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okay i'm back, hah... i lied, i never really left. i am in a very don't wanna get off my butt mood for the last 30 minutes or so.. Linda, talk about scary toenails, omg my Dads were just that. I got this stuff at the Dermatologists called "Formula 3" it's an antifungal oil that he puts on twice a day, it took about 3 months to get rid of the decaying yellow whatever that was called toenails but at least now I'm not afraid (as much) to go near them. Hah! We have had rain and thunderstorms here all morning and afternoon so I guess that is whats making me want to vegg and chatter with you all.

I am thinking it might be funny to see how many different types of doctors all our parents go to... Since I moved dad in with me He has gone through 3 primarys just to find a good one, a Dermatologist, eye doc, eye surgeon, neurosurgeon, urologist, podiatrist, pain center doc, lung doc, GI doc, and Dentists..
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ah got pa in his is at 2 im at 1 , hope he sit there like a good man , waiting is what pisses him off the most . ah well bet them folks will enjoy hearing him waaaaaaaaaa waaaaaa waaaa. heeheeeee haw , i cant wait !!!!
oops hubbys home , early !! said ran out of parts and send eveybody home at 11 i thought wow ! and myhouse looks like crap . at least idid the dishes this morning at 4 lol .
now im going outside to play with hubby . xoxox
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i called Hospice today and they said they could not help me at all because my husband could walk and was still eating. also he is talking? babble is not talking. I thought they were supposed to help. they said i needed to hire a full time in house nurse!! Now what?
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54J I can't believe that hospice said that they couldn't help you. That is terrible. I am so sorry that they have turned you down. What about calling your hubby's dr and seeing if he can write orders for hospice to come out and start helping. Maybe you have to have a referral from a dr before they will come out. I know with dads mess going on we have to have a referral for everything. Let me know what happens. Love u Stormyyyyyyyyy
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I am having a problem with my husband with ALZ and according to the doctors limited time???? He holds the top of his pj's when I try to change him. He will be full of poop and pee but hold on to those pants. He gets so mad when you try to change him has anyone else had this problem? he can walk and babble and feed him self but does not want to be cleaned or changed!!
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54J, we can't get hospice care either because Dad walks,talks (incoherently) but I guess it is still considered talking. We can get an aid to visit three times a week once the safe garage apartment is finished. OT will also drop in and work with him in his safe place. We have stairs. He sleeps in the living room now. His room is upstairs. We have to take him upstairs to shower, because he can't shower himself. The garage is attached so that is good. Work started in June and it is still not finished. Oh well. I can see us running back and forth every second or Dad not wanting to be in there and always in the house. We will see how that goes. Savings depleted on this project. They say we have too many steps all over inside and out. Some help will come out of it, but not much
So happy MsM that you finally get some relief from all the pressure you are under. I can see that day coming for Dad. I love your posts. I can't live a life without humor. Humor keeps us all going.
Linda09 and Cricket if we didn't keep Dad's nails in check they would enter the room before he did! LOL Thanks so much for your kind thoughts Cricket. I'll be able to get some rest tomorrow and Friday when husband is home. Hope you are feeling much better Linda 09. Nice day out there supposed to get hot again.
Jen sorry to hear about your Dad. Hope the cloud is lifting.
Ted, I read the article. It was fabulous. I plan to post something! Hope you keep dropping in. I wasn't here when you were on the thread a lot earlier. Lobe the picture of you and your Mom! :)
Bobbie, The Bachmans make my hair curl in a bad way! LOL Scary people. Hope you have smooth sailing today. You inspire us all.
Miz, one foot in front of the other. It does get better especially with a little help from your friends. You just have to grieve your way, I can remember when some would tell me to Get Over It. They of course were the ones who hadn't lost a parent. Hang in there!
Diane, hugs! Hope your insomnia gets better.
Ann great to hear you and Mom got out and got creative! T-shirt sounds beautiful! :)
Kuli, hope your Dad is still comfortable. Long hard road dealing with pain issues.
Hi to Stormy and Ringo. Keep posting. Lobe reading your posts. Talk later. Trying to be especially close to daughter since we lost our beloved Ann Richens yesterday. Love to you all. Have a great afternoon.
Rosella hope everything is going well with you. I enjoy your pictures so much!
Christina, are you still there? Know you are busy getting business going. Good luck to you. Miss you.
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Hospice, at least around here, doesn't have as much to do with them walking and talking as it does their disease diagnosis. While dad may live past the 6 months with his end stage heart failure, they have found that patients with that diagnosis are hospitalized less when hospice gets involved earlier thus it costs Medicare less in the long run. Dad's primary care doctor didn't think he was "hospice ready" but after a long discussion with his cardiologist, she reluctantly agreed with me and wrote the referral for him. I don't know what the exact diagnoses you guys are dealing with but maybe it's just finding a diagnosis that they can use for a referral. Sure wish the process was easier. Will write more later. Hugs, Kuli
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All- First, it looks like the captain(at)kangeroo(dot)(com) got through - yea!

