What weird or unexpected responsibilities have fallen in your lap since you started caregiving?

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With me, it's the TV. My mom is so sick and weak with kidney disease that TV is pretty much her only source of entertainment. That wouldn't be quite so bad if she still understood how to work the remote, but dementia has erased that ability. If she isn't able to watch TV, she usually just goes back to bed...then ends up in a state of delirium from depression and too much sleep. So now I am the one in charge of her entire world of entertainment.


Before I started staying with mom, I was used to a different life, where I mostly listened to music or enjoyed silence. I'm not really a TV person. When I did watch stuff, I'd be that person who binged a season of whatever on my days off, or watched movies with friends, and then didn't watch anything for days at a time. Now I have to babysit the TV every day, every time my mom is out of bed.


If there's a timer system on mom's TV or service provider that lets you schedule channel changes, I haven't found it yet. Plus there are a billion channels but not a lot of stuff mom can watch. I'm really grateful for streaming services. Being able to work the On Demand is my new superpower. I upped mom's bandwidth to unlimited just to accommodate her watching. I now keep a notebook with a list of what's on which channel, and how long it is, so that I can plan how long I can be away from the remote. I've even taught mom about binge-watching (for selfish reasons - so I can put on Netflix and know it will go straight to the next episode without me). I'm thinking about getting a wireless HDMI setup so I can try running stuff from my laptop (preferably in another room!).


What about you? Is there something you now have to be in charge of that you never expected would be part of your daily life when you took this on?

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Yep Mom has just 1 chin hair But it's a whopper! And 1 upper lip hair. Forgot that one!
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I have chin hair(s) and I'm only 49! Thank you, menopause.

I wonder if I will grow a beard when I'm old and have nobody to monitor the hairs for me?
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Your mom only has ONE chin hair?
Yesterday I gave mom her weekly shave and spent a little extra time on the nose hairs (a forest is growing there), I'd like to tame the eyebrows but that would be cruel! I also cleaned her eyelids and put in some eye drops (shh, don't tell), cleaned her teeth, lotioned her face and arms and readjusted the headrest on her wheelchair (it takes tools, how do they keep knocking it cockeyed?).
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Well now I have to go check my mom's 1 chin hair and nose hair too before Christmas company arrives lol!
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Here's one I never expected: picking out my mother's Christmas card and present to my brother!

He's getting gift cards. Too bad if it's lazy. I know he'd prefer them anyway. :-P
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Lassie: That was a real "doozy!" But you aced the test! Praises going out to you! 
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Speaking of 'dressing up' parents, the last time I took my mother out to the thanksgiving buffet was 4 years ago, well, I arrived at her house at noon. She was in her nightgown, so I said, 'we have 2 hours, you should start getting ready.' I laid out all her clothes and went out and shovelled the snow off her driveway, it took me almost an hour (I am 66 and out of shape). Went back in, she was still sitting there watching tv! OMG. It took her an hour and a half to change and get ready, and I had to search and search for her boots and try to get them on her feet. We got there 2 hours late, there was still a little food left, and we were about the only ones in the restaurant besides the hired help, waiting to clean up and go home. And on the ride back, she had an 'accident' - luckily I had thought to put a plastic tablecloth down on her car seat and she was wearing a Depends....I really missed those restaurant outings ever afterwards, but she didn't really know what day it was, much less what holiday it was.
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I never dreamed that I would have to give Mother shots by her belly button for several days before her hip replacement or that I'd have to insert suppositories everyday.
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Daughterof1930: God bless you and HE will 100 times over. Thank you for that kindness to your father.
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I want to thank everyone that posted here - I really needed the chuckles. I have had to find the tv remote (he sits on it) and the sweet look on his face when he says, "you're going to say I did it, aren't you?!"

I tell him no, I just hide things under you when you're sleeping because I'm mean that way, hahahah.

The day I can no longer find something to laugh about, that's the day I will start crying.
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