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Funkygrandma59 said it ALL, and rather beautifully, I might add!!!!!
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Grandma,

Once again, we are on the same page. I couldn’t agree with you more! Great advice!

Depending on where she lives, the law may require an actual eviction. I would start the process of eviction.

This woman won’t willingly leave on her own. She’s certifiably crazy! Or if I want to choose the ‘politically correct’ term, she is suffering from ‘mental illness.’ Whatever...she needs to go!

If I had to eat canned soup and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches due to not having her financial assistance, I would do it!
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You can, if she is not acknowledging that she is okay, or if there is no response, call APS.

You say:
"My mother is mentally ill and has barricaded herself inside her room for x days with no response". "I need for someone to check on her welfare." They will come, they will document her issues. They will be required to set eyes on her, interview her. Maybe break down her door if she doesn't open it. They will be kind.

If they take her in for observation, or any reason, do not take her back. Ask the doctor to order a safe placement for her, such as a board and care.

She will be coming out soon, if even to get her prescriptions filled and delivered. So you don't go to her door at all.
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I guess I am a bit confused about your situation. If mom is living in YOUR house, you have every right to ask/tell her to leave, and if needed a time frame to do so. The fact that you are not her POA, does not mean that you can't tell her to leave your house. You say that mom helps with chores and helps pay your bills,(that you say is much needed), so do you really want her out of your house, as it sounds like that would leave you in a financial bind? Are you able to maintain your home(financially) if mom moves out? How will you pick up the slack from what she is helping you with now? Just all food for thought.

The whole situation is beyond crazy, but only you can do something to change it. Give her a 30 day notice to vacate your premises, in writing(if that's what you really want), and if necessary(and if she wants your help), you can help find her a new place to live. Oh and by the way, who the hell cares if the "attorneys aren't keen on evicting mom". She needs to be evicted. The sooner the better. You have allowed this mess to take place,(by allowing her to move in with you, when you knew better not to)so now only you can fix it. Quit making excuses and get her out(again if that's what you really want).
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I am terribly that you are struggling with all of this.

I hope that you won’t mind me speaking frankly.

Your story reads like a freakin nightmare! I took a moment to read your profile and messages.

It looks like you have been dealing with this mess since 2015! Why? Just why would you put up with this crap for so long?

I realize it takes time to process your emotions. Take that time now and move forward.

I live in the south too, New Orleans to be exact and I would never accept the abuse that you have for as long as you have.

Yes, you may feel stuck and you did reach out for help with an attorney. I would speak to every attorney in your town until you found one that is empathetic to your needs!

I seriously think that you should make an appointment with a professional therapist, not a life coach but a genuine therapist that is trained to deal with life’s tough situations because you need to sort your emotions out.

You need to speak to someone who is objective in this matter because you are too close to the situation to think clearly.

Obviously, you need guidance for yourself. You could also benefit from speaking to a social worker to help you plan for your mom’s future.

Absolutely proceed with an eviction. If she wishes to remain locked in her room, so be it! At least she won’t be bothering you. Enjoy the peace and quiet!

I am not trying to be harsh. I only wish for you to settle this issue with your mom once and for all.

Once you close the door on this nightmare, NEVER open it up again and live your life for you!

Best wishes to you.
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