I’m very sorry for your loss. My mom just died on March 3. I was her caregiver and we had a complicated relationship to say the least. Society doesn’t give us any time to grieve. Once I returned to work after a week everyone just expected me to function normally as if nothing happened. I haven’t even recovered physically from the exhaustion of caregiving, and at the same time people are descending upon mom’s house wanting things (including the house itself ). Not so long ago in our history families were given a mourning period. Black wreaths or buntings were placed on the door to keep people from knocking, and widows were excused from social events for a year. Not so anymore. I was actually asked if I would be hosting Easter at my house.
So sorry for the loss of your father. I know how difficult it is to cope when you lost a loved one. Try your best to not focus on the sadness of your father’s death but place your focus on the happier times you have had with him when he was alive. Look at pictures of him that you both shared during those happy times. The heartbreak of losing your father will be with you for a while, but time will eventually lessen the heartbreak of losing your father when you focus on the happier times spent with him. If your thoughts of losing your father get overwhelming, you should seek counseling.
Your world is spinning right now. Give yourself time, patience, and mercy. The grief is so intense right now, you’re pretty much one big raw nerve. If all you can do today is brush your teeth, it’s okay.
I’m sorry for the loss of your beloved father. I still miss mine, but the gift of some time has made me able to think of him with more smiles than tears. This is a very fresh wound for you, give yourself some grace and time to process it all. Know that the groups of GriefShare meet all over and have been a big help to so many. I wish you healing and peace
I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in the very beginning stages of grief. Try, while you mourn this loss, also to celebrate a long life and the special bond you shared. I think you will find that he isn't gone from you. Caregiving is such tough work; because it is so hard the bond becomes very tight. I am certain you miss him. Try to seek out grieving and grief support groups, even if you must start online somewhere such as FB.
Sorry for your loss, gin. It will take time to fill your day with the emptiness that your dad's passing, has left. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve.
My sincere condolences for the loss of your father.
Take time to grieve for him. He was a significant person in your life. Yes, he is gone from this physical world but he will continue to live in your heart forever.
I lost my dad in 2002 and I still miss him. Just because someone dies doesn’t mean that we stop loving them.
It may sound silly but I tell my father happy birthday every year on his birthday. Why? Because I will always remember him. I think of him in the same way as when he was alive.
So, don’t deny your feelings. Don’t feel as if you have to immediately get over this pain. The sting of death does ease with time and you will smile when you remember the beautiful times that you had with your dad.
If you begin to feel like you aren’t able to move forward due to your grief, then join a grief support group or speak with a grief counselor.
Everyone goes through the grieving process in their own way.
You were a blessing in your father’s life and it sounds like you were blessed to have him as your dad. Cherish your memories.
Do you "miss taking care of him" or him? I only ask, because I was my late husbands caregiver for many years, and after he died, I did NOT miss taking care of him, but I did miss him, and still do. Your dad just died a little over 2 weeks ago, and it will take time to readjust to your new way of living without him. So be kind to yourself, seek out grief counseling if you need it, and find ways to honor him with what you choose to do going forward. God bless you.
Condolences. Grief is a multi-faceted beast to manage. Support groups, journaling, and one's belief system can all help with the process. And your grief can be tempered with the knowledge that you did your best by him.
There's a nice brochure, When Someone You Love Dies, that offers practical advice drawn from professional grief counselors and comfort from the Scriptures. There are two sections especially that might be helpful - Is It Normal to Feel This Way? and How Can I Live With My Grief? Get the PDF at https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share
Give yourself time and lots of self-care while you deal with this major upheaval in your life. You'll be okay.
Sorry for the Loss Of your Dad it takes awhile to recover , there are various stages of grief and I think it is Much harder on the primary caregiver . Find a grief counselor or someone you can talk to . Since it is Easter buy some flowers and Light a candle . Life gets better . Takes sometime to heal .
Society doesn’t give us any time to grieve. Once I returned to work after a week everyone just expected me to function normally as if nothing happened. I haven’t even recovered physically from the exhaustion of caregiving, and at the same time people are descending upon mom’s house wanting things (including the house itself ).
Not so long ago in our history families were given a mourning period. Black wreaths or buntings were placed on the door to keep people from knocking, and widows were excused from social events for a year. Not so anymore. I was actually asked if I would be hosting Easter at my house.
Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
Your world is spinning right now. Give yourself time, patience, and mercy. The grief is so intense right now, you’re pretty much one big raw nerve.
If all you can do today is brush your teeth, it’s okay.
You are in the very beginning stages of grief.
Try, while you mourn this loss, also to celebrate a long life and the special bond you shared. I think you will find that he isn't gone from you.
Caregiving is such tough work; because it is so hard the bond becomes very tight. I am certain you miss him. Try to seek out grieving and grief support groups, even if you must start online somewhere such as FB.
Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve.
Take time to grieve for him. He was a significant person in your life. Yes, he is gone from this physical world but he will continue to live in your heart forever.
I lost my dad in 2002 and I still miss him. Just because someone dies doesn’t mean that we stop loving them.
It may sound silly but I tell my father happy birthday every year on his birthday. Why? Because I will always remember him. I think of him in the same way as when he was alive.
So, don’t deny your feelings. Don’t feel as if you have to immediately get over this pain. The sting of death does ease with time and you will smile when you remember the beautiful times that you had with your dad.
If you begin to feel like you aren’t able to move forward due to your grief, then join a grief support group or speak with a grief counselor.
Everyone goes through the grieving process in their own way.
You were a blessing in your father’s life and it sounds like you were blessed to have him as your dad. Cherish your memories.
Sending a bazillion hugs your way.
Your dad just died a little over 2 weeks ago, and it will take time to readjust to your new way of living without him.
So be kind to yourself, seek out grief counseling if you need it, and find ways to honor him with what you choose to do going forward.
God bless you.
There's a nice brochure, When Someone You Love Dies, that offers practical advice drawn from professional grief counselors and comfort from the Scriptures. There are two sections especially that might be helpful - Is It Normal to Feel This Way? and How Can I Live With My Grief?
Get the PDF at https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share
Give yourself time and lots of self-care while you deal with this major upheaval in your life. You'll be okay.