Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I bought them for my niece and nephew
Yeah, and then how sorry are you later, eh?
Never again.
I have to admit...I am a candy addict and Iv'e always got some kind of candy here beside me.I go through candy phases,get stuck on one a while and then switch to another.I was hooked on Lifesaver Wintergreen mints most the winter,but lately,I found that Lifesaver Gummies are really good.Pez are always a winner and ofcourse,good ole chocolate.It's just too bad there's no penny candy left and a candybar is over a dollar nowdays
I bought some cheetos made simple recently and simply threw them away
I was wondering what exactly was in Red Vines so I looked them up, couldn't see the info, and sent a contact form and only a few hours later....
"Thank you for reaching out to the American Licorice Company. We appreciate the time you took to contact us.
Our Original Red Vines Twists contain Red 40. However, we do offer a newer product called Red Vines Made Simple. Our Red Vines Made Simple are made with real sugar, natural flavors and colors. This product also contains no fat and is produced using non genetically modified ingredients.
Your friends may not be very familiar with Red Vines Made Simple at this time. However, as popularity for this product increases, we expect distribution to increase as well.
We hope the above information answered your inquiry. Should you have any further questions, please feel free to reach out!"
It is STILL not good for any person to eat sweets until they feel sick and their teeth ache. Not that I would know, of course, cough cough. Other than that - have fun!
That's what J would have done, and taken lovely flowers. She would then have gone home and gossiped enthusiastically (never maliciously) about everybody there, in her unspoiled Black Country accent.
That's how we found out that one neighbour had gone bankrupt twice, another had been a hard-working philanderer long before his wife died and the glamorous "new" girlfriend was no such thing as new, and that the ladies in the corner house were not only business partners. There was also a suspected cat-poisoner but as J didn't own a cat she wouldn't vouch for the truth of that one.
I do partly know what she said about us. ExSO (aged 65+, mind you) was "that young lad, liked his cars" and I was "there was a girl who lived with 'im, was that you?" But this was when she was ill in hospital, she'd perked up a lot next time I saw her.
With the dog, truth of it is I don't want exSO coming over and making a fuss of him; and if you're thinking he'd surely have more sense, no he wouldn't. 12 year old dog was abandoned by his first family aged seven, has had to adjust to losing his second "Daddy" since exSO and I parted two years ago, and is it any wonder that the poor animal has separation anxiety in spades? So the last thing I want is SO making a reappearance. Finding a dog-sitter for a few hours might well be the answer, Send - not bath! What fresh h*ll..?! He really doesn't do baths - but perhaps I'll see if his best friend's Daddy can have him over just for the afternoon.
I also can't stand the thought of anyone saying:
she had a good innings
it was a merciful release
she was rather losing it, wasn't she
losing T must have hit her hard
But in fact I think the only way not to slap anyone who says those and similar things is to make a bet about how many times they do and concentrate on counting up.
Just some thoughts about the logistics of attending vs. not attending.
You have done enough for J while alive, that counts for everything.
The dog really cannot stay out in the car and not be seen, imo, that long, but you could board him in doggy day care or overnight. If you took him to the area of the funeral, could you drop him off for a bath, would that be enough time to pick him up after the funeral?
Still, you need to be able to go places that you choose.
Again, sorry for your loss.
It is the correct thing to do
I will be contributing to the public acknowledgement of her life
Her children will, loosely speaking, expect it
I may not sing hymns beautifully but at least I don't look at my feet and mumble.
I should not go to J's funeral because
She won't give a monkey's whether I do or not
I preferred to give her my time when she was alive
There will be plenty of people there who didn't bother visiting her before she died
There will be people there I don't much want to see
There will be one person I definitely don't want the dog to see or hear while he's waiting outside in the car, and I can't leave the dog at home for that long.
Tum-ti-tum-ti-tum thinking...
I have been staring at the wall and trying to add up for about five minutes now, in which time I could have scrambled my eggs and eaten 'em -
Explain to me how scrambling a lot of eggs, dividing them between containers, putting the containers in the freezer, taking them out again, putting them in the microwave and then having to wash both containers and plates...
Is a quicker supper than scrambling a couple of eggs? Which you then get to eat nice and fresh and freshly made?
A little carnuba wax never kept me from eating a gummy bear or a sour patch kid
Now I'm in the mood for some red vines
Do you like the modern chemical red food coloring or would you rather go back to crushed Cochineal beatles?
Was your regular toothbrush under the sink?