To start, I'm gonna just say there is bad blood. Hubby warned me not to take him in. Dad got himself evicted, due to a few details. That's another story, that's being dealt with. I won't get into it. Council area on aging came, and told us to not bother finishing the assessment, because he doesn't qualify.
Dad got hit by a car several months ago. Before he got hit by a car he was in and out of nursing homes. Council came out and said no to getting dad help with assisted living, the only one within his budget is Windmoor in Marion, and they lied to him. Plus, the council is going to speak to them about the receptionist being rude.
Back to the information, he's declining. I've had several people mention he MIGHT have dimentia. He keeps asking things, that I'm not qualified to help with. He's even asked me about medication.
That said, council again denied him. WE do NOT get along. He has good days and bad days. My family wants him out of our home, and I don't know where else to go. He had an episode and tried to drench one of my cats with a water bottle that I use for my plants. We phoned the non-emergency police, they came out said that we have no right to kick him out because he gets mail here. I am physically overwhelmed. I already take care of 3 of my boys who are disabled. I'm not getting into too much detail because I don't want to be judged. I'm at my wits end here. I should have never agreed to take care of him, UNOFFICIALLY. Especially, when he hates me and he hates it here.
Dad won't leave, we can't kick him out. He was evicted because he couldn't take care of himself, and now I made a mistake and let him in. What else can I do?
Next time he is hospitalized, tell them he cannot return to your home. You cannot care for him. He needs to be evaluated for 24/7 care and placed in a NH. Don't allow them to tell u there is help out there, there isn't. Once you walk him out those hospital doors, he is ur responsibility.
You need to legally evict him.
You can't "kick him out" so you have to have him legally evicted.
What you can do though if he takes a fall or is otherwise hospitalized you can say that you can no longer care for him in your home, it is not safe for you to continue to care for him. they can not discharge him if it is not safe.
This is also a stupid CA law, if someone gets their mail there, they are legally a "tenant."
Yet his bad behavior will force him out with a Temporary RO, the police will be able to legally remove him, until the hearing (2 wks) and highly likely the Judge will grant the Order when you tell him your situation, good for 3 years.
You are already disabled yourself with young children. A Judge will sign it. He doesn't run the show in YOUR home. He sounds like a danger to himself and others (INCLUDING PETS). He should have money to find a place. Download the files off the County Court website, fill them out, and turn them in to Court Clerk. Judge will sign within 48 hrs, then serve him. If he blows up, call the police.
You don't mention if you have POA. Who's the acting agent on his behalf?
Laws need to change! It’s so ridiculous that you can’t kick him out because he receives mail there. How in the world does that make sense?
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