Now I feel bad that Mom can get hsopice and some of your moms and dads can't!
Today I had the social worker with all her help (see my last post), then the home health aid came and bathed Mom, changed her bed, changed her diaper, washed her hair, gave me diapers and pads and wipes and was awesome. And she will come daily except on weekends. And our nurse came last, bringing Mom a new script, making sure we were all doing OK, and hugging my neck when she left. She has suggested we could use a catherer with Mom, putting an end to wet only diapers - but I'm not ready to go there yet.

Anyway, I can't tell you how pleased I am. Mom hasn't yelled or screamed or moaned a single time since yesterday. Its all about the meds - and Mom wasn't on the right meds and/or the amount of prescibed meds was not enough to control her anxiety - and thus her incessant yelling made life for all of us pure misery. I wish I'd had enough sense to figure this out before. She is peaceful today, humming and tapping her foot. This I can live with. This is how it should have been all along.
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54..I talked to my mom did you get a terminal diagnoses from the physician?

Thanks everyone for the support. I had no idea you could donate gift certificates!
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MsM. Don't feel bad at all! I am doing a happy dance for you. Probably when dad is no longer mobile we will be covered. Too much stress on your body and mind at the same time when Marie stopped walking. Proud of you! Give Marie a hug,husband a hug, and big hug for you! :) Kim
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Jsomebody - were you asking me if we received a terminal diagnosis? No we never have. The nurse that came out determines if Mom is suitable for Hospice. As Mom is now completely incontient, no longer able to walk (or stand) unaided, and is 89 with end stage Alzheimer's, she fit their criteria - which will be reevaluated every 60 days (from what I understand). I don't believe this time last week she would have met the criteria, as util last thursday she was still semi-mobile.
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Yes, I think it's all about the diagnosis. Thank goodness my mom's gastro dr wrote down possible pancreatic cancer but too weak to test further. That saved us, even tho he personally didn't think she was ready for hospice. Because I got the medical records with that written down before I called hospice, they didn't even contact him. They have a doctor that oversees the hospice and writes the scripts and he agreed to take mom's case sight unseen. Of course mom has also lost 25lbs in 18 mos. That was pretty convincing. The nurses are his eyes and ears and they meet with him once a week to discuss each patient. I was very fortunate. Around here it's hard to get hospice for ALZ patients. I don't know why, it seems their families need it the most.

Mom fell again today. I was lying on the sofa (I'm running a fever again....think the sinus infection is still there) when mom came barreling thru the den at about 90mph and fell face first into the sofa. The way her head bounced I thought for sure she had broken her neck, but she's ok. I burst into tears and begged her again to use her bell to call me so I can help her walk. I had even put it in her pocket when she laid down for her nap. She just won't use it. Since hubby was home, I went to my room and took a sleeping pill and took a nap. She keeps saying she's sorry over and over again. *sign* I don't want sorry, I want her to push the damn bell.....

