Does it get easier once senior is admitted to a nursing home vs. 24/7 home care? Does it get easier for the HCP?

My large family is in conflict whether to respect my mother's wishes to stay in and die in her home or now that she has mild cognitive disorder/dementia or to move her into a nursing home which may be more specialized in such conditions (if good) and she may get more interactions beyond those of her 24/7 caregivers, family and friends. 24/7 care is expensive however she currently has enough money in her assets to support it.

Did it get easier for the family members including the HCP when the senior was admitted to the nursing home?

Me and my sister want her to stay at home and with the support of palliative care eventually die there. It is my way from afar to support her wishes.

My brother who has complex medical issues, is her POA, and has been living rent free for about the last 10 years in her home wants her in a nursing home and has for quite a while. He demands family members pay for my mother's home care and does not support getting more home equity and a reverse mortgage loan. Though I think overall he is a good guy, it is hard not to at times question his intentions as he seems so comfortable living in her home and driving her car. He is demanding we come up with a financial contingency plan for my mother (isn't this the POA's job). Yet, dismisses any plans (geriatric care manager, mediation, etc.) or ideas presented.

My memories from working in a nursing home in the early 80's as a teenager still haunt me. Are nursing homes better than they are in from the early 80's?

Has does admission to the nursing home effect HCP? For example, do you get calls all the time or just as needed for complex matters. Maybe this depends on the nursing home and proper training of staff.

Any thoughts or experience? I do not know how much his complex medical issues are effecting things. For example, I sense he needs less stress in his life to help deal with theses complex medical issues.

Thanks so much.