Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Guess I am going to try the ribs with my gerd. Really, I already have them here, cooked by the store, and it's what's for breakfast now!
Have a right muddle of (all bad) feelings going on here. Help me untangle them?
Email from exSO. It's more than two years since we went our separate ways; that's not a problem in itself.
But for all sorts of reasons, although I would normally stay on good terms with exes, I wanted this one gone, cleared out and gone. I wish him well; but no we are not friends. We aren't anything. You can't choose to back out of a commitment that you instigated AND pretend that nothing's changed; and I've kept contact with him to the barest possible minimum.
He emailed because his father passed away yesterday. The old man was 95. On the face of it, he was a charming and courteous WW2 veteran who merited the highest level of respect. In professional and private life he was a vain, weak fool and a menace who wrought enormous damage on his family. I would say on his business too, except that he wasn't important enough to be held responsible for some of the scandals that went on in that field of commerce when he was active in it.
His wife, exSO's stepmother, I liked very much. I don't have her address any more, I lost it in the move a couple of years back. She will be in her mid-eighties now. Should be comfortably provided for, and secure in her modern house, I believe she's fit and well. She has two sons of her own. She'll be fine. I'm sure she'll be just as fine without my thoughtful condolences.
I just don't know how to respond to this email.
I am very angry with exSO about the dog. To explain: we got the dog six years ago. I didn't want to get a dog - mother was beginning to need a lot of care, I didn't think it was sensible to add more responsibilities; and so, not that I minded being talked round, getting the dog was exSO's idea.
Then two years ago, when we were splitting up and moving and after mother had died and it wasn't convenient any more, he didn't want the dog. He would, seriously, have returned this ten year old rescue dog to kennels. Frankly, I could have stabbed him. So all in all, I didn't bother to let him know that I had the dog put to sleep two weeks ago.
That's him all over. Think of a plan, talk other people into it, and then go off the idea and back out leaving them with the commitment.
I suppose I'm not sure I don't still want to stab him. Or at least smack him round the head.
"Sorry your father's dead. Btw so's the dog."
The dog's more of a loss to humanity, if I'm really honest about how I feel.
I am not evil, I am sore.
I am sorry that an elderly man who served his country in time of war has passed away.
I don't know what to say to exSO. I don't CARE how he feels. He doesn't deserve to have his feelings cared about.
I am upset and angry.
CM is an example to everyone here.
A social guru!
It is said that the best revenge is living well. If ex-SO was a narcissist, I would push delete on that e-mail and never respond. They use anything to draw you back in.
It is enough that you have suffered the loss of your pet.
If there is a legacy website or a place to add condolences to an obituary, try that, not mentioning his name.
Not a narcissist, no - and I'm absolutely certain he wouldn't want me back! - but shallow. You think of people "oh they just don't show their feelings, they do care underneath." But no. There's nothing there. It's a bit repellant.
I think I will hit Delete, and look out for a newspaper obituary. I can always change my mind, pretend I've been away or something.
(((Thank you!)))
Sweden v Germany
We have a high rate of home invasion/burlaries/robberies. I now make it a habit of signing out on everything, even here on AC. So, with Amazon, after I figured that drop menu was useless on the laptop, I found another way. Tap 'Account' and then Tap Login/Security. Change account name. And right on the top right of that pop up box - is the Sign out. .. This is 50/50 hit or miss. For the past few days, it's a miss. It's been taking me straight to the account info and not the 'change acct name'.
Today, I spent 10 minutes trying to click on everything to find a 3rd way to sign out (1. Account drop menu 2. Login/Security) Couldn't. So I googled.
3. Go to the search box on top with "ALL ……………" and type in "Sign out of Amazon".
Tada! click to sign out....
Today at work when I got a call, I told the caller I get around 5 calls a day, and that it is to a point where we don't want to use anything related to Google, then hung up.
Today I got another email about collecting my "forgotten" tax refund.... too bad it isn't legit because by now the total must be well over $1000.
Once I answer and a live person gets on line, if I hear dozens upon dozens of people talking in the background then I know it is what is called a "boiler room" an outbound call center.
Like, enough already !!
How are your feelings now, coming up on the full moon this week?
Hoping you have some great yarn to sort......
Sweden def Mexico but Mexico still advances with Germany knocked out by Korea
Ole ole ole ole
I'll probably be the only one at the office doing the Viking clap today
The Staff hadn't gotten down to my Mom's room, so I just stayed with Mom in the common area. Lo and behold, some more residents were out and about. Then I heard one Nurse say "Lord, give me strength". My gosh, it was like herding cats.
I got to hoca about midnight tonight to do a quick check on the Viking - she woke on and off and said she was sick but we managed to get through prayers, drink some apple juice and make plans for the 4th of July - wish we could actually run away and do them
I read on yahoo that bud light is giving a free beer to everyone in California if Mexico advances to the next round in World Cup - they play Brazil on Monday
Since neither the US nor Norway even made it to the tournament, I'm routing for the Swedes but don't hold out much hope cause don't ya know
1,000 Swedes ran through the weeds
Chased by
One Norwegian 😱