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light rain ? It poured and was windy. Had to get pails at nearly midnight to try and keep rain from going under the cement slab. I still need to clean the floor furnace- I was cold last night
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Aww choo! Very badly!!! The fans have been off mostly so he could fly around free. The t.v. has been on 6 hours with bird videos, getting a little on my nerves now. But his twirting never bothers me. The videos have birds in the pet shop or avery, so many of them. He is very smart, and drinks water whenever I say so, or whenever we eat or drink, he does too.

There is a light rain....a very nice day off for us both.

Oh, I already mentioned the rain. It has been so rare, and unlike the fear monger news had warned us about.
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Don't turn on the fan to blow the dust away, that would be behaving very badly!
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Hey, MsMadge,
Did you get enough "light rain"?

The rain finally arrived here, and is a pleasant on and off again rain, mostly occuring overnight.

Tweety was lost today, I panicked, thinking he could have fallen behind something, and he suddenly got very quiet. Looking everywhere. But he found a new place overhead on the ceiling fan. Oh, there he is, looking down at me. Now I must dust the fan.
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MsMadge,
She pinched you?
So sorry, she must have thought you were the turkey this year.
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maybe you are just getting slower at dodging MsM? I'm glad she is still feisty!
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I seem to be annoying the Viking

she pinched me several times the past couple of visits
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When are we getting 'On My Mind' back? How else are we supposed to wish everybody happy holidays???
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I hope she licks the plate clean MsM!
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Nah, MsMadge - you've definitely got your 'five a day' there, not even counting the cocoa beans in the chocolate :)

(((Have a very Happy Thanksgiving)))
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Thought I'd bring a few goodies to the Viking for thanksgiving dinner-

baked sweet potato, Mac n cheese, ambrosia, pumpkin pie, See's chocolate, maraschino cherries for a Shirley temple, honey baked ham, cranberries and sweet Hawaiian rolls

should I bother with a vegetable? 😋
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Well, that is what I have been eating, turkey. I am too old to wait for the actual day of Thanksgiving.
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Kinda like a turkey, huh, Send?
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I have been eating like a bird.
But I feel so stuffed.
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Barb that is absolutely hysterical - I can just see the congregation wondering why on earth they'd taken it into their heads to go for a little ramble in the middle of the service 😂
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Send, one of the best Thanksgivings I ever had was the year after my divorce.

I signed up to serve dinners at a local Episcopal Church and met the loveliest people. I was tired and sore at the end of the day and went out for Chinese food afterwards. I felt very good that evening.
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Yes, we shook hands all around!

The other highlight was when my brother and SIL proceeded elegantly to the back of the church to brings the Eucharistic Gifts to the front, as they had been told to do during rehearsal; no gifts were to be had in the rear, so they just as elegantly processed back the aisle to their seats and pointed to the officiant that the gifts were already on the altar.

My SIL got VERY good use of her lovely navy chiffon ensemble!
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Sheesh.
"When people flung their potty waste out of the window, they would shout “Gardez l'eau” [gar-day low]. That's French for “watch out for the water”. We probably get the word “loo” from this expression, although some people think it comes from “Room 100” which is what European people used to call the bathroom".

You heard it here first: Loo.
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Love it, BB! I hope you thanked the priest for "such a wonderful service" when you shook hands with him.
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Laughing uncontrollably now.
You brats are all great!
I hope I make it to the lue.
Did I spell that right?
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I behaved very badly indeed yesterday.

I was at a family wedding ( my brother's son). I love this boy dearly and his new wife and her family are all sweethearts. But....

This was not their Parish church. They did the rehearsal with a different priest, not the one who actually married them. The officiant started the ceremony speaking Spanish and English ( not translating, just alternate sentences, or maybe just randomly code switching between the two languages.

It would have fine if he'd just SOUNDED like Ricky Riccardo. But when started proclaiming how great it was that his Church married only heterosexual couples, the congregation shifted uncomfortably.

And then, he launched into marital advice about what do do when the wife exploded in anger and screamed and yelled. My neice (sister of the groom) turned around and rolled her eyes at my daughters.

I texted my girls that I thought the priest was "priestsplaining" marriage. It was all downhill from there.

