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My brother has Parkinsons disease and needs carer help 24 hours wile recovering from hip operation (and probably for longer period). His wife don’t allowed it and punishing him whenever she choose to, leaving him to suffer without help.
She is abusing him verbally, emotionally and even physically.
She ague that they can’t afford carer financially although my bother can finance it with his income from his properties he bought before they married. He is paying for their living expenses more then she although she has very good paying job which she spends as she likes. She is paying for their food but his diet is so bad, lacking in proteins, fresh vegetables and fruit, as she tries to spend as less money on food as possible. It’s mostly bread, pasta and rice.
They have young son and she doesn’t want spend any my brother’s money on his cares but keep everything for their son.
She recently bought a new car, dog, and have money for all of this but not allowed my brother to pay for his carer. She wants him to go to home for the elderly. He wants to stay in his home ( house he bought as well before they get married) and have care there and doesn’t want to go to home for the elderly (he is 65 year old).
He is very good nature, quit and patient, work hard all his life. Still have memory and intellectual abilities untouched by disease. Disease effects his physical ability and speech which is quite and slow.
What he can do to live at his home and pay for his carer? Where he can to ask for help?
He lives in UK, England.

In the UK do you have the equivalent of APS (Adult Protective Services)? If so, report this situation.

Does your brother not have a phone to call the police himself?

Otherwise, if there is guardianship in the UK, some other family member will need to become his legal guardian.
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Call the police in the UK explain the situation and have them do a wellness check.
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This is a marriage you are planning on trying to meddle in.
I would stay out of it as much as you are able to.
Let your brother know that he can summon you to him if he requires your assistance.
Otherwise, let this marriage, in which you clearly have no use for the wife, alone completely imho.
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