My mom is very hard to get along with. I am concerned she will get kicked out of the nursing home. It took me awhile to find this one. Does anyone else have this issue?
Well, if your mom is difficult to handle, it won’t be easy for her or the staff.
It’s frustrating to witness these situations. My godmother was difficult to handle.
Granted, she had Alzheimer’s disease and she was blind from macular degeneration which made things harder for her but she was contrary long before entering her skilled nursing facility.
There were only a few of us who were able to visit my godmother. Her sons lived out of state. One son went once a year to see her. She didn’t have a good relationship with the other son.
Your mom is fortunate to have you as her advocate to oversee her care. Monitor what is going on.
I would often see my godmother’s arms covered in bruises. When I asked the staff about it, they would say to me, “Your godmother is quite a fighter!”
Apparently, she wasn’t very agreeable with the staff. I was told that she would attack them.
I suppose that she was frightened because she couldn’t see. It was a very sad situation.
I had no authority so my hands were tied. Like I said, her son only visited once a year. I don’t know how he handled everything regarding his mom’s behavior.
Wishing you and your mother well. I hope that she settles down soon.
She may. I would follow their suggestions if they come to you with requirements she see her MD to discuss if medications would help her in any way. There is "difficult" and there is "difficult" and by that I mean it is a continuum on which many elders go up and down, back and forth, and as long as they can be managed by staff, the staff in Nursing Homes often will give best effort. If she becomes disruptive, dangerous, combative, or disturbs the peace in general you may be called in. Until then, let them handle it and don't stir any pots until they hand you the ladle.
Your Mom has a Dementia. A NH should know how to handle her. The doctor can prescribe meds to calm her. They cannot put a resident her age out on the street. You refuse to take her home, unsafe.
Not sure what your mom is doing that makes her so "difficult" but all memory care facilities have pretty much seen it all and should know how to handle your mom. And if needed medications can be prescribed to help with behavior issues.
It’s frustrating to witness these situations. My godmother was difficult to handle.
Granted, she had Alzheimer’s disease and she was blind from macular degeneration which made things harder for her but she was contrary long before entering her skilled nursing facility.
There were only a few of us who were able to visit my godmother. Her sons lived out of state. One son went once a year to see her. She didn’t have a good relationship with the other son.
Your mom is fortunate to have you as her advocate to oversee her care. Monitor what is going on.
I would often see my godmother’s arms covered in bruises. When I asked the staff about it, they would say to me, “Your godmother is quite a fighter!”
Apparently, she wasn’t very agreeable with the staff. I was told that she would attack them.
I suppose that she was frightened because she couldn’t see. It was a very sad situation.
I had no authority so my hands were tied. Like I said, her son only visited once a year. I don’t know how he handled everything regarding his mom’s behavior.
Wishing you and your mother well. I hope that she settles down soon.
And if needed medications can be prescribed to help with behavior issues.