I think my mom is about to get a 2nd opinion for dementia and we suspect frontotemporal dementia. She lives with me and I have been crying excessively each day. I work full time, married and have a 14 year old son. My appetite is down and I have some good moments, but I feel bad all the time for the past 4 weeks. I am seeing therapist, support group and on medication. I just want to know when I am going to feel myself again.
Its part of life, all this, unfortunately. You can't "fix" this, nor should you compromise your OWN health and happiness over something that's out of your control. The only control you DO have lies with where mom resides from now on.
Remember there's more than one person involved here. Your lives matter as much as mom's. Please don't stay in a situation where the whole family suffers for the sake of an elder who's been diagnosed with a dementia. My mom did great in Memory Care Assisted Living and we ALL had a decent life as a result.
Maybe re-evaluate the situation, there are other options, please keep your son at the head of the list, he should be your priority.
This care giving living together deal is very stressful and can eat a caregiver up quickly.
I wish you the best! Remember, your minor child & husband should be your priority and you are entitled to a life as well.
Do consider seeing your MD who can order mild anti-depressants to help you bridge the time you must deal with getting your Mom out of your home.
It sounds to me as though your mom living with you is not working for all involved. You will need to sit her down if she has been judged competent and tell her she will have now to move, as living with you is not working out for you.
You said that a FIRST diagnosis was that she has no dementia; I would love for you to give me three specific things that lead you to believe your mom has FTD?