How to lovingly encourage the difficult decision to put down the family dog?

I knew someone whose wife had gone to visit relatives for a week. Their sweet cat had been very sick for a long time, and wife would absolutely not hear of putting the cat down. Husband called his wife while she was gone and told her that Fluffy had passed away peacefully under her favorite bush. True or not? But at least Fluffy no longer suffers. Perhaps Winnie might find her way over the rainbow bridge in a similarly kind way.

Have you look into those doggy diapers? They make clean up way easier and no ruined floors.

I grew up with a friend that her granny had 3 very old, blind, deaf and incontinent dogs. The dogs were not suffering, they loved granny to bits and responded to her touch and movement, they would follow her when she moved in the house.

This is your moms dog to do as she sees fit. Euthanizing another person's pet is crossing lines that should never be crossed if they are not all for it.

I recommend trying alternate solutions to the clean up issue and let mom make the decision, most dogs are family members, gotta remember that when intervening in this situation.

Of course no animal should suffer, absolutely. But talk to the vet and explain to them your situation, and let them help you decide.

There is no way that I can watch a dog or cat suffer. I have had to put two dogs and one cat down and I cried like a baby each time but it is the only humane way to handle this.

In the long run, it is usually easier on the people to not wait until the very last moment. Your vet will let you know when it’s time.

My mom had a darling dog that she had since he was a puppy. When he got old, sick, deaf and blind, I begged my mother to please take him to the vet. She couldn’t do it. I told her that I knew how much she loved him but it was horribly unfair to the dog to allow him to suffer.

One day I went over to her house and she was crying. I rarely saw my mom cry. I didn’t see the dog and instantly knew that she had taken him to be put down.

I walked over to mom, hugged her and cried with her. I know that deep down she felt relieved that her precious dog was no longer suffering.

My mom was younger at the time. In your case I think it would be best if you took her dog to the vet.

My daughter had a sweet little dog that she got when she was in college. When he got sick (Cushing’s disease) she was beside herself. One day the vet told her something that I thought was so lovely.

The vet said, “I know that it’s extremely difficult to make the decision to put your dog down. Please don’t wait until you hate the dog and then come in and tell me to put your dog down. I have clients come into this office with animals that they have dearly loved but the stress of caring for a dying dog becomes overwhelming for them and they scream at me, saying that they hate their dogs. I know in my heart that they don’t really hate their dogs. They are stressed and want relief for themselves and their dogs. Please, I am asking you not to allow it to get to that point for you.”

My daughter appreciated his advice and listened to him. She cried like we all do but she had peace knowing that she did the right thing.

Oh man, I know that this is hard for you and your mom. I am so sorry that you are in this situation.

Wishing peace for you and your mom.

I had to face the fact my beautiful dog was in pain and suffering, and couldn't tell me. The poor dog is incontinent, deaf and blind? Isn't that enough suffering?

You have 2 possibilities. Let the dog continue to suffer and die, with your Mom finding her alone. An unforgettable tragedy.
Or as Peggy suggested, give a compassionate offer to take dog to the vet for a checkup, then tell her dog needs to stay overnight, and simply died at the vet.

Please do not allow the dog to suffer further. Winnie can't speak for herself.

Honestly, went through the exact same thing, a pug, we let the dog die naturally a yr later, couldn't do it to my mother, would of been to much for her. The pug was an extension of my dad for mom.
Luckily it was a female so her puddles didn't ruin to much furniture. And it really sucked, not , gonna lie cleaning up her messes constantly. Mom could clean them up too. We talked to the vet and she didn't think the dog was in pain. And I tell ya I don't think so either, the dog was treated like a king the last year. Mom didn't want another dog, new it would be to much work for her. I wanted to get her a cat, then I would of taken the cat. She wanted nothing to do with anything else. She wants my dad and the pug back. So my perspective is the opposite of others. That's what is great about this ,all different perspectives

Gotta tell ya pugs from now would not be a dog I would get, after a yr of cleaning I get PTSD looking at pugs. Jk.
It's been about 2 yrs since the pug died. Took a while to get the smell out, and the bad furniture out. But I will say it was worth the work for her. There is no right or wrong way. But I'm glad we kept her going for that year

Get her another dog and put that poor thing to sleep.

You put the stress on the PAIN, AGONY, TORTURE and TORMENT of an animal she loves. You play to the love she bears the animal. If that doesn't "work" then nothing whatsoever will, and you may need to take matters into your own hands for the good of the poor animal.

I would take Winnie to the family vet and explain to mom afterward that Winnie died there.