Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Hoping that you will keep strong in this struggle, and take the necessary breaks for yourself without guilt.
You are still a wonderful advocate for your Mom.
You might ask if the Nh has recently added a new medication that has a side effect of diarrhea.
You are also part of her care team, but now as family, her daughter.
Seems to me you can bring her food and it would be appreciated. If doubts, ask.
But not all suggestions are meddling, necessarily, if nicely put. Nothing wrong with a friendly suggestion and a little extra "treat" to cheer her up (and stem the flow :/).
Mind yourself. Sometimes you can feel like some kind of little ninepin, standing there helpless while others are being picked off around you, and if it just seems to be one after another I do think it's better to go and look actively for something to cheer you up again before you end up sucking your thumb and whimpering.
My neighbour has a pre-op assessment tomorrow, then surgery (not sure what, exactly, I suppose it depends on what tomorrow shows up) booked in for the following week. I got her Vogue to while away the hanging around time, nothing like other people's esoteric preoccupations (Must I wear topaz?) to take your mind off your own for a minute or two, I thought.
Can you make mom some cream of rice ?
All kidding aside though, I truly hope your Mom starts to feel better. Hugs!
I'm sorry mom is not well and diarrhea is not fun especially for the bedridden
I hope the aides are doing a good job keeping her clean and comfortable
Are you inclined to ask for a stool sample to be taken if it doesn't resolve shortly ?
So many have passed at hoca the past two years that I've begun to forget their names
It still bothers me to see the decline in some especially the younger ones in their 70s
I had nightmares last night - nothing in particular but I sense dread of things to come
I do need a hot cocoa
Mom isn't doing so well, nothing you can really put your finger on, but she is just... frailer, sleepier, less... I don't know, just less. I got a call from the NH (1/2 hour after I left, why they didn't talk to me when I was there...) saying that mom was having constant diarrhea and she's getting sore, so they are starting her on acidophilus. So how is this possible in a woman who has needed laxatives for 50 years, and whose chronic constipation drove me to scream on this forum many times? I can think of 3 possibilities: virus, partial impaction, cancer. The doc comes in at lunch time and basically just writes scripts, I doubt he has ever examined her. The RN's never seem to step far from the nurses station, I doubt they've examined her either. The RPN's (LPN's) are busy handing out meds. The report of diarrhea comes from the ones changing her diaper, the women on the front lines who are powerless. Do I want to push this? At this point does it even matter? I've decided to just wait and see (sigh)
And then there's this...
People keep dying there. I understand that is what happens in nursing homes, but sometimes it's people you never expected. It's shocking, it's depressing as hell, and I find myself wanting to pull back from interacting with anyone who lives there. I could never work there because I just couldn't stand it.
This just occurred to me, but I assume you used a cable with a USB end if you hooked your iPad up to your PC? When you hooked it up, did it appear to be taking a charge that way? (Can you charge an iPad off a PC? I don't know. I can charge my Android tablet and phone that way.) If so, and you still have problems when you plug it in to the wall, it's probably the charger (or the adapter end of your charger, if your working USB cable is also part of your charger).
Anyway, I can't believe it. Before the factory reset, my iPad storage was 11.3 gb of 16gb used. Guess what it is now! 7.1 gb used!! I was going crazy deleting my photos and it just kept inching towards the 16gb.... It's my email that is linked to the iPad. It was about 950MB and climbing. It's now only 13.MB. I didn't know how to lower the email storage without permanently deleting my files in it.... And my Kindle App had the most storage in GB. Now it's down to only 117MB... Would it be bad if I do this factory reset maybe once a year on the iPad?
Ohhh. I haven't tried it yet on the charger. I don't feel like seeing bad news if the iPad continues to view the charger as incompatible. And I don't feel like pulling and inserting the charger into the wall socket repeatedly until the iPad accepts it... Plus, I just did my budget. Yikes! Someone had fun ordering online - without limits... =(
It seems like credit card is also my downfall...
Mally, I agree with you about added steroids and hormones placed in meat and poultry, thus the farmers can sell their livestock quicker. I know for myself when it comes to food, I can forget it is time to eat lunch. And a bag of chips can sit in the cupboard for months. I do know my downfall is chocolate.
Ah yes, I use to walk to school in the snow going uphill both ways :)
I have stopped praying to God when caregiving for mom was too much for me. That was over 20 years ago. Since it's a new year, I'm going to start praying to God or even my ancestor to give me the strength to resist the upcoming pressures. At the moment, I'm not going to be picky. I usually avoid embracing my heritage. These past 26 years I was a good Christian who avoided my heathen heritage. I have always been torn between the Christian religion and my native upbringing. One condemns the other - no ifs or buts, no compromises. I was never willing to root out my heritage...because that is what I am, who I am. Perhaps if I grew up in the Mainland, I would have been able do it.
Edit: Thanks Dorianne!
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I have no idea how to do this in Apple products.
If you were using a tablet, I would probably just say hook your tablet up to your laptop with your USB cable. Then on your laptop, search for and go into File Explorer. Scroll down the menu on the left until you see "This PC" and click on that. There, on the right, you'll see all your devices, including your laptop drive (usually your C drive), your DVD/CD drive, and your device (tablet) drive, plus any other drives you may have. You could then go into your tablet drive, find the files you want to save, and copy them to your laptop.
To do this, you'd create a file folder on your laptop desktop. Then in your tablet drive, highlight and copy (CTRL + C on your keyboard) the items you want to save. Then go to the file you just created, and paste (CTRL + V) them into the file. You can highlight a number of items all at once and copy + paste them, or you can just copy an entire file - say, if your photos are all stored in one file folder, just click on the folder and copy that.
But I don't know if that will work with an iPad???
I do often just save my files somewhere else when I need to (like a flash drive), rather than doing a full system back up, as it's less time-consuming. But if you have a LARGE number of files you want to save, or if you're not sure you can find them all on your own, then do a system back up. It depends how much you do with your iPad. When it comes to my tablet, personally, there are hardly any files on there I need to save, besides some photos and videos.
So, I'm trying to cut down on rice, which I'm struggling. And I'm trying to walk on my glider after dinner... I'm not being consistent....
Standard sizing is no where to be found. A "large" made by one manufacturer is a "small" with another manufacturer. It's a guessing game when buying on-line and even at the store :P
Now I am trying to find knee socks that I can actually get more than half way up my leg. I even ordered "wide calf" knee socks and they weren't all that roomy. Do companies think everyone's legs are the size of Twiggy???
And my new slacks look like clown pants.... perfect fit at the waist, but so baggy elsewhere. Wish I could wear pajamas to work !! Those do fit nicely.
I will need to drag myself to the store to buy a new winter coat. I can get my old ones on but I can't zip it up because I have gain too much weight around the waist. Maybe I could be like a teenager who refuses to button up their jackets :)