Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I love your words on this topic. I feel very much the same way. It’s called, ‘living in the moment.’ Thanks for this reminder.
People can get caught up in their emotions and tend to live in the past far more than they should.
It’s fine to visit the past occasionally. We shouldn’t become stuck in the past. Like you, I do think we should have a realistic view of the past instead of glamorizing it.
At some point we must learn to enjoy the present. That is what our loved ones who are gone now would want for us.
But there are many memories of him that aren’t so good, and I have no regrets that we parted. Even fewer that I am now married to Tony.
So enjoy the happy memories, but don’t let them trick you into being miserable that they are gone!
I can relate to what you’re saying. There have been many times when I miss someone so deeply that I long to be with them again.
Naturally, we will always remember the people who brought meaning and purpose in our lives.
You are grieving and experiencing normal feelings during this time. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I’m grieving the loss of my older brother who died recently. It’s hard to lose people that we love so much.
I loved my parents dearly. I was also close to my mother in law who was a lifeline for me at times. We can feel lost without them.
Even though they no longer share our physical world with us, they left us with so many precious memories for us to cherish.
Sometimes I get very sad when I am reminiscing and other times I smile because I am filled with joy that I had them in my life.
Take comfort in knowing that you were deeply loved by your mom. Wishing you peace during this holiday season.
I have those moments too. It’s normal for memories to come to the surface occasionally.
Your mom would understand how you are feeling but she would also want you to celebrate her life and feel joy.
You had an incredible bond with your mother. That bond will never die. Just because someone is no longer here with us doesn’t mean that we don’t feel their presence in our lives.
I don’t think we can ever forget about people who we loved so deeply.
The holidays can be a difficult time for people who miss their loved ones.
Sending tons of hugs your way!
Do you think that your Sil minded that you cried?
She probably feels closer to you that you trusted her enough to be yourself around her.
What do you think?
I went for coffee with my S I L yesterday and she said "You look so much like your mom it's uncanny" Just talking about my mom with someone who knew her brought all my emotions so close to the surface that I started bawling.
My mom validated me too. It wasn't until I just read what you wrote that I realized it. My family isn't close. Going for coffee with someone like I used to do with my mom really made me realize how I haven't filled that empty place in my heart where her love used to reside.
I feel very sad today.
My dH and I enjoyed lunch out. Such a good meal made it so we were hardly hungry when dinner time came.
You are doing the right thing . Many years ago I read that it’s better to read the news instead of watching it including videos and live on the scenes “ bad stuff”.
Indeed, the news is very depressing. You’re right. We have to take a break from it and occupy our minds with something else for a while.
Nothing to do about it, and it would have been better for me to not read it.
So, I am not going to think about it anymore.
We have some Aussie Bites from costco, I had two (mostly oats with raisins and apricots) with a rare afternoon serving of coffee. And a great salad today.
Anybody out there having a better day? I would be glad to hear it.
I can see how not seeing a stylist would save tons of money! I also see the convenience of it.
I guess that I am so used to going every six weeks. I did have my husband cutting my hair during Covid. He did a pretty good job.
My husband wouldn’t say that I did a good job cutting his hair though because I am not good with hair! LOL 😆, He did appreciate that I tried though.
Cwillie, cutting your own hair is quite difficult, much more than cutting on other heads. The one to avoid is cutting hair for someone who is going bald. They look even more bald with each cut, and blame you! DH is now so bald that it doesn’t matter. We were always ‘hair compatible’ – I was prepared to go long, and neither of us cared about ‘bald’.
Your hair must be prettier than mine. As I aged, my hair got thinner. I had thick hair when I was younger. So did mom and grandma. Their hair got thinner as they aged too. I think it is a genetic thing.
I wouldn’t be able to have long hair. It would look stringy! I keep mine in a pixie cut.
My great aunts had beautiful thick long hair that they put up in a bun.
My stylist begged me not to cut my own hair, nor my children’s bangs. I am not good at it! My kids ran if they saw me with scissors in my hand! LOL 😆
I did cut my own hair for a while and I think I did a pretty good job of it too, but I'm not as dexterous as I once was so now I limit myself to trimming around the ears and my bangs. I've gone through the long and straight 70's to the permed big hair of the 80's, but I think my worst look was the chin length bob in the 90's (it didn't suit me at all, what was I thinking).
I really would recommend it. I’ve saved a packet, it’s always convenient, and even when it needs a weekly wash it still looks fine.
I love everything about us, but especially fact that in all of our variety, there is the commonality of our wish to try to help others.
In a time when social media can go all caustic very easily, I think we are one decent group.
I have been helped here.
I have learned a lot here.
Please, all be well.
I have short hair and have to have it cut often. It adds up!
My hairstylist charges $50 and I tip her $15. I go every six weeks.
You’re right, it doesn’t take much time but they pay a percentage of their wages to the owner.
1) My sister aged 79 had the flu shot and the latest Covid shot in April this year. A week later she had a stroke and was then diagnosed with Guillain Bare syndrome. She was in hospital for a month while they finally identified the Guillain Bare syndrome, which is normally very rare. It seemed to be related to having both shots together. DH and I decided not to risk it, and have had neither for this Southern Hemisphere winter just past.
2) The news here is saying that there is a pronounced swell in Covid diagnoses and ICU hospitalisations, though not in deaths. The pundits said to continue doing tests and staying home if you had any symptoms.
3) DH and I have changed our habits quite a lot. We don’t do indoor crowds, which messes up most entertainment and dining out options. We also stay well away from anyone wearing a mask, as we caught Covid earlier by sitting next to someone wearing one in the theatre, and found from conversation that she was only ‘just over it’. Or not ‘just over it’, in fact. Our medicos said that 10 days isolation was really best, but they had compromised on 7 days because they couldn’t get compliance with a longer time. I'm also more careful about washing my hands when I come home from a shopping trip.
No problems by me scheduling , so far not much interest in the US to get the latest Covid dose . I have asthma , DH has diabetes , it’s recommenced we get Flu and Covid vaccines .
I spaced them apart even before I saw those articles , to avoid possibly being down a day or two. I was concerned getting both at the same time would make me feel sick . Didn’t feel sick after either . I also thought maybe I would get a stronger immunity to each , if the immune system can respond to one at a time . The concern in the articles , of getting both at the same time is a very slight increase of stroke for over 65 but especially in the 85 + .
They give babies so many immunizations at the same time . I wonder if the immune system can really respond well enough to them all at once, to get the desired amount of immunity .
There is some concern about getting Flu and Covid shots together in us older folks . I’ve seen articles recommending space them out 2-3 weeks apart