But when they brought out the white satin braided rope to wrap around the new couple, and asked them to light candles (was the rope flammable?), the tears started rolling down my cheeks and was trying so hard to suppress laughter.

I'm a terrible person.
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Hear hear, Send.

My informed source tells me that volunteers are always needed at shelters for homeless people at Christmas because of increased demand - cooking breakfasts, doing the dishes, that kind of thing. I hope that as long as I am doing something in a good cause my kids will stop either trying to make me go to their houses or feeling guilty about me. The key to being able to say no seems to be having a legitimate prior engagement rather than saying to your would-be host "I would rather stick red-hot needles in my eyeballs than endure your household."

We all seem to hanker after that traditional family holiday. But God alone knows why!
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Where do I sign the petition, Send.
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That's it! I am cancelling Christmas!
On behalf of all my suffering brat buddies out there with narcissistic families, and hurting themselves to figure it out, I must try to help by cancelling those toxic christmas gatherings. Not exactly a Norman Rockwell painting?
Cancel it! I say, cancel!

A year without Christmas, you say?

Yes, you can do it and change your life!
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Ms Madge! Oh my gosh that man IS just like my Mama's lady in Memory Care! Why do some get to just wander and touch and nothing ever happens to them?! I hate these yucky care places. Bless you and The Viking.
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I wonder why HOCA doesn't remove those couple of residents who are worst offenders at being problematic.

Sorry MsMadge.
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Ms Madge, can you schedule a meeting with the care home’s ombudsman?

Management needs a full account of what you’ve witnessed. Cite specific dates and times of day.

After your meeting with the ombudsman, continue to observe. If you do not see improvements, schedule a follow-up. Again, be as specific as possible when you describe this man’s incidents.

Nice and calm, of course. Tell them that you care about their employees’ safety, as well as the residents’ safety.

Do this as many times as what you witness warrants.

I also second the idea of a hidden camera. If the laws (and rules of the care home) allow.

Big hugs, Madge. So much sadness with your journey at HOCA.

Take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well. (More easily said than done, I know! But remember, where you put your effort is where you’ll see results. Give yourself permission to invest in yourself. 💕💕)
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Prinny look up Adult Protective Services for your area, give them a call tomorrow morning and get advice from them.

What you describe doesn't sound safe for you or for your client, and it doesn't sound good for the POA son either. I'm not judging him out of hand - if he has mental health issues it may be too much for him to be his Dad's primary caregiver, and he needs help. But that doesn't make it ok for you to feel threatened at work or for a vulnerable elder to be alone with him, either. Good luck, please keep in touch with us.
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II'm so stressed out and crying every night since Wednesday..I'm a live in caregiver and I moved from my hometown with a client and his poa son to another state ..the son really gets on my nerves ..he's bipolar and he gets really angry and verbally abusive with his dad..the other night he got real drunk and ran me out the house and called me all sorts of name..mind you I had nowhere to go ..I had to get a hotel..then the next day he called and apologize..I went bck because I really care about my patient.. and needed the job...but now I'm scared and I feel to call 911 sometimes..because of how angry he can get with his dad . Please advised me I'm so sad ..I feel to quit and go home .
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MsMadge, if the man tends to be agitated and aggressive, I can see why the employees would avoid dealing with him. No Excuse, but I understand. It's strange. You read here how other's LO were kicked out of the facility for being aggressive, yet this man is still allowed to roam free. I get it that the female employees would prefer to avoid him. From experience, when my mom became violent, she was very strong. Scary strong. I now have phobias of elderly people who have dementia. They can have a very calm expressionless face, but if you look at their tightly clenched fists, they're very, very angry... I wonder when will the facility do something about the roaming man. When the worst case scenario happens, will they hide it from everyone and deny it ever happened? Will they continue to look away since his victims cannot tell what happened? Is there a law or in the contract agreement that prohibits you from putting a hidden camera in your mom's room? I had set up a camera in the livingroom. My BIL had faced the camera showing my bedridden father completely. I told him to please adjust it to show his legs and the entrance doorway. I said that my dad gets sponge bathed 4 times a week. I didn't want to invade his privacy by having the camera facing him completely in the nude. It's an online access camera. It doesn't swivel.
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