my mother has lived w/ me for 4 yrs now, i am the only care giver, 4 yrs ago i had hobbies, friends and took trips... now i do nothing. my mother drinks alot. each night i have to help her to bed. she is mean when she drinks and remembers nothing. She falls about 3 times a month. so far she has not been hurt badly. she always feels bad the next day,but wont talk about it. if i go visit a neighbor and am gone mor than 2 hrs, she is mad. She calls me names , and is unreasonable.. some of my friends say she took care of you so you must grin and bare it. others say take the booze away... other say hire a sitter...
well, i would only need a sitter from 7-10 pm because that is the time she is drunk. my mom is 84 i can not imagine taking away the only thing she enjoys in life.... plus she would detox, there are about 4 days a week where she is fine... but if i leave overnight it is bad...also i can not afford a live in.
in answer to friends who say live with it... how...... i am single have not dated in 4 yrs... when i am with friends she is mad because she isnt always invited..
I know I sound crazy and selfish...but I see my life slipping by every day....i use to smile....not so much now....
