Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
the brief lull at work at the start of the year has ended and it's back to late nights at the office
I'm dreading the decisions that will need to be made soon for the Viking - funds are running low
I need to get taxes done and fear the new laws will have me owing
I won't complain about another rainy weekend given how brutal the rest of North America has had it this winter
a friend lent me a book that the old me would have stayed up all night reading but I suspect it will just sit on my nightstand for some time
I've been occupying myself organizing estate tax papers, from what I've read they have the same tax deadline as usual. Sis is dragging her azz getting to the lawyer to sign papers to close an account - I get that she's busy but she is working to occupy her time and in my opinion she doesn't need to be a slave to her job, especially when it means other stuff in her life gets pushed to the back burner. Financial stuff - especially taxes - always makes me antsy, I wish it was over and done.
Where's msmadge these days?
Msmadge, calling msmadge Are you OK❓❓❓
Hub's Mom and Dad's place? As soon as I walk in there I want to walk on out again. You can cut the atmosphere with a knife. Sometimes it's so thick even a machete would be required. I swear.
I'm just saying.
The charge from the pharmacy was very small, most of mom's meds were covered. It was just a surprise... and opening old wounds, I guess.
I want to get married. Or, at least I think I do, haha. It's still something I think of as "someday" but since I'm mid 40s, I guess I could at least get back to some dating. I've been VERY content this past year to focus on things for me: the relatively new job and totally different career path for now, the new apartment that I've put a bit of work into so I can stay here comfortably for years to come, hopefully...
I haven't been lonely, I'm not lonely. I just want to get married someday so I guess I better go on some dates, then.
I'm planning some fun things for this year coming up. I booked my hotel for a music festival at end of May in Detroit. I'm content and focused on doing fun things for, and mostly by, myself. I just want to snap my fingers and have a comfortable marriage... mostly for companionship reasons... but also I'm a romantic and hoping to find a committed, loving relationship.
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CW, that's annoying, getting a bill for things you don't remember your mom being given, four months after the fact. Hopefully it's not a lot of money. That would make it much easier to simply pay it and move on.
But there you go...........that's on my bucket list.
what’s on your bucket list?
I pray about it and I know God will lead me eventually to this place so I'll leave it with him and carry on.
That kind of treatment is experienced as rejection, and it lingers.
It speaks more to the pastor's dysfunction and really has nothing to do with you, imo.
In these days and times, I am reminded of instructions I have heard before,
that is to not check your brain at the door (when entering church). I see that you have already got this!
Our journey and desire for spiritual growth will not end just because the churches end in apostasy.
There were only two other people besides him and myself at these sessions. One was a member of his congregation, the other was one of these people who just went on and on about herself and then when we prayed she would throw in "amens" and "thank-you Father" throughout the prayer. To each his/her own but it just annoyed me. Plus I never stated where I was in my own Christian journey to them and he treated me like I was totally ignorant about the Bible. He'd look at me and say things like "just in case you aren't aware" etc. etc. Then he got into this big discussion about how he doesn't counsel women on a one on one basis because of how it might look. I was tempted to remind him of the story in the Bible of how people criticized Jesus cause he let a woman of ill repute wipe his feet with her hair and how Jesus responded to them. My point being Jesus wasn't worried what people thought.
Anyway, it's all water under the bridge now. I stopped going and that was that.
Gershun - re that pastor, yikes!!! This is an example where judgement is appropriate. Not calling him names, but evaluating the situation and accepting that he was not good at the job of grief counselling and you needed to stop seeing him. If it (counselor, group etc.) doesn't work for me in the first few sessions, I respect my feelings, stop going and seek something else.
It is often more lonely when he is home.