My sister has lived there and witnessed his mental illness and my aunt is in denial. How do I get an emergency evaluation on him so he stops trying to kill my mom?
Call APS (Adult Protection services) and ask if someone can come and evaluate your Uncle. I would only do this if the house is your Moms. If the house is ur Aunts, then you may just have to move Mom. Not sure you have a right to call APS when the option is to move Mom. You can ask this question when u call APS.
If it's your mom's house and if someone witnesses him unplugging the oxygen (and knowing this isn't the first time) maybe call 911 to have him Baker Act-ed so that he can be removed? After all, what he's doing would actually kill her. But your aunt needs to know that he is an "unsafe discharge" and to absolutely NOT bring him back to the house or you'll call the cops on both of them re: Baker Act. Or eviction or restraining order. Perhaps your aunt has slid into cognitive decline and that's why it *seems* like she's in denial. She may be in dementia.
If it's not your mom's house I'd remove her to somewhere else immediately. Not sure if social services can help with emergency temporary placement somewhere. Hopefully your mom will cooperate. You can tell her it's just temporary -- it's ok to tell her a "therapeutic fib" in order to keep her calm and open to the change. She needs to not live in chaos. Wishing you success and peace.
Adult Protective Services is the agency that you would contact.
Just have a plan for moms care if you intervene. Because they can decide that she needs to be removed from the home and then someone needs to step up or the state will take guardianship to ensure her well being.
Have you actually seen problems or is this all what sister says? Have you asked your aunt what is going on? Have you spoken with your mom?
I wouldn't jump to intervention until you know, like laid eyeballs on the situation, talked with mom and aunt. Really investigate what is actually happening.
Edit: you will not be able to do anything about your uncle, everything will revolve around keeping your mom safe and she would be the one that gets removed from an unsafe environment. Because Aunt will say Uncle is fine, Uncle will say he is fine and mom has children saying she isn't safe. So they will remove her if the deem she isn't safe. Aunt is not going to lose her husband to take care of your mom.
Is your mom living with them? If so move her out. She is obviously not being cared for properly if your aunt can not keep her husband away from your mom. If she is caring for mom in your home or mom's home then you simply (ok, maybe not so simple...) you say "I am sorry Aunty Sally but Uncle Bert can not come with you when you care for mom."
If Aunt's husband does have a mental illness (other than possibly having Dementia himself) and if Aunt does not acknowledge the illness or is in denial about it it is best to find other caregivers for mom.
If it's not your mom's house I'd remove her to somewhere else immediately. Not sure if social services can help with emergency temporary placement somewhere. Hopefully your mom will cooperate. You can tell her it's just temporary -- it's ok to tell her a "therapeutic fib" in order to keep her calm and open to the change. She needs to not live in chaos. Wishing you success and peace.
Just have a plan for moms care if you intervene. Because they can decide that she needs to be removed from the home and then someone needs to step up or the state will take guardianship to ensure her well being.
Have you actually seen problems or is this all what sister says? Have you asked your aunt what is going on? Have you spoken with your mom?
I wouldn't jump to intervention until you know, like laid eyeballs on the situation, talked with mom and aunt. Really investigate what is actually happening.
Edit: you will not be able to do anything about your uncle, everything will revolve around keeping your mom safe and she would be the one that gets removed from an unsafe environment. Because Aunt will say Uncle is fine, Uncle will say he is fine and mom has children saying she isn't safe. So they will remove her if the deem she isn't safe. Aunt is not going to lose her husband to take care of your mom.
If so move her out. She is obviously not being cared for properly if your aunt can not keep her husband away from your mom.
If she is caring for mom in your home or mom's home then you simply (ok, maybe not so simple...) you say "I am sorry Aunty Sally but Uncle Bert can not come with you when you care for mom."
If Aunt's husband does have a mental illness (other than possibly having Dementia himself) and if Aunt does not acknowledge the illness or is in denial about it it is best to find other caregivers for mom.