Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I commented on his journaling, non-judgmental, no gossip, no opinions, just the facts of what he did that day. Mine would not be as pure.
I asked him if he thought journaling was helpful, then asked if he thought that I should be journaling. And what if someone finds it, and it's about them?
He said for me to use disappearing ink.
Love Shack by the B-52's.
wearing next nothing cause
it's as hot as an oven
I hated having to place the Viking in memory care too but once you've made the decision then move forward - your mom will still need you and her journey isn't over yet so no guilt
prayers for a smooth placement
Probably why I can't even remember ever weighing 118 - I got down to 123 once but that was a very long time ago
Are you sure the article didn't say "dessert" food?
Chocolate cake, cheesecake, lemon meringue pie, watermelon, ice cream, popcorn, and fritos?????
But then, I don't even own a scale.
It's natural as a believer to be angry at God when you see a loved one wracked with pain and you are a helpless bystander. I came home from that particular hospital visit doubting everything. My faith etc. But then I looked out my window at the beautiful spring flowers, the sun shining, the world in all its beauty and intricacy and thought, of course there is a God who loves us.
Don't forget God is in his Kingdom. Earth is where Satan rules temporarily. God can take away our pain or at the very least help us deal with it. Why he doesn't sometimes is a mystery but I still believe he knows what he is doing and I have to just contend with that.
I know you probably are just thinking "Oh Gershun, just shove it!" but I'll always stick up for God even though it makes me sad to hear the sadness in your post Willie. ((((Hugs))))
hope mom doesn't need a breathing treatment today and she can enjoy some food with you there
you've taken such good care of her for so many years
give yourself a treat today in celebration of being a wonderful daughter
Age is just a number, especially if quality of life is substandard. I find myself amused when the weather forecasters always say "and a Happy 103rd birthday to Hazel, Bertha, Betsy, etc. etc. " Occasionally they'll have footage of some dear old thing sitting in front of a huge cake, people standing around beaming at her. She, not so much.
Willie, if you aren't sure how to feel I think that's only natural. But all the best to your Mom irregardless. One day at a time as they say.
seems her secret to long life is eating desert food -
I have no no interest in living to 118, especially if it involves eating cactus and grass
Thanks for mentioning it MSMadge, because if we cannot talk about it, the stress can get cha! Luckylu also aknowledged the fires.
When the news reported one can see the fire clouds from 80 miles away, they were right. Then there was a Firenado! Less news, more prayers.
So tragic that Yosemite is burning, after barely recovering from the drought in California.
However, I read of tragedies happening throughout the U.S., and the world.
Some happening to our caregivers on top of the daily caregiver challenges.
My heart goes out to all.
idllywild
yosemite
redding
There is a very strong correlation with not having enough sleep and Alzheimer. Best to have 8 hours of sleep. Deep sleep doesn't count if you keep getting up throughout the night. Very interesting how our brain has a way of cleaning the junk out of it. But in order to do that, we must go into deep sleep. "making it up" during the weekend doesn't work. The thing is, some of us are genetically wired to not be able to sleep 8 hours. Maybe we're genetically wired for 6 hours and wake up refresh (not me.).. Does those who only need 6 hours of sleep and wake up refresh still benefit from the deep sleep?
Getting sleep using Ambien does not really put you into deep sleep. It's more like sedation. So if you go to sleep using sleeping pills, you're not really going into deep sleep. So, that doesn't count, either.
Another thing I recalled was that our brain has a sewage system, the glymphatic system - that works throughout the day. But when we go into deep sleep, it kicks into high gear. It removes the sticky protein beta amyloid... That's the last I heard. Still need to listen to the entirety at a later date...
Time to shower and hit the sack. My new goal is try to increase my sleeping hours. Since I heard this interview, I have learned to sleep in a completely dark bedroom with No nightlight. I have brought a flashlight which I now keep by the side table near my bed. But I'm still waking up throughout the night. Still waking up at 6:30am tired. In the morning, my bedding looks light I've been tossing and turning, though I could have sworn I slept well....
Mom is having a sleepy day and barely woke up long enough for me to spoon some yogurt I brought from home and a few sips of coffee and juice into her at lunch, when I popped in this morning I saw that almost all of her breakfast was uneaten too. I know I said I wasn't going to obsess, but should I go back for supper?
seems to me she won our first game of name that tune too 👏👏👏
first prize is popcorn and candy 🍿 🍫
Even if you can't get out to the movies to see Mamma Mia 2 this weekend, order a pizza 🍕 and watch something fun with music like the original Mamma Mia
take a chance, take a chance
Consulting dH, an expert about movies, he knew the answer right away, but what fun would that have been?
We both had a great time creating "other" movie titles last night for this thread.
He had me laughing!
MsMadge always has the best games, and a good distraction from the stress of taking myself too seriously.
Play Chopsticks For Me