! Enjoy it!
Bobbie you keep us all afloat! Have a wonderful day!
Miz hope you were able to get away for awhile.
Diane, how things going with you?
Rossella, Glad you were able to get to the beach
Christina, hope you are able to check in and let us posted on how everything is going with you.
Linda, Happy Anniversary and b-day to your husband!
MsM loving the picture you hung above Mom's bed! Enjoy the ribs!
Diane, rip, deef, 54, Austin, Kuli (hope the wine helped) Cuz, Anniegirl, forgive me if I am leaving anyone out. Love you all!
Going out to paint more. Dad gets a small brush and makes some strokes here and there. My worst fear is that the spider will come back out and Dad will mistake it for a pet and come out holding it or something! LOL When we are in here I am still looking in every corner! I just want to catch it and put it back outside. Those suckers are really fast! BIG as a tarantula! Eeeek
kim - dont catch it and take it back outside ! kill it cuz it ll come backin this fall when it gets cold out , theyre all wanna come in and hibernate with ya all for the winter . kill em wolf spiders i hate them things . maybe ur dad painted it lol , umm i only been to wannamaker just to be passinthru but i dont know where anything is there , i did clean that bank there once years ago , i dont know if it is still there . im sure i could find that place , that town is not very big lol . when the timin is right we shall hollar at one to another to see if ur timin and my timin be perfect .and we shall have that beer . i cant wait to met you ! mariesmom - i dont know if that cahtz be a good idea . it would causes alot of infections from what i heard . both of my daughters are cna , tld me the nursing home is getting away with that cuz it causes pblms . cuz i thought why not for dad and they both tld me NO !! as for females ouch i cant imagin me havin one , ow ow ow . does it hurt ? bet it does . but in a long run itd save ya tons of mooohlahh and trash pile up of stinky diapers . rib sounds yummie ! happy ur hubby has work to do . praise the lord !!! brb ...
am back now ,had to help hubby and my son to haul in the new sofa , yep got me a new sofa . finaly ! now im going to go make my markings , gonna lay on it and may take a nappy poo . :-) xoxo . oh pa loves it . he smiled and said i deserve it .
ksobhie - my husband (who was once a working biologist)says that while all spiders are venomous, a wolf spider, if large enough to bite you, is not likely to cause more than localized pain (unless you are allergic of course) and is not a serious bite like a brown recluse or black widow. He says if you want to see a BIG wolf spider in Georgia there was one in our garage the size of his outstretched hand. (I barely remember this I was running the other way)
BBQ ribs, BBQ beans and home made tater salad - yum yum
Buy another toothbrush and be glad you have a mom. Mine died and I miss her terribly. You all whine about how grossed out and "all the things you have seen" You all should hang your heads in shame. Your moms won't live forever. You too will be old some day and hopefully your children show you a little more understanding, compassion and empathy than you people show your moms.
desparateSask Grow up. You know NOTHING of my situation. Nothing. If I chose to laugh in the face of my moms terminal illness, if that is how I deal with the emotional and financial and physical pain I have endured since choosing to care for my mom 24/7 IN MY HOME instead of giving over her care to others, it is MY business - YOU are the one who should be ashamed for judging a situation, or a group of people, you know nothing about. So lighten up already.
1. Learn how to spell desperate. 2. We all know you're in pain which is why you're such a pain. 3. Sorry that your dad is in a nursing home and that they are giving him a sleeping pill. I know that has got to be hard for you. 4. I don't know why I am bothering to answer you since I answered you last week when you posted the other nasty comment and I guess you can only write and not read. 5. I have no idea what else to say to this person but I feel like making a list. 6. It's a nice day on the river and the humidity isn't so bad. 7. I took a drive to see where I am supposed to dock the boat for 4 months. 8. What a sh!thole and that is so not going to happen. 9. I am tired and sad and doing the best I can in the face of thread idiots. lovbob
Dear bobbie321 You r right. I am so very sorry for lashing out at you, that was very mean of me to do. I was being rude and judgmental and for that I apologize. .
Hi everyone towns near me still do not have power-we were lucky to have a genarator we kept on for 12 hrs and it took care of the important thing like water pump and some lights and frig and microwavw and two of my neighbors could plug their freezers into it also. MsM if you can get hospice it will be so great and a well needed relief to you-make a lot of noise if you need to to get the services you need-I learned to fight when I was a caregiver otherwise you get noyhing-good luck. Miz it is great about the house-I have been catching up on post and you are all in my prayers and my heart-five days without cable left me with a lot of catching up to do. Hope all your burdens are lessened tonight.
