Mom just died and dad has dementia. He has moved into my house. I need to update his medical info with my address. I have nothing to "prove" he lives with me (letters, bills, etc). What should I do or who do I ask? Thank you.
Have his doctors put your address as his and then use that record to prove. Be sure and notify SS and Medicare of new address.
Also, a change of address will help get your address as his address of record. The post office can give you a document that states the names of all who receive mail at your address.
You do need to prove residence when getting a State ID.
Does Dad still have a house, then I would not worry about the ID yet until it expires. Maybe by then you will have something at ur address. I had Moms mail continue to go to her house and I picked it up there. But, I lived 5 min away. Maybe call Medicare telling them he has moved in with you and you need his paperwork sent there. SS is direct deposited so I never worried about that.
My Moms house did not sell until after her death. She lived with me, then AL and LTC. I never changed her address in that time. When she went to LTC they became her payee for SS and pension so they probably has her address then.
Make proof. Change his address with a government agency and then request something by mail. Be sure to turn off paperless delivery for a little while. You want a paper mail delivered with his name and address.
Postal Service change of address confirmation form or postmarked U.S. mail with forwarding address label.
Updated voter registration card mailed by the local registrar.
1099 from Social Security or investment accounts (if you changed his address before issue).
You could open a bank account in his name. Put a small amount in it. Then wait for a statement. Again, no paperless delivery.
Change his address on his drivers license or state ID.
Never let his government issued ID expire. (You don’t want that nightmare! I know that from experience.) Having state ID and a passport as backup is priceless.
Is this move for Dad an emergency response due to this?
I ask because many families are thrown into crises when a LO passes & make decisions to step in to help - which is admirable. But sometimes they step in over their eyes, & well over their heads... In which case a reassess is necessary. Care needs can be higher than anticipated, especially when the dreaded word Dementia is in the mix. Spouses often can cover for a while & no-one knows just how the other really is. Sometimes the grief pushes the dementia on a stage or two.
Good point. From the profile: "I am caring for my father Samuel, who is 90 years old, living in my home with age-related decline, alzheimer's / dementia, and anxiety."
I don't recall having to prove to anyone that my mother had a new address (mine). I just changed it with the post office. Did some agency ask you to prove it? If so, ask them exactly how to do it with your circumstances.
Also, a change of address will help get your address as his address of record. The post office can give you a document that states the names of all who receive mail at your address.
Does Dad still have a house, then I would not worry about the ID yet until it expires. Maybe by then you will have something at ur address. I had Moms mail continue to go to her house and I picked it up there. But, I lived 5 min away. Maybe call Medicare telling them he has moved in with you and you need his paperwork sent there. SS is direct deposited so I never worried about that.
My Moms house did not sell until after her death. She lived with me, then AL and LTC. I never changed her address in that time. When she went to LTC they became her payee for SS and pension so they probably has her address then.
Are you trying to establish residency for the purposr of benefits like Medicaid?
Change his address with USPS, SSA (log into his MySocialSecurity accout)
and the IRS (Irs.gov).
Postal Service change of address confirmation form or postmarked U.S. mail with forwarding address label.
Updated voter registration card mailed by the local registrar.
1099 from Social Security or investment accounts (if you changed his address before issue).
You could open a bank account in his name. Put a small amount in it. Then wait for a statement. Again, no paperless delivery.
Change his address on his drivers license or state ID.
Never let his government issued ID expire. (You don’t want that nightmare! I know that from experience.) Having state ID and a passport as backup is priceless.
Is this move for Dad an emergency response due to this?
I ask because many families are thrown into crises when a LO passes & make decisions to step in to help - which is admirable. But sometimes they step in over their eyes, & well over their heads... In which case a reassess is necessary. Care needs can be higher than anticipated, especially when the dreaded word Dementia is in the mix. Spouses often can cover for a while & no-one knows just how the other really is. Sometimes the grief pushes the dementia on a stage or two.
Are Dad's care needs what you anticipated?