Msm..so happy you got hospice coming. That will give you so much relief and peace of mind.
Jen, hang in there. Love you girl.
Ted, so good to hear from you and the news article was just awesome. I will go back and make a comment. Your patio is gorgeous. So inviting. What a good picture of you and your mom. I'd have that blown up and hanging on the wall.

I'm bushed tonight. I'll write more later or tomorrow. Love you all so much!!!
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annt are you taking antibiotics you've had this sinus thing for a while haven't you?
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Free Sh*t - short and to the point

THE REAL PROBLEM WITH OUR GOVERNMENTAL SYSTEM

The folks who are getting free shit, don't like the folks who are paying for the free shit, because the folks who are paying for the free shit, can no longer afford to pay for both the free shit and their own shit.
And, the folks who are paying for the free shit, want the free shit to stop.
And the folks who are getting the free shit, want even MORE free shit on top of the free shit they're already getting!
Now ... the people who are forcing the people who PAY for the free shit, have told the people who are RECEIVING the free shit, that the people who are PAYING for the free shit, are being mean.
So ... the people who are GETTING the free shit, have been convinced they need to HATE the people who are PAYING for the free shit by the people who are forcing the people who are PAYING for the free shit and GIVING them the free shit in the first place.

And that's the straight shit!
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Ted that was an awesome article. Thanx for being there for your mother.
luvCuz
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Msm...yes I've been thru one round of antibiotics and a steroid shot. The antibiotic was Amoxicillin. It's old and on the cheap list. In fact Publix gives it away for free. I may need something newer and stronger. I feel the drainage and I keep a headache and now a fever so I'm pretty sure it's the same infection. My body is probably resistant. I end up taking at least two zpaks every winter. I get bronchitis and pneumonia often. I get a shot for flu and pheumonia, but I still get them. Got weak respiratory system I guess. Started having pheumonia at 4yrs old. I only smoked for about 4 yrs but I've sucked in second hand smoke my whole life.

Cuz....Really? No sh*t? lol!

Going to bed now. Hope you all have a good evening and sleep well.

Love you guys!
Ann
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good noon you all .
figured id have tons to read , uhhh nobody got on today . sobbing waaaa .
been zoomin around here cleaning . sweat up the storm .
so hot outside but nice breeze ,
pa s lookin good today . ask me where is momma ? i ask him if he has seen her he said no not anymore i said me too . oh boy ,
annt- hope u get to feel better real soon . i take advil for colds and sinus , get embehind the phramcy its the best . it will kick ur ass . make ya feel better . works for me .
kim- are u feeling any better today ? sure hope so . daughter called said her hubby came home yesterday said he has the flu and dont feel good . poor guy . hope he feels better today ,. hate it when u have the flu and have to go to work , now that suxs .
ok break time is over for me i shall get back to do my slavery work .
love you all tons . xoxox
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hey Linda - I'm around. The Hospice aid just left, having bathed and changed Mom, who is a now quiet and content. Such a difference.
annt-don't let this sinus thing go on too long - you re needed.
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mariesmom ! bet it felt good that someone s givin mom a bath uh ? do u stand in there and help her or u go off to the patio and sip ur coffee ?
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linda- I watched. These folks are all so nice.
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good . glad u watch :-) . when i had home nurse come in , pa would get so cranky cuz he wanted to sleep and not have a bath , when i tell him oh theyre here , he tells me to tell them we dont need em today lol . ill find out oct sometimes if they ll approve him or not . will see . it is nice to have em come out and take my place for an hr . it lasted 90 days cuz his bed sores healed and nuthing more they can do for him . but now he can not walk so maybe they ll help him ?
i am happy that ure getting help . its worth it .
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Linda. Feeling much better today. Are you feeling better? Dad is still asleep. It is so hot out there! Tomorrow it is gonna be even worse. Might try to cook some eggs outside on the street. LOL Tomorrow we have to go into the garage and paint. Will need plenty of ice. If a hot flash comes on in that heat I think I will probably spontaneously combust! If you hear something about it on the news you'll know who it is! LOL Have to have my husband bring out the fire extinguisher. Damn I can see it now. Channel 8 news Debbie Knox with a little smile on her face while trying to act concerned reporting it! Hehehehe

