Today was the first time this has happened and sister says it happened twice. Mom was startled both times. Second time mom said, "How'd you do that?"
Attempts to get cognitive diagnosis have failed, so no dx. Dementia of some kind. CT scans show diffuse atrophy normal for age (79). Three unruptured aneurysms which have grown in 4 years. Dolichoectasia. Moderate small vessel disease.
Now what you need is neuro-psyc testing with actual tests to test cognitive levels to decide what safety levels are.
This isn't called attempts at diagnosis failing, but rather not following up with the testing you need in order to assess her safety and ability to function on her own (or not).
You need neuro-psyc eval; get referral from her MD for cognitive testing.
As to this jumping who knows. She has dementia almost certainly or an overactive anxiety and startle reflex? Who could know such a thing? Your guess is as good as ours, and in fact better as you know her overall reactions on a daily basis and we can have no idea of that.
I agree with funkygrandma, if you hate caregiving and aren’t able to handle the situation then that’s another issue for you to address.
Like Funkygrandma says, your mother needs someone who will be her advocate to see that she receives care.
Wishing you and your mother all the best.
And on a side note, your profile says that you "hate" being your moms caregiver, so I do hope and pray that you are not her full-time caregiver, as everyone deserves someone to care for them that doesn't hate what they're doing.
I know that caregiving is hard, trust me I know all too well, and not everyone is cut out to be one, so I hope your time with your mom is very limited at this point and that she has others looking after her that don't hate it quite as much.
I would call Moms doctor. I would also getbher out of independent living and into an AL.
We are not medical professionals. People can guess about what happened. That’s about all.
You need to speak to your mom’s doctor about these questions.
Wishing you all the best.