my husband has inheritance at his mother passing and his own policies for final expenses we recently moved to Az in 2010 to " improve " his health and such is that has not happen. He is concerned how he can protect the state from recovering the money from his said policies set to give me and our two kids a new way to start over and he is now 45 yrs old. The state is willing to pay me to be his caregiver as such as I have been for a good while and he is currently SSD and our kids recieve a supplemental check right now. I need to know how to fight this and still at the same time garner something useful in this economy. I love my husband and if Az takes more than half than what he leaves to me and the kids then I can't pay back school loans or even make a decent survival for the kids and myself at his passing.
You need to spend the money and have an elder care attorney go over all your joint and his assets and come up with a long-term plan, DPOA, MPOA and advance directives. If possible get one who is in the same county you live in as it will cut-down on the costs of their paralegal going to file in the county courthouse.
Good luck.
Chronic dibilitating diseases are a huge financial burden for families, and for society. As the baby boomer wave hits the age range where dementia and other disabilities are most likely to occur, I don't know how we as a society will be able to deal with it. It is scary.
Laws and programs are complicated. It is sad that it takes a professional to navigate through them, but I think you are best served at this point by seeing a lawyer.