Caregivers behaving badly.

This "Caregivers Behaving Badly" thread is going to be my late night go to place after a day's frustration.

Caregivers all, enjoy reading and posting!

I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to nag my FIL to exercise, after he made great improvements with his exercises to build up more muscle tone with 8 weeks of PT, but it's so damned frustrating when you see days go by and no action on his part. So 2 days ago, I sort of flipantly mentioned to FIL, that I noticed he wasn't doing any "laps" around the house using his rollator (supposed to be 3 laps, 5 × a day), and I said kinda snidely, "ya know, your going to waste away all of that muscle you rebuilt during your 8 weeks of therapy", and he said that he was doing some, but that I was outside when he did them, but I laughed at his face, and told him "get real, you may have done one lap here or there, but not per the protocol they left you to do (as above) and if you waste away sitting around all day, your going to end up in a nursing home, as we aren't going to be able to take care of a bed bound patient, as both of us have bad backs an knees! Of course he wanted to argue with me, but now he has been walking around more in the last couple of days, just to spite me really! I feel like a person who has a little Angel on one shoulder, and a Devil on the other! Or mabe Devils on both shoulders! Lol! He gets all puffed up when he gets rilled up and angry! Teehee!

I'm going to call my FIL out, every time he calls his sons name just as he's walking in the door, usually from running an errand for him! "Give the poor guy a minutes break to take his coat of ffs, do you ever think of anyone other than yourself?" The answer is NO, as he is a Narcissistic A"***e! I'm finding myself biting my tongue more and more each day, as he becomes more and more pushy! It's so frustrating dealing with him! Ugg!

Rut-Row, me thinks that I al-beee apostin' on this heeeer'e Tred alott!! Well al-beee!!! Stace

My dear son asked me during a car ride. "Mom, do you think that when YiaYia goes 'to live on the farm' Carol (her daytime caregiver) will still be with us?". With this, we both realized that when Mom dies, we will be sad for half a minute but if Carol leaves us we will be devastated

You'll just have to adopt a new granny for Carol to look after..?

Lol It suddenly struck me funny when Sendme said I want someone to be bad with that sounded a lot like those spam e-mails you get sometimes. You know the ones. "Hot girl needs a bad buddy" LOL, LOL, LOL."

Iv'e served my husband moldy bread on purpose...Does this count?

Oh dear I would love to be a Brat but the guilt would consume me!

Oh yes Lucky, that definitely counts. You are a true brat! :)

Maybe think of it as confession being good for the soul? I have two. First - early on when I figured out my mom wasn't showering I bought her a lovely bottle of perfume- light, fresh, CLEAN scent and expensive. After many months I could tell she never even tried it. So I took it back - without telling her. She never mentioned it disappearing. No. 2 - mom is asleep most often when I go to visit. Occasionally I'll tippy-toe around her room for about ten minutes then say to myself "guess I'll go - she's not going to wake up". Then pray I can get out of the room before something does wake her up! Sooo bratty!!!

Wait up, Luckylu! Did hubby eat all the bread? Ok, it really really counts!

Overwhelm, It may take awhile for you, it's gonna take some work on your part. You can be a brat by association in the meanrime, so welcome here!

Gershun, U. R. a really bad brat! Lol.

That's brat buddy, not bad buddy. Guess some of us might have to wait til the movie "Bad Moms" premiers to take lessons on how to be a bad brat.

When my son was about 4th grade, his math teacher called me in, shoved the last failed math test at me, and asked,"What would you do if you were handed a test paper that looked like this?" I answered by criticizing the tiny typed font he expected students to fill in, show their work, in such a tiny space, and said I would fix the test so the students could read it.. Uh oh, guess I was a bad Mom way back then. But my son's grades improved! Just a brat then too.

Okay I have a brat story. Once I went on a job interview for a dental receptionist position. I had and have no dental experience apart from going to one as a patient. The interview was not going well at all, then suddenly an alarm went off. The man interviewing me went to check it out and while he was gone I snuck over to his side of the desk to see what he was writing about me. It wasn't good, so I just left. LOL

Gershun that's not brattish - just a very sensible saving of everyone's time and blushes.

As long as he's not still looking for you.

Churchmouse I hope not for his sake. That was over 30 years ago. :)

Hi Guys! This is funny and what a great stress reliever to sometimes just do something a bit bratty! Turn some of the brochures upside down in a waiting room if you are getting bad service somewhere. Unplug a harasser's Christmas lights,... the possibilities are endless!

Another thing Hubs and I do when we are out shopping is if we see any magazine covers with a Kardashian on the cover we turn them around so the back is facing us. Tee hee...........

I have just discovered that Daughter 2, who was staying last week, has been round the living room drawing hearts and smiley faces in the dust on my sideboard and side tables. Oh very funny. And she's a fine one to criticise!

Churchmouse, I don't have to adopt a new granny for Carol to watch I just have to adopt her. Carol is a granny (just not ours). She is 79 years young. She helps with my mother who is only five years older at 84 but you would think there was a 15 year age difference between them when you look at health, personality, activity level etc.

Gershun, Good idea...or put a different magazine in front of it...heeheehee....

My sis calls on the phone and will start a narrative about her day that can run from 30 minutes to an hour, I am only required to grunt occasionally, god forbid I should interrupt the flow with a real comment. Back when I was at mom's her main phone had a cord and it was torture!! I'm so grateful for my cordless speakerphone, last week I went to the bathroom and had a shower while she blathered on... is that bratty??

Not at all, CW. In fact, I'd call it humane. In the days before cordless phones, Peg Bracken related the solution found by a friend of hers - fitting an extra long lead to her phone so that when a particularly gabby pal rang and she could take no more, she could go to her front door, press the bell, say "oops! The doorbell! Gotta go!" and get off the phone that way.

I love my Mom and enjoy spending time with her watching tv , but she often falls asleep during the program and doesn't remember she saw it and when it comes on again she wants to watch it again! This is particularly true with Blue Bloods and Criminal Minds. I have seen the episode of Blue Bloods where Jaimie knocks over a biker to protect a baby during a protest and is charged with police brutality at least 4 times. So I have gone into the DVR and erase episodes that I have seen more than twice, Lol!

Yesterday I used a hair product that does not wash off, and got some in my eyes. It is still troubling this morning. So when I laugh at each of your posts, until tears run down my face, I just have to thank you all for helping with my eyesight!

Would it be too over the top bratiness if I hoped the dentist was still looking for Gershun, after 30 years?

I used to search the house for all the hidden pooped in underwear......was like a sick and disgusting Easter egg hunt. What was I thinking????? Shoulda burned the suckers and let him go commando!

After a divorce from a Napoleonic-type creep, I needed some therapy. The doctor's office had a door keyed alarm with buttons. The office was sort of out in a country town.
Curious, I must have pushed the wrong button, an alarm went off, the doc came down to turn it off. Or, was it the right button?

Katie, Or put your own magazines in front of the display, or your husband's playboy mags after he's gone. Gotta recycle somehow-shame to waste that expensive paper.

Katie222, ah ha, so you're the one who turns the brochures upside down in the waiting room.... thank you.... no really, I am the one that straightens out those brochures as my OCD tends to kick in while I am waiting in a doctor's waiting room. I want to straighten up the magazines and make sure the pictures on the walls are hanging straight :P

I am a brat today. I unfriended my sister on FB. She was being an entitled brat. Me, Me, all the time. So bye bye.