Aunty is coming home from NH rehab in 2 days!! How do I deal with this upcoming stress?

ilovemom2...changing my mind is not an option. I live here and really have nowhere else to go. It is technically her home because she owns it with my other aunts and uncles (it was her parents' house).If I back out , family thinks I'm incapable of living alone because of some mistakes I made in the past.

If you really adore this auntie and you plan on devoting your life to her, go ahead. On the other hand, once she is in your home, you'll be stuck with her whether you like it or not. She's obviously needs much care and that will be very hard on you. I would tell her family that you've changed your mind. You will become a prisoner in your own home, she will treat you worse than the staff at the nursing home and will soon expect you to wait on her hand and foot. It is a thankless job, I'd back out or your life will never be the same. You have a big heart for even entertaining the idea.

See If your Aunt qualifies for Medicaid, the State might allow a trained Caregiver come in to help for a couple hours. Also check to see if your State is one of those States that has a “Cash and Counseling” program to help you out, it‘s worth looking into. Note that each State has their own rules, regulations, and programs.

Also contact your county agency on aging for programs such as Case Management, Meals on Wheels, Adult Day Care, housing, care referrals, etc,... go to the website link below.... click on your State.... now click on the city/county. https://www.agingcare.com/local/Area-Agency-on-Aging

And please come back to the forums if you have any Caregiving questions, we would be more than happy to share our experiences with you, and give you ideas on what to do.

Aunty threw a tantrum and you gave in. You are about to become a 24/7 caregiver. Do you really want to do this? Maybe you and the granddaughter should set the emotions aside and ask what the facility would recommend for aunty. Perhaps Assisted Living would be better for her, and it could save your life. I just don't see how a disabled person could survive this.