Hi all, my father has entered hospice about a month ago and I’ve been having a super hard time coping with it. It feels so strange to not be taking him anymore to doctors’ appointments (it came to the point that we were taking him in a medical stretcher) he’s been doing well with it for the most part a lot of family visiting that hasn’t seen him in a long time but now he’s not really eating we’re giving him ensure and he’s sleeping a lot. It’s just hard to watch I’ve been really close with my dad for a long time and it’s hard on me to know that we are at the beginning of the end. The doctor has not given us a time frame and the hospice nurses all say he looks like he’s doing well. We lost my mom to the same disease (dementia) 10 years ago :( ever since then it’s been us against the world. It’s difficult for me to do anything for myself I’m always going to the nursing home to be by his side because I’m so afraid that our time is running out :(. Please send hugs and we’ll wish I really need them right now :(.
As a woman of 'faith' I knew that my dad and mom were simply moving from one state of existence into another. Like walking through a door.
I honestly still feel VERY close to my daddy, and it's been almost 19 years since he passed. When I am really low, and I am praying for comfort, he is there, I can feel his love and suport. He reminds me that this life is fleeting and it's all going to be OK.
I have not felt anything from mom-but we had a difficult relationhsip and it will take time.
Be kind to yoursef. You are in the pre-grieving state, and honestly, that's the hardest part, I think. Once they have passed, you can re-assess your life and find peace and calm.
Take comfort in that Dad is being kept comfortable. Hospice is also for the family , They can help you with grief counseling. ((Hugs))
There is no out with these situations, only through. Do whatever you need to accompany yourself down this wrenching road - including of course the well wishes from understanding strangers.
Another huge hug…
May The Lord give you comfort, peace and strength for this season in life. May HE wrap you and dad in HIS loving arms and keep you both as you walk this path.
Sending love and hugs.
Sending you hugs and well wishes. Thinking about you and your dad this morning. Hoping you make good decisions for yourself and gain peace with this time of transition for your dad.
Sending many hugs your way today!
It’s really difficult to see our parents declining.
I was very close to my father too. I’m sure that your dad knows how much you love him.
Wishing you peace as you lovingly spend time with your dad.
Please know that we are here for you if you want to talk.
Most of us here are "fixers" by nature. Not trying to fix or cure seems unnatural somehow.
I'm so glad that your dad is doing well. Try to look at this not as giving up but giving dad some peace and relief from being poked and prodded.
Hopefully he still has quality time left for you to spend together.
Please give yourself time to rest and find some happy things to do between visits so you have something cheerful to talk about.
Unless dad is "actively dying" you shouldn't be ignoring the other parts of your life.