Hey Desp ... Thanks! We have been here for more than a year. 18,327 comments all starting from the frustration of that simple, silly tooth brush with some gray hair in it. I suspect Bobbie 'got over it' soon after & had spare tooth brushes.
However that one frustrated moment sparked a movement, launched an empire of people who have found the thread as a welcome relief as they stumble thru the world of elder care. A world we never would have chosen - not like a welcome child who should grow & thrive - yet a world where minds & bodies have failed our loved ones. Often without warning somehow we have become responsible for them. Sole caregiver. I have now lost both parents. My life changed when my mother was diagnosed way too late with ovarian cancer. I wasn't sure I could breathe as she weakened ... shaved her head, tried to make food edible for her chemo taste ... won't go there.
Dad was another story - but equally important to me.
As is this"Grossed" thread. I now have friends around the world. We are all hurting. This particular thread just appeals to a wide group of hair pulling , head banging caregivers. Thanks so much for recognizing we aren't much different than you. We simply express it in a frustrated care giving language.
I lost Dad last spring but the people here are important enough to me so hang around for humor & compassion.
Please scroll back a few days to the ABC News link about Ted staying with his mom thru hurricane Irene. I'm not sure why Aging Care hasn't posted it. Great story!
195Austin - you're so sweet. We have had Hospice now since Tuesday. They are truly great.
Ok - I sent an email to my sibilings re Mom being on Hospice (they haven't communicated with her since 2005) and heres what I got back.
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MsM I like your idea.. I saw your post earlier and it inspired me with the above idea :)
WE'RE GOING TO HAWAI'I!?!?!
Well, first I have to take her throught the Canal and then down the coast of South America to the jump off point after topping off the diesel and topping off the fuel bladders that we will have to tap into to make the range, wait for a weather window and hit the open sea.
Who's coming?
lovbob
BAIL'EM OUT!!! ???? Hell, back in 1990, the Government seized the Mustang Ranch brothel in Nevada for tax evasion and, as required by law, tried to run it.. They failed and it closed.. Now, we are trusting the economy of our country, our banking system, our auto industry and our health plans to the same nit-wits who couldn't make money running a whore house and selling whiskey?!"
"What the Hell are we thinking"
magaritta for everybody !
had beer had bonfire had a 4 whelin ride and now i say it stime to go in , need to ck on daddy . he s still sleepin , covered him up and i see a smile there . ah
going to bed now u folks ,
cuz - whore house and a wiskey yep they make money alright , in fact they re fiflty rich ,
i think i ll wait to see if i won the loettery . jsomebody have ya won yet ?
trip for everybody !!!
love ya all . xoxoxo
Good night dear friends!
Diane
sue u shall go with us to a=hawaii . :-)
nighty xoxo
I went to sleep on the sofa watching Dateline and woke up to Jay Leno so i went to the kitchen and got a couple of fig newtons and thought of you Rossella. These were whole grain not as good as the originals but not too bad. Give me your address and I send you a couple of bags.
Linda..you're a hoot. Msm..you too and Cricket. I've been enjoying reading your posts today. I think I feel a little better tonight. Still tired and unsteady on my feet. Once a sinus infection left me with vertigo for two weeks. Please...not that!
Hello to all...I won't even try to name all my friends.As I've said before, it's great having so many you can't remember everybody when you're writing. Please no one take offense. I love you all dearly, but my poor brain is very limited.
Hope you all have a full nights sleep. Rip, that respite home sounded wonderful. Wish it wasn't so far away from me. Gotta find something like that in Georgia.
G'Nite to all. Love you thisssssssssssssssss much.
Ann
woke up once at 430 , pa s crying . went to take care of him , gave him his breathing machine and he fell right back to sleep . thinking maybe today he will want to get out ofthe bed and go sit in the living room . i hope so ... all he does is sleep .
christina - ssk is your mom still sleeping too much ? i know pa sleeps way too much and it bothers me . :-(
going to be another hot day and my son is comin over to cut a dead tree down . so we ll have firewood to burn next weekend .
next weekend we will have some friends over to celebrate 32 yrs anniversary and hubby s 55 th bday . so i ll be busy all weekend . some is going to bring thier tent and camp out , that way nobodys drivin home drunk , im thnking bfast for everybody on a sunday oh good grief , more work for me . and im suppose to be enjoying myself . i can see me slavin away .
anybody wanna come over and help me slave away ?
oh speakin of breakfast ibest get bfast going now for the guys . grrrrr
while ago i saw 2 red cardnel cant even spell that one right , just dont look right , anyways they were on the patio walkin around ohh thier 4 babies were walkin around too . think mom n dad are teachin em something . lol
have a happy saturday ! xoxoxo
Linda! you are an amazing woman. You do the work of 5 people and I know that your husband is one lucky so and so!
