I can never find a nurse and Dr won't call back. He is having change of mental status. They wont even culture urine for uti. But they want 300$ a day for small room. He has long term care ins. Should we move him to nursing home? Assisted living is wiping out his savings and it seems very poor care. Won't even test him for dementia or see if he had a stroke. He might need aricept or antibiotics for UTI. They treat family like crap for asking. Never can find a nurse or aide.
It sounds to me as though you've walked in to a complete sh*t-storm and there's a lot to put right, but the first step must be information gathering so that you've got a really good handle on the medical history and then the time line of events. If your father is currently confused/hallucinating/demented as you suspect, he can't give you POA, at least not for the time being, so you and your sister are going to have to join forces and rely on being his next-of-kin.
What a terrible mess, hope you find a clear pathway forward very soon.
What does his ltc insurance cover? Does the insurance provider also recommend facilities? That might be somewhere to start, if you're prepared to shop around.
Meanwhile - by change in mental status, I assume you mean an acute medical problem? I'd stay with him until you can get medical attention for him, or if need be take him to the ER/urgent treatment centre.
A NH will cost Dad twice as much as he is paying. Unless ur Contract says you must use the ALs doctor take your Dad to another doctor.
There generally is a big difference between an AL and a nursing home. Residents in a nursing home are in need of much more care. Often they may no longer be able to walk without much assistance. In an AL facility many residents use walkers or canes. This may not be the case in a NH. I am sorry you are finding such difficulty. I think you may need to communicate more specifics as to the needs of your father. Is he content at all with this facility?