On December 15th dad passed away in hospice care.
I had what amounted to a nervous breakdown one morning trying to move him in his bed after he had fractured his leg, when he shouted out “don’t hurt me!” I just totally lost it. Hospice took him to give me respite care. I knew when I called them that I couldn’t give him the care he needed and deserved as a bedridden patient. I think about the last four years and all the weird behavior and the wandering were easy issues to deal with compared to the end care when he was bedridden. If you have physical limitations and are considering caring for an elderly parent keep this in mind, even with hospice help there was not enough help to really let me keep him at home and give him proper care.