I'm in the doghouse

Kinda long.Well I was supposed to go out with a friend this AM.We have a gate across the driveway that is opened by remote control.Well the FedEx guy had put a package over the fence near the chain that works the gate. I really thought the package was far enough away from the chain but I was wrong and the package got a little squished when the gate tried to open.I get back from my outing and my husband informs me that mother had gotten quite upset about her package of art supplies,insisted that some little tray in it had been scratched.Well this was already on top of her being upset this AM about her Yorkie again.She doesn't think he is eating enough,I told her if she was that concerned to call the vet and I would take her tomorrow.This wasn't good enough.My husband fixed up some food this AM before I left and the dog ate like a little pig.I don't know what her problem is .This behavior ,in my opinion,started up because I have been going out to meet a friend about every other day for a few hours and that I will be going out of town in about 3 weeks for 2 1/2 days.She was really upset this AM that even after she started up about her dog that I still left to meet my friend, I was gone for 4 hours.OMG.I know that this is all probably attention seeking behavior.If you haven't read my other posts my mother and I never had a close relationship,somewhat emotionally abusive, and now she is in my house.I think it just grates her butt that I am starting to live my life.For the last several weeks I have been so depressed I have been living in my bedroom except for when she needs anything.I quit talking to friends or doing anything away from the house. She does get out, gets her hair done weekly,goes to church on Sunday,talks to a few friends on her cellphone.Because of her physical condition it does limit her activities but this isn't my fault.Right now I am avoiding her because I am pretty sure she is upset because I didn't stay home today and I don't feel like dealing with her cr--p right now.