What's better for a person with mild dementia, home care or assisted living?
As some know I've been taking care of my grandmother and I haven't had a job or been in school for a while. We're getting closer to her release date in a couple of more weeks, and the PT, her PCP and her doctor overseeing her at the nursing home are agreeing that she needs assistant living due to her forgetfulness, her knee injury and her sudden confusion makes her a hazard to drive. The other thing is how she still thinks its 2002 even though she has a calender and watches tv and interact with other patients but she prefers to stay in her room. She gets very irrated easily when she get confused and no matter how you react she starts to accuse you. I have been talking to her daily at least 2 times a day and visits her when I can at least once or twice a week but she hasn't really gotten any better since 2 months ago. She has her good days but she's not as combative due to them putting her on anti-psychoatic drugs and two memory pills. She was open to live in one but now she is refusing to live there and she's telling her case worker and her nurse that I can take care of her when I can't. She went into the hospital 4 times over the same thing. She won't listen to me and refuses to eat and the littlest thing will set her off. I feel I should use some of her assets or the house value to be used for her long term care, but she refuses home care and insists and tells me I can take care of her. What should I do? I talked to her about this but she refusing to listen to me and keeps saying over and over again she can take care of herself and I can nurse her back to health. She still thinks she living somewhere else and will ask me what state I am. I know she worked hard for this house but I can't stay here without a job and I'm trying to enroll into school. I feel she should be in a facility for those with memory loss issues. Would that be a better plan?