Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
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"Lauraralph posted on your message board 11/24/2017 at 4:53 pm
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I live on a cul-de-sac and the way my computer desk sits I pretty much have a front row seat to see coming and goings. Since the next door neighbor's tree came down in a storm, the view is even better....
Anyhow, my neighbor across the street has an elderly Mom who has dementia, who lives in a neighboring State in a nursing home. I was so surprised to see the neighbors brother and his wife pull into their driveway and in the car was their Mom. I could tell by the body language that it wasn't an easy trip. Everything must be going smoothly inside the house hours later as the car is still in the driveway.
Restaurants here have been nonsmoking for years, except for some of the ones like the sports bars, which I don't patronize.
I hope the meal isn't as unpleasant as you anticipate, but I've been in those facility dining rooms at meal time and the most appropriate characterization I would offer is depressing. People stare at each other or out the windows with that 1000 yard stare, I get depressed feeling sorry for them, then the whole range of life of people in 80s and 90s becomes more than I want to think about.
CM, I think our packages have a much broader travel experience than we do. Maybe we could hitch a ride on a package and at least get a tour of a few states?
But, on a related subject, if you want to be concerned about the expansion of companies seeking personal data to commoditize, read the TOS and privacy policies of companies such as UPS and the US post office, which now require execution of those offensive and onerous agreements just to find out where my package or a certified letter is.
I think we should return to courier (or is it carrier?) pigeons. At least they won't take my personal information and sell it to who knows what and where.
FF, maybe there's a shortage of mules now? I've found similar issues when adapting to ordering through the Internet, with literally nothing in stock at the stores, where I could see what I want, check the construction, buy it then and satisfy my need. I have to order it, check it out at the store and decide if I want it.
Oh, well, at least we can order things. I was thinking the other day about the people in Puerto Rico and other areas which are still recovering from the hurricanes. Those poor people are still so challenged just by daily living.
When ordering clothes recently, the website says a clothes item is in stock, and then it takes 2 to 3 weeks before I receive delivery. Guess it depends where "in stock" is that located. Is it half way around the world and it takes a mule to get to get to the local post office. Or in stock means the material and threads are there, the garment needs to be made :P
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Just the Atlantic to cross, now. Fly, fly my pretty..!
The anxiety producing part is that I will - sort of - be attending the dinner, just not as a participant. All meals are served in the dining room unless someone is ill, so to accommodate guests there will be two sittings and obviously seating arrangements will be changed. I fear mom and I will be pushed in a corner and I will be left scrambling to find a chair to sit on so I can feed her the meal as I do every day. It could be fun, but I rather doubt it.
CWillie, I have a different take on "inflexibility." I would consider the decision not to attend the holiday gathering at the NH a wise decision, as well as a reflection that you're using your time more appropriately. Nor do I think it's necessarily a reflection of becoming older. Yes, it can be, but it's more of a discriminatory factor in selecting how to spend time.
I've felt this way about holiday gatherings for years, always finding a good excuse not to go when invited, especially for New Year's Eve gatherings in which I know everyone is going to be drinking. (Family gatherings are different; I always enjoyed those.)
My thoughts are these:
1. What would I get out of having to tolerate trivial remarks, someone else's smoking, developing a headache from smoke within about 10 minutes? Add to that the possibility of wandering hands, driving home at night in cold weather? Or undiscriminating smoochers who think that New Year's Eve is something to be celebrated by grabbing females and planting a sloppy kiss?
After decades, I 'm still trying to find a good answer beyond "nothing."
2. As an alternative, what would I get out of staying home, reading a good book, reading a gardening magazine and designing all sorts of formal garden beds that I'll probably never be able to implement? Or perusing a woodworking magazine and creating similar designs, dreaming of the day when I actually will have retirement leisure time and can start experimenting with marquetry or intarsia (even I determine myself lacking in woodworking skills)?
Or watching another version of the Nutcracker, after having seen performances in person and annually on tv for decades? Or a NYE program from Vienna, generally consisting of Strauss waltzes? Or just doing nothing?
The answer is relaxation, mental restoration, inspiration, comfort, peace....let me count the ways.
I think as we age we spend our time more discriminately, choosing those activities from which we can gain and turning down those which offer little or nothing.
Time is more precious as we slow down and have less of it for leisure, especially with caregiving. So we use it more wisely.
We did that for my mom; it worked out for 4 years. Let me tell you; just being there, visiting, arranging, coordinating, adjusting, taking her out to appointments was plenty of work. We NEVER felt as though we were neglecting her. The care staff was MUCH better at caring for her day to day needs that I would ever have been and they had the medical expertise to figure out when she was getting ill.
I've called places that offer overnight services. OMG they are outrageously expensive. Soooo, I do the best I can knowing I'm depressed while at the same time thankful I'm in a position to take care of my Dad.
We are expecting them to overcome a rather deeply embedded imperative, there.
Let that be a lesson to everyone........if you want to become a President, actor or sports figure, remember eyes are watching.
"Even Kennedy was a known flirt" - hoots!!!
Can I nominate that as my understatement of the decade?
I am beginning to think it might be much quicker and less depressing to list those among the rich and powerful who have NOT ever taken advantage of their position.
Hope you're not stuck under the sink still
I have a good friend who was and still is constantly sexually harassed because of her looks. She looks like Samantha from "Sex in the City". She kept her ground and didn't take this casually. She knew exactly how to put that person in his place.
Pamzimmrrt, I bet a lot of older men are thinking who is going to come out of the woodwork regarding them, but things were different back then.
I think we need to concentrate on the more current group of men [and women] who are doing any harassing.
We are in late-nite plumbing trouble-the vanity sink that never really got installed has issues at the drain and elsewhere. There was a bucket under the trap (always, because I never trust plumbing not to leak) and a leak-the bucket was filled.
Going to have to intervene and force a stopping point now.
Pammzi, Can you please explain in what context did you mean that "no man is safe anymore?".
Did you mean not safe from accusations? Or something else?
He put things a bit into perspective on the topic last night - maybe you can catch it on you tube if not HBO
Just eating dinner - be back in a bit
Now, there's a man who doesn't give a whit what anyone thinks. I think I'd like to get a talk show and just run my mouth off all day. What fun!
Yeah, I had my share of unwanted sexual attention in my day. I was pretty good at putting people in their place. There is flirtation and then there is harassment. Some men can't tell the difference. And women..........Did anyone see that movie with Michael Douglas and Demi Moore. I forget what it was called. She sexually harassed him in the movie.
These admins are really good! Really fast!
Must have run out of things to worry about on a Saturday nite!
Was just wondering if Santa will change his hairstyle this year.....
more like famous orange hair with funny bangs.
You really should have gone just to check out Santa, Cwillie. A sort of preview to see if the kiddies will be safe this year, or scared.
Oh, it means "expressing a lack of interest or enthusiasm". Simply "whatever".