Love all you guys and am so proud of you all.
I am going up to the place where I will be moving the boat when I get back from dealing with mom's house. Going to spend part of the day there and get to see the little town and hopefully be able to talk to the dockmaster about exactly where the boat will be docked. It can be a mean current and if the wind gets you along with the current it can be way tricky to dock.
I can see by the picture that there are commercial fishing trawlers there so I look forward to more interesting aspects in my continuing education of all things boat.
I have noticed that the crew of this thread is reaching out to others on this site and that is a beautiful thing. Caregivers are so isolated as we all know and just understanding that there are others in the same, um, boat is key to understanding that there is a life out there and a future.
Don't take your eye off the prize.
ok, you guys have a good Saturday and I hope you all have some peace and happiness in the midst of the difficulties of caregiving.
lovbob
I did manage to get Mom changed this morning all by myself - of course her depends are on her head - but "anything done with love isn't a mistake" - right? Someone said that the other day. I to put that saying right up there with "Everything happens for a reason" and "It was meant to be". "This too shall pass" now - thats good one - and invariably true
Has anyone expereince with using a catherer? The Hospice nurse suggested it last week and I said no, but am rethinking. If it will save me rolling Mom back and forth back and forth several times a day AND keep her skin as pretty as it is now it may be worth at least trying. She already has a boo-boo where she never had before and i don't want that to become the norm. Any thoughts?
I had my husband hang my wonderful poster of Einstein on the wall above Moms bed. This helps keep a smile on my face as I look back and forth between her hairsyle and his hairstyle as I feed Mom. She continues to eat little - I have to prompt her to most every bite. The only time Mom EVER visited my house back years ago when we lived less than a mile away, was when we would cook bacon-wrapped filet mignon on the grill, and have one of my (then famous) home made cheesecakes for desert. She loved that.
I have ribs in the oven now and potatoes boiling for salad on the stove - our nod to the holiday. We talked about getting some BBQ takeout, but a rack of ribs at Famous Daves is $25 + tax! For that Michael got two racks of babybacks with enough left over for potatoes and beans.
And we were only able to have such an extravagance because the awesome husband was able to 'rescue' enough work this week from competitors who were flooded out in Jersey that we are now solvent for another month. Hurrah!
bobbie - how do we newbies get the back story on your boat-life? I am most curious.
My Labor Day Weekend Wish for Bobbie's Crew
May yours poops be small,
Your tears be few,
Your foreheads cool,
And your toilets flushing the way they are supposed to.
(It may not rhyme, but it's still an excellent wish, right?)
Saw dog chasing something yesterday and it was a huge wolf spider! We can't find it so I am now paranoid that it is going to end up crawling on my foot or end up somewhere it shouldn't. Linde got bit on the nose. She is ok. Terriers do not back down from anything!
Daughter and I got out a little bit yesterday evening. Went to borders. They were having a going out of business sale. Sad:( nice to brt out a little bit
Linda, Do you know where The Ordinary is in Wanamaker? We could have a beer there! Wendy's would be great too. There is also a McDonald's there.
Ann, hope you are feeling better today! Take care!
Cricket, love your new profile pic. Keep giving us all the positive funny stuff you can muster. Wish I could be as upbeat as you.
Jen glad you are getting a break! Enjoy it!
Bobbie you keep us all afloat! Have a wonderful day!
Miz hope you were able to get away for awhile.
Diane, how things going with you?
Rossella, Glad you were able to get to the beach
Christina, hope you are able to check in and let us posted on how everything is going with you.
Linda, Happy Anniversary and b-day to your husband!
MsM loving the picture you hung above Mom's bed! Enjoy the ribs!
Diane, rip, deef, 54, Austin, Kuli (hope the wine helped) Cuz, Anniegirl, forgive me if I am leaving anyone out. Love you all!
