My father passed in the spring. His wife is still with us, but on hospice in late stage dementia. Due to Covid precautions we can’t visit in the room. We can visit in the parlor with an appointment , but that requires the staff to use a Hoyer lift for transport. This scares her. At this point she doesn’t know who I am, and she sleeps most of the time. I don’t want her to feel abandoned since my father passed, but at this stage of the game his death has not seemed to bother her. So the question is, is the visit going to do her any good?
I would certainly bring this up to whoever is in charge, as there are exceptions to every rule.
I think MJ1929 made a great point. Make a little bit of noise with the nursing home about them not allowing you to visit in the room. There would be no more exposure to Covid than if you were visiting her in their parlor or common room.
These nursing homes are killing people with loneliness and they need to stop. Make a little noise and see if they might bend the rules for you to visit your stepmom. I know my mom's place let families into the rooms even during Covid when a loved one was dying.