Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's hand. I hope he feels better soon.
Hi cwillie,
I'm with you. I'm glad you didn't need any meds at 40. I think that's all some doctors know how to do is push meds.
When I told him what the surgeon (I had worked for) did for ganglion cysts, this doc was not impressed, said they come back.
The joint is inflamed, and after waiting too long to see the orthopedic specialist after his bike accident a year ago, (PCP refused to refer) the damage was done. Appears like bone on bone.
He also has arthritic changes to his spine.
He has not explained until now, how much he has been hurting himself with certain activities, and is off work for two weeks.
Great when things just disappear without surgery? A bone spur on my heel disappeared, once had TMJ pain in the jaw, gone! Right hip pain gone.
Back when I was only 40 I went in for my physical and was assigned a brand new doctor (our clinic trained residents). He told me he had never before encountered anyone my age who wasn't on some form of medication. Say what?
Understandably, part of training to be a doctor is to see sick people, where so many docs get into trouble when they assume what they see in a clinical practice has any bearing on what is actually happening in the world.
It will be just like, the doctor says in a much too much enthusiastic story:
"Have you ever seen a bone lump sticking out in the thumb joint of mostly women?
If you go to the market, look around and I am sure you will find a 70 year old woman or several with arthritis in that joint."
So I said, "Gee hubs, let's go shopping!"
However the specialist is an excellent doctor, but young, and no offense to 70 year olds.
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The hot/cold is for pain and swelling MsMadge. He needs that too.
But the soak was for infection, as salt absorbs, heals infection, or something like that.
I hope. Then, applied tea tree oil, a natural disinfectant.
Watch this....one wonders why I give up on posting?
TYPE IN B S G.....this is what you get, really!
BAG
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I cannot change it or correct it, it changes right back! That is why I have started spacing between letters to correct the predictive technology.
Going to STOP abbreviation altogether!
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If his hand is still soaking at least he's alternating hot and cold
It might be easier to just get him a microwaveable boo boo pack and put on his hand
You can get them at cvs or rite aid
Had to take the water to his chair, and did put his hand in!
An hour later, I bet it is still in there, looking like a prune!
Going to check.
it must be pretty painful too. Maybe a Fentynal lollipop would make him more ameniable. (One for you too)
Told him, but he has not done it.
Maybe I should feed him some LOLLIPOPS!
As for me, I only deserve to have a large sucker, because I must be one. Sad.
Meant to say K e f l e x. 2000 mg. per day.
Last year's injury from bike ride has become a chronic issue now, complicated by hubs bad behaviors. Takes my time away from progressing on cleanup, paperwork, etc.
He no longer does even the most basic chores lately. Something must change.
Lollipops!
Did he stick his hand in the shredder or biking incident?
Did dr suggest warm compress?
D h has an infection, in his hand joint. Reflex 200 mg. per day!
Si c k y. w I c k y , maybe it went to his brain.
A loved one is now living in assisted living, and I am hesitant to visit because I may be asked to move him, get involved, when I should not.
Today, took care of dH, picked up from work, urgent care, pharmacy, brings Rx for hand and he announces he will wait to see his orthopedic doctor on Friday to start the R x.
Lollipops!
Oh Sheesh! Just typed N o o o o o o o ! And, It changed automatically to Lollipops!
I am leaving it. My new outcry is lollipops!
It seems their DD was doing the rounds checking in on several acquaintances and stopped in to see a former neighbour at the NH. The woman was napping and when she awoke she thought it was morning and she needed to get up and get dressed. Nothing could dissuade or distract her and she proceeded to disrobe in front of her visitor.... yikes! I couldn't help but think of all the posts from people who are enraged that their loved ones don't get more visitors, I think this kind of situation will certainly make it much less likely that the woman involved will visit her old neighbour - or for that matter anyone with dementia - again.
When I first found this website, there was a poster who was posting not from the caregiver's point of view. I eventually realized which point of view it was the more I read his post. His daughter was his caregiver. She drew a fine line. If he ever struck her, she was no longer going to caregive him at home. Sometimes she typed for him... He mentioned how he would withdraw (involuntarily) from the world but could still hear what's being said about him. I thought of him as I read about your mom and how she's quieter now. And how my mom withdrew from us but the anger and the silent falling tears testify that although she wasn't responding to us - she was still aware of what's happening. {{{HUGS}}}
P.S..maybe your mom is just so very tired.
Maybe your Mom is still trying to figure out how to get her hands on that bedside
In N Out burger and fries, why she can't have any, why you didn't give her some....
I would not be speaking to you either, unless you gave her a chocolate shake. Lol.
Hoping she is better today, sunny weather outside.
Has she pinched you yet?
Hope she's more herself in a day or two.
Last night I asked if she could hear me, she said yes
I asked if she could talk, she said yes but didn't really do so and she woukd get a blank stare and if pushed would say she was thinking
She was quite serious, and she does always run late
I have to say, I wouldn't have been laughing.