Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
what a fantastic tale
movie is coming out Christmas time
I was early so mom was still in the dining room, the woman who had been feeding her told me "she ate real good today, she had her juice and most of her bread pudding and some of this" (as she stirred the almost untouched bowl of gruel) ....
What I saw was a lot of leftover food - she ate the equivalent of 1/2 piece of toast and 1/2 cup of OJ. I'm OK with that, but how can I ever rely on what they are telling me when their perceptions and reporting are so skewed?
article on Tim Conway's daughter fighting for custody against his second wife - so sad
I remember mom laughing at his old man routine on the Carol Burnett show
hope mom enjoyed some breakfast with you
perhaps, it's degrees of reality, I always make a face when someone says mom is doing well
"In the past five years, the long-term care sector has undergone profound change. Before then, long-term care homes accommodated a mix of residents with low to very high care needs. Since 2010 however, only people with high or very high care needs are eligible for long-term care in Ontario. These changes are largely due to the province’s aging-in-place strategy, which has made more funding available for care at home while implementing new, stricter admission criteria for those entering long-term care. The result: Ontario seniors are entering long-term care homes when they are older, frailer, and in need of more medical and personal care than ever before".(https://www.oltca.com/oltca/OLTCA/Public/LongTermCare/FactsFigures.aspx)
The thing is that all this focus on aging in place sounds wonderful but shifts the bulk of care onto the shoulders of family members. As I read the obits I have noticed that many, perhaps even most, elders are now dying at home and I can't help but wonder how their families managed that when I found it impossible.
On the minus side, the article like many others assures readers that support is available. What they mean by that is mainly support groups like this one, and educational resources. They're not talking about actual help. As much as I love you guys and have found this forum a godsend in some of the worst time, we all know that 24/7 caregivers need a whole lot more than support groups and educational materials.
One of the odd notes - the article mentioned that something like 12 percent of people who have a living parent over 90 are providing caregiving. That seems a very low number to me. I don't think that means that 88% of those elders are self-sufficient, though. It probably means that the other 88% are mostly married men, people in nursing homes, or people with multiple children where another child is doing the work.
I'm curious what others reading this article may think of it.
There were birds, but none flew over.
I was constrained from mentioning what the red pimento reminded me of, because of the white tablecloths, the setting, and all those very rich people!
I was serious, dead serious.
Betcha all thought I could never be serious, huh?
And no, I am not going to say what it reminded me of.
If not, just drink the tequila, don't try to play it.....
Another time I and a coworker were outside having lunch and a crow swooped down took her hot dog right out of her hand.
Hope you are feeling more like yourself tonight.
Have you had any special treats as of late?
On his way to work today, dH and I had ice cream at a store.
I have often thought life should be a bit more fair than it is, even though I was always told: "Life is not fair".
My single scoop was much smaller than hubs, lol. So I spoke up. The scooper man fixed it, but now mine was way bigger. Hubs said he should go and ask his to be the same size as mine. Quirky, huh?
Life is just so not fair.
The best laid plans of mice and men.....
Today has enough trouble of it's own. Do not borrow trouble.
While is is good to have a general plan, we just cannot plan the outcome of our lives in advance, i.e. the rest of your life. Que sera, sera, my mother would sing.
This will be the summer of your discontent, going down in history as a difficult time.
So sorry, cliche's are all I got. Because, wth am I gonna do with the rest of my life?
So many are asking this question lately, so you are not alone in that.
Try taking one day at a time, while you dream of better things.
What types of things make you happy? Do you like nature, music, movies, a particular hobby? Is there anything you've always wanted to try that you didn't have time to? Try out some different things for fun. Some you may hate, but some you may end up loving.
Donald Sutherland and Helen Mirren
there were some lines that sounded familiar and it just dawned on me where I've heard them before - I think it was from an interview with Reagan's daughter who was describing her parents' relationship
you did correctly- only time you don't pull over to the right and merely stop where you are is if you can't due to traffic
Drove me CRAZY that my 60-something mother was being “such an old lady” — as I would disgustedly say to myself.
H*ll, I worked with people who were Mom’s age. Snap out of it, already!!
Jeez. Live and learn.
When I cleaned out Mom’s house after she died, I found years’ worth of her expired drivers licenses bundled with a rubber band. (I do the same thing. Didn’t know we shared that tic!)
Anyhoo, Mom developed “that look” somewhere between ages 58 and 62. **shudder**
You haven't been looking into his eyes again, have you?
Not that I'm suggesting you run out and find a dead person to see what I'm talking about. :P