Msm. Happy to hear hospice people are so caring. Makes me feel better to know that because Dad will get to that point. Mom had hospice in the hospital, but it was a whole different thing. Hard to think about that whole ordeal. I'll talk about it sometime. Any news about the job? You guys deserve an explanation.
You sure do keep us laughing! Sometimes I 'll be feeling real bad and one of your posts will come up and I suddenly notice a smile is on my face. Hang in there! Something great will come your way!

Ann. Are you on any kind of inhaler? My husband knows about the different types and what might help. Hope you are feeling better today? Let us know.

Better get my butt in gear. Need to do some cleaning. Husband off today and tomorrow. Might be able to get a nap in today without worrying. :)

Cricket. Happy to hear you will be able to get back in the pool soon! LOL

Love and hugs to everyone of you great people! Talk later!
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kim- hope u dont catch on fire when u paint the garage ! i was sweepin the floors here and i was pourin out sweats ! and dad said im cold waaaaaa . throw more blanket on him , thinking whew !
yes debbie knox is something eles . lol i didnt see her today maybe i ll see her tmr and watch out for kim in the garage lol . stay cool dear .
i need to go outside and walk the dogs and burn trash , pewey , hubby shall be home soon . may have a beer with him . mm shall see ....
bobbie - is there another hurican comin ? thought i saw that on the news the other day . hope it goes out in the open sea and disappearded .
i am somewhat feelin lit better but as the day went on im feelin lit achin . realy would like a nap but think i shall wait cuz i have more things i need to do . oh boyyyyy. my job never ends . sniffff
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I have just awoken from a nap. I feel like a decadent little princess.
I shall now have a cup of tea and keep my pinkie in the air whle drinking.
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Hello everybody. Same situation as 1 week ago... Too much work! I can't read. I'm going to the beach tomorrow for 2 days so see you at the beginning of next week! Hope everybody is alright,
Kisses!
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found this..

My four-year-old was learning the parts of the body and she got very obsessed with boobs. She's always grab mine or pull my shirt down to see them. It's very odd. One day, at the grocery store, there was a young woman weraing a tank top. She had large breasts, and my daughter went up to her and reached up and poked them. Then she said, "Hey, do you feed your baby with those big ol' boobies? Cuz they are BIIIGGGG!!!" I grabbed my daughter and got the heck out of there!
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omg, this poor girl.. here's another embarrassing moment...

Last night, I had my father and mother in law over for lunch. They are very strict, mannerly people, and don't care much for children. While I thought my children were napping, my four year old had actually been rummaging in the TRASH CAN for her piece of candy that she had dropped in it earlier. Instead, she found my used pads, and leaned WAY over the banister rails holding them out for all to see, bawling: "Mommy, what's this? Why is it so red and stinky? EWWWW!!!" While my parents in-law hastened to make the quickest exit possible.
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are you grossed out yet?
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okay a joke.. A couple were married and, following the wedding, the husband laid down some rules.

"I'll be home when I want, if I want, and at what time I want," he insisted. "And, I don't expect any hassle from you. Also, I expect a decent meal to be on the table every evening, unless I tell you otherwise. I'll go hunting, fishing, boozing, and card-playing with my buddies whenever I want. Those are my rules," he said. "Any comments?"

His new bride replied, "No, that's fine with me. But, just understand that there'll be sex here at seven o'clock every night ... whether you're here or not."
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Two buddies were sharing drinks while discussing their wives.

"Do you and your wife ever do it doggie style?" .

"Well ... not exactly." his friend replied, "She's more into the trick dog aspect of it."

"Oh, I see, kinky, huh?"

"Well ... not exactly ... I sit up and beg and she rolls over and plays dead."
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