Going out to paint more. Dad gets a small brush and makes some strokes here and there. My worst fear is that the spider will come back out and Dad will mistake it for a pet and come out holding it or something! LOL When we are in here I am still looking in every corner! I just want to catch it and put it back outside. Those suckers are really fast! BIG as a tarantula! Eeeek
mariesmom - i dont know if that cahtz be a good idea . it would causes alot of infections from what i heard . both of my daughters are cna , tld me the nursing home is getting away with that cuz it causes pblms . cuz i thought why not for dad and they both tld me NO !! as for females ouch i cant imagin me havin one , ow ow ow . does it hurt ? bet it does . but in a long run itd save ya tons of mooohlahh and trash pile up of stinky diapers .
rib sounds yummie ! happy ur hubby has work to do . praise the lord !!!
brb ...
BBQ ribs, BBQ beans and home made tater salad - yum yum
You know NOTHING of my situation. Nothing.
If I chose to laugh in the face of my moms terminal illness, if that is how I deal with the emotional and financial and physical pain I have endured since choosing to care for my mom 24/7 IN MY HOME instead of giving over her care to others, it is MY business - YOU are the one who should be ashamed for judging a situation, or a group of people, you know nothing about. So lighten up already.
That is crazy we will do ribs on Sunday too....
But I like painting...maybe the fumes will drive the spider away....
Almost immobile with hip pain now...not good...
Deef you are so kind Thank You!
1. Learn how to spell desperate.
2. We all know you're in pain which is why you're such a pain.
3. Sorry that your dad is in a nursing home and that they are giving him a sleeping pill. I know that has got to be hard for you.
4. I don't know why I am bothering to answer you since I answered you last week when you posted the other nasty comment and I guess you can only write and not read.
5. I have no idea what else to say to this person but I feel like making a list.
6. It's a nice day on the river and the humidity isn't so bad.
7. I took a drive to see where I am supposed to dock the boat for 4 months.
8. What a sh!thole and that is so not going to happen.
9. I am tired and sad and doing the best I can in the face of thread idiots.
lovbob
You r right. I am so very sorry for lashing out at you, that was very mean of me to do. I was being rude and judgmental and for that I apologize. .
Thanks! We have been here for more than a year. 18,327 comments all starting from the frustration of that simple, silly tooth brush with some gray hair in it.
I suspect Bobbie 'got over it' soon after & had spare tooth brushes.
However that one frustrated moment sparked a movement, launched an empire of people who have found the thread as a welcome relief as they stumble thru the world of elder care.
A world we never would have chosen - not like a welcome child who should grow & thrive - yet a world where minds & bodies have failed our loved ones. Often without warning somehow we have become responsible for them.
Sole caregiver.
I have now lost both parents. My life changed when my mother was diagnosed way too late with ovarian cancer. I wasn't sure I could breathe as she weakened ... shaved her head, tried to make food edible for her chemo taste ...
won't go there.
Dad was another story - but equally important to me.
As is this"Grossed" thread. I now have friends around the world. We are all hurting. This particular thread just appeals to a wide group of hair pulling , head banging caregivers.
Thanks so much for recognizing we aren't much different than you. We simply express it in a frustrated care giving language.
I lost Dad last spring but the people here are important enough to me so hang around for humor & compassion.
Please scroll back a few days to the ABC News link about Ted staying with his mom thru hurricane Irene. I'm not sure why Aging Care hasn't posted it. Great story!
Cheers ~
Rip & Pets
Ok - I sent an email to my sibilings re Mom being on Hospice (they haven't communicated with her since 2005) and heres what I got back.
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Family and Friends, OUR Love to YOU,
Especially to those who have ever met, known and/or loved, my/our mother- Marie. Never, is there a opportune time to encounter a loved one's need for hospice, but that time is now and unexpectedly is rudely thrust upon us.
As, the" Gift of LiFE for Believers" comes, with untold Blessings and incredible adventures, LIFE requires that we become EXTRA Strong when our parents, siblings or loved ones arrive at these inevitable cross roads of the end of Life. In time, we all will follow....
As the clock ticks down for "Marie", may we acknowledge OUR LOVE for Marie and each other. Wishing All Love and Peace,
Have a good evening.
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Now, does anyone else have a problem with this &^%$)(* response?
Maries clock is 'ticking down'? Really?
I swear I am so angry I could hop the next plane to Texas and kick him repeatedly in the gonads.
Who talks like that?